I think the gist of this comment is that most women fear getting killed and raped. Noone talks about this, but the french writer Virginie Despentes summed it up real nicely: most women calculate the risk of being raped everyday. EVERYDAY they leave the house, when they check their outfits, when they think about the time they ll come home, when they ll think about the route they ll take to work, from work, etc. It means sth that most men are not aware of; women are scared to get killed by men. Every date, every conversation in every interacting moment a woman has with a guy she needs to be on guard constantly, because he *could* rape an kill her. It happens 24/7 in life. Like its "normal, biologically explainable" etc. So there you have it, thats why she does background checks. Of course its offensive to the guy if he means her well. But what if he does not? Who is gonna care for the girl who lies dead in the dumpster? Ppl will shake heads and keep reading about tesla and global warming

i do background checks. The one time i didn't i regretted it. Please be smart ladies.

A lot of men do the same. It's too easy not to.

How about "Get to know the guy as a friend before asking him to date you"?

I would absolutely do a background check on someone I am letting into my personal life. And I wouldn't have a problem if they did one on me. However, to use that information to play games with people...that is just juvenile and not worth any of my time. If there is questionable info, I'll ask for an explanation. If I am not satisfied, I'll move along.

Throw me rocks, but I also do a quick background check before dating someone. Once I found the guy I was talking to, was on the sex offender registry. I have a daughter I have to protect her too. I don't go stalker crazy about it, but I still want to play it safe. Maybe she is going overboard with it, but I don't think there is anything wrong about it when done reasonably.

if you don't research your D**K...youll end up with a predator or some crazy SOB

Yet it's "creepy" when we do that...

People will lie, use, abuse, r*pe, k*ll, cheat or are already married (pretending to be single), or have a crime register. I don't wonder why some resort to checking the background.

And if he does it that's pretty much seen as stalking I guess? Good/creepy to know

if a guy would do the same, how would that be called?!

Like paid background checks that an employer would do?

Honey, if you gotta do checks there is no point in being together. Either he's got a problem or you have a REAL problem.

That's r******d. You can just chat with the guy for a longer while and see if he's really into you, or just wants sex. The hints will be there, if you know where to look. And stuff you find out from a "background" check might be distorted and you end up messing up the whole thing.

Shorter: we stalk you.

Psycho

I would not date that one XD

RED FLAG.

"A lot of us"? No. The controlling ones with self-worth issues and a tendency for jealousy do that. And it's NOT healthy and NOT normal.

Ya.. guys.. avoid this one. She's on the crazy train.

Isn't that kind of deceiving? Like entrapment? Don't care who you are, everyone will try to sugarcoat their past embarrassments.

Yeah, thats stalking, lol.

You have trust issues then. You need therapy, not a boyfriend

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Er we also google your a*s to make sure you are so psycho hose beast