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RovenshereExpress , Vlada Karpovich Report

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand Here's a dumb one: the amount of toilet paper we need to use. I've seen a lot of men complain about how much TP the women in their house go through, and they say things like "I hardly use any! Why can't they learn to live off a few squares like I do!"

Men don't understand that women have a lot more to clean up. Men usually only use it after going #2 or to clean up a little drip. Women can't just shake it and be done. We also have discharge to clean up, which is constant (not just when we're aroused as some men believe) and it's only worse when we're ovulating. Then on top of that we have periods to deal with. We need more toilet paper than you do! Get off our back!

Final score:

269points

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Insomniac 1 month ago

SO MUCH THIS!

92points

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand Feminism isn’t hating men.

Inner_Word_363 , freepik Report

Final score:

267points

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Breadcrumb. 1 month ago

Some men blame feminism for their shortcomings, but when your value is in oppressing women, you're weak.

153points

In the thread, women got quite open and honest about the different aspects of their lives, which might have seemed like common knowledge to other females in the community. But to some of their male counterparts, the information might have been something they didn’t know—or didn’t take seriously—before, as men tend to deal with a different set of joys and troubles themselves.

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand If we have s*x with you, we may get pregnant, even with contraception.

You may then disappear, even after acting like a respectable person, and fight any ties to your child forever.

We may be required by law to bear your child, and become a mother alone, struggling to support ourselves and a newborn.

If we don’t die during pregnancy or childbirth, which is more common in some parts of the US than in any other development nation.

So don’t ask why women won’t just sleep with you, why we won’t “give you a chance” and just have sex once, or why we’re not going to Netflix-and-chill for the first date. Women enjoy s*x too, but we are facing the rest of our lives potentially raising your child alone, if we don’t die first.

Mushrooming247 , freestocks.org Report

Final score:

238points

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Feathered Dinosaur 1 month ago

A broken condom on day 21 of my cycle (that lasts usually 30-33 days), what are the odds? Well, meet mini dino! And it was just like described, deadbeat sperm donor bailed out instantly, luckily I have my parents and enough money to support us

138points

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand That truly sharing household and domestic tasks means doing it unprompted. I don't want to have to ask you to tidy up or answer questions if it's your turn to cook or constantly manage social calendars and remind you or things. My brain needs a break too and taking initiative means a lot.

brainsteam , RDNE Stock project Report

Final score:

236points

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LaserBrain 1 month ago

Problem arises when two people living together have different ideas about what needs to be done, or how to do it.

67points

In an interview with Bored Panda, psychologist Dr. Avrum Weiss pointed out that men and women are not that different inherently, but they are socialized very differently. “There is research showing that children as young as four months old are socialized differently by their parents, based on their gender,” he said.

“Children tend to play in same-sex groups until around grade school. At that point, the girls tend to play with each other as do the boys. The girls play games that help them learn about relationships (playing house, school, or doctor, for example), whereas the boys play games that focus on competition and aggression. When boys and girls get romantically interested in each other they have each been living in very different worlds with very different skill sets.”

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand We aren't mad at you because we are on our period, we are mad at you because we have less tolerance for stupid things on our period.

charesleeray8 , David Garrison Report

Final score:

231points

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Kirsten Kerkhof 1 month ago

Testosterone levels are highest in women who are menstruating. Which means women are more like men than any other time. Pot, meet kettle.

169points

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand That my hobbies and interests being associated with femininity doesn’t make them “stupid” or “boring” or any less gratifying.

fatchancefatpants:

Why am I called a basic b**ch for liking pumpkin spice and crafting, yet dudes who like football and beer are mAnLy and cool? They're also basic bitches. These things are popular cuz they're enjoyable, let people enjoy things.

DateLate6732 , Adrienn Report

Final score:

218points

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Insomniac 1 month ago

I wish more people understood this. Just let folks live! There's so little happiness as it is.

87points

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand The energy it takes to actually get in the mood enough for it to not hurt to have our *body penetrated*. That's why so many women don't want to do it multiple times a day and aren't ready at the slightest suggestion.

It's so easy to just get an erection and jam it into something, I wish more men understood that being penetrated is not the same.

Like, the vagina is a collapsed tube. That's why tampons the size of a finger stay in place. You can't just jam s**t in there. Even with tampons you have to go easy.

624Seeds , Andrea Piacquadio Report

Final score:

216points

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LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 month ago

And even if we DO want to, and we're ready to (or we have a little lube to help out), we get sore/abraded down there pretty easily :x

116points

“The landmark research of Carol Gilligan, Ph.D. showed us that women are more socialized to focus on other people and relationships than men are,” Dr. Weiss continued to point out, adding that men learning how to listen, as opposed to ‘fixing’ things, is often an important part of what they can do to improve their relationships.

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand That when we talk about feeling unsafe at night walking home alone and stuff like that... We know, 999 of 1000 men we come across are just normal men heading somewhere, who don't mind us in any way. Problem is, we don't know who the 1 is that maybe has evil intentions.

MauOnTheRoad , lalesh aldarwish Report

Final score:

209points

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Insomniac 1 month ago

And telling us the mathematical possibilities doesn't help.

85points

Droxalope_94 , RDNE Stock project Report

#10

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand Just treat us like we are PEOPLE, not just women. That would fix a LOT of things.

Final score:

184points

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setsuriseikou 1 month ago

Oooh, so much THIS. Should be taught at school.

46points

#11

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand We have no control over our periods. Not when they come, not when they go, nothing. And the things we can get or take to minimize them often have harsh side effects that not all of us can or want to deal with. This is something you must understand.

RWBYRain , Karolina Kaboompics Report

Final score:

179points

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StrangeOne 1 month ago

I'm certain men who can't handle it when women are on their menses are just immature.

64points

p0tat0p0tat0 , RDNE Stock project Report

But it’s not only men that could benefit from active listening. Any person can arguably make their relationships better and understand the struggles or the day-to-day of others better if they take time to listen to what others have to share; or if they put themselves in the other person’s shoes.

“Even if you can’t yet be empathic, you can still learn to listen respectfully, assuming that what your partner says makes sense to them and needs to be respected, even if it doesn’t yet make sense to you,” Dr. Weiss emphasized.

#12

It’s not just that there’s a tiny minority of bad men, it’s that there are a large number of supposedly decent men who tacitly support the actions of bad men.

Final score:

179points

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Zena 1 month ago

Once again, Vinny DaPooh misses the entire point.

23points

OkAdministration5886 , Sora Shimazaki Report

#13

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand I'm just being nice. I'm not flirting or interested in you.

Final score:

176points

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Kirsten Kerkhof 1 month ago

And I'm being nice, because if I'm not, you won't be either. And an angry man is potentially a dangerous man.

104points

#14

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand That No just means “no” and we aren’t saying "no" to play hard to get.

FoxSure8573 , SHVETS production Report

Final score:

174points

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Rinoboyrich 1 month ago

All men know this. Sadly, a lot of men just don’t care.

53points

boboanimalrescue , cottonbro studio Report

#15

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand That ignoring their mom being passive aggressive to their gf/wife is actually re-enforcing that behavior and harming their relationship…not keeping the peace.

Final score:

160points

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VikingAbroad 1 month ago

This!

30points

#16

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand The majority of us do not want to see your d**k pics so stop sending them! Especially unsolicited! Keep it in your pants buddy.

jacquiwho , cookie_studio Report

Final score:

155points

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Insomniac 1 month ago

Best response to an unwanted penile portrait... take a sh*t, photograph it, and send that in response.

76points

#17

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand That when a man complains that "She needs to tell me what's wrong, I can't read her mind!" she likely already told him 100 times and is at the point where she stopped trying, because he never changed his behaviour regardless of what's been discussed.

Sipyloidea , RDNE Stock project Report

Final score:

155points

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Stephanie A Mutti 1 month ago

People taking responsibility to make requests for their needs is a problem that is gender neutral.

12points

Westy 1 month ago

Works both ways.

10points

Celtic Pirate Queen 1 month ago

Read the title of this article again.

0points

Toothless Feline 1 month ago

We don’t really expect you to read our minds. We just expect you to pay attention. (And I think the “You Should Know” game is insulting to all parties involved.)

5points

Dot Otto 1 month ago

And yet his boss only has to give him one warning because he's more worried about being fired from his job than he is about being fired from his relationship.

4points

Montanavanna 1 month ago

My husband is notorious for misunderstanding me or not hearing what I am trying to say. Instead of trying to get my point across by becoming frustrated and escalating we take a breath. I am quick to yell and he is quick to dismiss. After an hour to a day we talk about it once we have had some time to think about it and reflect. Our understanding of each other is greatly improved because of this. We have been together for 21 years and still have many misunderstandings and disagreements. It is how we work through them that counts.

3points

Rosecat 1 month ago

I've actually heard a former friend saying about her boyfriend "I won't tell him, he should figure it out himself!" so it's not always like that.

2points

notlikeyou1971 1 month ago

He's one of those. They "hear" but they don't listen

2points

Rowan Kohler 1 month ago

Typical lack of observance and empathy education for boys. Parental and education failing again.

2points

Jill Rhodry 1 month ago

I don't disagree - but....he's a big boy now out in the big wide world and part of being an adult is learning and self-improvement

7points

Key Lime 1 month ago

I tell my hubby exactly what I want to do and he does whatever he feels like. So yeah, he doesn't listen.

1point

Fran 1 month ago

Fair example, Papa, "stop that", doesn't stop, "leave it", keeps going, "Enough already", continuous what he's doing/saying till YOU HAVE TO LEAVE THE ROOM to make it stop, just to be told a couple days later that you should have said something if you weren't happy!!!!!😤😤😤

1point

Pheline 1 month ago

Me: “Do you even remember anything I told you has to change?” Him: “Um, talk to you?”

0points

Dinu Bogdan 1 month ago

Nope, a lot of times you expect us to read your minds...stop lying if you want us to understand you

0points

Pam McDougall 1 month ago

He didn't think she was serious.

0points

Jonas Fisher 1 month ago

I literally once had a girlfriend tell me, "If you don't know what's wrong, I'm not telling you." I couldn't believe it. I finally convinced her to tell me anyway. It turns out I had been at work when she came in with a friend. I apparently walked past them without saying hi, but I did not remember them at all (busy bar). It is incidents like that one that lead to guys having this attitude. Please just tell me.

0points

Wolf princess quinn 1 month ago

Oh yes!!! Not enough exclamation marks in the world on this one

0points

Amanda Cruz 1 month ago

I had to teach my husband that when I say "I'm fine" I really mean it. This isn't the movies I'm not being passive aggressive

0points

Skara Brae 1 month ago

Some guys were not raised to communicate or notice subtext and implied meanings. However, if he still doesn't understand clear statements, he's likely making erroneous assumptions or just doesn't care.

0points

Jan Olsen 1 month ago

From personal experience I have to disagree with this,

-3points

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luxfux 1 month ago

So where are the double meanings when we tell you "I need you to put your dirty clothes IN the hamper not next to it!"?

12points

Enoughforfluffy , Polina Tankilevitch Report

#18

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand I know it’s not just women that this happens to, but not being listened to in an academic/professional environment. We have helpful insights to problems just like men, we are smart and creative and skillful too. I’m tired of having my intelligence underestimated and ignored.

Final score:

143points

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Insomniac 1 month ago

Oh, I feel this to my bones. And the he-peat. Woman says something. Gets ignored. Three seconds later, a dude says it like it's his idea, and everyone praises.

74points

#19

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand A lot of us don’t view you as protectors. I know that’s the image you have been sold since you were a child, but the people you are supposedly protecting us from come from the same group you do. And bad men don’t walk around with a sign saying “I’m a bad man” so our caution has to be applied as a blanket policy. We don’t hate you, we just know that if something bad happens to us the first thing people will do is ask why we even “put ourselves in that situation”. It’s not personal.

Aethereuz , Antoni Shkraba Report

Final score:

140points

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Kyra Heiker 1 month ago

Every woman knows another woman who has been raped, but no man knows a rapist.

176points

#20

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand That period pains for 1 in 10 women can be worse than contractions at birth. we are not dramatic or overexaggerating. womens health is terribly lacking and underfunded and we are just surviving out here. It's not our fault and doesn't make us less of a person. extra help with food and cleaning around those pain attacks can mean the world to us.

Bunnla , Andrea Piacquadio Report

Final score:

137points

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Winter Eleven 1 month ago

When i got a tattoo it didn't hurt at all but period cramps hurt like a b***h and even ibuprofen stopped helping (at least i don't throw up all day when i manage to take it a fee hours before period starts-gambling)

33points

#21

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand Pregnancy and post partum is not easy. I’ve seen men make comments with women with hyperemesis “they throw up to not gain weight” l myself had it with my first child and I would want to die smelling cooked food. And felt like I had a violent hangover every day all day long.

Also now at my age underestimating how bad hot flashes are.

--dee , Ömürden Cengiz Report

Final score:

124points

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Feathered Dinosaur 1 month ago

Postpartum was the worst time of my life, worse even than when I was hospitalized because of severe depression and suicidal thoughts. I had my abdomen cut open and stitched back together, bleeding clotted clumps out of my nethers and had to take care of a tiny thing that kept crying and wanting to be fed every 1,5h - be it day or night. I could hardly move and was so sick because of blood loss. Worst 3 months of my life

49points

Maximum-Vegetable , Kampus Production Report

#22

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand If you are in a relationship with a woman and having issues in the bedroom, take a good hard look at how the other parts of your relationship are working. Chances are VERY high there’s a reason why the desire is dwindling that isn’t only s*x related.

Final score:

117points

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setsuriseikou 1 month ago

Also, listen to her. Don't just be there when she talks to you, listen actively and at least try to understand what she's saying. Because chances are VERY high she's been clearly telling you why the desire is dwindling, but you've been dismissing it as a minor issue (source: seeing my ex not listening to me and then making surprised Pikachu face when I told him that was precisely the reason our bedroom was dead and I was divorcing him).

40points

#23

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand I think a lot of guys don't really get how if you act like an additional child to be taken care of at home then this is going to have a direct, deeply negative impact on whether your partner sees you as a f**kable competent adult down the line.

Read: this generally means doing your fair share of housework as another adult in the same household without your partner having to act as your manager. If you've been living here for 5+ years and the house isn't huge, you should generally have an idea of where xyz household item typically gets stored or how to do the laundry. That isn't to say that suddenly doing the chores will fix all your relationship problems, but it's generally a good idea to be like this from the beginning and be consistent.

This probably isn't that gendered irl but you see this crop up a lot in hetero relationships where somehow the gf has wound up doing most housework, childcare *and* also works full time and the dude maybe mows the lawn once a week or "does household projects" that somehow never actually get completed.

cardamom-peonies , Lisa Fotios Report

Final score:

112points

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LB 1 month ago

It makes me so sad to see this around me. And, to be honest, I'm relieved to have ended up with a not-male partner. I'm pansexual and I don't hate men, and I'm sure there are good men out there that are capable of being equal partners but so far most of the ones I know any details about are... not.

30points

chillinn_at_work , Marcus Aurelius Report

#24

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand Most adult women have incredibly high tolerance for pain. This can be due to a myriad of contributing factors like menstruation and child birth, but can also be contributed to by factors women do not want to speak openly about, like poverty (not able to afford care or treatment), abuse (mental, physical, sexual), or even fear of being labeled as weak or emotional every time they make a complaint.

If an adult woman in your life complains to you about pain or illness, please take her seriously. You aren't necessarily responsible for solving it, but showing a little compassion can really brighten their day. Yes, some women will not have a high tolerance, but it's definitely the minority.

Final score:

111points

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Pix 1 month ago

Women don't actually have a higher pain tolerance. We have just been medically gaslit into having to put up with it.

81points

Commercial-Whole9501 , Karolina Kaboompics Report

#25

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand We deserve equal pay.

Final score:

109points

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Oskar vanZandt 1 month ago (edited)

Equal pay for equal work should be guaranteed...

10points

Mobile_Screen4017 , Ketut Subiyanto Report

#26

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand We’re not trying to start arguments because we’re bored. You did something that upset us and we’re trying to communicate that to you. We don’t sit around thinking of problems just cause.

Final score:

101points

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Khavrinen 1 month ago

The majority of women don't, but some do. AND SO DO SOME MEN. That isn't a gender thing, it's a "being an @$$hole" thing.

36points

#27

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand Sometimes men just don’t get how important it is to listen and validate feelings instead of trying to fix things right away it’s not always about solving problems, sometimes it’s just about being heard.

bellaerayy , Samson Katt Report

Final score:

100points

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LaserBrain 1 month ago

Yes. Often people just want to vent, and present their problems to someone and have them listen to them complain. Most men are wired to only bother other people with their problems if they want help, otherwise they would be dealing with it themselves. Understanding that just because a person is whining about something, it doesn't oblige you to do something about it - that's a great stress reliever.

22points

#28

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand Groping your gf/wife constantly is not as hot as you think it is. We are objectified like that everywhere. Having it done to us at home, too, is a HUGE turnoff for a lot of women.

That_Weird_Girl_107 , Tim Samuel Report

Final score:

97points

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setsuriseikou 1 month ago

I suggest you ask your wife if she likes being groped by you at home. Since women are people, and therefore like and dislike different things.

76points

#29

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand Men having a smaller paycheck is fine, but them being insecure about it is REALLY unattractive.

WineAndDogs2020 , Mikhail Nilov Report

Final score:

90points

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Michael Largey 1 month ago

My wife always made more money than me. I found living with that extra cash in the budget to be more than bearable.

31points

Rubyhamster , Nataliya Vaitkevich Report

#30

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand How much our menstrual cycle affects us, not just the bleeding part. Hormones are a hell of a d**g. E: Not to mention hormonal birth control means we have to handle added hormones and side effects.

Final score:

88points

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LSD 1 month ago

It’s extremely frustrating when men complain about this. They have no clue that we can’t control it, and they don’t seem to realise that living it is MUCH worse than having to deal with someone going through it.

34points

No_Support_7203 , Ган-Эрдэнэ Булгантамир Report

#31

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand Sometimes I’m quiet because I don’t want to talk or have nothing on my mind. I also look out the passenger window when I’m a passenger because I like looking out the window. It’s not because I’m mad, it’s because when I drive I never get to look out the window!!!

Final score:

87points

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Papa 1 month ago

This is absolutely not gender specific.

25points

Resident-Tourist-266 Report

#32

Mansplaining is incredibly frustrating.

Final score:

81points

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Skara Brae 1 month ago (edited)

I think in a few cases, guys are just figuring out, verbally, what she already knows. In a similar vein, I had a manager who would walk around asking his people what tasks they were working on. After hearing the explanation, he'd restate what he was told in words that sounded like he was telling the worker to do what they were already doing. This frustrated every one of us. One day, after hearing him repeat what I'd just said, I replied "Right" in a way that made it clear I thought he understood what I said. That shut him up. He said "That's good" and then walked away.

13points

#33

If a woman breaks up with you randomly one day … remember that she broke up with you months or even years ago in her mind.

capricornthings Report

Final score:

78points

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LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 month ago

I've been planning mine for at least 10 years (have been in the relationship for 23 years total.) I tried to leave once, he said he'd change, I stupidly believed him. The leopard put a nice coat of paint over his spots that washed away in the next rainstorm. The leopard truly does not change its spots. I'm now navigating a SAFE escape - I didn't live with him the last time I tried to get out of this relationship, and now I do, and I have 4 pets, so I have to be so careful.

74points

#34

Stop hitting on people at work. They have to be polite for you and it forces them into a conflict.

g_g0987 Report

Final score:

77points

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similarly 1 month ago

I would add: Don't hit on people at YOUR workplace and don't hit on people at THEIR workplace. Don't flirt with employees, staff, etc. Never flirt in a situation where the other person can't easily walk away.

39points

Dutch Swimmer Goes Viral For Super Revealing Trunks During 2024 Olympics: “Is This Legal?”

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Thrill-Seeking Diver Jumps Down Extreme Waterslide, Ignoring The Strict Ban For Women

#35

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand That women aren't a monolith. Just because your ex liked x doesn't mean your new girlfriend will. Just because your mom likes x doesn't mean your aunt will. Just because your sister had light periods doesn't mean your friend is faking her pain. And on and on. Women are people and while they share common experiences, they have their own preferences.

Like 90% of the ask women threads are removed because they aren't asking women general questions about their experiences in being women. They're incredibly specific questions that they should be asking their girlfriend or their mother. (I. E. Will my girlfriend like x in bed, what should I get my mom for mothers day, etc.).

Alcohol_Intolerant , Polina Zimmerman Report

Final score:

76points

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setsuriseikou 1 month ago

Women are people. Sadly, an idea completely incomprehensible to so many.

38points

#36

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand To the older men out there - menopause is a roller coaster of physical and emotional changes. Please educate yourselves about it and be supportive and patient.

frisbeemassage , Marcus Aurelius Report

Final score:

76points

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Boo 1 month ago

I would suggest they educate themselves on their partner's medical issues....not just menopause as it would show us they actually care about us.

39points

#37

Stop taking "starting a family" so lightly. Creating a child is 99% a woman's work and 1% a man's pleasure. Put yourself in her shoes and think twice before pressuring her to have a(nother) child, or mocking her because she didn't bounce back. Pay some respect because you did absolutely nothing.

Also, since we don't live in a vacuum and we inherited gender roles, put much more effort in your family because I swear that your partner is doing way more than you think. You are not a fifty-fifty couple, especially if you have kids.

MrBocconotto Report

Final score:

73points

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Kelly Scott 1 month ago

Guys, we all know there are some men who are right there when it comes to doing the housework, changing the diapers, and getting up in the middle of the night. You're not the ones this post applies to. This post applies to the OTHER 97% of men who don't lift a finger when it comes to their home or kids. So please don't get defensive when you see posts like this. Believe it or not, if you are the one guy that is doing everything right, you don't have to tell anybody. Any woman will be able to see that in a mere second (if other men can't see it, they're deliberately being obtuse). You guys are the cream of the crop and you have our undying gratitude. Thank you.

50points

Woman Put A Water Fountain With A Camera In Her Yard, Here Are 24 Photos Of Regular Visitors (New Pics)

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“Ma’am I Live Here”: Woman Refuses To Back Out Of Driveway, Learns A Lesson The Hard Way

#38

Being arrogant isn’t hot.

maesommer Report

Final score:

72points

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Mimi M 1 month ago

A humble man is hot.

30points

delightful_baby , Nataliya Vaitkevich Report

#39

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand Your jean pockets are much deeper than ours, hence our fondness in bags.

Final score:

71points

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Zena 1 month ago

Your jeans have pockets, full stop. It's shocking how difficult it can be to find women's clothes with pockets at all, let alone useable ones. Yes, most jeans will have pockets (but not all) but even those aren't always useable. I'd say a large majority of other pants, shorts, skirts and dresses do not.

40points

MapleGoesInEverythin Report

#40

You are allowed to cry and have any negative emotions you feel. You get sad, be sad. It is okay.

Final score:

71points

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Skara Brae 1 month ago

Guys, if she ridicules you for not being manly, find a different girlfriend.

59points

The_Salty_Red_Head , Mental Health America (MHA) Report

#41

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand That they need each other. I wish they could get past the programming or the perception that speaking to and loving their friends is not "weak" or "gay" or in any way a bad thing.

Too many men want women to fix them by providing them with the type of friendships women have between themselves, with the bonus of s*x. That's not how it works.

You are capable of (and very much should be) leaning on each other. Not us.

YOU CAN DO IT!

Final score:

70points

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lenka 1 month ago (edited)

So very much this. I was so amazed recently one of my husband's best mates passed away in quite traumatic circumstances. The guys have all been friends since primary school and as soon as the news was known they made a group app, just the men, not the wives. While their friend was in hospital they held vigil together, again, just the men, not the wives. When he passed they came together and cried. They called each other daily. They are still grieving but they are also checking in on each other, letting the other guys know when they are not ok and actively seeking and providing support. I have never seen anything quite like it among a group of men and I am so grateful to all of them. Of course my husband leans of me for support, but I am not his only pillar.

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#42

That most of us don't actually like doing emotional labor all the time; we're just socialized for birth to provide that service for men.

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Manana Man 1 month ago

I think women get stuck in this role because of the way boys are raised: to hide emotions and 'be a man.'

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#43

Being independent doesn’t mean we don’t want love.

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Michael Largey 1 month ago

Right. Independence is about needs, not wants.

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#44

That just because you have the girl doesn't mean you can't lose her, no matter how much they love you. You start to get so comfortable that you stop trying and start to treat them like an option.

Once they start to change with you it's not because we found another guy, we just put as much effort as you do or treat you like you treat us. Then we slowly fall out of love and we just stop arguing , stop complain. If we bring stuff up it's not an attack towards you . If you get defensive and turn it around on her. Then she will stop coming to talk to you. By the time you realize it we have already checked out.

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Learner Panda 1 month ago

The opposite to love is not hate; it's indifference.

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#45

At sex:

it's not because we show or tell you that what you're doing is good, that it mean "go faster and harder". NO!!!!

It means keep going and change nothing.

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Mimi M 1 month ago

Can't stand it when a man thinks that pounding at a woman's body automatically feels good to her. For some (or in some circumstances) it may - for many (or in many circumstances), it may not. Ask, be aware, check yourself. You may be having a good time - she may most definitely not be.

29points

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#46

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand Many men might not fully understand the pressure women feel to balance multiple roles in their lives, whether it's career, family, or social expectations. It can be overwhelming, and sometimes they just need support and understanding.

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Mia Black 1 month ago

And then some men say "then just don't do it". But if we don't, they won't either, things keep undone, social bonds falling apart because they need at least a bit of contact and so on...

26points

#47

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand When i first met my now husband he didnt understand why women are scared of most men. it wasnt until i was harassed, stalked and humiliated by men that he completely understood, he apologized for never taking me seriously before.

it didnt take long for him to come to the realization, which honestly happened within the first few months of dating.but gross men being gross it happened a lot where we used to live, my husband has saved me many times, and ill always be thankful for him.

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Diolla 1 month ago (edited)

"women are scared if most men" sorry but that is a bit of a broad generalisation..... I suppose it depends on your specific environment. Most women I know are not afraid of men at all. Which does not mean that this is the case for all women of course 🙂. Just to be clear, I'm a woman and I have experienced bad men.

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#48

The vagina is a naturally moist place. When we say we’re dry, don’t imagine skin dry. Imagine your mouth. Normally it’s a wet place right? But when we say we’re wet, it’s noticeable. Like you smell something delicious and you’re salivating so much you have to swallow. THAT IS WET. Not normal mouth feel wet.

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LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 month ago

And it REALLY hurts if you try to force your way in (even with a finger) before we're ready. :x "Haha, she said it hurt when I shoved my ween into her" isn't the flex a guy might think it is.

54points

#49

That we understand you better than you far understand us. Not only are women generally given a lot more social training than men, and raised under the expectation of being empathic caregivers, but the male experience isn't really an avoidable one.

I grew up reading books and watching movies with male protagonists about male issues, not because I sought them out but because that was just the books and movies there were. Meanwhile the majority of movies don't even pass the Bechdel test. Understanding women is optional, the female experience takes effort to find and learn about.

I see reddit threads titled things like "Men, what do you wish women understood?" and its full of things that pretty much every woman has known for years whether we wanted to or not. We know what you feel. We know why you feel it. And we're stuck over explaining for the nth time why we're nervous around strange men.

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Feathered Dinosaur 1 month ago

Books and movies about female issues, with female protagonists are 'niche'. Children's books about princesses are 'for girls only', but books about a boy doing boy-stuff are 'for everyone'

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#50

“We Are Not Pretending”: 50 Things Women Want Men To Finally Understand Saying things they don't mean because they think it's what we want to hear.

I don't care who responded badly in the past. Each person is a new page and they should not be held responsible for the transgressions of past partners. If you can't adequately separate the two, you should not be actively dating. Or, at the very least, have excellent communication skills and be able to talk through what is going on in your head.

It's exhausting getting the flip flop and whiplash of men who say one thing and then do the opposite a short time later.

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Pencil McGovern 1 month ago

I feels like this applies to all genders and orientations. Anyone can bring baggage into a new relationship and it will always create issues.

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#51

That fights never “come out of nowhere”. I just moved past this life lesson with my S.O. We generally get along and I let him lead the relationship. I also bring up concerns, that turn into conflict, that turn into problems because he was neglecting the need to acknowledge it and how it made me feel. It takes two ppl to have a relationship. Remember guys you can both be burnt out but how you handle and process is not how your partner does so. What could originally been “I wish you’d pay attention when I talk to you” turned into “you consistently neglected our relationship to the point I doubt if you care for your relationship or your partner, correct yourself or accept that you are liable to the consequences.” Don’t be that guy that brings a girl to that point.

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Cee Cee 1 month ago

I prefer to walk together rather than have a leader.

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#52

Men often don’t get how much we appreciate little gestures. Can be the most simple things, doesn't have to compliment a tight dress and lie how good it looks.

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Pencil McGovern 1 month ago

For many women, receiving compliments and being affectionately touched in ways that are wholly unrelated to sex can make us more receptive to compliments and touches that *are* sexual. When we're only approached for sex, we tend to put our guard up whenever we're not explicitly in the mood. And that not only kills spontaneity but also creates emotional distance.

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#53

For the single dudes. I’m only going to put in as much effort into this conversation as you are, and if you don’t seem to put much effort into having a conversation then I know you won’t for having a relationship. I’m not ghosting you because I’m an a*****e who has 50 different options. I’m ghosting you because you can’t even be bothered to google basic questions for getting to know someone.

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LSD 1 month ago

I’m SO sick of guys matching with me then not responding when I message them. F**k them!

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#54

Menstruation jokes are never funny.

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Hodge Elmwood 1 month ago

Neither are rape jokes. Ever.

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#55

If I ask you if anything is wrong and you say “nothing” for situations where nothing is wrong AND situations where something is wrong, I’m gonna keep asking because you’ve conditioned me to think something is wrong when you’re silent.

And it is going to be literally as simple as a kind and caring “I promise you that I am honestly not upset” to ease my mind. If you get annoyed at my anxiety, it’s only going to make me think something is definitely wrong

And I put this here because I’ve never had this issue with my girlfriends. Just boyfriends and my dad.

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Manana Man 1 month ago

Are you crazy? Of course women do this too.

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#56

We don’t need to be “saved.”

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Tabitha 1 month ago (edited)

If I am drowning, or being chased by a bear, or trapped in a burning car, then sure. Save me, ffs. Otherwise, chances are I can take care of myself and do not need any kind of saving. Chances are also that you are definitely not a hero in reality, but have deluded yourself into thinking you are. The test would be how brave you re if you’re around when I’m being threatened by someone way bigger, stronger, richer, more powerful, or more famous than you are.

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#57

That when we're ranting, having you listen and pretend to agree goes a long way. I don't want to hear how "It really isn't that bad" because right now, at that moment, it is THAT bad. That is why I'm talking to you about it.

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Jay C. 1 month ago

I noticed this, so now when my wife says "let me get your advice on this" or "what do you think about this" I give my 2 cents, if she doesn't say that, i just listen and nod along, I've noticed she, most of the time, will start it as "Okay, so listen to this..." so that's what i do

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#58

Male friends in particular;

How other men treat us when you're not around. It's a jarring difference.

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Papa 1 month ago

Anyone having this problem needs a man with better friends.

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#59

They are not as great at s*x as they think they are.

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Oskar vanZandt 1 month ago (edited)

Everyone needs a little confidence boostn the s3x department now & then... Being/becoming a caring, switched-on lover depends on open, honest communication. Hopefully that is the basis of a healthy, intimate relationship we should all aim for...

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Veronica Jean 1 month ago

Add: WOMEN ARE NOT TINY MEN. our bodies are COMPLETELY different. What works to lose weight for you may not work for me thanks to my hormone disorder/time of the month/stress levels/ biological differences. Stop telling me how to lose weight.

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LSD 1 month ago

How do we make this list compulsory reading for e.v.e.r.y.o.n.e? It needs to happen.

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Daria 1 month ago

A lot of very good points here, I hope more men would take notice.

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That_One_Harry_Potter_Nerd 1 month ago

Another thing that men and, sometimes, other women, need to be educated about is what it means to be aromantic and/or asexual. In a society where sex and love is praised and worshipped and prioritized, it is those who've never felt any sort of romantic or sexual attraction who are left behind. I've heard stories of people who have broken up with boyfriends and girlfriends for being asexual, and it shows everyone that you'll only be loved for sex. Asexuality and aromanticity are both spectrums, and they are both valid, and you deserve to be treated like any other person. just because you don't feel romantic or sexual attraction doesn't make you less of a person.

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Daria 4 weeks ago

I am asexual (but not aromantic), and I know what you mean. Most of my friends share stories about their "one-night stands" and sexual experiments, which made me feel left out of something important, sort of like being blind to certain colors. Even though I can still have sex after some preparation when I want to make my bf happy, it feels more like a chore to me. My bf knows about it and doesn't press, but my previous relationships didn't work out largely because of my asexuality. It's frustrating also because I used to blame myself for being different, thinking something was wrong with me. It's not until I met my current bf that I finally learned to accept myself, for which I'll always be grateful.

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Shark bait hoo haha 1 month ago (edited)

As I have read each statement, I kept thinking to myself "ok check, I taught my son this, yes I taught him that too. We just talked about this the other night". I think a lot of the problems we as women have is that women before us have failed in raising their sons properly by teaching them about women and how we respond to things, about our periods and the biology of a woman, and how to truly listen to someone. I made it a point to raise my son with the proper knowledge of women and the similarities and differences we each experience. He is 22 now and even now we still talk about these topics. He has also clued me in on a couple of occasions where I didn't understand men's perspectives on stuff. It goes both ways.

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Tabitha 1 month ago

Well, the issue of some fathers totally undoing all the good work their wives diligently did in raising their sons to be truly good men still exists.

2points

Harry 1 month ago

Real men respect women No we don't always understand but should make an effort to find out

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Roxie Carter 1 month ago (edited)

Single men think they are competing against every other single man. In reality, they are competing again the peace and safety a woman feels when she is single. Be peaceful, be safe.

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Annabelle 1 month ago

All. Of. This.

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General Stukov 1 month ago

Man here so I've got no ground to stand on. Maybe a lot of these issues aren't just woman specific. They're are things that men go through that's just as difficult to handle but our bodies are different and just being a kind human being in general. My girlfriend adores the train rides my adhd goes on. I support her on her lowest and highest times And she does the same for me. She knows my shortcomings and only asks i communicate and we've been going strong for 20+ years

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marianne eliza 1 month ago

Dear men, Remember what a pregnancy will do to a woman's body. It will never again be the stretchmark free zone you knew. And ladies? Is he a father of babies from more than one woman? He probably trades the old model in for a new one as soon as the body swells.

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Steve Sharpe 1 month ago

This thread makes me feel a little bit disheartened, it's kind of "shrug and walk away" thing. It doesn't bother me personally all that much - I'm a great big ugly bugger who's as old as the solar system, thick shoulders and broad skin etc etc. The thought of one of our foster children coming to BP to look at funny pictures of cats and stumbling in to a thread like this is heart breaking though. Would I tell the boys - their names are Abdul-Khabir (Abi), Jack, and Azadah (Zed), they're real little boys with rubber dinosaurs, dolls, toy cars and all the rest of it - would I tell them that everything they read here is correct? That they'll grow in to these horrible monsters who will be judged and hated by society simply because they go pee-pee standing up, that they'll be universally despised just because of how they were born (as if Abs and Zed don't get enough of that already)? Tell me how we move past this and start working together and not against each other.

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Sophia Athene 1 month ago

Knowledge. Seek out information on these subjects. Directly Google how to raise a boy to be empathetic. Then teach your boys that sometimes you'll be perceived as x but if you don't do x, you'll find people who love you for it, be it acquaintances, colleagues, friends, boy/girlfriends, or husbands/wives.

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somnomania (she/her, queer) 1 month ago

what i learned here, as an aroace woman who has never had a conventional relationship, has never had sex, and has only been hit on like twice (and i was not aware that's what was happening until much later), never partied, nothing like that, is that this post was largely alien to me. very little of it was relatable to me personally, but most of it seemed like it should be common knowledge for all genders.

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Tabitha 1 month ago

Way to turn the whole subject around and blame the victims, Arcady.

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JenC 1 month ago

Second, where is the father in this theoretical home you are talking about. Perhaps the theoretical mother tried, but the husband's words or actions also affected the son.

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highwaycrossingfrog 1 month ago (edited)

I'm sorry that you feel the need to blame being an inadequate man on the people who are affected by your inadequacy, Arcady. It's clear now that women being misunderstood and mistreated by men is all the fault of women

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JenC 1 month ago

Third, you are a grown man, an adult who is capable of self reflection and growth. You can choose to change how you think or act, instead of blaming how you act on how you were brought up.

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JenC 1 month ago

You say "think of what needs to be done differently" what do you think this article is about? Also, a lot of the items on this list were written by younger women who don't have grown sons yet, so you can't blame them.

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Veronica Jean 1 month ago

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LSD 1 month ago

How do we make this list compulsory reading for e.v.e.r.y.o.n.e? It needs to happen.

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Daria 1 month ago

A lot of very good points here, I hope more men would take notice.

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That_One_Harry_Potter_Nerd 1 month ago

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Daria 4 weeks ago

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Shark bait hoo haha 1 month ago (edited)

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Tabitha 1 month ago

Well, the issue of some fathers totally undoing all the good work their wives diligently did in raising their sons to be truly good men still exists.

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Harry 1 month ago

Real men respect women No we don't always understand but should make an effort to find out

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Roxie Carter 1 month ago (edited)

Single men think they are competing against every other single man. In reality, they are competing again the peace and safety a woman feels when she is single. Be peaceful, be safe.

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Annabelle 1 month ago

All. Of. This.

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General Stukov 1 month ago

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Steve Sharpe 1 month ago

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Sophia Athene 1 month ago

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Tabitha 1 month ago

Way to turn the whole subject around and blame the victims, Arcady.

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