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White_Wolf_Dreamer , Vinicius Wiesehofer Report

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread Having guys assume that smiling, talking, or otherwise showing basic human decency to them means we're flirting.

Final score:

278points

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Not Proud British 2 years ago

Even making eye contact, or just existing. We want to go about our daily lives without being hassled or hit upon. As for those men who will come to whinge about not being able to swap numbers with a girl anymore or what's wrong with flirting - there is nothing wrong with it, in context. If I am sat on a train with my headphones in then I DO NOT WANT CONTACT. If I am in a hurry on my way to work, if I am going for a jog, if I am doing the food shopping, etc I DO NOT WANT A STRANGER HITTING ON ME. It's that simple.

93points

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread What an absolute annoyance having your period is. Everything about it is horrible.

Kayakityak , cottonbro Report

Final score:

274points

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DUN DUN (she/her) 2 years ago

Starting from the bloating to the cramps, EVERYTHING

102points

Arif-Fear feels that, in the West, the talents of female employees are definitely recognized. However, there are still obstacles that they face. Obstacles that need to be torn down.

“Discrimination includes women being denied work, in preference for men due to maternity leave allowances. Due to the imbalance between caring for children and housework among male/female partnerships—which is still prevalent across the globe—women are left juggling a high amount of childcare and work which places extra demands on women,” she pointed out.

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread Laughing, coughing or sneezing - and promptly giving birth to a red jellyfish.

groats219 , Andrea Piacquadio Report

Final score:

253points

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DUN DUN (she/her) 2 years ago

It took me some seconds to understand..and DAMN correct!

86points

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread The excitement of pockets in our clothes. Actual, helpful pockets.

pearls2626 , jasmin chew Report

Final score:

244points

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Sissi Gilmour 2 years ago

Last weekend I wore a pair of my boyfriends old jeans and he was so confused when I was so happy that my phone fit all the way into the pocket.

87points

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread How young being preyed on by men starts. I was first ogled and cat called by men when I was 9 and was groped when I was 11. At a public library. While playing runescape.

This is not to say this doesn't happen a.t all to boys. It just happens to girls at a far higher rate

[deleted] , Matheus Bertelli Report

Final score:

240points

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Not Proud British 2 years ago

1 in 9 girls experience sexual abuse. 1 in 53 boys. https://www.rainn.org/statistics/children-and-teens

107points

The human rights advocate believes that employers could help solve some of those issues by allowing flexible schedules so that parents can drop their kids off at school in the mornings. But even that, in her opinion, isn’t enough.

“Practical barriers add an extra burden onto women. Beyond childcare, women in leadership is an area that is evolving but there is still a massive glass ceiling. We need more women in leadership positions,” she said.

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread How the safety of where we go is always there. Like, I would love to go camping alone somewhere… would I? Nope. Leaving a store at night, we have to be on guard. Walking the dog at night or through woods alone? Always on guard.

heathers1 , Elijah O'Donnell Report

Final score:

234points

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Not Proud British 2 years ago

Men say they feel uncomfortable walking alone at night too, but I think women feel it for different reasons. Men don't want to be mugged or jumped. Women don't want to be sexually assaulted, raped, mugged or jumped.

132points

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread How much effing free labor we are expected to do for everyone, at home, at work, and everywhere. Planning, preparing and cleaning up from office birthday parties, holiday meals, weddings, funerals, etc. etc. Being the “default parent” who knows the family schedule, the pediatrician’s number, whether we need more peanut butter and eggs. Always running scripts in the back of your mind to make sure you’re not being TOO friendly to your male coworkers/boss/a stranger so you’re not giving anyone the “wrong idea,” but also being friendly enough to not bruise a man’s ego. Being a woman is a full time job that we aren’t paid for and it’s f**king exhausting. InB4 “I’m a dad and I know my kid’s doctor’s number, my wife doesn’t do anything” Good for you, you’re an outlier and get a cookie.

elizabiscuit , Annie Spratt Report

Final score:

227points

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Omi bub 2 years ago

Also see: being held responsible for remembering, buying gifts & sending cards for every birthday, anniversary etc.

97points

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread That even though we might be "prettier if we smiled", we literally can't do that even if we want to, because smiling is interpreted by too many men as a sexual invitation. Men are drawn to smiling women like sharks to a bleeding baby seal.

Please, just let me laugh at my comedy podcast in peace, I implore you all.

Haustvind , Andrea Piacquadio Report

Final score:

218points

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Sue Lynn Chan 2 years ago

Next time, try the psycho smile

76points

One extremely frustrating issue that women face is the fact that many of their clothes either don’t have pockets at all or the pockets are non-functional. However, this issue might be a practical one, not a political one.

Sewing and design expert Roxanne explained to Bored Panda during a previous interview that it’s normal to want pockets for their functionality.

"I think women love pockets for the functionality. We don’t always want to carry things in our hands, especially our phones. When I wear a dress with pockets, my hands naturally gravitate toward the pocket. I’m not sure why. It’s just comfortable,” she said.

#10

How your issues are never taken seriously and are always either chalked up to your period or a moral failing.

I first started getting symptoms of Celiac disease when I was fourteen. I was diagnosed at 21. I spent seven years getting told my constellation of horror show symptoms was just my period.

I was diagnosed with autism at 26. I spent my entire life being told I was a s**tty person because I didn't understand socialization like other women. Every faux pas was just viewed as intentional malice on my part, and treated about as harshly as you'd expect.

You know. Little stuff like that.

VampyrDarling Report

Final score:

213points

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Omi bub 2 years ago

There is huge amount of research that shows this happens for so many illnesses. Man presents with back pain- MRI & pain relief, woman presents with back pain "have you tried a hot bath?".

118points

notanotherkrazychik Report

#11

They will probably never understand the things we do out of fear. Also, when a fart rolls up to the front of your vag lips.

Final score:

199points

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dee dee 2 years ago

That f*****g bubble i swear--

115points

macaronsforeveryone , Molly Champion Report

#12

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread That turning us on needs to happen waaaay before you even get our clothes off.

Final score:

199points

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Bob D. Lin Quint 2 years ago

Well yeah, but I'm completely incapable of turning anyone on

26points

“I think a lot of women’s clothing lack pockets for one simple reason: women have curves. When there is an opening at a stress point, such as at the hips, the fabric will naturally flare out. This is particularly evident in form-fitting clothing,” Roxanne suggested that the lack of pockets in women’s clothing has barely anything to do with political or social reasons.

“There are several ways to solve the problem: redesign the garment with a looser fit, secure the fabric with a zipper or button closure, relocate the pocket, or, here’s the big one… redesign the pocket shape,” the expert said.

#13

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread Bras hurt. Sometimes the wire breaks free and attempts to impale the [chest].

InWake , THIS IS ZUN Report

Final score:

187points

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kathoco 2 years ago

I just want to say that this is true, bras can be uncomfortable, especially if they don't fit well, and if the underwire breaks it can be painful. But I like wearing a bra, I like the way it looks, I have well-fitting bras that I don't notice I'm even wearing and don't feel the need to take off as soon as I get home. And when I have mastalgia for a week or two before my period, wearing a bra definitely eases the pain. Just another point of view on bras.

70points

#14

The social expectation to wear makeup all the time. We're literally told that our FACES are socially unacceptable unless coated in intricate and expensive layers of artificial substances. How screwed up is that?

Final score:

183points

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Peej Maybe 2 years ago

See also: Shaving. I cannot believe we're this far into the 21st century and people still get freaked out by a woman with armpit hair

113points

#15

How draining the constant misogyny is.

PinkPotts Report

Final score:

182points

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Ponyo (they/them) 2 years ago

and how great it feels to get a break from it

30points

“Shaping the opening into a slant or curve will allow the opening to wrap around the curve without resulting in bulging, excess fabric. This pocket style does change the original look of the garment, so the designer would ultimately decide if it works with their vision. I recently drafted a curved pocket pattern for a form-fitting dress, demonstrating that it is possible!”

“I don’t think there is any political or social reason for the shortage of pockets. Most designers are trying to appeal to the desires of their target demographic, in this case, usually a slimming silhouette that doesn’t draw attention to areas many of us want to minimize.”

#16

What it's like to live in a society that favours men in most things.

Look at the comments here. As soon as women try to say that they aren't treated the same at school or work etc then men say it's not true. But how would they know? The vast majority have never had to experience inequality because they are a man.

We say we're scared of walking at night but then we get gaslit from men who say that crimes against men are higher. Men are rarely targeted because of their sex, women are targeted because they are a woman all the time. Look at the news for example, hundreds and hundreds of women getting attacked and murdered in the street by men. Ask yourself how often that happens the other way round? Where women stalk men in the street and come behind them and beat them to death? Or pull them into alleyways and sexually assault them?

The vast majority of men haven't had to think about what they're wearing to try and improve their safety, or walk with their keys in their knuckles because you're on alert from a random attack walking to your car. Or how unsafe you feel when you have to get a plumber or electrician to your home and you live alone.

All of these are real issues for women that men deny despite the majority of them never experiencing sex based crimes, and definitely not in the numbers women do.

And of course men's issues are equally important. But if you only bring them up in response to a women bringing up issues about women's rights then you're doing it to deny what she's saying about her own experiences. There's a reason why women protest in the street and have womens marches to advocate for basic human rights. I've never seen a male protest to highlight gender based inequality for men.

bac21 Report

Final score:

175points

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Paul Davis 2 years ago (edited)

I've seen the same glib, smug reaction from my fellow white men when they talk about people of color being shot at traffic stops. Since they never expect to be murdered by cops for the fun of it, they don't think it's real or that it's a problem at all.

94points

#17

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread Having your opinions taken less seriously because of your voice. I am trans and recently got surgery to feminize my voice. It has been wild seeing the difference in how people react to me online. My game knowledge is doubted, and my competency is always open for debate.

Ganondorf_Is_God , Jack Sparrow Report

Final score:

174points

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Sarcastic Cow 2 years ago

Welcome in feminine world!

109points

Sequoia 2 years ago (edited)

We will throw a party! You will get your free pepper spray and a heavy blunt object.

22points

IsABELLA 2 years ago

it sucks!

9points

Ines Olabarria-Smith 2 years ago

Sometimes it suck’s but sometimes it doesn’t.

2points

kate h 2 years ago

Also because of your user name. I changed my name on Reddit from obviously female to something innocuous. The difference was sad and infuriating - I went from getting frequent rude replies and attacks to none. I have the same opinions, but now that I'm assumed male they're accepted.

21points

Jasper Cool 2 years ago

My reddit name is also neutral. It's just not worth the harassment. Plus a lot of gamer subs or comics/ movies subs assume default male users. Like it doesnt occur to them that women might be online discussing games or movies.

14points

Kill-Bunny 2 years ago

I used to play one online game for few years where you concur new places and make kingdoms, form alliances with others and so on. I was a lead for about half a year for one of the top largest alliances which was started by me and constantly growing. My nickname, profile pic or information never specified my gender. Eventually I got pissed off to be called "he" in chats (apparently, it seems I was the only woman in the alliance), so I have corrected one person, that I am "she". 2 hours later I was kicked out of alliance, blocked, brutally attacked, robbed of everything and left on to start from scratch. Just like that. For being a woman. Oh, and the alliance? Went from top to sh*t in about a week :D

11points

Anna Lessens 2 years ago

Karma's been doing her job I see...

0points

Marilyn leger 2 years ago

Or sitting in a meeting, presenting an idea and having it cheered but attributed to the man sitting next to or across from you

7points

Guido Pisano 2 years ago

I see the difference when I say somerhing or my wife does...

7points

Leona V. 2 years ago

Hahaha I was working at a small computer store in a bust period in the 70’s Silicon Valley. Ring ring…”Hello, Computer Attic.” “I have a technical question.” “Ok.” Long pause. “Ok, go ahead.” “Oh, I thought you were going to transfer me.” “Nope, what’s your question?” Because, ignorance.

6points

Jasper Cool 2 years ago

This is why I like having gender neutral or masculine gaming avatars/names. It's night and day how I get treated vs how I do if I have something distinctly female. Fortunately i don't have to use my voice for how i play.

4points

Karis Ravenhill 2 years ago

I've spent years lowering my voice as a woman for this reason. I noticed when my voice was a higher octave, I was constantly treated like an idiot airhead. I dropped my voice and purposefully talk in deeper tones. Men argue with me less and with at least consider what comes out of my mouth instead of outright dismissing it. It's not just women, I've noticed men will not respect or listen to another man that has a high octave voice like a woman. I guess for guys if you don't sound like a dragon with a flu, then you're not worth listening to.

2points

🅰︎🆅🅴🆁🆈 2 years ago

What’s this surgery called?, I’m also trans lmao

2points

Josy Bannon 2 years ago

Thats sad.

2points

𝕮𝖍𝖊𝖗𝖗𝖎𝖊 2 years ago

God, I have a very high pitch voice, and no one takes me seriously!!!

1point

miss miss 2 years ago

Ouch!!

1point

Frankenfrog 2 years ago

Well, welcome to womanhood. Good luck!

1point

Courtney Lunsford 2 years ago

As a woman it hurts that there are no longer safe places for women. You can't go to the bathroom without being worried a man will come in there to hurt you. And if they just claim they are trans they are allowed to be there. It makes me feel so unsafe. Women in California prison are being raped by "trans' women. (I put trans in parentheses because I don't believe a true trans woman would be raping other women. These men just claim to be trans to get lesser punishments. Talk about cruel and unusual punishment.)

1point

Cindy Snow 2 years ago

Heck even a born female gets treated differently wearing heels or not. Seriously.

0points

Elise Thompson 2 years ago

I'm a sign language interpreter. When I interpret for deaf men on the phone, the person on the other end talks down to him because it's a woman's voice, like treats a construction worker as if he doesn't understand lumber. In a meeting, I often can't get the floor, and have asked a male interpreter I'm working with to do it for me. They are given the floor immediately.

0points

Njushka 2 years ago

Yup. This is a fact. I give my opinion and of course no one listens, but I don't care. I let them make the same mistakes over and over, casually offer my opinion each time, and move on. Eventually, I add a "yes, I've been saying this would happen, but no one listened, so now you need to suffer for your mistakes. I don't feel bad for you." Subsequently, these same people would start asking for my opinion and I would offer it, as normal. It's crazy how once you just stop caring about their b******t, they come running back for help. Meh, you don't wanna listen, that's your choice. I'm doing great with my decisions over here. Let me know when you're ready to make smart choices 💅

0points

CHAOS. 2 years ago

💙💗yikes💗💙

0points

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Prism Dawn 2 years ago

WTH? It's rather not share *my* gender with you to be honest.

2points

#18

How little I care about a man's opinion on my hair, clothing, or makeup. I am not dressing for you. I do not care if you think red lipstick is too much.

Also just how often guys touch you without permission.

this_is_an_alaia Report

Final score:

165points

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Felice Coles 2 years ago (edited)

Man: "But I'm SUPERIOR! You should pay attention to what I think, what I want, what I say." Woman: "Get lost." Man: "Hey! I'm being nice here, trying to help you! You can't be anything without me!"

67points

cantbesohelpmenotbe Report

#19

Why we are terrified of y’all as strangers whenever we go out alone. I’ve tried to explain it to some and always get “well all guys aren’t the same” THATS NOT THE POINT.

Final score:

153points

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Susie Elle 2 years ago (edited)

Like the bad ones have a sign over their heads reading I WILL FOLLOW YOU HOME AND ATTEMPT TO RAPE. You kind of have to assume every male stranger is a potential threat, because from looks alone you can't tell an assailant from a normal guy apart.

112points

#20

The many and subtle ways the world around us tells us we're never beautiful enough.

Ribbons1223 Report

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146points

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Daria B 2 years ago

And, sometimes, even the conventionally beautiful ones can still feel intimidating, so they get the poop from someone else's insecurities as well. Or, they are just avoided.

29points

#21

How exhausting/depressing it is seeing so many sexual overpowerment scenes on TV and Film.

It’s like they are trying to inform us of how vulnerable we are to sexual assault, when we are fully aware and live with that knowledge on a daily basis.

Hot_potatoos Report

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142points

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Farmboyatheart 2 years ago

I hate when movies and tv show a woman saying NO and the man kisses her anyway, then she suddenly likes it and kisses him back. In real life this is assault. Don't do it.

126points

Hour-Cow-4348 , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

#22

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread How sometimes you can never feel successful in your career because you’ll always be accused of sleeping your way to the top, or being a difficult woman. Never on merit.

Final score:

140points

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Babsevs 2 years ago

This this this this!!!!! I'm a manager (was an engineer) in a male dominated manufacturing business...been there 27 years and still get the questionable background problems pop up now again....I'm a middle aged, perimenopausal mother...I have enough s*** to deal without this demerit!

51points

#23

That “good men” and “bad men” are often impossible to tell apart. We’ve all had the experience of a man we thought we could trust turning out to be terrifying, and we learned from that. So no, we don’t think that all men are predators, but we do know that many of the bad ones are very, very good at appearing to be good ones, and we have no choice but to behave in ways that protect ourselves.

PinkPotts Report

Final score:

139points

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Naesil 2 years ago

Yup thats sociopaths for you, they can lie and be charming, confident and I think they also are usually very good in bed.. so seemingly the perfect package until they show their true colors.

38points

MyVillainOriginStory Report

#24

High quality toilet paper is deeply important to women because we use it every single time we pee or poop and extra when we’re on our period.

Final score:

137points

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Leet_loves_space 2 years ago (edited)

*meanwhile school bathrooms* edit: men also like good tp

35points

#25

That until you guys come together and force real change to happen, women will continue to perceive all of you as a threat and will act accordingly and you have no right to complain when we do.

The_Book-JDP Report

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129points

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Nicky 2 years ago

Whenever I want to take a walk at night, I take my young daughter to Ikea and we walk laps around the store for about an hour. Men don't have these safety concerns.

36points

Dependent_Actuary148 , kelvin octa Report

#26

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread That many women live in constant fear of getting pregnant and having to give birth in the future. All the scenes in movies, all the info about death risk of pregnancy and diseases and stuff connected to it.

That many women are scared of picking a wrong partner because we know that we'll most times end up alone with children if anything goes wrong.

Final score:

128points

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Otter 2 years ago (edited)

Straight men, if you want to show your girlfriend how much you care for her, take some responsibility for birth control and use a condom.

98points

#27

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread Feeling sad and tired for no reason, because my body is starting to produce less serotonin before my period. I get so sad and I can’t do anything to feel happy for like 2-3 days a month.

Organic_Ema , Sofia Alejandra Report

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125points

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Lovin' Life 2 years ago

I suffered with this from age 15 until I was 27. It was so bad that I was given a hysterectomy at 27 years old.

38points

#28

That we really can’t stand unsolicited d**k pics so Please for the love of god stop sending them. They take a conversation from 0 to and “ya lost me” real quick

Cleonce12 Report

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125points

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Otter 2 years ago

Why to men do this? Do they enjoy overstepping boundaries? Or are they afraid that they,'ll be rejected because Mr. Wiener isn't a foot long, and they'd rather get the rejection over with than waste time?

69points

#29

How exhausting it is to see your gender constantly objectified. Middle aged and older women are practically absent from media.

Final score:

125points

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Mimi whatev 2 years ago

Unless you're Maggie Smith

38points

#30

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread How your brain gets re-wired by pregnancy. And I don’t just mean the “I’ll kill anyone who tries to hurt my little bologna loaf.” I mean how some foods you loved now taste like c**p. And others you only tolerated taste like heaven. How some smells are now more intense or slightly off from before pregnancy. That you can’t remember how to drive a stick shift (true story, ground the gears for at least a month) but can put together some complicated as s**t storage unit with no instructions and nothing but a pair of pliers and a nail file, while 8 1/2 mos pregnant.That you can spy a poisonous plant from 50 yards away but can’t find the orange behind your water glass. And that if/when you get pregnant again everything will get re/wired in a different way.

meld68 , Thiago Borges Report

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124points

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Evil Little Thing 2 years ago

My pregnancy stopped me from getting migraine headaches and got rid of my most debilitating ADHD symptoms. Permanently. The quality of life improvement was completely worth the damage it did to my body.

22points

#31

Just like men, we can have what are deemed "negative emotions" (fear, anger, etc), that doesn't mean we're being hysterical, dramatic, annoying or whatever else invalidates feelings.

Whole-Key Report

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121points

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Sissi Gilmour 2 years ago

This! When I'm in a bad mood or just plain annoyed by his actions my boyfriend always says "Eat something, you're cranky." and it drives me crazy! I feel like he's not taking me or my emotion seriously and he tends to do this all the time.

50points

#32

My male friends are always like 'everyone should travel solo across Europe at least once in their life'… like no thank you I don’t want to disappear.

chewypotato21 Report

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116points

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Aaricia 2 years ago

Europe is fairly safe for women, but you have the best safety in tourist spots and places with lots of people like towns.

33points

#33

When you’re on your period, and stand up and feel the gush.

LadyNightlock Report

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115points

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Tuna Fish 2 years ago

Hello, womanhood.

31points

#34

The universal scare. It might just be sweat or discharge… but it could be blood too. And you’re not able to make a quick getaway to the nearest bathroom to check.

chocotacogato Report

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108points

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Florence 2 years ago

RIGHT AND WHEN YOU AIT IN A CHAIR THERES JUST A MOISTURE SPOT ON THE CHAIR AND YOURE LIKE “S**T”

48points

Dutch Swimmer Goes Viral For Super Revealing Trunks During 2024 Olympics: “Is This Legal?”

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Thrill-Seeking Diver Jumps Down Extreme Waterslide, Ignoring The Strict Ban For Women

#35

The sensation of menstruation itself Not just the symptoms. It's almost indescribable. Like someone ripping a scab off of your insides or dispensing warm soup from your nethers.

How much of our behavior is influenced by fear that a man will physically harm us. By 18, I stopped smiling at men 25 and up in passing because too many took it as sexual interest. At 23 I stopped jogging near streets or apartment buildings because the cat calls were too aggressive. And at 31 I cut a married, super religious, father figure from my life because he couldn't keep his eyes off of my body and started talking to me like a mistress. Right now no man I've had any sort of relationship with knows where I live and I feel safer than ever before.

PeligrosaPistola Report

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105points

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Tuna Fish 2 years ago

I grew up super religious too and others should know. Your daughters are not safe with someone because they hold the title Preacher or Deacon or Sunday school teacher. Protect your children from everyone you do not know very well and by all means tell your daughters and sons they do not have to listen to anyone who says "don't tell anyone". Anyone who says that to you is doing something wrong to you.

66points

Puzzleheaded_Net9759 , Brian Lawson Report

#36

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread Holding my [chest] means nothing s*xual. Sometimes I do it instinctively. It's comfortable and warm.

Final score:

101points

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DUN DUN (she/her) 2 years ago

And the lower belly area aslo

51points

#37

How terrible it feels to pull a dry tampon out.

moscatodogiscute Report

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98points

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Gin 2 years ago

Honestly, this is dangerous. Tampons need moisture to expand and work properly so you should never be putting them in when you're not bleeding sufficiently to make them damp enough. You should never use a tampon for spotting. You should never use a tampon in anticipation of bleeding. These are basic 'Don'ts' and companies like Tampax explain things like this on their websites. You should not put yourself in the situation where pulling one out dry happens. If you unsure better to use a pad.

41points

Woman Put A Water Fountain With A Camera In Her Yard, Here Are 24 Photos Of Regular Visitors (New Pics)

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“Ma’am I Live Here”: Woman Refuses To Back Out Of Driveway, Learns A Lesson The Hard Way

#38

The feeling of taking off your bra after a long day.

Pinecone55 Report

Final score:

97points

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Otter 2 years ago

Or your heels, if you wear heels. I quit!

33points

#39

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread How much society influences how we behave — from being polite when men creep on us to working a full-time job and still doing the majority of the work at home.

howdoulikedemapples , Yan Krukov Report

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88points

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Bob D. Lin Quint 2 years ago

I work in retail and for fear of being rude or hurting feelings I'm very polite and act interested whenever one of several old ass men, 50 years old or so, who're also regulars, start talking to me about crap I don't care about. Couldn't imagine the hell I'd be in if I had tits.

29points

#40

In corporate culture:

being mentored by men is more difficult without the comraderie that men share. Male leaders see themselves in young men.

women need to assert professional boundaries CONSTANTLY.

the connection between beauty and perceived ability. Ugly fat men are very common in leadership. Ugly fat women, however...

working in compsci is off-putting because many compsci dudes only interact with women in romantic contexts, and find it difficult to treat them as fledged colleagues.

Creative-Toe Report

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85points

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Tuna Fish 2 years ago

Ugly fat men are very common in leadership. Ugly fat women, however... Nailed it.

60points

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#41

How we're expected to be extroverts -- to smile and coddle everyone's feelings. I constantly used to catch myself indulging men in "conversations" that were really just them showing off. They would never do that for me, but I was socialized to be a polite, attentive audience to stroke a man's ego. Needless to say I do not do this any more.

Final score:

47points

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Daria B 2 years ago

I'll never forget the offended faces of some randomers whom I genuinely and spontaneously failed to smile back, because I was tired, busy and doing errands.

15points

50 Of The Most Incredible Shots That Were Submitted To The Comedy Wildlife Photography Awards

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#42

Having your words minimized. Telling symptoms to a doctor, they ask when my last period was or if I’m pregnant. If they can’t figure out what’s wrong with me, it’s hormones, and loads of young women have similar unexplainable symptoms.

Idea at work? Tell it to the boss, they think it’s stupid. A male coworker says it louder, and he’s employee of the month.

Tell your partner you’re not in the mood for sex? It becomes a negotiation.

Tell your kids to do something, they ignore you and just say mom’s being boring again.

Tell your parents about sexual harassment, they say you just need to grow a thicker skin, and it isn’t nearly as bad as it was in their day.

Telling a guy friend about period pains, he immediately tries to one up it by talking about skinning his knee or getting kicked in the balls.

Not all of these have happened to me personally, but they have happened to my friends and sisters. It’s definitely a common occurrence.

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Final score:

44points

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Katiekat 2 years ago

Confront, confront, confront. Nope, not happening with me, or with anyone I know. My opinions, my wants, my needs, my preferences matter, and if any man ever tries to minimize, then he's minimized right out of my life. No loss.

12points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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#43

Every girl has different symptoms in her period so stop assuming things. I don’t get mood swings, cramps nor cravings, but I do have other symptoms like back pain or oily skin.

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Final score:

42points

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𝕮𝖍𝖊𝖗𝖗𝖎𝖊 2 years ago

So lucky. I throw up everywhere and have extreme nausea 🤮

0points

#44

Our empathy.

During the 2016 election, I had a coworker look up at our TV mid shift at Hillary Clinton giving a speech. She shook her head and said a "Women can never be qualified enough to be leaders, they're too emotional."

She was covered in bruises and sporting a black eye that her boyfriend had given her the night before.

A woman who has been systematically beaten and abused by the men around her had enough empathy to give men the benefit of doubt regarding leadership, but most men cringe at the word 'feminism' because it uses 'fem' as its etymological root and most men will never be able to see past that.

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Final score:

40points

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Claire Todd 2 years ago (edited)

I feel for her but I wouldn't describe what she said as empathy, I would describe it as gaslighting, self-preservation or cycles of abuse. She wasn't empathising with men, she was repeating what had been beaten into her.

41points

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#45

As a girl you are talked to about how strangers want to touch you before you get the sex talk. At that point it’s too late because you’ve already been violated and feel like your body is dirty but you are just a kid…. You don’t learn that your body is actually your own until you are much older.

Final score:

39points

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Elaine Elder 2 years ago

I'm 55 this month. My mother handed me little black book thee week before my first wedding. And told me "sometimes he's going to want to do stuff you don't want to do, but after you are married, you have to do these things" the book was anatomy of male and female genitalia. Think high school anatomy text books. No how to on anything including hygiene. 0

17points

Woman Refuses To Chip In For Babysitting Because She Doesn’t Even Have Kids, Asks If She’s A Jerk

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#46

The fact that you have to take a “compliment”. If a friend, colleague etc says something inappropriate it’s just easier to accept it / laugh it off because if you make a scene you’re the party pooper / sensitive / can’t take a joke person.

To be fair it is changing though

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Final score:

37points

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Katiekat 2 years ago

You don't ever HAVE to take a compliment. They're the ones who are in the wrong, and should be told so. EVERY SINGLE TIME.

9points

#47

When purchasing something new or expensive such as a vehicle as a young woman, being accused of using “daddy’s money”.

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Final score:

36points

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Tuna Fish 2 years ago

I once got asked by a car dealer... "Does your husband know you're here?"

22points

#48

The discomfort and anxiety, of needing to bring my vehicle to a garage and the worry that we're being ripped off, because we're women and supposedly easy targets for that kind of shit.

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Final score:

35points

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Gin 2 years ago

My mechanic is a woman and she is fantastic.

13points

#49

A lack of sex drive has nothing to do with a male partner. We have a whole heap of hormones that can cause it, and it doesn’t mean we don’t love you.

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Final score:

35points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago (edited)

Yep but I think it might be stereotyped to point out the obvious that men "supposedly" have this high drive and women "don't" and that it leads to these misunderstandings. I had this experience of the difference in my 2nd relationship and it led to a breakup. So sometimes you need to decide what it means to the other person. Or ask them.

8points

"I Didn't Start The Dryer": Karen Gets Taught A Lesson After Throwing Out Neighbor's Wet Clothes

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#50

Almost all of the time, you're always going to be considered second rate compared to a man whether at home or work.

No matter how more educated you are, no matter how much more you've worked, no matter how much you've achieved, a man's opinion is listened to more.

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Final score:

34points

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Lynne Walker 2 years ago

I worked automotive for over 20 years, and during that time, my FIL never thought I knew more than a loaned OBD.

5points

#51

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread Menstrual pain and child birth.

I know you can describe it to us, but it’s one of those things that I don’t think can be truly comprehended

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Final score:

34points

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Omi bub 2 years ago

Not to mention the physical & mental anguish of peri- menopause & menopause for YEARS

19points

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#52

How a woman’s body changes after giving birth (losing their hair, etc).

Final score:

31points

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Courtney Lunsford 2 years ago

Women losing hair after pregnancy is more of a function of the fact that you shed less hair during pregnancy due to hormones and after you give birth you shed everything you haven't been shedding over the last 9 months.

4points

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#53

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread Going to the bathroom in groups because we feel safer, can do a period leak/outfit check, and have someone to talk s**t with while we wait in line.

Final score:

31points

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My O My 2 years ago

Don't you just hate the constant period leak checks? I find it sooooo annoying!!!

10points

College Student Does Exactly As Told After Roommates Demand They Keep Their Stuff In Their Room

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#54

Even though we love our partners, it can be exhausting to be your only emotional outlet. Women spread their support network across different people.

Final score:

31points

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ima cat 2 years ago

No idea why ZAPanda is getting downvoted. It's true.

4points

#55

The constant sexualization of women like when bending over to get something you drop, they get stared at, but when men bend over no one cares

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Final score:

27points

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Jenn C 2 years ago

I started squatting to pick things up instead of bending over in high school because of this.

9points

#56

We would rather be friends with other women than have catfights.

Final score:

27points

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User# 6 2 years ago

I find this one to be mystifying. I mean, isn't that completely up to you?

3points

#57

The sacrifice she will make to carry a child, birth a child, feed and care for that child. And not to mention the monthly cycle she has to endure for majority of her life.

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Final score:

25points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago (edited)

I saw some research that you CAN go on the pill indefinitely and that the red ones were put in there by a man who thought it was unnatural to not have the cycle. So that should stop it all. Unless of course you have side-effects from it which are unpleasant. My first long-term partner did the continuous pill thing but my 2nd could not due to side effects so with her we just had to reduce frequency and use alternatives.

3points

#58

Feeling something hard or pointy stab your boob when someone hugs you. Our breasts are so sensitive.

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Final score:

23points

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Izzy Curer 2 years ago

I don't think mine are more sensitive than any other part. I don't want to stabbed by something pointy in my tummy or arm, either

3points

#59

In my experience, post partum depression takes the crown.

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Final score:

19points

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Karis Ravenhill 2 years ago

My grandmother kept trying to murder my mother in her crib, wasn't til years later docs figured out there was something called post partum depression. "Would stand by her crib and stare at her, and hate her. Would see the blanket on the edge, and kept thinking if I just nudged it onto her face, she would suffocate and I wouldn't have to deal with her anymore". That shi*'s super frightening, watch and support new momma's like hawks!

5points

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#60

Dealing with excruciating pain from breastfeeding. The constant engorgement is ungodly. And my baby couldn’t latch correctly, so I would always be in extreme pain — blisters, cracking, bleeding nipples.

Final score:

19points

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Not Proud British 2 years ago

Hell yeah, I can relate to this. Not being able to feed in public even if I wanted to because the baby would pull away and my breasts would shoot milk at innocent passers-by. I also had mastitis and trying to feed a baby on breasts that were infected, swollen and sore was agony. But I felt I had to get through it as I would have 'failed' if I chose the bottle.

13points

#61

plucking the black hairs that randomly emerge on my boobs. or having to try on several different bra's because of the difference in breast shape each bra has. or maybe the awkwardness of having to ask strangers for a tampon because your 3 seconds away from everyone knowing you're on your period.

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Final score:

18points

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Tuna Fish 2 years ago

I hope all women know that I would happily give a tampon or pad to any woman any where any time. Just ask me, a total stranger, and if I don't have one I will ask my friends for one. We've alllll been there at least once.

9points

#62

The assumption that everyone knows exactly what I want without me telling them.

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Final score:

18points

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ZAPanda 2 years ago (edited)

Hmm I do not know if this is a female problem specifically, I have this problem too, with a lot of people.

1point

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#63

Men are always super weird about hot flashes.

Final score:

18points

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Omi bub 2 years ago

Or anything to do with the menopause

12points

#64

40 Things Men Don't Understand About Women, Shared In An Online Thread Peeing on the toilet a little and feeling it flow up your buttcrack.

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Final score:

10points

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NsG 2 years ago

Uh... I'm a 41 year old woman and I've never experienced this! This is not a universal woman thing!

30points

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Beth S 2 years ago

I would also like to add pelvic organ prolapse. Two weeks after I turned 40 I tried to lift something heavy and 3 organs fell into my pelvis and has really complicated life big time. It is even more common in women who have given birth.

25points

Aaricia 2 years ago

This! My mother blames me for her bladder prolapse, which is true. Lol Many mothers have it, a bladder or womb or both prolapse is also known as the motherly prolapse.

10points

ToGo 2 years ago (edited)

Pleased to see that there are plenty of men here who fully understand that this was a post about some things women go through and not a post about men. No one, at any stage, said all of these are issues exclusive to women. However, to the guys saying "but men XYZ" or "not all men XYZ" then you've failed to grasp the very simple intent of this article. When women say "I have to be alert walking alone" and you're not an evil dude then WE'RE NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU. We have some fantastic guys in our lives - we know it's NoT aLL mEn.

20points

Tom 2 years ago

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Grayson Wrigley 2 years ago

I find it hilarious that I have seen more "this comment is hidden"s on this one article than on the last three or four combined. Not surprised.

19points

Bacony Cakes 2 years ago

I wonder how much percentage of them are by our "old friends".

1point

Susie Elle 2 years ago

Self-doubt. Idk, from what I gather from my female friends vs my male friends, always second guessing yourself or thinking something is by default by your own doing, seems to be really a female way of looking at yourself.

11points

ZAPanda 2 years ago

At least three of these I've experienced as a man as well (viz people assuming what I want, random hairs, and pee going the wrong way), but most of these are really particular to being a woman and deserve our support and empathy.

10points

TheFox 2 years ago

As a guy I can figure the only reason any men disregard or downplay women's daily struggles and especially dangers, either are a s**t person or have never had a woman in their life that they love and care about. Probably both.

8points

Leona V. 2 years ago

It’s because they are s**T people. “Of course I care about This women’s issue, I have a mother/wife/daughter.” Is close to “Rape is a property crime” mentality in my book. The injustice is STILL against men. Men who use that reasoning are just slightly less s**tty.

4points

Paula Marowsky 2 years ago

Painfull medical procedures on women WITHOUT anesthesics SHOULD be in this list. Much more important than lacking pockets, bras and makeup.

8points

Gin 2 years ago

You seem to think this is a list about what is horrible for women, rather than things men don't understand about women. Yes, the things you list are awful but I think men would be largely very capable of understanding that painful medical procedures without anaesthetic is horrific.

14points

Jaekry 2 years ago

I'm and wasn't easily scared. Now or as a teen. I still walked home (city life, 20m orso), because I wasn't going to be ruled by fear. Yet I walked home with my keys between my fingers (to explain: like Wolverine, nobody taught me that... Yet apparently many women do this??) So yes, it's embedded. Now I'm torn because ppl say I exaggerate my behaviour... But I honestly feel these ppl don't understand. I'm not mad for them not understanding. But weirdly enough, I can get frustrated that ppl don't believe ME.

7points

Izzy Curer 2 years ago (edited)

The one that gets me is that men seem to think PMS means you're on your period. It's right in the name: Pre-menstrual syndrome

4points

Scarlett 2 years ago

I suppose being ugly has helped me; I’ve only ever been approached by three old pervs and that’s it. Never been catcalled, never had my ass grabbed, nada. It’s both a relief and a burden

4points

A Jones 2 years ago

Highly sensitive stomach during periods is awful. It's almost as bad as cramps for me. I have to unfortunately eat bland things, no eggs, no milk, no wine (can have spirits though). :( Also if you go out, you have to watch your drink like a dragon watches their gold. Never assume that a place is safe regardless of it's reputation. Nothing personal, but there's always a bad apple lurking to cause harm.

4points

Alma Muminovic 2 years ago

I would like to add being followed by creepers trying to strike up a conversation in grocery isles on Valentines day. Not charming just creepy.

3points

Immortal Emperor Paradox 2 years ago

It's the level of development of society that dictates how inclusive women would feel. As a society gets more and more developed in every sense and not just economically, we find that women have access to more resources, rights and opportunities.

2points

Eowen Shiloh Son 7 months ago

also add periods are normal Some men think periods are horrible, even though it's normal for a female thats not pregnant to have one!

0points

Alexandra Prytkova 1 year ago (edited)

Moved from Europe to Siberia 12 years ago. Still can't get over how much better I am treated as a woman here, than I ever was in Europe. Haven't been catcalled in 12 years. Haven't been approached by guys in the street once. Haven't had comments about my physical appearance and demands to have make up on from any of my male bosses not coworkers. No demands to smile. Nobody tried to put their hand on my knee, despite having a 20+ age difference with me. No assaults. No attempted rapes. Nothing. I love living here. I feel free and happy. Love this country.

0points

Sandra Brewer 2 years ago

Killing off the girlfriend, wife or family as a plot device for a revenge movie. All the time. I have stopped watching them. Also Disney hates families, (except for Mulan & Moana). First thing… kill the mom. All these poor, orphaned main characters. 🥺

0points

Susie Kamper 2 years ago

Most important thing is not on the list? Above all, women are human. A man once told me, it wasn’t until his wife explained that to him, he realized that women have the same dreams, feelings, anxieties etc as men. And having breasts and a cervix doesn’t mean anymore to us than having elbows. It’s there cause it’s necessary, but it doesn’t define you.

0points

Jacob Nunez 2 years ago

Ok when i first say the title of this post i though it you be like “Men talking about things they cant understand about woman” or smth like that tbh.

-3points

humdrum 2 years ago

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Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

There have been posts just like you mentioned, Badageem, posts focused on men's struggles, thoughts, etc., and I might add, those posts got great support from women. But here you are, calling the women on this post "bitter femcels". Go f**k yourself, buddy.

8points

Tom 2 years ago

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Memere 2 years ago

Tom, just stop. We get what you're trying to say, but the ONLY thing here that very slightly applies to men is inequality, however ALL women face more inequality throughout their entire lives than most men ever will. You clearly do not understand that this article is about things men DO NOT understand about women, and never can.

11points

CbusResident 2 years ago

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TrixicBird(Any pronouns) 2 years ago

the wording could have been better yes but some of this applies to trans women too.

4points

Helen Davies 2 years ago

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Thenatural 2 years ago

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Aliquid 2 years ago

why?

9points

Ronald Copenhagen 2 years ago

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Damon 2 years ago

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Not Proud British 2 years ago

Best not then eh?

18points

Bacony Cakes 2 years ago

Then what the f*ck is this then?

11points

WoodenLion 2 years ago

that's a comment

6points

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Beth S 2 years ago

25points

Aaricia 2 years ago

This! My mother blames me for her bladder prolapse, which is true. Lol Many mothers have it, a bladder or womb or both prolapse is also known as the motherly prolapse.

10points

ToGo 2 years ago (edited)

20points

Tom 2 years ago

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Grayson Wrigley 2 years ago

I find it hilarious that I have seen more "this comment is hidden"s on this one article than on the last three or four combined. Not surprised.

19points

Bacony Cakes 2 years ago

I wonder how much percentage of them are by our "old friends".

1point

Susie Elle 2 years ago

11points

ZAPanda 2 years ago

10points

TheFox 2 years ago

8points

Leona V. 2 years ago

4points

Paula Marowsky 2 years ago

Painfull medical procedures on women WITHOUT anesthesics SHOULD be in this list. Much more important than lacking pockets, bras and makeup.

8points

Gin 2 years ago

14points

Jaekry 2 years ago

7points

Izzy Curer 2 years ago (edited)

The one that gets me is that men seem to think PMS means you're on your period. It's right in the name: Pre-menstrual syndrome

4points

Scarlett 2 years ago

I suppose being ugly has helped me; I’ve only ever been approached by three old pervs and that’s it. Never been catcalled, never had my ass grabbed, nada. It’s both a relief and a burden

4points

A Jones 2 years ago

4points

Alma Muminovic 2 years ago

I would like to add being followed by creepers trying to strike up a conversation in grocery isles on Valentines day. Not charming just creepy.

3points

Immortal Emperor Paradox 2 years ago

2points

Eowen Shiloh Son 7 months ago

also add periods are normal Some men think periods are horrible, even though it's normal for a female thats not pregnant to have one!

0points

Alexandra Prytkova 1 year ago (edited)

0points

Sandra Brewer 2 years ago

0points

Susie Kamper 2 years ago

0points

Jacob Nunez 2 years ago

Ok when i first say the title of this post i though it you be like “Men talking about things they cant understand about woman” or smth like that tbh.

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humdrum 2 years ago

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Tom 2 years ago

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Memere 2 years ago

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CbusResident 2 years ago

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TrixicBird(Any pronouns) 2 years ago

the wording could have been better yes but some of this applies to trans women too.

4points

Helen Davies 2 years ago

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Thenatural 2 years ago

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Aliquid 2 years ago

why?

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Ronald Copenhagen 2 years ago

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Not Proud British 2 years ago

Best not then eh?

18points