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Sarah Herstich, LCSW, tells Bored Panda that the body positivity movement is important because it resists anti-fat discourse and the oppression of bodies. "The body positivity movement has origins in Black fat activism and the history of the oppression of bodies, particularly black fat bodies."

She points out how the movement is about dismantling the current power structures. "[It] invites a lens of intersectionality, exploring the relationship between power and race, gender, disability, sexuality, class and age, and their relationship to oppression. This is important to name because the body-positivity movement, in its origin, was meant to challenge systems that oppress, discriminate, and stigmatize bodies," Herstich explains.

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand How much you dread people taking photos of you because it always ruins your day to see yourself in a photo.

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139points

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Zelda McLink 6 months ago

I hate photos of myself no matter what my weight is.

57points

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand We know we're fat. Like trust me, I know. Losing it is harder than it was to gain. I know I just ate, but my body is screaming that it's starving. Like down to the lightheaded, nausea symptoms of not eating all day even though I ate an hour ago. I know a lot of people thing d***s like ozempic and wegovy are "cheating" but wegovy has literally changed everything. I can eat a healthy portion of food and be satisfied. .

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135points

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Daya Meyer 6 months ago

And sometimes it is the food we eat. White flour instead of whole grain for example. Some of us are so used to eat white bread, but it needs big amounts of insulin to digest and then you are hungry again in no time. Whole grain is harder to eat and the taste is different to white flour but it needs less insulin over a longer time, it doesn't spike. Plus, you are not hungry over a long period of time. So eating habits are very important in addition.

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The licensed therapist also tells Bored Panda that the body positivity movement is about fighting systems of oppression. "To be effective in supporting people to heal from mental health struggles, we have to look at how systems of oppression impact people each and every day, the intergenerational transmission of trauma from those systems, and how trauma responses are now impacting the day-to-day."

Herstich emphasizes that the body positivity movement is about so much more than just loving your body. "It's a movement aimed at liberating all bodies while acknowledging that until all bodies are free from stigma and oppression, we are not truly body positive," the licensed therapist explains.

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand It is really easy to gain weight over time. You get a sedentary job and you snack occasionally, and in the evening you watch TV or read a book instead of going out. So you weigh three pounds more than you did at this time last year. No big deal, right?

Now, multiply that by fifteen years or so. All of a sudden, it is your fortieth birthday, and you somehow weigh fifty pounds more than you did in college. It isn't because you always eat two boxes of oreos a night -- you just gained a little, year after year.

Also? It is a lot harder to lose weight when you are heavy. When I was 25 and thought I had gained a few pounds, I'd start jogging. Pretty soon, I'd be able to run two or three miles at a shot, and hey! Problem solved! Now? I'm older and heavier and that means I'm a lot more prone to injury. So I try to work out, and my knees start hurting (again) or I aggravate an old foot injury, and it gets frustrating. There are workarounds, of course. I can swim, and I can lift weights. But it is all harder than it was when I was young. .

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114points

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Brenda 6 months ago

It's also more difficult to lose weight as you get older.

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RaroaRaroa 6 months ago

At 55 I can say that I can still lose weight if I put my mind to it. No snacking, portion-control at meal times. This person saying "non-obese people don't understand that sitting and snacking make you fat" is so wrong. They do understand, and they've acted on that knowledge. My mum once said to me, decades ago " you're not fat, you don't have to worry about eating too much". S**t mum, that's why I'm not fat!

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Cathy Jo Baker 6 months ago

Exercise IS more difficult as you age, obese or not!

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Rachknits 6 months ago (edited)

Or you get a chronic health issue that's worsened by exercise. Before that I was a healthy weight, going to the gym 3-4 times a week. That combined with meds that cause weight means I'm now a very different shape.

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Kylie 6 months ago

Money and fat are so alike. Money is hard to get and easy to spend. Fat is easy to put on and oh so hard to get off.

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StrangeOne 6 months ago (edited)

I worked a desk job and found I gained and lost then gained more weight. I found a more physically demanding job, where I'm moving and on my feet all day. I've had to put some new holes in my belt but my weight seems stagnant on the scale. I don't think I'll ever be back to my old weight again. Perhaps for the better, though. I was considered underweight. Now, I'm just more sore all over and unable to do much after work.

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Brian Droste 6 months ago (edited)

Even if you work out and don't lose weight or lose weight at a very slow rate. Your body is still getting benefit from it. When I go for a walk I feel much better afterward.

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Java Addict 6 months ago

My ankles and feet are a mess from standing for long periods at work so taking long walks like I used to just isn't possible anymore. It's not worth the pain I'll have to endure at work the next day.

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CK 6 months ago

It's good for young people to do a variety of different exercises so they can maintain it more easily by exercising consistently. The calories burned through exercise aren't a major contributor to weight loss, but the health benefits of exercise can help your metabolism stay healthy so your body can maintain a health weight more easily.

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Power puff scientist 6 months ago

of course all calories you burn help in weight loss. and the added muscle helps your body stay in a better shape. its always diet and exercise never just one of the two.

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Sven Horlemann 6 months ago

I decided to eat 16/8, because I can make that work for myself. That helped me (M57) keeping my weight. I really did not want to get overweight. And yeah, I love sweets. Tons of it... so there is a struggle.

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Tyranamar Seuss 6 months ago

I had a teacher once do the math of if you ate 6 extra calories a day. 1 slice of apple. And it was something like in 5 or 10 years you'd be 30 lbs overweight.

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Kikikaboom 6 months ago

I started gaining weight slowly in my 30's. Evened for a couple years at 25lbs heavier at, 145. Then covid (and more stress and depression) happened, on top of getting a more sedentary job and then gained another 20. I had changed nothing about my diet, it just happened.

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meow point1 6 months ago

I take my dog for an hour-long walk every day.

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Kitty1019 6 months ago

I relate to all of this.

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R.A. Haley 6 months ago

I had to fool myself into exercising. Old man that I am, I visit the restroom a *lot*. So every time I wash up, I do 20 pushoffs (hands on sink, feet way back, do pushups), and 20 deep knee bends. I started with 10 reps and worked up to 20, but the key is doing that little bit every time I use the restroom.

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Roland Nijveld 6 months ago

I'm the opposite. Can't gain weight at all. And if I do, it's gone before I know it

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand Finding clothes that fit, worrying if furniture would support you.

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112points

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Karina 6 months ago (edited)

I broke three tables within three months. The last one i remembered my poor trackrecord, so i tried and failed to stop myself from making contact. My ex had a good laugh, I was embarresed, but it did make me reflect on the quality of my future and wether this is how I wanted to live. Now I have a six-pack and the back of a miner, and the doctor still tells me i need to do "exercises", because I dont look thin enough with clothes on.

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand CHAFING

It's particularly cruel because it makes you even more likely to avoid walking or exercise thus ensuring you put on more weight.

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108points

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Diolla 6 months ago

Biker shorts, or, bandelettes. A lifesaver!

35points

As with any other movement that gains traction, some misconceptions exist about body positivity. One of them is that the movement promotes unhealthy lifestyles and eating disorders. Herstich says that it's actually quite the opposite.

"It supports people in acknowledging when their fear of fat originated, how that has made their body feel unsafe to live in, how they have internalized that as truth, and to build a new relationship with their bodies – coming home to themselves and treating their body in ways that are health-promoting and respectful."

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand How painful being alive is. i'm not obese any more. Last year I was 375ish lbs, I was obese then. Living is painful. People would tell me to exercise, that i'd get runner;s high, that it's easy. No. life is pain at nearly 400lbs. everything is so hard. I now weigh about 210lbs. life isn't pain any more, i still hate exercise, but when I exercise I get tired or exhausted depending on the intensity, i don't get 'i want to [off] myself' borderline injured. show your obese friends some kindness.

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Final score:

106points

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Marie Dahme 6 months ago

This should be higher. I used to weigh 423 lbs at 5ft and now fluctuate around 283 lbs. This is not like quitting d***s, alcohol, or nicotine. You can live, flourish even without those. But food addiction and all the physical pain is extremely difficult. I learned that no matter how much weight I now loose, I still damaged my body internally that can't be completely reversed.

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand From a woman’s perspective, that men don’t think you are allowed to say no to them or reject them. There are a lot of men out there who think because you’re fat, you’re probably lonely and you should be happy with any male attention you get.

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105points

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CK 6 months ago

Some men (and I did say "some") need to realize they are not better than nothing.

76points

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand That for some of us, losing weight is extremely difficult. Some medications can make you excessively hungry. Also those of us with long-term depression and anxiety issues often use food as a source of comfort. We *know* it's a poor choice, but in the moment, we don't think of anything but eating something tasty.

Having people patronise us actually makes things worse, not better.

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102points

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- 6 months ago (edited)

Some medications cause weight gain, such as anti-depressants. Hence, they may not be suitable for those with body dysmorphia. I'm lucky - my weight gain wasn't massive and it only makes me a little self-conscious (such as wearing a 1-piece bathing suit instead of a bikini). My former boss had to be weaned off her meds - she preferred to live with anxiety than weight gain.

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"Body positivity challenges normative and harmful beliefs in a hierarchy of bodies based on size, race, ability, identity, sexual orientation, or socioeconomic status," she adds. "Mainstream body positivity also supports people to recognize body diversity, exit harmful dieting cycles, and challenge what is healthy vs. unhealthy."

#10

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand Unless you're a medical professional who specialized in weight-loss, there's probably nothing you can say to them about their weight that they haven't already heard or are not already well-aware of.

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Final score:

98points

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Justanotherpanda 6 months ago

It's funny how everyone always had some advise, yet I didn't ask for any....

49points

#11

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand I have limited places I can comfortably go due to the width of my a*s.

I would love to go to a concert, or a movie, or on a plane, but it literally *hurts* to wedge my butt into the seat and I lose circulation in my legs if I can't move. I would love to go on rollercoasters or ferris wheels. I don't lack *desire*.

On top of that issue, using public toilets is *extremely* uncomfortable. I prefer to use the handicapped stall, and I *despise* the times I have had to use the regular size stall. Multiply that discomfort by 1000 if I'm on my period.

I feel like I always have to be tidy, smell good, and be super put-together to "make up" for people being inconvenienced by my presence.

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Final score:

92points

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Green Tree 6 months ago

oof that last line is really sad

77points

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand The guilt that comes when you’re seen eating anything at all.

The “aww good for you!” if you’re seen eating a salad because the only possible reason a fat dude would eat a salad is to lose weight.

The existential dread every time you get a random pain in your chest or stitch in your side and think that this could finally be the heart attack.

The fact that you can go days or weeks at a time without really feeling bad about being fat but then all of a sudden one day it’s all you can notice about yourself.

Summer f*****g sucks. It’s too hot anyway, but being fat makes it hotter. And then you get worried that — despite having perfectly good if not over the top hygiene — maybe you’re starting to have “fat guy smell.”.

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Final score:

89points

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Data1001 6 months ago

I hate the comment "GOOD FOR YOU!" I know that most people who say it don't realize this, but it's so judgmental and demeaning. It implies, "You should have been doing this all along."

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Herstich tells us that the point of the body positivity movement is that people can feel safe and free in their bodies. "A culture that is inclusive, accepting and uplifting all bodies, will ultimately be supportive of wellbeing, [physical] and mental health," she explains.

"If that existed, diet culture would not. As a society, we need to continue to do the work of dismantling systems of oppression that impact and harm bodies outside of the thin white ideal."

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand That if fatshaming worked, there wouldn't be fat people.

Also that, yes, I do exercise 3-5 days a week and I do diet, and I don't just stuff my mouth with junk food day in and day out.

Final score:

83points

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Brenda 6 months ago

Many people have medical issues that make losing weight difficult 9r impossible. People should remember that!

38points

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand As someone who was once obese, and now is just a bit over weight

Holy F**K is it hard to keep it off. I still want to eat like I did when I was heavier.

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78points

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BoredPossum 6 months ago

Same with former athletes. The portions you're used to and comfy with will increase your weight now. So, you're always hungry.

29points

#15

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand The constant need to physically adjust yourself.

I wear clothes that fit but I'm still constantly adjusting my clothes, my body position, etc. just to be comfortable and for my clothes to have a chance of hiding some of what's going on here. My thin friends almost never adjust their clothes and such.

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76points

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Salty.Hag 6 months ago

This sucked!!! Before the day even started I'd start thinking about the struggle to come.

12points

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand I have lost 180lbs after having a gastric bypass 22 months ago.

While the physical changes are awesome, the best thing is that my mind can focus on things other than my weight. I hadn't realised that the thoughts about my weight and food were a constant background chatter: "can I park close enough to the supermarket door that I can get inside without stopping?" Or "will the café have some of the chairs left that I can fit in?" And so on - *all of the time*. So much of that has dropped away, yet I wasn't fully aware that it was clogging my thoughts until it was gone - like only noticing that your radiators were making a noise once the boiler goes off at night and they fall silent. I am now at peace.

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69points

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kathoco 6 months ago

Absolutely. Had a bypass about 16 months ago. Ill never be thin, but so much of the constant anxiety is gone and I look and feel great.

28points

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand I'm not obese but my sturdy friend says you always get this look when boarding a plane in economy where everyone hopes to god you're not in the seat next to them.

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68points

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Diolla 6 months ago

Tbh I feel very uncomfortable when I have to touch skin with a total stranger sitting next to me in the plane for hours. The seats are too narrow. But I understand it's even more uncomfortable for the big person because they have to squeeze themselves into that tiny seat.

39points

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Here’s a positive in a thread full of negatives: I am wayyyy stronger than you think I am. Every moderately active obese person is stronger than anyone else doing the same level of activity, especially in the legs department. As fat as I am, my calf muscles are f*****g shredded.

Final score:

66points

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Kylie 6 months ago (edited)

This is my daughter. Overweight, probably 50lbs or so and she's only 5'5", but hikes and backpacks, clears hiking trails (and that's HARD work) etc, but whatever weight she loses is replaced by muscle so she's never ever going to be a skinny minnie again. People do underestimate how strong she is.

35points

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand How people treat you. With active disdain. People glare at you, they scoff at you, they make faces of disgust when seeing you. Random-a*s people feel free to honk at you and yell s**t from their car, when you walk alongside the road.

The hatred is honestly intense.

Lisija123 , Liza Summer Report

Final score:

63points

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Marie Dahme 6 months ago

Obese people are the last group of people where it's socially acceptable and encouraged even as "tough love" to treat people as social pariahs and openly laugh and taunt them. It starts as children, learned at home sometimes and that's part of the reason why bullying fat people is acceptable.

44points

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand Just how much internalized shame we carry. If you’ve seen someone who was really skinny struggle with shame, with thinking that they are too fat, and feeling guilty about how they look….that same shame lives inside so many of us.

And a lot of us are honestly doing the best we can with subpar health care and normalized stigma.

Final score:

58points

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CK 6 months ago

I think what a lot of people miss is that weight stigma is actually dangerous. Some studies have indicated that living with the constant stress might be as big a contributor to health problems as the obesity itself is. And, of course, high cortisol is not something you want when trying to lose weight.

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand Having to face the dilemma of choosing the perfect outfit every time you leave the house.

A lot of obese people are incredibly self-conscious about their bodies, and will wear more/bigger clothes to feel more comfortable.

This makes you overanalyse the weather and stuff. Layering wrong is gonna make you too hot or too cold later on.

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Final score:

58points

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LH25 6 months ago

And make an effort to look put together, as has been mentioned in other posts. Like, "yeah I'm fat but I'm not a slob. See, I'm wearing real pants not sweats, nice shirt, did my hair and makeup."

24points

#22

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand Just because we are obese doesn’t mean we can’t do physical activity. People don’t have to act surprised that we can indeed participate. I’ve heard this from people when I’ve gone to play soccer or any other sport. I am not the fittest guy playing, but it doesn’t mean that I’m going to die if I run around for a bit.

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55points

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BoredPossum 6 months ago

Plus, that's the best way to lose weight. How are people gonna get in shape if they aren't allowed to work out?

25points

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand I have been heavy and light and back again several times (which takes a massive toll on the body on its own, but there you go). I have always mentally been obese, in terms of the space I think I take up in the world. Even at my lightest, which was about ten pounds north of my "ideal weight", I would still check every chair to make sure it's not rickety, still turn sideways to get between things when I didn't need to, still eyeball things like amusement park rides and theater seats because I thought I wouldn't fit comfortably. Obesity has a huge impact on the body, but also on the mind. It's why they say things to men like, "Find a fat girl to have sex with, she'll be grateful."

It's also a little bit of armor though. If anyone is going to make fun of me, it's going to be for one thing. Being fat. No other insecurities ever get picked on. I'm seen as only being one thing, so I've gotten pretty okay with people pointing it out.

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Final score:

44points

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cerinamroth 6 months ago

I've also been fat and thin and fat again. It does take a toll. My self-image is very messed up. When I have been fat (which I currently am), it is certainly like a kind of shield from the world. The healthiest weight I ever was was when I lost 15+ kgs (around 35 lbs) after my dad died. I have never felt better. I don't actually mind how I am now most of the time because I know that if I lost it before, I should be able to do it again. However, I am now much older and nearing menopause, so that makes things more difficult. Ultimately, my body carries me through life and I am proud of it for being strong through pregnancy, birth and breastfeeding. But I do wish I could get back to a healthy weight.

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How inhuman you feel being obese and how painfully aware of that you are when out in public by the up and down glances from people. The coldness, shortness, and avoidance. Also, unsolicited dieting advice/assumptions after mentioning that you're making lifestyle changes. I've researched fitness/health and read tons on obesity/metabolic dysfunction. Watched all the TEDTalks and youtube gurus. Went vegan, keto, did juicing, and fasting. Got blood tests and seen doctors/specialists/dieticians. I know a lot, I'm always learning. I've lost over a hundred pounds since December. Yet people will chime in. Just cut out soda! Just eat less and move more (duh). Try keto, try bariatric procedures, etc. I never drank soda, always been a hydrohomie, also seltzer and herbal tea lover. So I really hate when people assume I slurp down a pallet of 2L sodas daily. I always preferred to eat my calories, not drink them. I do eat less now and move more; my sedentary obesity stemmed from unhealed trauma throughout childhood. Bad coping habit of binge eating. Severe agoraphobia, have spent years being housebound. Former suicide attempts and a toxic relationship. I'm well aware of what my mentality was to be so unhealthy by being so fat. I needed to face that first, and I finally have. I don't expect people to know or care to know any of that. I hated myself far more than anyone ever could anyway.

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41points

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LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 months ago (edited)

I'm adopted and most of my family members are obese, and many are morbidly obese. There were SO MANY TIMES that they would go to doctor's appointments, or need to go to the hospital, or need to go somewhere for something else, and doctors/professionals would just.... ignore them. Pretend to not see them. Talk over them. Because I'm white and my family isn't, and because I'm not obese (I'm fat now, but I used to be scrawny), I started to accompany my family members to doctor appts, specialist appts, lawyer appts, etc., anything where my family members will be ignored or talked down to because they are obese and/or Mexican. It is SAD that that's necessary and it infuriates me. I will fight for each and every one of my family members in order for them to get the same care and treatment that I would get if I were to just walk into my own appts.

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I ask thin people if they eat until they are satisfied. Most answer honestly "yes". I then ask if they have eaten but don't feel satisfied yet, do they eat more. Most answer "yes". Fat people do the same, but the amounts are different. "Just eat less" is easy to say when eating less satisfies you.

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41points

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CK 6 months ago

The really sad thing is that as we're having medical breakthroughs that help an obese persons' body function more like a healthy body is supposed to, which helps them lose weight, people are being judged for needing it.

24points

#26

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand How you become expected to be the garbage disposal. "Oh, hey, there's leftover cake from (coworker's) birthday thing. We'll take it to (fat coworker), they'll eat it."

Or the last donut or whatever. And then they get all upset when we say no and are like "it'll go to waste!" because I'm already fat so what does it matter, right?

deagh , Quang Nguyen Vinh Report

Final score:

40points

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LaserBrain 6 months ago

Seems that skinny people or very active people are more likely to be treated as leftover disposers. No one I know would bring it to a fat person

22points

#27

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand I dropped a lot of weight before and family or friend reunions go one of three ways: 1) the person tells you look great and they ask what you did, 2) they’ll tell you look so much better and healthier because they were concerned about you. However, the surprising one is 3) they’ll insult or complain about the heavier you like it was a completely different person.

And #3 isn’t coming from people you normally have contentious relationships with or people you have tough love/hard joking relationships with. You expect jokes from those people. It’s surprisingly comes from the people you were very close to, sometimes ones you never hear speak badly of anyone. The hardest I’ve heard was, “I’m surprised we were even friends.” On a similar note, a friend found out I was much heavier before I met her and she said, “We wouldn’t have even been friends!”

It’s those comments that stick with you. Even more than the insults from when you were heavier. It’s harder because it validates the insecurities you had about your weight, how people perceive you, and how conditional some of your seemingly closest relationships actually are. Thanks to depression and quarantine, I’ve put some of that weight back on and those remarks still come to mind when I’m feeling insecure.

alanamablamaspama , Lisa Fotios Report

Final score:

40points

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Justanotherpanda 6 months ago

When someone lost weight (by choice) I never tell them how good they look, I tell them how happy I am for them the weightloss worked out the way they wanted. There is something so wrong about being fat equaling not looking good.

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35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand How much advice people try to give you. Why eating an apple is so much healthier than eating a cookie. Or why it's so dangerous to be overweight. I know you are worried and I appreciate it, and I really do know these things. I'm really trying to keep up with you, but I can't run a mile every day. I can walk at my own pace and cut out the things that I can, but it's not working for me the way that it used to.

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39points

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3 Otters 🦦 6 months ago

People are nicer to skinny people.

6points

#29

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand When you’re fat but people like you, they will divorce your fatness from your character, but they’ll still talk negatively about fat people in front of you (simply because of their fatness) and you just sort of sit there like 😀.

moonshad0w , ELEVATE Report

Final score:

38points

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BoredPossum 6 months ago

What's worse is that they always link fat to other non-related negative traits. Like fat and ugly, fat and lazy, fat and stupid... It's sad that it is so accepted.

25points

#30

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand As a former obese person, having to pull down your tshirt/shirt to prevent it from lifting up. My non-obese self has well fitting clothes and I still subconsciously pull my tshirt down.

That and the glaring looks that you get when you stand in food lines at buffets or at airports. .

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Final score:

36points

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nottheactualphoto 6 months ago

The Picard Maneuver :^)

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#31

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand Being invisible.

Also, that you are assumed guilty for anything (not just related to food) just cuz you're overweight. Fat people, especially women, have a far higher guilty verdict in all US courts.

Yes, I get that it's ironic that one can be invisible until someone needs to attribute blame.

bugwrench , Keira Burton Report

Final score:

32points

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LB 6 months ago

Is this a thing? I didn't know about this!

9points

#32

The fact that sometimes we like to treat ourselves when eating out, the amount of times I've gotten looks and comments when getting some nice food. Or the issues that can happen with the body after losing significant weight, for example loose skin. Love having to deal with using strong antimicrobial cleaners every day or risk skin infections.

FizmoRoles Report

Final score:

28points

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François Bouzigues 6 months ago

Loose skin is so unfair.

22points

#33

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand I used to be obese. The worst thing for me was how people looked at me. I’d try to make friends and the first thing they would do is look at me in disgust.

DeadStormPirate , Tomé Louro Report

Final score:

24points

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Justanotherpanda 6 months ago

I was at in introduction day for a new job, one of the girls had just run some half marathon or something, telling about proudly, stopped talking, turned to me and said, 'you don't run right, so what is like, to always be the fattest person in a crowd'......I was stumped, didn't work there for a long time, terrible environment.

21points

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#34

I am in pretty good shape but i used to be obese. I was almost 300 pounds at one point.

One can't expect others to embrace obese persons with the same level of attraction or positive affect as typical persons. However, one thing that everyone should understand is that people usually become overweight because they have an emotional relationship to food.

Their dietary habits consist of irregular eating and eating as a form of meditation. It feels incredibly calming and enthralling at times to gorge yourself on food. Every thrust of your tongue and crunch of your teeth becomes enjoyable and almost addictive. Think of a bodybuilder honing and focusing on the pump their biceps get or the moment when they're in the middle of contracting a huge weight and feeling the stretch and bodily stress of that contraction. Every part of that lifestyle deeply enmeshed within your psyche and the best part of it is that it's a lot easier than everything else that life throws at you. .

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Final score:

18points

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Marie Dahme 6 months ago

Food hits the reward center of the brain. If you're low in serotonin or dopamine....foods, especially ultra processed food made with addictive chemicals act just like crack and c o c a I n e in the pleasure and reward center of the brain. For someone who doesn't have low serotonin, food may not have the same effect on you like it would to someone with low levels. And very morbidly obese people will gorge because it hits just like a d r u g. Would you shame an addict ? I keep all tempting food out of my kitchen, no freezer meals, no sodas... but the urge is always there. It's a helluva way to live...a never ending battle inside yourself.

24points

#35

35 Obese People Share The Things A Non-Obese Person Would Never Understand How it feels when the wii fit lady says, "That's obese" in her cheery a*s voice.

outtastudy , Fuad Suedan Diaz Report

Final score:

17points

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CK 6 months ago

I'm not sure if it's on all the versions, but the BMI chart "Obese" on a red background, "Overweight" on pink, "Normal" on yellow, and "Underweight" on green. The connotations of red, yellow and green make this have negative implications.

24points

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Kylie 6 months ago

One thing that's always irritated the hell out of me. All those images that go with the "big is beautiful" crowd don't ever seem to have the body type where the extra weight just flops about or forms rolls because your body frame type isn't built to carry it. I'm naturally a tall and slender build with long thin bones and even 10 pounds extra will just hang there let alone the 30 I have to lose right now. So I FEEL 'fat' even though others will scoff at the idea. I WISh my excess fat was the solid firm type but it's not going to happen.

20points

Salty.Hag 6 months ago

Yes!!! I've noticed that!! They are "big" but they look solid, not like the type of "fat" I was. The rolls were serious. I'm on the same boat, I have to loose some weight and it freaks me out because I can never go back to being over weight, at this point it would be terrible for my health.

2points

Natalia 6 months ago

Don't trust what you see online, and definitely don't compare yourself.

1point

ElfVibratorGlitter 6 months ago

After having a C-section and losing baby weight I still have a tummy pouch that I think looks terrible. It's not solid, it's like a flop of jello that just hangs. 🤷🏿

1point

Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 6 months ago

I was told to kill myself so other people wouldn't have to look at me. My weight is a worse tell on my moral character than my criminal past. I'm a waste of resources. The person who gave me my hysterectomy said (while I was on the operating table) that removing the cancer was a waste of his time. I hate my life and I hate myself. I have three reasons to continue fighting: my cats and my mom. I accepted the cats, which means I signed up for life-- their life. Mom just lost her husband of 60 years. She lost my brother nearly 30 years ago. I'm the only immediate family she has left. Now, it is true that some people have been incredibly kind. After prison, I really notice casual kindnesses. I do have a few very good friends. But the weight of an entire lifetime of judgement is very often overwhelming.

18points

Auntriarch 6 months ago

My dear Shyla, you have been around people who don't deserve you. My eyes always light up when I see your name on a comment

21points

Caro Caro 6 months ago

You are not a waste nor unwanted. I LOVE seeing you here on BP and I think you are one of the kindest Pandas. ❤️

15points

Tamra 6 months ago

People have been very cruel to you Shyla, and yet you are very kind. I hope you know how extraordinary that is...to remain kind in the face of cruelty. That means you win, my dear, and they don't.

8points

Alicia Gee 6 months ago

Oh sweet heart. Sending love. Xxx 😢

8points

MezzoPiano 6 months ago (edited)

WTF is wrong with people who think the worst thing you can be, is fat?

7points

Sue M. H. R. 6 months ago

I don't know you, but you have a life worth living. People who know your comments will miss you. People who need your comments will find their lives lacking. One question I have, did you not also lose your brother and lose your mother's husband? Maybe they didn't mean as much to you, but you are a human who deserves to mourn your losses, as well. And now you have the incredible responsibility of being there for your mom. That takes strength, character, selflessness, and grace. And none of that has to do with your weight. But it might have to do with your cats.

5points

ispeak catanese 6 months ago

😘😘

3points

Lydsylou (she/her) 6 months ago

I always enjoy reading your comments on bored panda! You have such a unique way of replying to things as if it is one of your cats and it always makes me smile! If people don't like you because of what you look like then they don't deserve to even be around you

2points

WalkieTaco 2 months ago

even if you have a dark past, and even if I'm inexperienced and dumb and my advice may be unreliable, trust me, everything can always get better. You are loved (not trying to be weird cuz I don't know u). I've been in a baaaaad place recently, with a brain tumor, weight gain, coming out as bi and being disregarded, etc, but I put my heart to it, and I started feeling better by just living. Not stressing, but just trying to enjoy having a chance to be f*****g alive

0points

Marie Dahme 5 months ago

Oh Shyla, please don't listen to toxic people. They are upset their own lives and see you as an easy target to vent their own frustrations upon. You are loved. Just the way your beautiful mind is. Want a big panda hug ?🐼

0points

Helena 6 months ago

Yeah, hearing people deride you for being overweight. Not helpful. Having someone harp 'it isn't healthy' not helpful. These things just make you a jerk. Don't comment on peoples weight. Unless you have a miracle weightloss pill in your pocket that you're willing to hand over, you have nothing useful to add.

12points

Froyn Laven 6 months ago

This is just horrible. Entire article about heavy set people and not one heavy set person pictured. To add insult to injury you got someone on a scale at 116 lb.

11points

John Harrison 6 months ago

Maybe they changed it. I'm reading this 15 hours after your comment, and there are about 6 to 8 pictures of heavy set people.

2points

Patricia Steward 6 months ago

It's been called the last acceptable prejudice.

8points

Kate Jones 6 months ago (edited)

When you DO lose weight, it's not always the 'solution' they say it is. You don't always feel better. I thought I was going to bust my a*s and lose the weight and I'd feel awesome but... I didn't. I was 300lbs and I lost 90 pounds. I found skin beginning to hang and i felt more self-conscious about *that* than i ever felt being fat. As unhealthy as I know being overweight is, a part of me felt 100 times more unhealthy when I lost it. And then I ended up gaining about 40 pounds back. Fat doesn't go back to the same place. So now I'm fat AND i have hanging skin, which is a problem i wouldn't inflict on my worst enemy. I get horrible rashes in the folds and lugging around hanging weight is so much harder than just carrying the weight normally. And you just feel ugly in a way that being fat never made me feel. And just to add...exercise NEVER got easier. 'Oh just keep at it and it gets easier'-- no it does not. That's a lie and I don't know why people say that. It's not true for everyone.

7points

Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 6 months ago

One thing you may not have tried with the folds is antiperspirant. It really does help.

3points

Helena 6 months ago

Doesn't get easier, isn't 'satisfying' and is never fun. These people are either lying or are somehow immune to the mind-numbing, soul-crushing that is exercise.

2points

Marie Dahme 5 months ago

Oh my gosh yes ! I did find a product on Amazon and Walmart...since Walmart has their "equate" version. Try a tube of monostat chaffing relief gel. Comes out like a gel, but dries to like a slippery slidey powder. It's made with dimethicone. Same stuff by the way in the makeup primer that smashbox uses ! Buy a tube of Monostat Chaffing Relief gel. Read the comments too. I also have loose skin, arms, hips, inner thigh area. This does not turn into a nasty paste like baby powder does either. I should get paid by Monistat to do their commercials lol

0points

Tessana Nemenski 6 months ago

Its not just fat shaming either. I am a woman who is built like a line backer. Even if i had zero percent body fat I would still be considered "plus size". I have done every diet you can think of, different exercise reigments and i finally found a doctor who is like "oh ... lets do this first" and recommending Ozempic in part due to my high sugar levels. 8 months later, my sugars are low and i lost only 10lbs (despite completely rehauling my diet)... so guess what- sometimes it JUST REALLY IS GENETICS

7points

Helena 6 months ago

At 110 lbs I still looked fat because of how my shoulders, rib cage and jaw are shaped. I went from looking like skeleton to fat within 10 lbs. I've come to the conclusion, meh. Whatever

1point

Jessica SpeLangm 6 months ago

I just want to restate what has already been said a little more bluntly. I am well aware that I am overweight. I am aware that I am not as active as I should be. I am aware that my choices in food and beverage are not the healthiest or in "normal" portions. I don't need your (non-fat people) glares and shameful words. I make the best choices I can each day. I will not apologize or drastically change what I enjoy eating and drinking. I am NOT going to go on some ridiculous, restrictive diet that will result in me not enjoying my life. If you can't or won't accept me as is, I don't want or need you in my life. I accept that I am likely to die fat, possibly not the healthiest I can be. But I will be happy and have no regrets. Thank you for reading.

7points

Alexandra Nara 6 months ago

amen...we all should find a selfloving balance between enjoy life and try to optimize our health. I will reread this,when I need empowerment. thanks

3points

MezzoPiano 6 months ago

Constantly wondering, "Am I dieting or do I have an eating disorder?" I have PCOS. I can lose weight, but I have to eat less than 1200 calories a day to do it. And even then it's sooooo slooooow. So at what point is starving myself "healthy" and at what point is it anorexia?

5points

Helena 6 months ago

Ditto. And you have to stare at every apple, every potato, every fresh kind of food and wonder how many calories are actually in it, since it isn't like theyr'e standardized. And you can't use anything preprepared, so now your part time job is making every sauce, condiment, or anything else you might need to make food palatable, only this job costs you money instead of make it, and now you hate life. Why were you trying to live longer again? Is it worth this price? Then it comes back to, everyone hates that I'm fat. But they aren't here. They aren't the ones starving, spending an insane amount of time on it, just so others have something acceptable to look at.

3points

Data1001 6 months ago

I put on quite a bit of weight over the past 5 years, while struggling with depression. One thing I really appreciated about the pandemic was that I could now "hide" from the public behind a mask. I continue to wear it even in many situations where most other people have stopped wearing them, because it takes away much of the discomfort of being seen in public as I currently am. Even though I'm only hiding half my face, it makes me feel a little more invisible, which is good for my mental health right now.

5points

Alexandra Nara 6 months ago

We know,that we are obese.We are aware of health risks. We mostly know everything about healthy food,cooking, and sport.I could even write a book about all kinds of hormons and body/psychic conditions that cause hunger attacks,stress eating, permanent hunger.... It's a hard fight loosing weight permanently. And we have many fronts: our evolutionary will to keep this stored energy for emergencies, the habits we created to protect ourself or release our stress, biological conditions- and last not least people who cause more stress and hurt by judging us at our weight.

4points

KnightOwl 6 months ago

Everyone assumes I'm overweight because I eat too much, when in reality I barely eat. I have a lot of stomach and bowel issues so eating is very difficult and painful, I tend to eat 1 small meal a day and always suffer for it. I'm a very picky eater and eat loads of fruit, veg and fish, I rarely eat meat, pasta, rice or bread. Every time I eat i end up in loads of pain, usually resulting in me throwing up, i always get bloated, with heartburn and indigestion (even after a simple snack like a piece of fruit) and either be constipated or have diarrhoea. I've been trying to get doctors to take my health issues seriously for 20+ but they just assume that I'm lying or that it can't possibly be as bad as I say because I haven't lost weight. (90%of the time my stomach is bloated and inflamed so it's kinda hard to tell) they always advise losing weight but I don't know what else I'm supposed to do.

4points

MezzoPiano 6 months ago

Oh my God, KnightOwl, I am so sorry! This makes my hearts hurt. I really, really hope that you're able to eventually find a doctor to take you seriously.

5points

Briards Are Best 6 months ago

I can relate to all of these......

4points

marianne eliza 6 months ago

Once you get to certain point, you actually can't exercise without the very real possibility of damaging joints, tendons, and ligaments. I've got plantar fasciitis, and a torn knee ligament. Can't even fix those without losing some weight first or I'll just ruin the surgeons work. Vicious circle. As soon as my med insurance will cover the d**g, I'll get it.

3points

Gillian 6 months ago

People assume, without even realising it, that fat people are invariably a) stupid and b) poor.

3points

RomanceRadish 6 months ago

This post was enlightening and I sincerely appreciate the insight.

3points

Salty.Hag 6 months ago

So many things! Getting on an amusement park ride, the fact that it's hard to not see yourself "fat" even after you loose the weight, not finding clothes, trying everything to loose the weight. The worst one for me was walking into a restaurant and a guy telling his friends to eat his food before I ate mine or I'd come eat theirs too. That made me feel incredibly messed up! I'm thankful I was able to loose the weight was it was no easy task.

3points

cugel. 6 months ago

This will go well.

3points

Alicia M Goodner 6 months ago

Not all fat people are fat due to food !!! Im a big gal... I got this way from severe abuse. Being kicked , punched , given steroids and many different "pain " killers adds tissue and fat pockets under the skin that can't be lost ! I've been stabbed and shot too. Multiple scars/ surgeries lead to guess what ?? More scar tissue and fat deposits !... Geesh people are so judgmental and rude... Also different meds add weight too... UGh

2points

FABULOUS1 6 months ago

I have been overweight my entire life. Honestly the only time I was not considered fat is when I was on d***s. I have tried every diet and every fad diet known to man while exercising and lose nothing. At one point I was basically starving myself just to see any results. I am sad and I am tired of looking like this and feeling this way. All of my siblings have always been a slim and/or healthy weight without even trying. I have been given clothes as gifts in the past that the person had to know that in no way shape or form would they fit me, and yes I took it as a personal attack. I want to be able to try on clothes without crying, I want to be able to wear the cute summer dresses, or tank tops without massive gut and side boobs hanging out. I dont want to stop smoking because it will cause me (because it has) to eat more, and the pills I was prescibed to quit smoking can cause suicidal thoughts and depression. I cannot have surgery until I stop smoking but scared to go under the knife

2points

Guess Undheit 6 months ago

One thing not said about clothes: many/most larger sizes come only in black, the lie that it's "flattering". No, it's not, it puts a target on the person, telling everyone "black clothes = fat!" You cannot find fashionable and colourful styles in larger sizes, and I suspect some of them refuse to make larger sizes specifically for that reason, to say, "we don't want anyone seeing YOU wearing OUR clothes!!!"

2points

Tessana Nemenski 6 months ago

Or there are horrible patterns - stripes that go horizontally so you look bigger than you are, flower patterns that look like it came from a couch in the 1920s etc. AND THAT IS ON TOP of woman's clothing varying in size from maker to maker.

6points

Gillian 6 months ago

And the proportions are always wrong. Clothes are designed around thin people and made wider for the bigger sizes, without altering the lines, so nothing is ever quite the same shape as the wearer above a certain size.

5points

Marie Dahme 5 months ago

Check out sanctuarie designs. Their go up to 9X and they have a lot of cool tie dye clothes too. Also, woman within.com or onestopplus.com. All their sizes go up to size 5X and 6X. And in petite if you're a shorter gal. Woman Within branched off from Lane Bryant unlike 20 years ago. Also, check out Torrid.com....their plus size stuff is awesome. A lot of size 6 stuff which is 6X. If you like youthful, fun, or disney stuff....then you'll love Torrid.com. Even Hot Topic.com is getting in on plus size fashion. Clothing companies know plus size women are a niche market from very young fashions to more conservative work attire...or Roamans.com which has an excellent selection of formal attire for all ages up to size 48 which I think is their version of 6X. Even a company called Love your Peaches and another good one is Bloom Chic.com. Don't worry girl, I got you covered lol

0points

Chenga Animates 6 months ago

I didn't even think about this and now I feel like a terrible person holy c**p :(

1point

Richard Ross 6 months ago

What was they thinking with these naff stock images 🤔

1point

Maim 5 months ago

ALMOST EVERY PICTURE IN THIS STORY IS OF A WOMAN. EVEN WHEN IT IS A MAN SAYING STUFF. DO BETTER, BP.

0points

Crystal 6 months ago (edited)

What frustrates me is that I was healthy, only mildly overweight. Walked everywhere, loved it. Then I fell and damaged my hips and back. 20+ years later and people keep saying you need to do more, be active, go for walks. I can no longer do those things cus I’m in to much pain. People’s response, loose weight you will feel better. Idiot people. If I could, I would, find a way for people to deal with chronic pain that does not knock them for a loop. People can’t figure out that I’m not lazy. To most everyone you are fat because you are lazy, there obviously could never be another reason.

0points

FROGLET 6 months ago

I feel seen

0points

Anxiousguest 6 months ago

I'm not overweight, but has become chubby and has got a big belly due to childbirth. I have some mental health issues, and rely at times on comfort food. Now I'm finding it very difficult to lose weight, since I had been sedentary for some time, has been eating extra and with baby, Im not getting time to exercise and I'm sleeping deprived. I avoid looking at mirror and getting photos taken. I can't imagine what these people will be going through.

0points

John Harrison 6 months ago

This was a really good article, in the sense that it got a lot of engagement and honest comments. And for some of us, it's quite an eye-opener. Thank you, Kornelija Viečaitė.

0points

Sue M. H. R. 6 months ago

I highly recommend everyone listen to the Maintenance Phase podcast. It is eye-opening their dissection of the diet industry, anti-fat bias, fad diets, and so much more. They are so fun to listen to. They don't care if people are trying to lose weight, they just want to point out the absurd fallacy that losing weight as a cure for what most people need and it is one that only a very small percentage of the population can achieve. For everyday folks, they point out it is not your fault for falling victim to a trap that was set for you for the healthcare system (any country), for the diet and wellness industry, for the fitness industry and certainly for the influencer (cringe) industry. Please listen and support Mike and Aubrey, it has been really hard to listen to the truth they discuss but so, so worth it.

0points

cugel. 6 months ago (edited)

Lol, people are fat because of all the other people telling them to eat less and move more. Flawless logic, Obesity is an epidemic because of ubiquitous high calorie food that's designed to taste so good that you can't resist. Those are the institutions their ire should be directed at.

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Kylie 6 months ago

20points

Salty.Hag 6 months ago

2points

Natalia 6 months ago

Don't trust what you see online, and definitely don't compare yourself.

1point

ElfVibratorGlitter 6 months ago

After having a C-section and losing baby weight I still have a tummy pouch that I think looks terrible. It's not solid, it's like a flop of jello that just hangs. 🤷🏿

1point

Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 6 months ago

18points

Auntriarch 6 months ago

My dear Shyla, you have been around people who don't deserve you. My eyes always light up when I see your name on a comment

21points

Caro Caro 6 months ago

You are not a waste nor unwanted. I LOVE seeing you here on BP and I think you are one of the kindest Pandas. ❤️

15points

Tamra 6 months ago

People have been very cruel to you Shyla, and yet you are very kind. I hope you know how extraordinary that is...to remain kind in the face of cruelty. That means you win, my dear, and they don't.

8points

Alicia Gee 6 months ago

Oh sweet heart. Sending love. Xxx 😢

8points

MezzoPiano 6 months ago (edited)

WTF is wrong with people who think the worst thing you can be, is fat?

7points

Sue M. H. R. 6 months ago

5points

ispeak catanese 6 months ago

😘😘

3points

Lydsylou (she/her) 6 months ago

2points

WalkieTaco 2 months ago

0points

Marie Dahme 5 months ago

0points

Helena 6 months ago

12points

Froyn Laven 6 months ago

This is just horrible. Entire article about heavy set people and not one heavy set person pictured. To add insult to injury you got someone on a scale at 116 lb.

11points

John Harrison 6 months ago

Maybe they changed it. I'm reading this 15 hours after your comment, and there are about 6 to 8 pictures of heavy set people.

2points

Patricia Steward 6 months ago

It's been called the last acceptable prejudice.

8points

Kate Jones 6 months ago (edited)

7points

Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 6 months ago

One thing you may not have tried with the folds is antiperspirant. It really does help.

3points

Helena 6 months ago

Doesn't get easier, isn't 'satisfying' and is never fun. These people are either lying or are somehow immune to the mind-numbing, soul-crushing that is exercise.

2points

Marie Dahme 5 months ago

0points

Tessana Nemenski 6 months ago

7points

Helena 6 months ago

At 110 lbs I still looked fat because of how my shoulders, rib cage and jaw are shaped. I went from looking like skeleton to fat within 10 lbs. I've come to the conclusion, meh. Whatever

1point

Jessica SpeLangm 6 months ago

7points

Alexandra Nara 6 months ago

amen...we all should find a selfloving balance between enjoy life and try to optimize our health. I will reread this,when I need empowerment. thanks

3points

MezzoPiano 6 months ago

5points

Helena 6 months ago

3points

Data1001 6 months ago

5points

Alexandra Nara 6 months ago

4points

KnightOwl 6 months ago

4points

MezzoPiano 6 months ago

Oh my God, KnightOwl, I am so sorry! This makes my hearts hurt. I really, really hope that you're able to eventually find a doctor to take you seriously.

5points

Briards Are Best 6 months ago

I can relate to all of these......

4points

marianne eliza 6 months ago

3points

Gillian 6 months ago

People assume, without even realising it, that fat people are invariably a) stupid and b) poor.

3points

RomanceRadish 6 months ago

This post was enlightening and I sincerely appreciate the insight.

3points

Salty.Hag 6 months ago

3points

cugel. 6 months ago

This will go well.

3points

Alicia M Goodner 6 months ago

2points

FABULOUS1 6 months ago

2points

Guess Undheit 6 months ago

2points

Tessana Nemenski 6 months ago

6points

Gillian 6 months ago

5points

Marie Dahme 5 months ago

0points

Chenga Animates 6 months ago

I didn't even think about this and now I feel like a terrible person holy c**p :(

1point

Richard Ross 6 months ago

What was they thinking with these naff stock images 🤔

1point

Maim 5 months ago

ALMOST EVERY PICTURE IN THIS STORY IS OF A WOMAN. EVEN WHEN IT IS A MAN SAYING STUFF. DO BETTER, BP.

0points

Crystal 6 months ago (edited)

0points

FROGLET 6 months ago

I feel seen

0points

Anxiousguest 6 months ago

0points

John Harrison 6 months ago

This was a really good article, in the sense that it got a lot of engagement and honest comments. And for some of us, it's quite an eye-opener. Thank you, Kornelija Viečaitė.

0points

Sue M. H. R. 6 months ago

0points

cugel. 6 months ago (edited)

-3points