35 People Share What They Hate Seeing At Weddings

We had a couple of people do this at our wedding and they were close friends of my wife's family. They said they were coming and then just didn't show. Then they ignored her calls. Never seen them since.

That's amazingly rude! Ugh. That's inexcusable. I'd amend the complaint to inexcusable no shows though - my husband's uncle would have been travelling 300 miles to attend our wedding, had he not had a stroke four days before. We had to do a hasty reshuffle so there wasn't an obviously empty table (it was the uncle, aunt and three cousins who were unable to travel as a result), but were honestly more concerned for his health. We had other no shows who weren't as polite in letting us know.

"Only 100 people invited"

Then there are folks that don't RSVP and show. I was really shocked when I was helping a friend track down people who had not RSVPed to her wedding. She was in a bad situation because she had assumed only the people who sent back the RSVP card were coming, so she then invited more people. She then heard from a few of them that they were coming, but thought you only sent the card if you were NOT coming. So I was helping her figure out if there were more people coming that hadn't. There were about a dozen. Some of the people I called that weren't coming though you only sent back the card if you WERE coming. I was astonished. Even if your parents never taught you this, read the card. It usually has a spot to mark that says you are coming and one that says you aren't. Hers did.

People should be better about RSVPing in general. If you say you're going, you should go. If you say you're not going, you shouldn't go. *Never* reply with maybe and wait until the event starts to figure out your answer. (I have had people do that.) It shouldn't matter if the event is something as formal as a wedding or as casual as a cookout. The host is asking for an accurate headcount for a reason. You not RSVPing properly put them in one of two awkward positions. Either they did more work and spent more money than they needed to for people who don't even care enough to show off, or they, through no fault of their own, did not adequately prepare for all the people who are coming.

I have to admit that I almost did it once. I vividly remember how the idea crossed my mind — it seemed perfectly logical: everybody was so happy, positive, light-hearted; it's obvious that the guests would have been happy with us! Then I thought about it again, and realised that I was about to do something I would hate myself for my whole life long. And I didn't do it.

Tbh, don't even ask the bride and groom if you can do this. All you're doing is putting them in an uncomfortable situation, and trying to make their day about you

yes! also, announcing a pregnancy. ofc that's happy news, but it's the married couple's day, not yours!

No, no, no. Talk with the bride and groom. After my wedding, I found out my brother got engaged. I would have been utterly delighted to make an announcement, and raise a toast to them. ASK, always ask!

This is great. I agree with this. Those people are being happily married. Propose at disneyland or smthn. Not someone's BIG DAY!!!

that's something I will never understand

Sounds like my mom at our wedding. Omg I was fuming.

I specifically told my FIL to hand the mic back after his toast. Instead, he passed it around. Two embarrassing stories and an awful insult to my mother later, I took the mic away myself.

When i got married half of my mother's speech was embarrassing and the other part was her begging me to translate it right because no one was laughing. Including me. 🙄

Amen. I'll never forget my BIL told a weird story at our wedding.

As a photographer for school events/important events screwing up lighting is really not ok. I am trying to get a good picture of something that is important to a lot of the people there, yet you don't care.

People don't necessarily need to use flash. It doesn't make for good pictures, most of the time. Turn off the flash and stay off to the side.

When my sister got married she specifically told everyone "no phones, no cameras". A professional photographer would be taking care of the pictures, and she wanted people to just relax and watch the ceremony without feeling the need to be doing so through their phone screens, or jumping into the aisle to get a better shot and disrupting things. Everyone was polite and did as they had been asked, and the ceremony was SO calm and respectful. I only got my phone out *once* that whole day to take a picture, and that was afterwards at the reception to get a quick shot of the cake (it was a giant two-storey Lamington! My sister hates fruitcake and always vowed that she wouldn't be having it at her wedding, and it was a nice little moment finding out she'd stuck to that, heheh).

I only have a couple of cell phone shots of my daughter's wedding because she had hired photographers. Back years ago though, I took photos with my camera at a friend's wedding while there was a paid photographer there (daytime no flash) and for some reason most of the pro's photographs weren't any good and they have the photos I took as their wedding photos.

We couldn't afford a photographer, but my dad had a great camera for work. He took awesome pics after the ceremony. We put disposables on the tables asking ONLY THAT WEDDING PICTURES BE TAKEN! only got 5 of 16 cameras back with tons of other people on it

This seems to be a problem of this particular kid. I attended a few weddings and funerals with kids and most of the time I hardly realised that they were there.

I'll surely get downvoted for this, but I am against small children at weddings. Weddings are the least suited celebration for children, from church to reception to party. Church most of all is boring for small children, so the chance that one of them will cry is astronomically high. And even after church it doesn't get better. Everyone is in fancy clothing that must stay clean, most venues have expensive decorations/furniture, the food is fancy and not really suited for children - and if there is a designated "babysitter" during the wedding, this mostly just means that all the kids are crammed into one room with a few toys. HOW is that different from leaving them at home with a sitter? Don't get me wrong, flower girls are adorable and little ring bearers are the best. If it's direct family, go for it! But why do the kids have to stay for the whole day? Most parts of a wedding day are exeedingly boring for children, so why make them stay? For appearances?

😱 Who would let their kid scream at a funeral!!!!!!!!??????????? A 9yr Old?!!!!! Not being mean but those parents need to teach their kid some respect! That's like on an airplane I was on. I witnessed a kid kicking someone's seat (mother nonchalant as to why, what, and how) and a flight attendant came up to the mother and asked "Can you keep him from kicking the seat?" She said with the most disgusted look "What do you want me to do about it? You tell him." ME EDUCATE YOUR KID??? If I were that flight attendant, I would have asked if he and his mom wanted to go skydiving.

I think this comes from the fact that most people don't like parenting in public. At home it's easier to correct/ get angry at a child than in public. Somehow people just feel a bit ashamed to put their kid in place when other people are watching, because you shed a light on the way you raise your child, a thing that can be criticized by everyone. Better let it have a tantrum and blame it on 'the little sleep he had'.

Leave your brats at home, period.

Um,that's when you tell them to leave. Sorry jacka$$, you knew the rules and tried to skirt them.GTFO...NOW!

I personally would have asked them to leave. A child free wedding means CHILD FREE. Your not an exception to the rule unless you have clearly been given permission from the bride and groom.

I amstill baffled that childless weddings are a thing. At least in my part of the world (milddle europe) it is a celebration meant for the WHOLE family. And kids are an essential part of the family. If you want to party the adult way you may throw a big "Junggesellenabschied" before. However childless weddings look to me like people are Instagram-damaged and want a perfect wedding. They probably think it's easier without children (or do they just have a phobia of children?) and that's why they don't want children there. In my experience, however, it's the adults who cause the most problems. However, have it your way, I guess I would not attended such a celebration.