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Interestingly, this post was actually a preparation for a speech Honnung needed for school. "My friends and I have spoken about the subject many times and thought nothing of it," the Reddit user told Bored Panda. "When I later talked to my boyfriend, he admitted that he and his friends never really thought about it. I have personally been in many situations where men do things that freak me out and I wanted to see what experiences other women have; plus it would be good for men to hear the thoughts we don't really say out loud."

Since releasing the post, Honnung has realized that a lot of women have the same experiences and fears and that this is a really serious topic. They've also learned that many people, especially men, get offended by the fact that women are afraid of seemingly unimportant things. "There were a lot of fights in the comments between men trying to justify their actions and women holding them accountable. I thought it was just a matter of ignorance but I see now there are a lot of people who just straight up refuse to listen."

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Blocking my path or physically holding me in place if they are not done talking to me. Basically, using their strength or size to restrict my motion in any way

uncool4skool , osseous Report

Final score:

256points

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Jarno Flinkers 3 years ago

I have witnessed something like this and knocked the guy out cold. Got smacked in the face by the girl with the bruises on her arm.

68points

According to Jodi Lane, a University of Florida sociology professor, such fears are especially common in women who are domestically abused—if they’re hurt by men they love, they're afraid strangers could hurt them, too. But there are other reasons why women live with more fear than men do.

First, women are scared any crime could lead to rape. "The fear of sexual assault is shadowing every other fear," Lane pointed out. Men are not nearly as likely to be raped as women.

Second, women are physically weaker than men. Women fear they can’t fight off an attacker, especially as they get older.

Third, women are socialized to be afraid. "All the things parents tell their children socialize them that they should be responsible for their own safety," Lane explained. "We socialize girls to be terrified. We socialize boys to be tough."

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Telling women to smile

ImproveOrEnjoy , Raychan Report

Final score:

248points

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

Sorry my smile doesnt work when I'm around controllers. I'm sure I'll smile when you're gone

111points

Honnung believes that the matter of being scared is a little complicated. "I am almost sure that the fear has grown since the Internet became a thing. Women share experiences; stories about men getting into their cars, onto balconies, videos of men just harassing women on the street. And for some, this might just be a quick video you see on Instagram but for many, this is a big warning for what's out there in the world," the Reddit user said. "'And even if this one man won't try to attack me in the street at night, the next one might. Or the next one.' You never know so you generalize and fear everyone."

However, the author of the post thinks that with every generation, the relation between men and women is improving. "We talk more openly and the correct use of the Internet (like with this post) can give women a chance to talk in a (mostly) safe space and a chance for men to listen. For the most part, [it looks like people are ceasing to brush it off] as just 'something that happens' which is a big step in the right direction."

At the end of their speech, Honnung said something Jodi Lane would have really liked: "We have to, instead of just teaching our daughters to be afraid of the world, teach our sons how they can make it safer."

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Touching you in any way without permission, even if it seems harmless to you. Unfortunately that happens rather often in retail. Don't touch my shoulder when you talk to me. Don't stroke my hair. Don't caress my hand when you give me your money. Don't touch my ass or my boobs or anything at all! Please respect my personal space. It freaks me out when male strangers come near me and touch me in any way

lavendelfee , Ivan Radic Report

Final score:

220points

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J. F. 3 years ago

Better: Never touch anybody without permission. Men don't like that either

17points

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Thinking 'no' isn't the final answer. Believing that with a little more convincing, I'll say yes. It makes me believe you don't respect me and worries me about how far you will go after I say no.

FrogInSnow , Yolanda Sun Report

Final score:

214points

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Giulia 3 years ago

sadly there are many women that will say "no" in the hope the man will continue to insist, because in that way they feel special... i hate it so much when i see it, in movies or irl.

44points

ElectricPinkMango , Sebastian Pociecha Report

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Any time someone tries really hard to convince me he's a 'nice guy.' Every guy I've met that desperately brings it up every chance he gets isn't usually very nice. It always makes me wonder, what are they trying to hide? Like why do I have to think you're nice? Prove it with your actions, don't tell me repeatedly

Final score:

203points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

Yup, actions speak louder than words.

81points

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Parking right next to my car in a dark and/or empty parking lot. I've had this conversation with several girlfriends, but when I've mentioned it to men they had no idea about what goes through our mind when we see that

Outrageous_Ent , Joe Valtierra Report

Final score:

202points

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ADHORTATOR 3 years ago

Ok, thank you for this advice.

65points

HectorIsMyHomie , Christopher Ott Report

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Breaking or hitting things out of anger

Final score:

195points

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Mewton’s Third Paw 3 years ago

I had to tell my ex one too many times that I obviously can’t fight him so he should stop approaching me with fighting words and stances. That was the most unattractive thing ever. Fûck did he think I was going to do? Brawl with him? So glad I’m free of that dead weight.

22points

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Standing too close. Even without covid, social distancing is a thing. Stay out of my personal space

imabarmaid , Falco Negenman Report

Final score:

188points

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Eva the Egg 3 years ago

Hey! Don't touch me there, this is my no-no square!

38points

#10

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Catcalling

HoveringCrib , Ron Jake Roque Report

Final score:

181points

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

Yes! Its just uncomfortable and objectifying at best, intimidating at its worst.

60points

#11

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Night out in the pub, there will always be one guy commenting that I haven't drunk much. 'Oh you're still on your first glass of wine. You drink slow. Why aren't you drinking' etc.

Why are you counting my drinks? Creepy as f***!

Ma_Adjowa , Jessica Flores Report

Final score:

181points

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Eva the Egg 3 years ago

Its as if you want them to drink more...

38points

#12

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) 'Jokingly' using your strength to move me or keep me from moving. If I want to go home and you’re pulling me back, I am not actually going along with it. You are stronger than I am and I literally cannot leave

esthermyla , Hannah Reding Report

Final score:

180points

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Eva the Egg 3 years ago

Yes, this way the men will think we want it when we really dont

42points

dadadawn , Gabriella Clare Marino Report

#13

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Following you to your car to get your number. Don't. Ever. Do. That.

Final score:

178points

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Helen Haley 3 years ago

Don't. Ever. Do. That.

68points

#14

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) I had a guy come into the store I worked at and leave within ten minutes. Not even 5 minutes after he left, he had searched me up on Instagram and messaged me, as well as all other social media. He didn’t have my last name and literally sat in the parking lot to search me up and message me. And then he came into the store a lot more to learn what shifts I worked and was ALWAYS THERE. That’s not endearing or cool, it’s creepy and makes me not want to go to work anymore

DiabeticDogMom , Ellen Auer Report

Final score:

166points

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Eva the Egg 3 years ago

Stalker.

78points

#15

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Hitting on you in locations where you cannot escape (enclosed places like elevators, or workplaces)

mproveOrEnjoy , Julian Myles Report

Final score:

162points

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

Oof. Or when they box you in, like putting one arm against the wall in is intimidating it's like ur potential escape is blocked

62points

#16

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Approaching me when I obviously don't want to be approached ie. I have headphones on, I'm on my phone, I'm reading or pretty much any other universal signal of 'I don't want to be disturbed'

skalaarimonikerta , Matt Reiter Report

Final score:

155points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)

Or sitting on a beach watching hubby and the kids playing in the water.

55points

urious-lycanthrope , David Suarez Report

#17

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) While talking online when I say, 'I don't know about meeting up,' and their response is, 'You are more likely to be [sexually harassed] by someone you actually know in person.' Yup...Not meeting up now

Final score:

145points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

Good call.

52points

#18

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Standing in doorways or blocking exits

justwannahelp722 , Christopher Report

Final score:

145points

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

That's when I'm ready to press call for the police, and working out how I need to keep safe until I can get out (ie do I need to be aggressive, calm but firm, play along til I'm safe, scream, call police? Which one won't get me killed today)

39points

wanderingprose , Pascal Bernardon Report

#19

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Flirting is fun so long as you don't 'flirt' by asking me where I live, and if I live alone, and if I know people in the area. If you want to chat, flirt, get to know me? Don't start with the questions that set off alarm bells in my head

Final score:

142points

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Eva the Egg 3 years ago

Don't ask personal questions like that

31points

#20

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Putting your arm on top of my shoulder and around close to my throat. It scares the heck out of me and every other lady I have talked to.

Wildmoonchild87 , Renate Vanaga Report

Final score:

134points

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Eva the Egg 3 years ago

That makes me scared too...

13points

#21

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Messaging you on a dating app, commenting that they found your profile and that they are in the same location as you — they can see you, but you can't see them. I had a guy do this on a fully packed train I was on to go to work. I'm not an anxious person, but it felt really uncomfortable

elgrn , Yogas Design Report

Final score:

124points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

Eek, I would have been creeped out.

50points

#22

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Trying to sleep with me when I am very obviously not interested. When I confront them, they just say, "Can't blame a guy for trying." WTF.

AlaskaNebreska , pixabay Report

Final score:

119points

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BonnyDK 3 years ago (edited)

Or call you stuck up for not being thrilled that they are trying to come on to you. Really? When I was younger guys came on to me all the time. I just thought oh the 10th guy this evening. Just get in line behind the others... the chemistry is either there or it isn't. And for God's sake the FB section on do you know this person is not a dating app!!! If I say I'm happily married don't try to just talk to me to be my friend. I'm off the market. I'm not going to chat up strange men online while my husband is sitting next to me on the couch.

41points

#23

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Driving really aggressively and having road rage. When I was younger and dating, I had so many experiences as a passenger with young guys who were otherwise normal but really intense and scary when they got behind the wheel. It always seemed like a red flag

brazziere , Elia Pellegrini Report

Final score:

118points

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Jo Choto 3 years ago

I was once in a really horrific car accident with a double blowout. The car started veering suddenly on the road, and that sensation of veering became part of a severe anxiety/PTSD that affects me in cars to this day. I shared this with a boyfriend, because he wanted to know why I was such a nervous passenger. His response was to drive and then start going faster and faster and then swerve the car as though we were going to crash into a barrier. I was hyperventilating, panicking, crying. He didn't understand why I couldn't just see what a funny joke it was. Sadly it took me more months and more red flags to realize I needed to get the hell away from him, but I did eventually.

13points

Dutch Swimmer Goes Viral For Super Revealing Trunks During 2024 Olympics: “Is This Legal?”

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Thrill-Seeking Diver Jumps Down Extreme Waterslide, Ignoring The Strict Ban For Women

#24

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) I've been approached several times in public by random men who say they want to be friends with me. One leaned in really close to have a conversation and asked me where I was from and where I live. Another grabbed my hands and remarked on how soft my skin is. Another one literally locked arms with me and dragged me to a coffee shop to 'get to know me' and then later told me to come with him to a more private place for a view of the city

kerbula , Michael Coghlan Report

Final score:

117points

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Sergy Yeltsen 3 years ago

Revolting. The sort of behaviour I'd expect from a backwards, misogynistic culture.

44points

epicpillowcase , Geronimo Giqueaux Report

#25

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Slow down their car when I’m walking. Dude, check your phone down the street. Not pulled up next to a woman walking alone. Infuriates me how few men even think of how that looks

Final score:

115points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)

I agree for the most part but if someone is receiving a phone call when they are driving, they often won’t pay attention to other surroundings besides the road as they pull over to answer the phone. Could be the only place to pull over for a while, or where they live. I don’t think there is a way of actually knowing but we can’t stop men doing everything.

31points

#26

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Common female discussion - Unsolicited nudie pics. Equivalent to those creeps who hide behind the bushes trying to flash you. People need to realize 1 in 4 women have had some kind of [sexuall harassment]. Save it for your partner. Or risk getting blasted or viewed as a weirdo perv.

Bakbak2000 , Chris J. Davis Report

Final score:

110points

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Casey McAlister 3 years ago

That makes me annoyed and disgusted, not scared. I'm not afraid of someone's pathetic junk.

26points

Woman Put A Water Fountain With A Camera In Her Yard, Here Are 24 Photos Of Regular Visitors (New Pics)

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#27

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) When a guy won't give up. He doesn't even have to be physically present. Being an adamant d**k over text is enough to terrorize you sometimes

blueraccoon_ , Eddy Billard Report

Final score:

105points

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Tami 3 years ago

Wow, technology can sure make things weird sometimes. Double-edged sword, it is.

14points

jittery_raccoon , Daria Nepriakhina Report

#28

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Wanting to go to a secluded location if I don't know you well. Men on Tinder suggest going on hikes or taking a walk after dinner on first dates. Doesn't even cross their minds that I would not want to be alone with them on a date

Final score:

97points

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BonnyDK 3 years ago

I had a guy get all offended because I didn't want to go skinny dipping on a first date in the dark at a very dark lake....oh hell no!

64points

#29

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Raising their voice in anger. Even if it isn't directed at me. Triggers a flight response. An obvious one I know but I think some men have no idea how scary that is. Also grabbing or hugging me from behind as a surprise. Solid way to trigger a panic attack

daubignylee , Shane Rounce Report

Final score:

95points

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Computernaut 3 years ago (edited)

99% of people raise their voice when angry. It's kind of supposed to be scary.

12points

#30

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) The complete inability to see an idea or situation from a woman's perspective. Instantly getting defensive when you mention something men do makes you uncomfortable. "But, but I don't do that!!!" Ok cool, but can you see his this might make someone half your size feel??

Whenever a guy does this I realize they have a serious empathy problem and makes me not want to be around them. What happens if they lose their temper, are intoxicated, etc so their inhibitions are even lower?

No thanks, not worth the risk. Also, I try not to spend time with closed-minded people so that automatically rules them out of my friend group

hot_like_wasabi , Kartabya Aryal Report

Final score:

94points

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WhatEvenIsLife 3 years ago

The "but I don't do that" also ignores the point, which is that there are underlying attitudes, biases, and cultural conditioning that mean a lot of men are not only doing these things, but they don't even seem to realize the things they're doing aren't okay. The "not all men" argument completely disregards that toxic masculinity is a pervasive, systemic issue, not "a few bad apples." If it were just a few bad apples, every single solitary woman I've ever spoken to wouldn't have an entire scroll of creepy/scary past encounters with men.

9points

50 Of The Most Incredible Shots That Were Submitted To The Comedy Wildlife Photography Awards

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#31

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Once a guy made new social media accounts to search me up after I blocked him, THREE TIMES

I don’t know what he thought would happen by just keep trying. Like I would just go “I love how you stalk me and keep shooting your shot after I’ve blocked you several times! Marry me”??

Honnung , Jacob Boavista Report

Final score:

90points

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Eva the Egg 3 years ago

Can't believe they would be so desperate to make a new social media account just to search you up, disgusting

7points

ZombiexPeacock , Vincent Wachowiak Report

#32

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Uber or lyft drivers who ask me if they're driving me home. You don't need to know that!

Final score:

89points

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Nomadus Aureus 3 years ago

Uber drivers who abuse the child lock... Can't tell you how many times I've been sitting there, locked in a car with drivers asking for my number, telling me they'll let me out once they have verified that I gave them my real number .

64points

#33

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Strangers complimenting me on my body really freaks me out. I also don't like people commenting on my hair, but that's because I'm ginger and I get a lot of sexualized comments

zerassa , Comrade King Report

Final score:

86points

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BonnyDK 3 years ago (edited)

I've had guys just want to touch my long hair including a dr I was seeing. He said he loved my red hair and asked if he could touch it. I have brown hair. Not red in the least. I had the receptionist tell his wife. How inappropriate. He retired after that.

41points

#34

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Getting really intense about our relationship/ friendship really early on. A lot of guys turn women into this kind of fantasy thing that’s supposed to make them whole/ help them change or whatever. Sir I am the main character in my own life, not just a supporting one in yours. When you put that pressure on me right away abs without reciprocation, I know that I don’t actually matter, you’ve been taught that women serve you

clarkthecatismyguy , Djim Loic Report

Final score:

82points

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El muerto 3 years ago

woman do this as often...is not gender base, but personality base...and it's creepy no matter gener or sexual preference..and yes we guys get also scare by those people

38points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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#35

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Meeting me at my job and asking for my work schedule so they can 'see me more often'

geebae513 , Charles Deluvio Report

Final score:

79points

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BonnyDK 3 years ago

I had a guy from a singles group at church want to volunteer at my school where I taught. Not going to happen. I asked him if he had kids that went there. He didn't. I told him they are not going to let you in the door.....so many really awkward stuff going on there. Not someone I was interested in any shape or form to begin with.

20points

littlebutterfly987 , Ramiro Pianarosa Report

#36

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Staring. OHMYGOD THE STARING. It’s not cute, it’s not attractive, I don’t know you like that

Final score:

78points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)

Staring from anyone is unsettling, although I must admit that I have stared into space in the direction of individuals. And just my luck that when I realise whats happening, at the same time the person notices me staring their way. So embarrassing.

38points

#37

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Calling women beautiful as much as possible. Once or twice is nice, if you know them, but if you don't know the guy and he says it too much, it freaks me out

toitnups , JD Mason Report

Final score:

74points

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I want cake 3 years ago

It makes me think that he's only interested in me for how I look on his arm, and not for my intelligence or companionship. Unfortunately I fell for it once and the guy barely knew me by the time we broke up nearly two years later. He'd tell everyone we met that I'd lived in Africa, but then he'd tell me stop the excuses when I didn't understand an unwritten rule because I grew up in freaking Africa (multiple countries), not Europe.

23points

Dense-Ability-8143 , Jacinto Diego Report

#38

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Feel up on you and go "I'm kiddiiiiiiiingg" and do it again

Final score:

71points

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I want cake 3 years ago (edited)

Had a colleague do that to me while I was carrying a tray full of drinks through an art trade fair on opening day, he grabbed my butt as he walked past me. This was after he'd been 'flirting' with me for weeks, even though he knew I had a bofriend, which only made him ask rude questions about what we got up to in the bedroom, and getting management to put me on his team every single shift. I had to threaten to get him fired to make him stop.

30points

#39

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Asking for way too much information. Where I live, who I live with, where I work, what hours I work, Nearly wanting a schedule of my life in order to schedule a date.

BeanieBlitz , Toa Heftiba Report

Final score:

68points

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Jo Choto 3 years ago

Again, women need to be able to cut these conversations off at the start. After the first inappropriate or overly-personal question, they should be confident in saying, "Please stop asking me questions. I don't want to talk to you," and then you stop talking and stop listening. Doesn't matter if you're at work. You tell coworkers you are having a problem. Someone else asks them to leave.

14points

Woman Refuses To Chip In For Babysitting Because She Doesn’t Even Have Kids, Asks If She’s A Jerk

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#40

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Matching my speed while driving to look in and stare at me

seoulcity99 , talen de St. Croix Report

Final score:

65points

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Eva the Egg 3 years ago

What a perv...

15points

#41

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Calling me "sweet" pet-names like "honey" and "sweetheart" in a normal conversation (like at the shopping counter or anywhere else I ask a question or mention something). Most of the time they don't even realize that they start with that and I'm annoyed at it but for some reason it freaks me out when they call me that and I don't know them. IDK why

irontallica666 Report

Final score:

61points

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Helen Haley 3 years ago

Doesn't bother me unless it is a condescending tone.

25points

#42

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Liking every single picture with my face on Instagram in a period of two minutes

shy_raspberry , Erik Lucatero Report

Final score:

48points

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Shirley Heyn 3 years ago

My sister does that, it's irritating. She does it whether it is a good or bad post, whether she agrees or not with the content.

3points

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What do you think ?

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Niffler_13 3 years ago

As a woman, I feel like a lot of these can be applied to both men and women. There have been plenty of times I have been made uncomfortable by other women, especially in college. Don't be an a**hole to people. The End.

40points

Dave P 3 years ago

oh yeah, plenty of stalky and creepy women on many of these as well

13points

Gin Marie 3 years ago

As a woman, when somebody says that, they're likely a troll. Your "feeling" is worthless when these acts have been studied for decades.

1point

fuggnuggins 3 years ago

Is your point more valid because you're a woman? Vice versa?

0points

person (i think) 3 years ago

Yeah, and reading through posts like these did made me realize I did a couple of these things to guys when I was younger and I have a friend I need to apologize to :(. (straight girl for context). Also, getting up the courage to apologize is hard :(.

0points

Jarno Flinkers 3 years ago

As a man this list is sort of a wake up call. No, I don't act like a creeper, no I don't disrespect women. Yes, I have done some things on this list, like asking a woman to smile and hitting on one in an elevator (while I was younger, but still). But I mean a walk up call in how to help women who feel uneasy or even unsafe. This one's a manual how to read a room and act on the ones being weird.

21points

Druth Vlodovic 3 years ago

The elevator thing is a bit two sided. On one hand it is an isolated place that is hard to get away from. On the other I have had many brief conversations with strangers in one since it is a place where you are suddenly in close proximity to others and we are all standing around doing nothing. Haven't asked anyone out in one, I'd probably wait until we were disembarking.

3points

Erin Snodgrass 3 years ago

Thank you for doing a self check. I really dislike someone telling me to smile! My mood and facial expressions are none of your business thanks

1point

fuggnuggins 3 years ago

A man doesn't need to indicate that he's a man. He's confident enough to give his point of view without begging for permission. Someone who is looking for brownie points, though... Those women you mention, what they need to feel easier and safer is probably, in most cases, therapy. Somehow, these women see men in every shadow they jump at. Yet, they've grown up in a world that is about 50% male. They live next door. They work with them. They are their daughters. Their sisters. And alarmingly, their mothers. How are their sons growing up? Back to reality, mate. Stop fanning the flames. Stop encouraging mental unwellness. And those who truly do fear men for their experiences - something that is definitely a minority of cases - support them in getting the therapy that they need in order to continue to live a normal life. You people who encourage mental unwellness = wolf in sheep's clothing. Abuser adorned as saviour. This all reeks of Stockholm syndrome.

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Casey McAlister 3 years ago

They lumped together genuinely creepy things with mildly annoying moments. Yeah, men often act like total trash, but this post makes it look like women are in the constant state of panic. Most women I know are bold and confident, we aren't afraid of every shadow.

19points

Aunt Messy 3 years ago

These are not "mildly" creepy. They're threatening and scary. Grow up and just don't do stuff like this.

17points

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

Tell us again how being bold and confident saves us from creeps and violence. Please. Last I checked, not being afraid is a great way to die.

5points

fuggnuggins 3 years ago

*People. People act like total trash. You've got an entire page of women doing it here. People act like trash.

1point

Amy Dubois 3 years ago

I agree! This post annoyed me.

1point

pusheen buttercup 3 years ago

There is a difference between calculated caution and fear. Even the milder ones may be a reason to have caution, especially if say you're in a bad area at night.

0points

Gin Marie 3 years ago

"I know"....."we".....aren't you special.

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Pirate Captain 3 years ago

@punished edward needs to shut up or get off these posts.

7points

Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

Aye matey tis true

4points

Demon Child 3 years ago

Why do punished Edward and uncle trash hate each other? they should get together, I think they would get along. They are both creepy, weird, and out of touch❤️

4points

fuggnuggins 3 years ago

This site is just f*****g tiresome. Enough burdens in life without this s**t.

3points

RedPanda 3 years ago

What DO women think is okay?

3points

Mimi M 3 years ago

A) Respect. B) Inquiring what we want, not assuming. C) Listening to what we say and honoring it.

2points

fenixrising1972 3 years ago

Once I had a first date at a bookstore/cafe and I really liked the guy and we were having a good time and getting along great. After about an hour he said he wanted to show me a place, so I said I would follow him in my car. He asked why I wouldn't go in his car and I just said something like "I have to get up early and I might want to leave before you do." He argued with me and kept trying to convince me to go in his car. He made it clear that he was irritated and offended and it ruined the whole date. I'm sure he was harmless and just had a problem understanding women's safety issues. Since then I've had a rule that "No" is a complete sentence and I will no longer explain or defend any decisions I make on a date. Guys who argue or push back are either clueless or dangerous.

2points

Mimi M 3 years ago

"Women live in fear" I have much compassion for the women who live in fear. But I do not.

2points

Janka Janka 3 years ago (edited)

Hate to be Schrodinger's woman. When someone call me 'Hey you are so pretty ,' and afterwards 'Hey, you're not interested? Actually you're ugly as hell!'

2points

Heliocracy 3 years ago

Hate to say it, but a lot of this discomfort seems to be lessened if the guy is super hot. Just my observation. I'm long-time married BTW so I'm not coming from some angry incel space.

2points

I want cake 3 years ago

I personally find it extra creepy when the guy is super hot. Mainly because I know he's probably used to women falling over themselves to please him and may not take kindly to being turned down.

6points

Aj Grimes (they/it/she/he) 3 years ago

So I have a story. One day I was playing an online game, and this random man was hitting on me. He said to me " I can make you like men." I was a lesbian at the time and I didn't like it. He also asked me for my phone number, my age, and where I live. This man was a total stranger and I could not see his face. That is just creepy for men to hit on little kids. Also, he told me men have their ways to date a lesbian, and that he could get to me.

2points

GeneralZod 3 years ago

Don't use my size to make me feel threatened. As an incredibly short woman, I've heard many variations of "Oh you are so tiny, I could put you in a suitcase". It's not a compliment to know you could dispose of my murdered body without much effort.

2points

Jo Choto 3 years ago

We absolutely need to be raising boys and educating men to stop these behaviors, but we also need to train girls and women to have the confidence to shut a lot of this s**t down immediately and definitively. Women are conditioned to be polite and not hurt someone's feelings, so they tolerate inappropriate behaviors. Wish I could teach a class to help girls and women find their voices.

2points

Luke Oakridge 3 years ago

Most of the things on this list are also things that women will sometimes do as well.

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Random Anon 3 years ago

Some people are just creepy. I decided to drive to work years ago rather than the train exactly because of these. I am a dude but I look like a women because of my build. Almost every other day I get idiots standing so close I can feel their breath on my hair, or brushing their arm on my body when there is ample space in the car or the most annoying one, "accidentally" grabbing my hand on the handle rails/pole.

1point

Jill Bussey 3 years ago

I think women should trust their instincts more. If you're uncomfortable with the situation, remove yourself from it. You may not always need to do it in the same way, but get the heck out!

1point

jdtimid123 1 year ago

I agree, a lot of these aren't super intimidating to the majority, but are rude. Like telling women to smile. The slowing down to text next to a woman thing is just dumb. He probably doesn't even know you're there if he isn't even looking at you. Buuuut he also should not be texting and driving.

0points

Jen Cook 3 years ago

Talking about how every ex you ever had was the devil and screwed you over for no apparent reason because you're such a great boyfriend. Dude, you are the common denominator in the situation, that should tell you something.

0points

Lyone Fein 3 years ago

Honestly, I think that men tend to man spread psychology wherever they are without realizing it. So, yes, this is both invasive and threatening most of the time.

0points

Kimberly Brown 3 years ago

“Can I come over? C’mon, I just want to give you a massage -or- make you dinner -or- bring you a present” Or anything that appears to be innocuous, but leads to trying to get in your pants.

0points

Anna Repp 3 years ago

One thing that always hit me as wrong - when a guy lifts up your chin with his fingers. It is such a controlling gesture that makes you feel like an object, not a human. Maybe it is just me, but Ive always fled a guy who's done that.

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Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago

I can agree to some degree with all of these except #5. Unless you see them park there,how do you know who it is? It sounds like the problem is any car that's parked too close, not because a man was driving it. If your parking under a light, maybe they parked there for the same reason...Security.

0points

Paul Budhram 3 years ago

Seeing that loads of these happen unknowingly, I'm kinda scared that I might become like some of these... though I know I can't act creepy... but then again... *sigh*

0points

Lsai Aeon 3 years ago

I see a lot saying "They are so much bigger and stronger than me" Get up off your ass and remedy that. I live in a wheelchair, I'm shorter/smaller than almost everyone I meet. I know how to defend myself. If you feel threatened by anyone and everyone that is "bigger" than you, you need to sign up for a self defence course or 2. Don't just sit there and whine about it

0points

Kristy Nelson 3 years ago

Also, when I used to have to wear a name tag and someone would use my name like they knew me. I would flip it over when it got late.

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Dave 3 years ago (edited)

I totally understand where these ladies are coming from. I actually do. I do my best to be a respectful decent human being in relations to my opposite gender and I am mindful of the boundaries. More to the point, to avoid some misunderstanding and false accusations because the woman in question has some bad experiences, and is at times a bit paranoid. However, the thing is. Judging by these posts, the only way for women to feel comfortable is for men to walk on eggshells, which I will not do. I know myself and I know I would not harm or disrespect boundaries in any shape or form and if some woman is threatened by the fact how I look even when I am minding my own business and I happen to be in proximity, still minding my business, well then that is her problem and she needs to deal with hear fears. Mind you, many of the examples fall under Narcissistic psychopathy and are out there and not isolated to men alone. I have had the misfortune to deal with a few female counterparts described in these posts.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 3 years ago

These things can be scary but a lot of them are just fücking common and pathetic. Many are reasons to laugh in their faces and insult them rather than run and hide. Although there are plenty of run and hide situations described here as well. Prepare yourselves, post-covid summer is coming.

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

While I agree you can laugh and insult, you can do so only in certain circumstances. Some people, once insulted, will make it a life mission to hunt the person who insulted them.

7points

Luca Giordano 3 years ago

most of these are super creepy! some of these could be born out of insecurity...saying someone is beautiful too often or trying to be a galant young man and escorting the lady to her car could also just be friendly caring behaviour. Perhaps somewhat overbearing or insecure or otherwise clumsy. I know we live in a dangerous world but there is something to be said for allowing clumsiness in the dating world. Having all said that, the creepyness is usually a combination of signals and not one clumsy insecure action.

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Vincent Philippart 3 years ago

Hey BoredPanda, since you've published five articles in the last ten days about how women are scared of men, how about other gender related issues as well? How about "men are 4 times more likely to die by suicide, here's why" or "Men of Reddit react to this shocking stat: 70% of all violent crime victims are men". You know, just to prove this isn't just about painting men as predators.

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

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What's In Your Head? 3 years ago

Okay, I'm seriously done with the whole "woman being opressed/threatened by men because" aWaReNeSs... Yes, I am a woman. And yes, I have encountered many of these things. And yes, I get scared too. But do we really need to make it an overhyped subject? This is part of life, I don't think this will ever change. And no, I am not saying that it's okay or that women are at fault for this, but I am saying that women and men are fundamentally different, that's just nature. I'm kind of sick of this "feminist uprising". But have fun with it, by all means! I'm looking forward to get downvoted into oblivion. :-D

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

"This is part of life, I don't think this will ever change".....I wonder how many women used to say that when they couldnt vote, or have bank accounts, or own property. Just because thats the way it is right now doesnt mean its right. And if we dont talk about it, you're quite right it wont ever change.

14points

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

Yeah, sh*t happens. Does that mean we have to shrug and let it keeping happening? Your feminist uprising is brought on by people like you, just FYI. Never knew it was a feminist uprising to ask for courteous behavior.

6points

Becky Samuel 3 years ago

Are we seriously meant to sit back and say that it's okay that 97% of women have had unwanted penetration or attempted penetration forced on them, but it's okay because 'it's always been that way'? Is that "overhyped"?

1point

Lilith the Demon Panda 3 years ago

are you f*****g serious??? this is not "feminist" at all, insecure bitches whining about how "all men bad" without actually fighting for yourself and trying to make thing better is ANTI-feminist as f**k... but you are even worse than them... "let's accept it because that's how it's always been" - with your attitude you would be still living in a cave "married" to whomever raped you first eating f*****g roots and worms

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Computernaut 3 years ago

I hate how many of these are women telling about an experience with some creep and then asking men to not do that, as if they don't realize that 99% of men don't do that.

-3points

Chris Jones 3 years ago

Firstly, don't see anyone saying all men do. Secondly, no way can it be 99% of men who don't. It is far too frequent and far too much of a problem on a daily basis for most women. It's a mix of issues, lack of understanding, thoughtlessness, as well as deliberate actions that are absolutely out of order. You might not do it but there are too many who just don't get it.

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(Repeat post)2 weeks ago, toxic women post: https://www.boredpanda.com/cringey-girls-messages/ The same week, a post on toxic masculinity: https://www.boredpanda.com/toxic-masculinity-experience-as-man/

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Niffler_13 3 years ago

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Dave P 3 years ago

oh yeah, plenty of stalky and creepy women on many of these as well

13points

Gin Marie 3 years ago

As a woman, when somebody says that, they're likely a troll. Your "feeling" is worthless when these acts have been studied for decades.

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fuggnuggins 3 years ago

Is your point more valid because you're a woman? Vice versa?

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person (i think) 3 years ago

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Jarno Flinkers 3 years ago

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Druth Vlodovic 3 years ago

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Erin Snodgrass 3 years ago

Thank you for doing a self check. I really dislike someone telling me to smile! My mood and facial expressions are none of your business thanks

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fuggnuggins 3 years ago

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Casey McAlister 3 years ago

19points

Aunt Messy 3 years ago

These are not "mildly" creepy. They're threatening and scary. Grow up and just don't do stuff like this.

17points

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

Tell us again how being bold and confident saves us from creeps and violence. Please. Last I checked, not being afraid is a great way to die.

5points

fuggnuggins 3 years ago

*People. People act like total trash. You've got an entire page of women doing it here. People act like trash.

1point

Amy Dubois 3 years ago

I agree! This post annoyed me.

1point

pusheen buttercup 3 years ago

There is a difference between calculated caution and fear. Even the milder ones may be a reason to have caution, especially if say you're in a bad area at night.

0points

Gin Marie 3 years ago

"I know"....."we".....aren't you special.

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Pirate Captain 3 years ago

@punished edward needs to shut up or get off these posts.

7points

Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

Aye matey tis true

4points

Demon Child 3 years ago

Why do punished Edward and uncle trash hate each other? they should get together, I think they would get along. They are both creepy, weird, and out of touch❤️

4points

fuggnuggins 3 years ago

This site is just f*****g tiresome. Enough burdens in life without this s**t.

3points

RedPanda 3 years ago

What DO women think is okay?

3points

Mimi M 3 years ago

A) Respect. B) Inquiring what we want, not assuming. C) Listening to what we say and honoring it.

2points

fenixrising1972 3 years ago

2points

Mimi M 3 years ago

"Women live in fear" I have much compassion for the women who live in fear. But I do not.

2points

Janka Janka 3 years ago (edited)

Hate to be Schrodinger's woman. When someone call me 'Hey you are so pretty ,' and afterwards 'Hey, you're not interested? Actually you're ugly as hell!'

2points

Heliocracy 3 years ago

Hate to say it, but a lot of this discomfort seems to be lessened if the guy is super hot. Just my observation. I'm long-time married BTW so I'm not coming from some angry incel space.

2points

I want cake 3 years ago

I personally find it extra creepy when the guy is super hot. Mainly because I know he's probably used to women falling over themselves to please him and may not take kindly to being turned down.

6points

Aj Grimes (they/it/she/he) 3 years ago

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GeneralZod 3 years ago

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Jo Choto 3 years ago

2points

Luke Oakridge 3 years ago

Most of the things on this list are also things that women will sometimes do as well.

1point

Random Anon 3 years ago

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Jill Bussey 3 years ago

I think women should trust their instincts more. If you're uncomfortable with the situation, remove yourself from it. You may not always need to do it in the same way, but get the heck out!

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jdtimid123 1 year ago

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Jen Cook 3 years ago

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Lyone Fein 3 years ago

Honestly, I think that men tend to man spread psychology wherever they are without realizing it. So, yes, this is both invasive and threatening most of the time.

0points

Kimberly Brown 3 years ago

“Can I come over? C’mon, I just want to give you a massage -or- make you dinner -or- bring you a present” Or anything that appears to be innocuous, but leads to trying to get in your pants.

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Anna Repp 3 years ago

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Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago

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Paul Budhram 3 years ago

Seeing that loads of these happen unknowingly, I'm kinda scared that I might become like some of these... though I know I can't act creepy... but then again... *sigh*

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Lsai Aeon 3 years ago

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Kristy Nelson 3 years ago

Also, when I used to have to wear a name tag and someone would use my name like they knew me. I would flip it over when it got late.

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Dave 3 years ago (edited)

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Mewton’s Third Paw 3 years ago

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

While I agree you can laugh and insult, you can do so only in certain circumstances. Some people, once insulted, will make it a life mission to hunt the person who insulted them.

7points

Luca Giordano 3 years ago

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Vincent Philippart 3 years ago

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

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What's In Your Head? 3 years ago

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

14points

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

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Becky Samuel 3 years ago

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Lilith the Demon Panda 3 years ago

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Computernaut 3 years ago

I hate how many of these are women telling about an experience with some creep and then asking men to not do that, as if they don't realize that 99% of men don't do that.

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Chris Jones 3 years ago

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