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To gain some insight on this topic from an expert, we reached out to UK-based dating coach Hayley Quinn, who was kind enough to have a chat with us about why it’s so common for men to say the wrong thing when trying to impress women. “One of the most common dating questions men might have is, ‘How do I impress her?’,” Hayley told Bored Panda. “Men often enter into the world of dating believing that women need to do certain things to make women like them: Whether that's having a witty story to share, taking her on the perfect date, or driving a fast car.”

“We are all consumers, and often the stories we are told through the media about what romance is all about, don't tally up with people's experience of it in real life,” she explained. “Ironically, trying to impress often comes across as try hard and insecure. If a guy's tried to impress you in a way that's had the opposite effect (provided he hasn't said anything that's inappropriate or offensive), try to look past that initial faux pas to his intention, which is often to build a connection with you.”

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Please drop the “alpha male” shtick. It’s exhausting.

Ekotap89 , gstockstudio Report

Final score:

364points

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Vix Spiderthrust 1 year ago

And based on science so bad that the guy who published the paper has retracted his findings.

131points

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Driving like a lunatic while you're in the car, Yeah you are so hot when you could potentially kill us both...Not!!

kiwigal2022 , oneinchpunchphotos Report

Final score:

330points

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Tee with a Twist 1 year ago

You can let me out if you don't care about your life!

85points

But we can’t completely blame men for accidentally saying the wrong things, because none of us are immune to it. “Trying too hard, in the wrong ways, to impress someone isn't just something heterosexual men do,” Hayley says. “We can all be guilty of wanting someone to like us so much that we're no longer authentic with them. If you're a woman dating a man, be mindful of when you also might be going into ‘performance mode’. Are you spending too much time trying to show him why he should choose you, instead of experiencing the relationship and also working out if he's good for you?”

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Gym selfies.

Any kind of macho posturing. I like secure men. Not ones who have to make a point of how "alpha" they are.

epicpillowcase , AlonsoDeLaTorr3 Report

Final score:

289points

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InvincibleRodent 1 year ago

Additionally, referring to oneself as an "alpha"/"sigma"/any letter of the Greek alphabet.

132points

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Being an "expert" on anything and everything, while simultaneously never admitting they don't know something.

Just admit when you don't know something! I won't think less of you! Quite the contrary.

Ackbar_and_Grille , svitlanah Report

Final score:

288points

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Fluffy mommy panda 1 year ago

So many people women and men like this.

62points

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Talking about their skills in bed. Those who are good at things don’t need to brag about them.

annethbeth , nd3000 Report

Final score:

284points

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Headless Roach 1 year ago

How did that saying go... barking dogs seldom bite

107points

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When it comes to things men can do or say that might actually impress women, Hayley says, “Often the most impressive qualities are candor and authenticity. Rather than hiding behind overly elaborate gestures, or a chat up line you've been rehearsing, share your truth. If you can be open with someone it builds emotional intimacy with them.”

“Just be mindful to keep your conversations playful, and light, in the early stages of getting to know someone,” she added. “This signals to the woman you're dating that you're not that emotionally invested yet, until you get to know her better. By demonstrating to her that you also have high standards for the women you interact with, and that you haven't chosen her yet, you do a lot to present yourself as a man who is self confident, and attractive.”

Insulting other women as a way of ‘complimenting’ me.

Final score:

284points

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Kitti B. 1 year ago (edited)

YES! It just shows how this man would act like behind a woman's back or if they broke up

97points

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Telling me how to do things I already know how to do.

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Final score:

278points

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Hotdogking 1 year ago

Oh god this just reminded me of one time this guy in my sister’s class tried to mansplain periods to her. Yes, you read that right. F*****g. PERIODS!! 😬😬

157points

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Owning a surplus of weapons

goldenloxe , Somchai Kongkamsri Report

Final score:

228points

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Beautys solace 1 year ago

owning any weapons, they could be turned on you

124points

Finally, we asked Hayley if men should be given the benefit of the doubt when they say these unappealing things, or if they should be taken as red flags that women should steer clear of. “A lot of men might make a misguided comment or two in the early stages of dating. Provided he hasn't leapt over your personal boundaries, I would be empathetic to a little bit of humble bragging, or trying too hard on a first date,” Hayley says. “As he relaxes more, he may become more confident with you.”

“However, do be careful of any behaviors that could be love bombing,” she warns. “Love bombing is when a potential date, or a guy you've only known for a short period of time, tries to sweep you off your feet with elaborate gestures and gifts. Whilst this might feel romantic, remember that he hasn't actually had time to get to know who you really are, and these sweet gestures could be a facade for his desire to control you.”

If you’d like to learn more dating advice or reach out to Hayley for help in your own love-life, be sure to visit her website right here!

#10

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Telling me any story where you slide in details about how some girl was flirting with you or otherwise wanted you “so bad”….

Old_Gymnast , FlamingoImages Report

Final score:

218points

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Szirra 1 year ago

You can comfortably assume the other girl was just nice and said Hallo or doesn’t even know the guy exists.

81points

#11

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs The size of their p***s, the size of their bank account, the size of their house ... the size of basically friggin' anything.

Snoo52682 , Ryutaro Tsukata Report

Final score:

214points

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Headless Roach 1 year ago

Thanks BP for the banana for scale, much appreciated 🤎

189points

#12

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Trying to low key assert how wealthy they are. I went on a date with this guy one time who kept hinting at things he could afford and kept mentioning how lucky he was to have such a good salary. On top of that he didn’t ask me anything about myself. It just felt icky to be honest. I want to form a genuine connection dude.

cayenne4 , ADDICTIVE_STOCK Report

Final score:

213points

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scag$y 1 year ago

I'm just theorising so please don't downvote me to hell. But I think young lads are embarrassed to discuss their feelings about the opposite sex, in case they get ridiculed. They see James Bond, Stormzy or David Beckham with all their designer clothes, fancy watches and supercars, and think that's how to be attractive to women. So that's how they approach dating. They keep getting rejected but can't understand why. Eventually, they meet a girl who likes that stuff too, and they get married, become influencers and spend their shallow little lives wondering why nobody likes them.

127points

#13

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Big muscles. I think other men are often attracted to them though.

throwit_amita , s_kawee Report

Final score:

211points

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Headless Roach 1 year ago

Big muscles and too small t-shirts look absolutely ridiculous, contrary to the expectations 🙃

121points

#14

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Talking about fights he had gotten in. I once went on a date with a guy who brought up fights he had gotten in in the past at least 5 separate times, I felt like I was on a date with a high schooler but he was mid-20s.

Artemistical , Image-Source Report

Final score:

191points

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Xottel 1 year ago

I once got into a fight as a teenager. After a serious brawl I suggested we call it a draw. My opponent just nodded their beak and swam back onto the pond.

97points

#15

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Doing something dangerous or reckless. You’re an adult! Please do not drive like a getaway driver or an F1 racer! I don’t want to die on the highway because you need to impress me with your driving skills! I’m not impressed - I’m terrified, angry, and (assuming I survive this) taking a Lyft home.

This goes for whatever other dumb s**t guys do that could result in loss of life or limb or catastrophic property damage.

ktkatq , jacoblund Report

Final score:

190points

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Hotdogking 1 year ago

In fairness, we don’t always do that stuff to impress women. At least in the case of me and my mates, we do stupid and dangerous stuff because we think, “Oh, this’ll be a laugh” or, more commonly, “hold me beer and watch this”. By the time the thught of, “this may cause us some great injury,” we’re already doing it. I could probably fill a “Why women live longer than men” list all by myself lol

74points

#16

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Trying to talk to you about something you're knowledgeable in and they are not but they spew this surface level b******t as if it should be impressive. They're explaining to you/mansplaining your area of expertise. They don't ask you more because they want to know more, they often quiz you " wow, you actually know something" or the compliments are backhanded or patronizing (like that's impressive for A GIRL)

Completely different than trying to relate/convey your mutual like of a subject. You don't have to be on the same level to talk about a subject, but it comes with a tone that respects your thoughts also and isn't abkut showmanship.

TenaciousToffee , amazingmikael Report

Final score:

176points

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Jacqueline Pie Francis Premium 1 year ago

This happens to me all the time. I can’t stand it.

39points

#17

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Any kind of uninvited intimate contact... like that time at the fitness park, I was throwing myself at the climbing wall on my 7th circuit, and out of nowhere, I felt hands on my a*s *helping* me over the wall and he actually had the balls to walk around the wall to offer to train me

denimuprising , Iakobchuk Report

Final score:

159points

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Magpie 1 year ago

OMG that is a grope by any other name. Creepy, uninvited and patronizing.

111points

#18

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Talking about themselves 24/7. Anything and everything. For crying out loud, ask a question.

dec727 , svitlanah Report

Final score:

151points

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Magpie 1 year ago

And *listen* to the answer, take it in, remember it and maybe even respond to what I actually said.

57points

#19

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs B**ching about their Ex. Honey, No. You're telling on yourself.

One-upping me. I sometimes do comedy and if they find out they tend to try to "tell me this one you can use on stage" and sweetheart your recycled Dad joke only gets a laugh when I'm telling my mates how sad you are.

alicesheadband , Prostock-studio Report

Final score:

143points

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Megan Curl 1 year ago

First comment, very funny - should have just stopped there.

36points

#20

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Massive compliments although you barely know each other, without any actions what so ever. Talk is cheap. I'm not sold.

Sleepy_Kiwi_ , gpointstudio Report

Final score:

140points

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Stacey Rae 1 year ago

Love bombing

65points

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#21

Revving their engine at a stop light.

Final score:

131points

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Susan Reid Smith 1 year ago

That just tells me you waste fuel and don't know how to drive.

58points

#22

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs That they read a book or watched a movie written/directed by a woman - and liked it! - so now they are an expert on women’s issues. Substitute in any marginalized group and it’s just as cringey.

hockeylurker89 , nd3000 Report

Final score:

130points

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Groundcontroltomajortom 1 year ago

At least this is misguided ignorance rather than full blown ignorance. They're trying which is more than some!

47points

#23

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Body counts for how many women they've slept with.

squidip , wirestockc Report

Final score:

126points

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Headless Roach 1 year ago

And please don't count female roaches just hanging around.

49points

#24

If they want to explain my feelings to me, when I haven’t asked for it, then it’s over lol

zillaxeu Report

Final score:

123points

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Donkey boi 1 year ago

My therapist tried to do his all the time! Glad I left him!

43points

#25

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Cars. I prefer the reliable beater that screams “I’m paid off!” and “he’s financially sound!” Anything flashy or expensive and I’m not looking twice… especially if it’s a big truck.

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Final score:

117points

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censorshipsucks 1 year ago

Big truck = republican. If I were a woman I'd never date a guy with a pickup truck. I find them invariably patronising, patriarchal, and racist.

7points

#26

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Money. It's really transparent and just unattractive to me in general when someone constantly talks about money.

anon , Karolina Grabowska Report

Final score:

112points

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James016 1 year ago

I don't talk about money as I don't have any to talk about

73points

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#27

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs I went on a first date with a university professor who brought out his positive end-of-term eval scores. Spent a good 15 or so minutes reading some of them to me and explaining that he got first or second highest in his dept. before asking me to rate him on his first date skills.

I was enjoying a good buzz and couldn’t help but find it amusing. We also got into how his dad never gave him validation growing up

Final score:

104points

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Fembot 1 year ago

I love that last bit though ;) there’s clearly a sense of humour in there

56points

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#28

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Working all the time or staying up all night for projects. I like sleep and balance

Shshshannon , westend61 Report

Final score:

101points

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Megan Curl 1 year ago

This could be a red flag, or it could also be situational, but if it bothers you, moving on is the best choice.

44points

#29

Talking about partying and girls. Like "look at all the girls I've gotten!" Nothing makes me lose interest faster.

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Final score:

99points

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Pink Aesthetic 1 year ago

Basically he's treating women like objects

32points

#30

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Not something specific, but I am not super impressed by general bragging - humble or otherwise. Being genuinely humble is much more impressive to me!

tinydancer1811 , SkloStudio Report

Final score:

92points

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Mickysixxx 1 year ago

Me neither, I never brag. Actually some of my friends say I'm the most humble person they know............

64points

#31

Shouting into the streets how much they're into you. When I see it in movies now I shudder. Protip: they will shout into the streets that they hate you when you break up - and since they can't regulate their emotions that is ~scary~.

Otemori Report

Final score:

90points

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Szirra 1 year ago

Same for men who love bomb. They will hate bomb once it’s over.

49points

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#32

Locker room-type talk. I've been out with dudes that didn't know how to talk to a woman. I'm sure this sort of convo would impress their dude-bro friends, but not a woman. This mostly happened when I was younger.

Fuschiagroen Report

Final score:

87points

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David 1 year ago

Locker room talk seemed gross to me even when I was a teen boy in the HS locker room.

41points

#33

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Being "funny". A natural sense of humor is very attractive but I've been on too many dates with guys who tried to awkwardly cram their tight five into casual conversation. You start to feel like a captive audience more than an active participate on the date and the non-stop riffing bulldozes any chance at a genuine connection.

KadieKnievel , amazingmikael Report

Final score:

83points

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Hotdogking 1 year ago

Allow me to play the Devil’s advocate and say that they could be using it as a coping mechanism to calm their nerves. Don’t get me wrong that does sound really annoying, but don’t immediately assume their doing to impress you. Although, that kind of only applies to meeting them for the first time upon further inspection

58points

#34

Bragging about how many followers they have on Instagram or how their friends are Instagram famous.

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Final score:

81points

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Pink Aesthetic 1 year ago

Yeah like what's the point?

29points

#35

When they say they have no red flags. Stupid me

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Final score:

76points

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V33333P 1 year ago

BUT I'M SUCH A NICE GUY HAHAHA

49points

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#36

Acting like sexual attraction to someone is somehow soooo flattering. Dude, please.

LateNightCheesecake9 Report

Final score:

75points

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Lama 1 year ago

Yes, the whole 'you should be honored I'm into you' thing. Very tiresome.

52points

#37

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Calling themselves a feminist or a "good guy." Texting that they just got back from the gym.

anon_mg3 , LightFieldStudios Report

Final score:

74points

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JoyfulZebra 1 year ago (edited)

Just trying understand: is this person saying that guys can't be feminist, or are they talking about guys who talk about how "feminist" they are while being sexist?

33points

#38

Talking about their 'very sophisticated' wine/liquor/beer/food standards, or any monologue that paints them as the arbiter of good taste or worthwhile interests/hobbies. Also, treating other people's otherwise wholesome interests as stupid or basic or something.

lilroseg Report

Final score:

70points

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François Bouzigues 1 year ago

Not seeing any contradiction here OP ?

24points

#39

Their car, fancy clothes, trying to show off their “knowledge” and “intellect” by mansplaining things to me and giving unsolicited advice, being too “generous” or as I’d like to call it “flippant with money”… basically anything showboaty. I do not want to eat at a tapas restaurant which will cost us $70 each for potatoes and sardines and cocktails PRE-COVID. Like dude we work in the same industry I know approx how much you earn. Leasing that $55k car just tells me that you 1) live with your parents and 2) are not saving as much money as I am with those spending habits.

Clearly I had a guy in mind lol.

SufficientBee Report

Final score:

63points

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Xanther 1 year ago

You can tell a lot about a person based on the Car, Phone, and Watch they have. Like, surprisingly a lot about them and their personality.

17points

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#40

Bragging about the other girls you’re dating and what you’re doing with them.

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Final score:

63points

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Pink Aesthetic 1 year ago

It's such a red flag, treating women like they're something you own

26points

#41

Putting down other men, although I am encountering that a lot less as I get older.

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Final score:

57points

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RafCo (he/him) 1 year ago

Probably because as the men you date get older, they find it hard to pick the other men up in the first place. The idea of it is already hurting my back.

33points

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#42

“Nothing Makes Me Lose Interest Faster”: 45 Things Men Do To Impress Women That Are Actually Turn-Offs Virtue signaling - so transparent

Final score:

53points

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Mickysixxx 1 year ago

I don't know what this is

28points

#43

Acting entitled to admiration for having a home, a car, and a job.

Like, congrats? You are an adult. Having basic adult responsibilities does not make you “successful.”

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Final score:

44points

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Paul K. Johnson 1 year ago

Being able to afford a home any more is kind of impressive.

63points

#44

Talking really loud about how amazing you are.

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Final score:

44points

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censorshipsucks 1 year ago

Er... I can think of a demographic which does this and it comprises about 150 million people.

8points

#45

Providing a quasi highlights reel about their career.

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32points

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foryouwhynot IB 1 year ago

Now, if it’s a first-date and you’re getting to know someone, the question about work will obviously come up…maybe they’re just over sharing?

12points

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#46

Giving one-sided detailed explanations of things, which I believe is supposed to show how knowledgeable or intelligent they are, but it just shows me they spend enough time alone to have lost basic social awareness and social skills, and probably spend quite a lot of time navel-gazing and thinking about social interaction theoretically, e.g.,"I will talk about this subject and then the conversation will be interesting".

judgemycomposure Report

Final score:

10points

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Daria 1 year ago

Oh well, isn't it a universal issue among people with poor social skills? Not just men, I mean.

11points

#47

S**t that impresses them. Since they don't even try to think about the other person's perspective

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Final score:

6points

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Daria 1 year ago

I'm pretty sure most of us talk about "s**t that impresses us", on occasions.

14points

#48

Buying me flowers through instacart. I don't want flowers a complete stranger picked out for me.

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Final score:

-22points

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Ches Yamada 1 year ago (edited)

So do you not want flowers from a delivery service, either? Because that's how they all work. This one is a little picky. I'd be happy to get flowers (if it was in a pot, that is).

14points

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WhiteClawOfDeath 1 year ago

I'm a bit tired of these posts. Worse than your averace womens magasine.

13points

KBT 1 year ago

Stop reading then ✌️

9points

TheDag 1 year ago

Holy c**p BoredPanda I get it I'm a guy, I should feel bad for being a guy XD

12points

Squishy 1 year ago

no you shouldn't lol. even if any of these do apply to you, why should you feel bad about being a guy lol, being "attractive" to anyone shouldnt determine your worth

6points

steampunk dandelion 1 year ago

that's not at all what this post is saying. it's simply just content ripped from a reddit comment section about things (female) reddit users find unimpressive that guys think are, in fact, impressive

1point

censorshipsucks 1 year ago

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Ausrine Ciapaite 1 year ago

The biggest turn on is when the guy cleans the house, cooks nice meal, gives you a message...

8points

BreAnn East 1 year ago

I got me one of those. He works too!

0points

Lory Jones 1 year ago

Oh yeah!

0points

Adam Westman 1 year ago

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0points

Izzy Maths 1 year ago

Then he turn to a nice guy, and all of a sudden it's a turn off

-2points

Richard Wilcox 1 year ago

Pretty much don't be a narcissist guys. All 45 items are in some way narcissistic. And to be clear, you can have a negative NPD diagnosis and still be narcissistic. Each of these points by themselves would not be enough to qualify you for an NPD diagnosis.

6points

Thetruthhurts 1 year ago

Lol, most of these things aren't exclusive to men. But hey, I guess it is reeealy attractive when women make 2000 selfies, talk about money, show of their wealth or think they know everything...This turned into a toxic and xenophobic "10 things" site. It used to be about beautiful and interesting art many years ago. Now it is mostly about some social or first world problems copied from some idiotic subreddit.

6points

Dre Mosley 1 year ago

Yep, how many men critical posts does this site need?

1point

rob kneepkens 1 year ago

If you look at this topic and add it all together then you get no smart guys (who talk about a topic), gym guys, rich guys, guys who talk about themselves, guys who are famous on Instagram, guys who show sexual interest or give compliments, no flowers, no trying to be funny, no high standards in alcohol or whatever, no partying, no expensive clothes and accessories, no guys who work a lot of overtime. In the end what is left. Super average guys? Just saying if you look at all 40 comments in this topic it just all seems a bit silly.

6points

censorshipsucks 1 year ago

I think you are exaggerating slightly. Smart guys (who don't brag about how smart they are or drone on about it.). Rich guys (who don't brag about how rich they are). Gym guys (who wear loose shirts). Guys who are not overly pushy (reduce the sex/compliments/lovebombing). Flowers (if hand-picked). Funny (but not over the top). Well-dressed ( (who don't brag about how expensive it was). Etc. It's QUALIFIED exclusions.

10points

Fuxxy89 1 year ago

It's almost like different women are irritated by different things

1point

Izzy Maths 1 year ago

Women just want to date Mannequins at this point, or be left all by themselves in this world 😂😂😂😂😂

0points

Nessbit the Russian Spy 1 year ago

This is unfair to the guys tbh. They think “ im sure this beautiful girl has dated so many other men, I need to do something special or different to attract her/ keep her interested.” So they either compliment her a lot (media says girls love romantics and compliments) or they try to be really muscly, or if they are insecure they’ll brag about the things they have. It’s not to be a jerk, it’s because they want to impress the girl and they want her to think “wow that guy sure is cool!” Cut the poor guys some slack (Yes I realize there are some genuinely jerky guys but not as much as you think)

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JL 1 year ago

I think I ended up matching 0/45. What do I win?

2points

Richard Wilcox 1 year ago (edited)

Turnoff #46: expecting some reward for not matching any of bored panda's top 45 turnoffs for women. Just kidding bro. I'll give you a shout out right here for matching 0 of 45. (That #46 tho...) 😉

2points

David H 1 year ago

about 80% of these are subjective, as women are not a monolith, in fact many of these from survey's are about even among women who view it as positive or negative. These are subjective to the person.

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Luca Giordano 1 year ago

basically anything that is over the top or toom much is a no go. You can talk about your house, or your gym program or whatever... just don't make it into an endless monologue about how fantastic you are...be proud of who you are, what you do, know or even own.... but don't overdo it in displaying it. It becomes annoying or uncredible.

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Frozen Pasta 1 year ago

Most of these are bragging and showing off... Just about over half of over and over not to mention women do this especially the Instagram and dating other guys at the same time like they're an employer. 😂

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Bill Roberts 1 year ago

Basically..anything that comes out of a man's mouth is toxic. C heck k, Got it. But yall don't like the silent type, just abusers. Got that too.

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E Hall 1 year ago

Hey Bored Panda! Post an article like this about women. I dare you. Watch how fast these same hypocrites start screaming CANCEL! Let the down votes begin. ✌

1point

Disinforminationalistically U 1 year ago

I've tried this too. The down votes will (predictably) come.

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Jacquie Carr 1 year ago

Men don't respond to call outs for articles like this so it's the fault of your own lazy asses

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KBT 1 year ago

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Jody Whitmarsh 1 year ago

The one I get a lot of is the notion that his attraction to me entitles him attention or affection from me. Like, no dude, just cause you think I'm pretty, doesn't mean I'm obligated to be with you

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Slade Johnson 1 year ago

After you take away all 45 complaints there is nothing left lol.

1point

Disinforminationalistically U 1 year ago

Hello everybody, join the Panda and I in the latest round of man bashing. Come, vent your righteous indignation on silly stereotypes. Fun for feminists of all ages.

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KBT 1 year ago

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Danielle Ocasio Fast 1 year ago

Loud exhaust on a vehicle is an "interest killer" for me. My apartment doesn't need to shake when you drive by 🤪

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PigSquatch 1 year ago

What gets me is most if not all the women wonder why they are single and their friends have husbands. Most of this list is superficial garbage. He has a big truck, he has a nice car, he has a house and talks about it. Hate to say it yeah he is an adult but you are not in any way. It's damned hard to talk to some one you do not know and takes time to get to know some one. Heartfelt talks do not happen on first dates hate to tell these people.

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KBT 1 year ago

No woman is wondering why she is single. Single women are happier than married women, that is well documented. Stop asking women to lower their standards because she ought to be unhappy being single because that is not reality.

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censorshipsucks 1 year ago

I can see why all these are unpleasant. Anyone who is one-sided and drones on about just one thing is a bore, be it money, gym, their car, who they have banged or how many they have banged, their clothes, etc etc. For me I can tolerate this kind of stuff. For me a much bigger red flag is unkindness, followed by religiosity. Becasue the latter - you won't have a moment's peace. They will just push you continuously to join their specific cult.

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Danish Susanne 1 year ago (edited)

I think that for a man inviting me out to eat is a very nice way of introducing himself. But at first I don't want to go to a very expensive place because I would fear, that he might feel that I was owing him something. But a nice cosy place with reasonable prices and hopefully good food. And quiet so that we could talk over the food.

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Observer 1 year ago

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tamara 1 year ago

i don’t think men are doing many of these things simply to “impress women..?” just guys being dudes? nothing wrong with gym culture and the selfies therein.. My bf has a “sports car” that literally makes his life happier, let ppl spend money however they want. Uninteresting list overall!!

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Tunk 1 year ago

Ha ha lot of dudes getting triggered here. If you are not sending d**k pics, being a tool, showing off your weaponry, or just one of those dudes who uses ick words like 'panties' then what is your problem? If these less then attractive traits don't apply to you, isn't that a win? Comments seem to be confirming fragile masculinity. Oh the irony.

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Lory Jones 1 year ago

Hate to tell ya, but most men are like this. It's a testosterone thing. Men who don't do these are typically beta--easy to live with, but ho-hum in the sack. Such is life.

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simfan all day every day 1 year ago

So confused as a single 30 year old trying to get into dating, I constantly experience women making decisive efforts to get into a relationship with these men for these reasons, but this article basically says to me you want the guy to be rich, handsome, etc, and just not talk at all. This is such silly b.s from this article I a 33 year old male who is relatively intelligent compared to most, not a "gym body" and has a steady income for the rest of my life as I am disabled with m.s should be getting more attention then I am on dating sites and in real life... News flash if I tried to pick up one of you or actually paid attention and showed interest, I am immediately thought of as weird, gay, or both. So please clear this up with a paragraph of what your looking for?

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That guy Nic B. 1 year ago

I could sum all these posts in one NARCISIST

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KayGee 1 year ago

Name droppers......constantly talking about "famous" or well known people they've met as if they've become life long friends.

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Vivian Ashe 1 year ago

This could apply to either men or women, but I find it very off-putting when a person is condescending, rude, or overly demanding with restaurant staff or other service industry workers. I think they're trying to come across like some kind of VIP, but they really just seem inconsiderate and entitled.

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Scott L 1 year ago

Guys reading this: don't do things for women. Do them for yourself and your family. If a specific person responds poorly to your personality or achievement, don't feel the need to change for them. Don't give people (not just women) the power to make you act a certain way. It's your life, not theirs, but there are people out there more than willing to try to convince you otherwise.

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KBT 1 year ago

Women reading this: Always remember that single women are always happier than married women. Single women live longer than married women. For the love of God, don't literally throw your life away for a man who won't change for you; You are literally better off without him. Males need women more than women need males, don't forget it. 💖

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Geoffrey Osterfield 1 year ago

i mean girls to the exact same! just change the title of the page

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PaxScientia 1 year ago (edited)

Based on these, I think some women don't like to be honest about what they think is attractive. Maybe they're worried about being perceived as basic. "I hate men who are financially stable and in good physical shape!" Sure, you do, Becky.

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KBT 1 year ago

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Imjust jim 1 year ago (edited)

Scrolled through quickly but did not see "Spends money on me but not nearly enough". And yeah, had a friend whose fiance made him sell his genuinely valuable baseball card collection to get her a worthy ring - and he did - and well, you can guess the rest. Then again, there's always, so you got a car, so you're a rocket scientist, etc.

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KBT 1 year ago

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ngdemus 1 year ago (edited)

Haha before reading the stuff I got myself pen and paper and wanted to take notes, but most of the stuff is just ridiculous. Maybe such behavior is more common in the USA ? Or it’s because I’m an introvert ? Latter would be nice, only problem is I don’t go to dates, cause nobody ever asked me and I’m too shy. But for the women on here maybe try looking for shy or foreign guys.

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XenoMurph 1 year ago (edited)

A lot of these are signs of serious insecurity. They should be pitied and shown compassion, if they allow it. Sadly many of these guys come from hyper masculine cultures, which is the cause and symptom of the insecurity. So they'll never allow it, until after the mid-life crisis. Which is too late for a lot of things.

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Stacey Rae 1 year ago

Nah, no pity. Any guy who is so focused on himself that he forgot there was another person present doesn't need compassion. Any guy the talks down to his date, manspains, or doesn't include the date in his monolog can date himself.

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Jack Jackson 1 year ago

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WhiteClawOfDeath 1 year ago

I'm a bit tired of these posts. Worse than your averace womens magasine.

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KBT 1 year ago

Stop reading then ✌️

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TheDag 1 year ago

Holy c**p BoredPanda I get it I'm a guy, I should feel bad for being a guy XD

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Squishy 1 year ago

no you shouldn't lol. even if any of these do apply to you, why should you feel bad about being a guy lol, being "attractive" to anyone shouldnt determine your worth

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steampunk dandelion 1 year ago

that's not at all what this post is saying. it's simply just content ripped from a reddit comment section about things (female) reddit users find unimpressive that guys think are, in fact, impressive

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censorshipsucks 1 year ago

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Ausrine Ciapaite 1 year ago

The biggest turn on is when the guy cleans the house, cooks nice meal, gives you a message...

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BreAnn East 1 year ago

I got me one of those. He works too!

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Lory Jones 1 year ago

Oh yeah!

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Adam Westman 1 year ago

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Izzy Maths 1 year ago

Then he turn to a nice guy, and all of a sudden it's a turn off

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Richard Wilcox 1 year ago

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Thetruthhurts 1 year ago

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Dre Mosley 1 year ago

Yep, how many men critical posts does this site need?

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rob kneepkens 1 year ago

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censorshipsucks 1 year ago

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Fuxxy89 1 year ago

It's almost like different women are irritated by different things

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Izzy Maths 1 year ago

Women just want to date Mannequins at this point, or be left all by themselves in this world 😂😂😂😂😂

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Nessbit the Russian Spy 1 year ago

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JL 1 year ago

I think I ended up matching 0/45. What do I win?

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Richard Wilcox 1 year ago (edited)

Turnoff #46: expecting some reward for not matching any of bored panda's top 45 turnoffs for women. Just kidding bro. I'll give you a shout out right here for matching 0 of 45. (That #46 tho...) 😉

2points

David H 1 year ago

about 80% of these are subjective, as women are not a monolith, in fact many of these from survey's are about even among women who view it as positive or negative. These are subjective to the person.

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Luca Giordano 1 year ago

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Frozen Pasta 1 year ago

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Bill Roberts 1 year ago

Basically..anything that comes out of a man's mouth is toxic. C heck k, Got it. But yall don't like the silent type, just abusers. Got that too.

1point

E Hall 1 year ago

Hey Bored Panda! Post an article like this about women. I dare you. Watch how fast these same hypocrites start screaming CANCEL! Let the down votes begin. ✌

1point

Disinforminationalistically U 1 year ago

I've tried this too. The down votes will (predictably) come.

4points

Jacquie Carr 1 year ago

Men don't respond to call outs for articles like this so it's the fault of your own lazy asses

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KBT 1 year ago

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Jody Whitmarsh 1 year ago

The one I get a lot of is the notion that his attraction to me entitles him attention or affection from me. Like, no dude, just cause you think I'm pretty, doesn't mean I'm obligated to be with you

1point

Slade Johnson 1 year ago

After you take away all 45 complaints there is nothing left lol.

1point

Disinforminationalistically U 1 year ago

Hello everybody, join the Panda and I in the latest round of man bashing. Come, vent your righteous indignation on silly stereotypes. Fun for feminists of all ages.

1point

KBT 1 year ago

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Danielle Ocasio Fast 1 year ago

Loud exhaust on a vehicle is an "interest killer" for me. My apartment doesn't need to shake when you drive by 🤪

1point

PigSquatch 1 year ago

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KBT 1 year ago

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censorshipsucks 1 year ago

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Danish Susanne 1 year ago (edited)

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Observer 1 year ago

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tamara 1 year ago

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Tunk 1 year ago

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Lory Jones 1 year ago

Hate to tell ya, but most men are like this. It's a testosterone thing. Men who don't do these are typically beta--easy to live with, but ho-hum in the sack. Such is life.

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simfan all day every day 1 year ago

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That guy Nic B. 1 year ago

I could sum all these posts in one NARCISIST

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KayGee 1 year ago

Name droppers......constantly talking about "famous" or well known people they've met as if they've become life long friends.

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Vivian Ashe 1 year ago

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Scott L 1 year ago

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KBT 1 year ago

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Geoffrey Osterfield 1 year ago

i mean girls to the exact same! just change the title of the page

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PaxScientia 1 year ago (edited)

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KBT 1 year ago

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Imjust jim 1 year ago (edited)

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KBT 1 year ago

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ngdemus 1 year ago (edited)

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XenoMurph 1 year ago (edited)

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Stacey Rae 1 year ago

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