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Bored Panda asked dating and relationship expert Dan to elaborate on the kinds of attitudes that are healthy in relationships, as well as whether it’s important to be on the same page in terms of respecting and understanding each other’s passions in life.

“The best attitude is true, sincere love where you honestly care about the other person and only want the best for them. However, that can only happen if the dynamic of the relationship continues to produce those feelings over time,” the expert told us.

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men You know that complaint that women sometimes have that just because they are polite to you doesn't mean they're interested in you?

Yeah, that works both ways. I'm not saying "good morning" because I want to bed you, I'm not holding the door for you because I think you'll reward me with some nookie for doing so, etc. etc.

I'm doing so because, like you, I'm a decent human being and am being polite.

just_some_a--hole , chris_jolly Report

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Tobias Reaper 2 years ago

exactly i am just being polite i would do the same for a person of any gender or even species but not bears though

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Women body shaming men is just as bad as men body shaming women.

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Ace Girl 2 years ago

Agreed

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“If the dynamic of the relationship causes one or both of them to lose their feelings of attraction and love, then it will be very difficult to behave, think or care in the same way they did in the beginning. As a result, the relationship will become stale and a breakup or divorce will almost certainly happen at some point,” he said that consistent, genuine effort has to be put into relationships to make them work.

“Unfortunately, most people don’t ever get taught how to create and maintain a mutually happy, in love and attracted relationship dynamic, so they just wing it and hope for the best, which then results in high levels of breakups and divorces,” Dan said that just hoping for the best without actively doing your best isn’t good enough.

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Girl: I’m dropping so many hints! Why doesn’t he get them?
Boy: I think the girl is dropping hints but I’m not sure I want to risk my friendship and embarrassment, so I’ll just ignore them.

Qepperoni , Ekaterina Report

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User# 6 2 years ago

I can't speak for all men, but as a general rule of thumb: we are dreadful at deciphering subtle signs. Please just say what you want to convey.

316points

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Please ask us out. It makes us feel wanted and loved.

SalFunction12 , Hac Hai Report

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378points

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Nathaniel 2 years ago

For me I feel like even talking to a woman, no matter how innocent my intentions I am being judged for only wanting "one" thing, it makes it so awkward should I want to ask a woman out, I dare not.

153points

Caro Caro 2 years ago

Nathaniel, I don't think most women think that.... It does however depend on how you approach a woman. If it's a friendly hi and chat without getting too close and other creepy stuff (talking to my boobs) then I'd be ok with it. So next time, ask her out, offer her a coffee, walk in the park...something simple and nice.

47points

Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)

When I was a teenager, back in the seventies, I was told a girl always waits for a boy to ask her out. I thought it was b******t then, and never followed it. Boy, did I get a lot of crap from other girls, and some of the boys, because of it. I always said that because I was taking the initiative that the others wouldn’t, I wasn’t going to end up with a life full of missed chances and what-ifs that they were destined to regret. Got to date a lot of really great guys that way—-including guys who other girls sat and waited to be asked out by, and weren’t. All because I did the asking when the guy appeared to not have the nerve to do it himself—-and that includes my husband.

11points

Crazy Dubagay 2 years ago

Hell yeah you did.

2points

Peaches 2 years ago

When I met my husband, we flirted a little bit and I left the store he worked at. Then, I ran back in and gave him my number and told him he was cute. It was the only time I ever made a move like that, and the only time he'd had a woman make the first move. Worked out well for us!

8points

Daria B 2 years ago

Sorry, too introverted for that. I'll ask you out if we develop a friendly bond, though, and I'm 100% sure I'm not bothering you.

8points

Hugo Raible 2 years ago

I don't know any man who would be bothered by someone suggesting to have a beer/tea at the new cafe. No worries, you can't do anything wrong there.

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Lola 2 years ago

It’s amazing how much we have evolved in many ways, but not in this way. We still wait for men to ask us out, we still wait for men to ask us to marry them, and we still wait for them to make the first move. I’m sorry but this whole thing is backward.

7points

Ivana 2 years ago

I asked my husband out on a date tonight and he still hasn't responded. Also, he was all bubbly because some of our female friends noticed he was depressed and did a whole little event just to cheer him up. He was smiling and over joyed and told me how they all told him he was pretty. I was like "I tell you you are pretty all the time" and he replied "Yea be we are basically the same person and let's face it, we got low standards, so it doesn't mean as much coming from you." LOL. Highly recommend for men to get some gal pals to perk them up from time to time.

4points

Crazy Dubagay 2 years ago

Agreed.

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setsuriseikou 2 years ago

Have done just that a few times. Surely, girls are scared of rejection as much as boys are, but luckily, my feelings were reciprocated each time :) So yeah, let's ask them out!

4points

Pezor Zass 2 years ago

i'm 50 and have spent years of my life dating. I've been asked out once. It takes a toll.

4points

Susan Reid Smith 2 years ago

I did. We've been married for over 30 years.

2points

Shabette the Great 2 years ago

After my friend wouldn't take my obvious hints (kiss on the cheek followed by "call me,") I asked him out. Our first child was recently born on our 5th wedding anniversary. Best decision ever. Just ask him out!

1point

Steve Fischer 2 years ago

For most of my life, it was the girl who always made the first move. If it hadn't been for that I'd probably still be a virgin instead of a great grandfather

1point

HarriMissesScotland 2 years ago

I dated one person from my hometown, then drove 30 miles to ask a guy out. I was 16 back in 1972.

1point

Ghaniyah Verma 1 year ago

Yeah. I mean, I think women think guys are supposed to ask girls out and it can't work the other way around. It does.

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Cibalae 2 years ago

After my 20-year shitty marriage ended, I fell for this amazing guy so hard. Finally got the courage to ask him out, didn't know he was taken already. He did say no in a nicest possible way, but still hurts as hell as I see him every day at work.

0points

Darija Čolaković Cvik 2 years ago

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Moiya Hackett 2 years ago

This one goes all the way for every woman too

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Caleb Bishop 2 years ago

It took my wife coming around for 6 months before I got the hint...please just make it known what you want!

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Deirdre McNeil 2 years ago

I asked my husband out. Best decision ever. He said he was too afraid to ask me!

0points

Wistiti 2 years ago

I made the first move... we have two beautiful kids now and a great story to tell.

0points

Michael Sanders 2 years ago

I’ve said before and I’ll say again, I don’t care how tough or suave a guy thinks he is or makes himself out to be, there is a period of pure terror getting the courage to approach you.

0points

Tamara Kroonen 2 years ago

We, the girls, also have to deal with fear of rejection, that's why we give subtle hints in the hope you catch them and ask us out.

0points

creative user name 2 years ago

i mean, i won't date you, but i can offer some chocolate cake!

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Somewhat-Guilty 2 years ago

I'm a girl and I have personally ask every guy I've been with out. I do get nos something, but heck, I tried. Only one of the guys I was with didn't appreciate it, said it was a guys job to ask a girl out

0points

Kate 2 years ago

As a 40 yo woman who has never been asked out I can say DITTO!!! Also for those that say that men do not get hints, some women don’t either. I am the most oblivious person. If a man has ever flirted with me, I never knew it.

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jolie laide 2 years ago

I do! I love communicating too. Who is paying for what or splitting the bill, etc. I like spoiling people too. I know this topic is complicated, so I don't claim to speak for everyone, just for me.

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commie pinkofag 2 years ago

That makes sense. Men don't need to feel wanted or loved, and so have no need for anyone else's attention. Men, of course, have no feelings at all. We're just sex machines - completely dead inside.

0points

The Cute Cat 2 years ago

Not every men.. Some wanted to be the one who ask

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Cocoa pop 2 years ago

But I'm lesbian

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Elsie 2 years ago

Rejection is so hard it's hard on ladies just as it is on men

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September 2 years ago

I've had many friends in the past that would get guys to ask them out just because they were hungry and wanted to be fed. It's fairly common I suspect. I ditched a few friends because of this and similar behavior. Not a judgment just a I don't want that around me, so boundaries

0points

Amy Stone-Chandler 2 years ago

First the younger generation, all these new rules.. how do you date?

0points

Vitor Hofstetter 2 years ago

Please don't! We want to initiate it, 100% of the times

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Dyson Fey 2 years ago

Guys only want one thing: "Feed me! Please?🥺"

-2points

Elmie Pumpkinbush 2 years ago

I would never ask a guy out. Never. Because I will be labelled easy, needy and other such things. It is no women's fault, it is all on men who can't miss a chance to hurt women.

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Nojman 2 years ago

Wow as I guy I didn't know I wanted to hurt women. Crazy. :/

2points

Mette Stenersen 2 years ago

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Becky Samuel 2 years ago (edited)

If you believe that, then you're making it true. Asking someone out doesn't mean making yourself into a victim.

11points

Denmasterflex , Jonas Weckschmied Report

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Just because I’m not talking, doesn’t mean I’m not enjoying my time with you.

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Nathaniel 2 years ago

My measure of how close you feel with someone. I have had many a happy a time just sat reading a book, with someone sat next to me also reading or doing puzzles etc. No communication, just being there with each other.

187points

Additional_Breath_89 , Anastasia Sklyar Report

Relationship expert Dan explained to Bored Panda that even though it’s wonderful to have the support of your partner when it comes to the things that you most care about, at the end of the day, we have to understand that this won’t be the case in every scenario.

“A man needs to be aware that his girlfriend or wife may not understand his passion project the way he does,” he pointed out that a guy’s girlfriend might simply not ‘get’ why he wants what he wants or needs what he needs.

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We like random gifts, we like random hugs, we like random signs of affection and love — sometimes just a cup of coffee in my favorite mug is enough to convince me it’s going to be a good day.

Final score:

358points

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Hawkmoon 2 years ago

Isn't this the case for all humans, male or female?

219points

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We don't know where we want to eat either.

NorthYorkJoe , Chan Walrus Report

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358points

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shae 2 years ago

I knew it!

246points

Psychological_Pay_36 , Gadiel Lazcano Report

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Sometimes stuff is just difficult. For no reason I can also be sad, just because I don’t cry doesn’t mean I’m not sad.

Also

We don’t want to be the ones who always initiates sex, it makes us feel creepy sometimes.

Final score:

346points

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Dylan Howell 2 years ago

YESSS

124points

“She may not see the importance of it, or might be annoyed with it because he has failed at it for years on end and they have bills to pay,” Dan said that some people might even start resenting their partners if their passions, projects, and goals haven’t yielded fruit (yet).

“She wants to see progress in their life and have a feeling of security about their future, rather than watching him spending years or decades fiddling around with something that isn't providing results for them as a couple now,” he noted how some women think and how they sometimes disregard what guys think is important.

#10

When we're start dating, all other women don't magically become unattractive. No, I don't want to be with them, but some are still pretty. I will look. I won't stare. It means nothing and has no influence on my feelings for you. Btw, I'll probably look at that guy with huge arms too, and it won't bother me if you do the same. Attractive people are just beautiful things in nature like a sunset or a mountain view. Go ahead and look. Enjoy. I don't want to stick my d**k in any of them.

TMAC77TNM Report

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310points

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Foxxy (The Original) 2 years ago

I 100% agree. As the saying goes, you can look but can't touch.

184points

#11

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We need just as much support as you do, it’s always a shock when a guys kills himself until you look back at all the subtle cries for help. We’re screaming on the inside and we need someone to let us know it’s okay.

fosterdylan , Daniel Reche Report

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298points

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Natalia A 2 years ago

Helplines for the men in the UK: https://www.safeline.org.uk/what-we-do/men/ https://www.mankind.org.uk/ https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/ https://www.thecalmzone.net/

160points

#12

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Men love being the target of a romantic gesture. Many men never have been.

GamerFromJump , Brittani Burns Report

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Catarina 2 years ago

When we we're dattting i left post-its with notes all around the house with litle hearts and my husband still talks about that 🥰

143points

However, Dan believes that even a lack of support can be a blessing in disguise. “A woman behaving like that in a relationship is often a blessing for a man. In many cases, a dissatisfied girlfriend or wife will drive a man to work harder and smarter, which can lead to the success of his passion project,” he said that some guys go the extra mile when they have something to prove to the people closest to them.

“He will have a 'must succeed' attitude, rather than only giving it a shot and seeing how it goes. That's often the difference between success and failure.”

#13

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We aren't great with hints. Communication is king.

I-moth , Juan Pablo Serrano A Report

Final score:

276points

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Caro Caro 2 years ago (edited)

Yeah, you put the trash by the front door for him to take out and him: "Honey I'm home" and steps over the trash.... Just kidding. Seriously, It's true, you men aren't great when it's a guessing (hinting) game. But if asked what to do most men don't mind that and will do it!

102points

#14

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We actually really want to be complimented too. A 60 year old women complimented me 5 years ago and it still makes me feel good, which just shows how little we get compliments.

Snoo_95427 , Marina Abrosimova Report

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274points

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Tobias Reaper 2 years ago

my best friend who is female told me when we first met 5 years ago my hair looks good short i have cut it short ever since and try to keep it short

137points

Ragnaroknight , Jess Bailey Designs Report

#15

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Get away from me at night in the summertime, I still love you. I’m just hot and don’t want to snuggle.

Final score:

256points

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ToGo 2 years ago

A man like this would suit me just fine! Get away from me at night, every season. I don't mind snuggling for a few minutes but then I want my own side of the bed and my own cover. I'll be a much more romantic and pleasant woman during the day if I get a good sleep 😂.

193points

However, that’s not to say that support isn’t important. It is! And a lack of it can be a very clear indication that the relationship might not be working as well as it should. Passion projects, large or small, can help identify weaknesses in relationships by seeing how one’s partner reacts to them.

“If a man finds that no matter how much progress he makes, she still gets annoyed and doesn’t like him working on it, he needs to start thinking about whether or not she should remain part of his life,” the expert said.

“He doesn’t need to leave her right away, though. He should make real progress on his passion project and then, if she is still dissatisfied, he should calmly and lovingly let her know that he’s not going to stop working on it and if she doesn’t like that, she is welcome to leave him.”

#16

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men It’s ok to make the first move. Guys can be shy too. Come talk to me instead of staring at me.

qualitygoats**t Report

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254points

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Foxxy (The Original) 2 years ago (edited)

I made the first move with my now hubby. I approached him on the bus, didn't even know who he was.

160points

#17

If you don’t want to hear the truth about something don’t ask me to tell you the truth. Because I’m going to tell you the truth every time.

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254points

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John Brant 2 years ago

OMG...THIS! Don't ask if you don't like the answer!

162points

#18

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men When we say we're thinking about nothing, the majority of the time it literally is just nothing or ridiculous scenarios that we make up that sound stupid when said out loud.

yeetgodmcnechass , Jason Strull Report

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238points

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Janus Preez 2 years ago

Currently I'm wondering how they make tennis balls

184points

#19

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men When we tell women that we don’t know how we feel about something it’s usually true and we genuinely don’t really understand how we are supposed to feel. I personally wasn’t allowed to express emotions growing up and it turned into me not being able to understand my emotions.

rb2130 , Adrian Swancar Report

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236points

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User# 6 2 years ago

Also, when you ask 'what are you thinking about' the answer 'nothing' is true. Trust me, a men's head can be completely vacant.

127points

Dutch Swimmer Goes Viral For Super Revealing Trunks During 2024 Olympics: “Is This Legal?”

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#20

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men I really like to hang out with my friends because I love them. Not because I don't want to spend time with you.

haankip , Stephan Seeber Report

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220points

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Tracy Wallick 2 years ago

People who are insecure about their SO spending time with their friends probably need to think about why that is, rather than taking it out on their SO.

133points

#21

We aren’t unemotional, we just may not show it as often. It hurts when I’ve had to hear from my mother or sister say things like “you’re a guy, you aren’t good with your emotions” or “you don’t understand being emotional”. I do. I absolutely do. Saying things like “I don’t understand” in such an arrogant, condescending tone only makes me want to show them less.

TheMando9 Report

Final score:

218points

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- 2 years ago

I think it's worth it to explain things. My mother used to snap at me "Don't you understand?!" She wouldn't explain what she meant and that left me feeling too stupid to be worthy of proper communication. It wasn't until I was 20 that I finally burst into tears and told her, "You always say that! If you want me to understand, you explain!" She communicated better after that.

125points

#22

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men All the hurtful things they say don’t just magically disappear from men’s memories. We have feelings too. And criticizing a man for being honest with feelings as not being manly is not only cruel but also highly ironic considering there’s a constant yearning for men with emotion.

TheGhostofYourPast , Ekrulila Report

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210points

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Furious George 2 years ago

I hope women really read this one. I have had partners say some truly heinous s**t to me over the years, things that I would never say, and then just brush it off with something like "I was stressed". Unfortunately, just because it wasn't a big deal to you doesn't mean that it won't still haunt me for years.

148points

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#23

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Not all men of course, and some women have it too but.......The nothing box is real.

The nothing box is a small section of the brain that contains absolutely nothing at all. When we enter the nothing box we genuinely are not thinking a single thought. There is no song playing in our head, there is no thought process, there's so much nothing that we don't even recognise at the time that we're not thinking anything, because to do so would be a thought. If someone looks like their brain has just checked out and they have a dead-eyed stare into middle distance then they're probably in the nothing box.

The passage of time ceases to exist, no physical sensation makes it through. Once in the nothing box, you stay in there until some external stimulus or the formation of an errant thought pulls you out of it. Leaving the nothing box is the first time that you are even aware you were in the nothing box.

It's like a nap for the brain while all other functions remain.

Mischief_Makers , Ümit Bulut Report

Final score:

201points

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Lee Macro 2 years ago

I have some good moments doing this. Laying down, not thinking, just being

77points

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#24

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men I want real knight armor for my birthday but I’m not allowed to say so because society forces me to hide it.

FortniteKevin , wikimedia.commons Report

Final score:

192points

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Nathaniel 2 years ago

Stormtrooper armour for me, original SW.

101points

#25

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men If I’m lying in bed with someone, just enjoying the moment together, I should be able to just enjoy the moment and let my mind drift to wherever it’s going. If you want to talk about the future of the relationship or something, that’s great and we can do that if you start that conversation, but if you ask me out of the blue what I’m thinking about, and I say Bolbi’s “Slap slap slap” song from Jimmy Neutron, then you shouldn’t get mad at me just because it’s not the thing you wanted me to be thinking about! Just tell me you want to talk about the relationship and we can do that!

SolarisIX , Edward Eyer Report

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189points

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Tracy Wallick 2 years ago

And now I have that song stuck in my head, thanks a lot

61points

#26

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Playing “hard to get” does not work for a lot of people.

LavaTGP , Tirachard Kumtanom Report

Final score:

182points

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Daria B 2 years ago

"Playing hard to get" is immoral to start with. It skews the understanding of rejection.

142points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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Mom Leaves $250k Inheritance To Son, Throws A Fit When Daughter Stops Looking After Her

#27

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men If you take the initiative and ask an average looking dude out, there's like a 99% chance he'll say yes.

Mizar97 , Clay Banks Report

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182points

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Janus Preez 2 years ago

The other 1% is because they are not into women

99points

#28

When I get angry at my video games I’m not an angry person. I just f**kin suck at Dark Souls.

MrDrewE Report

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177points

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Furious George 2 years ago

🤣🤣🤣 my wife gets so mad when I play call of duty because "it REALLY doesn't sound like I'm having fun".

129points

ToastyTheToastr , Priscilla Du Preez Report

#29

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Sometimes men just need some alone time. (From everyone and everything)

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176points

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Dolevaal 2 years ago

The same goes for women and basically human beings.

166points

#30

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men When I say “I don’t mind,” I really mean it. If I did mind, I would say so.

MaygarRodub , cottonbro Report

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171points

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Janus Preez 2 years ago

Esoecially with food - do you want beef or chicken ? I don't mind, I really don't mind, either one will do. I'm not indecisive, its just food

65points

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Wintermute 2 years ago

Fun story. In college a girl came into my dorm room in nothing but boxers and a tank top. I knew she had a crush on my room mate so I figured she was there to see him, but he was out with someone else. She stuck around and watched TV with me anyway. We chatted a lot. The topic of sex even came up a couple times. Then she went home. 18 years, yes 18 YEARS, later I was thinking about her for no reason when I started to wonder why she stuck around for an hour even when my room mate wasn't there.... Then it hit me. 18 years! That's how long it took me to pick up on the clue. Poor self esteem is a helluva drug, man.

50points

albernistuff 4sale 2 years ago

Amen Bruthuh! Everyone once in a while, an old memory of how OBLIVIOUS I was slaps me in the face at random, and usually inopportune moments.

14points

Bob Belcher 2 years ago

Same dude same. I had a group of girls surround me at my locker in 7th grade. One girl was newish, had been there several months and asked me my name. I was having a crappy day and shot back with "funny, if your a girl everyone knows your name but if your a guy noone cares" and walked off. I just realized last year they were trying to set us up on a date. I'm 37 now, nearly 25 years went by.

6points

Linda Simpson Abare 2 years ago

It happens to the best of you! Id you haven't seen it yet look on youtube for something like "Nicole Kidman wanted to date Jimmy Fallon". It's hilarious!! Poor Jimmy🤦🏼‍♀️🤣

3points

Chucky Cheezburger 2 years ago

Yep. Had a girl tell me that way back in high school, she was "throwing" herself at me...Of course,it didn't even register on my radar.She told me this years later after she had married (her husband and I were friends as well) about this while we were hanging out.

2points

RafCo 2 years ago

I can honestly say this has never happened to me. I have never thought, hmm she might have liked me. Not twenty years later. But as I said in an earlier post, I'm a solid 4. Not missing any teeth or anything, but short balding, etc.

2points

Susanne B 2 years ago (edited)

That is a long time. When it happened to me I figured it out already the day after. Too late of course

0points

sofacushionfort 2 years ago

I was hoping to see “it’s not acceptable to hit us when you’re angry with us, and think we can take it because we’re bigger.” That may be true, but hopefully the guys will bail before the relationship produces children. If she hits you, she’ll probably hit them too.

42points

Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

Yes, I'm a little disappointed that this wasn't mentioned too.

14points

Swaf 2 years ago

At this point I'm happy with not being stabbed with a kitchen knife. It's not like the police would do anything. Once they arrive she'd say she was defending herself and I'd have to finish bleeding in jail. Not current relationship. After the police just assumed I was a villain I decided to try someone else less prone to crazy

2points

Jen Pierce 2 years ago

Never OK.

2points

Mahogany Eclipse 2 years ago

This is important!

0points

JB 2 years ago

This thread made me cry. Toxic masculinity is imposed by all genders and has done immeasurable harm to the wonderful guys in our world. Hey! I see you. I see you are kind, that you have feelings, that you are handsome no matter what culture says you should be. I have met and know far more wonderful men than “creeps”.

32points

Susanne B 2 years ago

Yes creeps are the exception

1point

Mikayla Lynn 2 years ago

I love how this thread is what men want women to know and somehow you still made it men's fault. How about toxic femininity? Take responsibility for your own actions, Ladies.

-3points

Stannous Flouride 2 years ago

Several of these are about men thinking of nothing. I wish I could experience that.

11points

Hayoon Kim 2 years ago

69 things. That is so intentional

11points

Robert Thompson 2 years ago

I want love and peace. A best friend to spend my life with. Butts and Boobs don't put a smile on my face; but a smile on your face will.

10points

Crazy Dubagay 2 years ago

Exactly. Agreed

4points

BA Nelson 2 years ago

I was told by a guy that my tools made him feel un-masculine (we weren't dating or anything) so ever since then I've been self conscious of telling people I build things or fix things. Is it really a big deal or do you think it was just that guy?

7points

Amy S 2 years ago

My husband loves it when I do DIY because he's not really into it so I'd say probably just that guy. Imagine the situation the other way round, a guy tells a woman he enjoys baking - will she feel less feminine because he can bake or will she ask for a cookie?

7points

Octavia Hansen 2 years ago

Think of this kind of article as a road map . . . there's more than one way to arrive at a destination. Sometimes road conditions change. Nothing works all the time, every time. Mostly, it would help if everyone wasn't so passive, thinking the world will come to them. These are just ideas to try. I really wish people would be happier, get off the phone, have something fun to say and ASK about the other person. I've been a free psychiatrist too many times. Brooding is fine for writers and artists, doesn't work in the dating world. Well, guess it does -- if you want to make people go away. Hey, there's a place to walk and talk . . . wanna go? . . .

5points

Gianna 2 years ago

I hear a lot of men saying things that women go through themselves. There is nothing wrong with any of these things that were posted. However, it is easier to to just tell a woman that you want to be left alone to think or whatever. Or if a guy wants something from women, then when you have your "talks" mention it. We aren't mind readers as well and even when we are better to figure things out about people, doesn't mean all women do. I have very good intuitions, I observe very well and can tell something is wrong, etc...but again, a lot of women don't and they are in their own little world mostly thinking about themselves. I on the other hand, love helping or being their for other people so I get it, personally. Communication is the key and goes a long way.

3points

DragonflyGreen 2 years ago

So many of these comments are geared toward the misconceptions about women hinting, not being straightforward, and all that BS. I don't know a single woman in my life who pulls that BS. I think some of these men's pickers are broken if they meet the same type of woman over and over again.

3points

Justine Queequag 2 years ago

Same can be said for women who think all men are jerks, when in fact it's only the men that THEY pick over and over yet nobody especially on this forum has the ovaries to admit their faults and mistakes

3points

nad krut 2 years ago

Me cussing through a home improvement project is just how I work through it, has nothing to do with whether or not I want to do the project.

3points

Susan Mercurio 2 years ago

Too bad men have been whining for centuries about What Do Women Want? You want us to understand you but you never put any time into trying to understand us.

2points

Monica Hall 2 years ago

It makes me sad that this thread even exists. :( Men are human, too, just like women. Why they are expected to act like tough, emotionless, untouchable beings is beyond me.

2points

Jamie Mcdonald 2 years ago

We're not rocks.

0points

Yayaboobo 2 years ago

This post is contradictory at times which makes it exhausting. That's why I'm out of the game and have been for awhile. I don't EVER want to go back.

2points

Phil Vaive 2 years ago

It's almost as if each of these men are individuals and that all men AREN'T the same...weird, hey? (please note, the sarcasm isn't directed at you, but at articles like this those writers seem to think that people can be defined simply by how/where/when they were born)

5points

KnowsWhatsUp 2 years ago (edited)

Another on is that we don't all drive big trucks to compensate.

2points

Rotunda 2 years ago

I saw the title and was happy that after so many statements of men about women finally women speak about things they don't understand about men. But nope. The title indicates it is about women but again it is about men. Clickbait.

1point

Piglet 2 years ago

Karin, are you commenting about a completely different post, because I see ZERO sexism here.

1point

jk nbt 2 years ago (edited)

HERE ARE A FEW MORE: 1) Find a way to verbalize gently & politely so as to let us know what you are thinking. We are not mind-readers. Don't go around huffy and angry is somehow we miss non-verbal clues you are giving about what you are thinking or what you want. Use words with men. Non-verbal clues may work well with your girlfriends, but men are a little thick in this department. 2) You are not going to get your way all the time, even if you feel strongly about something. Don't escalate, it only makes it worse. 3) You will want to do things like go to the zoo or something that might not be possible at that time. Be reasonable. If you get so frustrated over a little thing like that that you end the relationship, the man will probably just let you go on your way since he didn't know you could be so unreasonable. 4) You are not perfect, even if your precious mommy said you were when you were a child. You can make really bad mistakes and say things that are very hurtful. When you man asks you about it later when things cool off, admit your mistakes & try to make it right. Don't say something like, "oh, it was just a misunderstanding. You are the one who is over-reacting." (OUTRAGEOUS)

1point

Falcon on Dizzy 2 years ago

I think I'm speaking for all men rn, but yeah us men are dense as hell

-3points

John L 2 years ago (edited)

I like how quite a few of these refer to essentially "just say what you want/mean". Too true. My own experience in most of my relationships, is we don't read minds. I've asked a few do you really expect me to read your mind? More than a few, reluctantly admitted, yes, when pressed. I should "just know".....

1point

observations from the moon 2 years ago

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0points

ZAPanda 2 years ago

I hate the fact that as someone who considers themself far-left and strictly anti gender stereotypes, all of these comments applied to my past reliationships. It really sucks. And that's why I won't bother again. WAAAAY too much work.

1point

Bug 2 years ago

These are true for women though. All it did for me was highlight how men and women have essentially the same issues but we frame them as being exclusive to "men" or "women". A lot of these reminded me of ex boyfriends and myself

9points

anime girl 2 years ago

But…..I knew all this and I’m a girl.

0points

Squee She 2 years ago

Good article! I'm asexual and aromantic, but trying to improve my friendship game. Some of these are just really good unisex things across the board!

0points

Tamara 2 years ago

So, it turns out that men are actually very simular to women, it's almost like we're the same species

0points

Liz-ard 2 years ago

There is a book in Sweden called “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus”. Don’t know from what country it comes or if it’s in more languages than Swedish, but it explains a lot!

0points

Susan Mercurio 2 years ago

So this Dan person is spouting off about "what women think"? And he knows this how?

0points

Isaac Harvey 2 years ago

Not everyone does the same thing to relax, either... my dad likes to drive cars with his friends, I like to just sit down at my desk and watch YouTube videos or visit Bored Panda.

0points

Homer Jay 2 years ago

Posts that just make men stalkers preys and psyco preys. But, hey, who am I to stom them if they want these perks

0points

Lovin' Life 2 years ago

If it's a feeling that a woman has then most likely, men have that same feeling. Validate them all.

0points

Karin Jansen 2 years ago

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JB 2 years ago

Seriously? You take a thread that allows men to speak up and say how they feel as sexism against women? Yeah, you should be beyond this b******t.

13points

Fransiscus Augusta Tarigan 2 years ago

I think there are much more threads of how men are jerk and stuff, in Bored Panda

11points

Veronica Sjöberg 2 years ago

I actually think this one was ok. It's filled with stereotypes, yes, but most could easily be twisted around as both genders do these things and no one gets hurt on a structural level. I've seen these posts discussing issues about gender inequality in the workplace, family dynamics etc and men trying to say it's the same (or worse) for them. I'm feel strongly against that but this was fine to me.

2points

Bill Evs 2 years ago

Hmm, I think you might be one of the people this article is talking about...........

2points

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Wintermute 2 years ago

50points

albernistuff 4sale 2 years ago

Amen Bruthuh! Everyone once in a while, an old memory of how OBLIVIOUS I was slaps me in the face at random, and usually inopportune moments.

14points

Bob Belcher 2 years ago

6points

Linda Simpson Abare 2 years ago

It happens to the best of you! Id you haven't seen it yet look on youtube for something like "Nicole Kidman wanted to date Jimmy Fallon". It's hilarious!! Poor Jimmy🤦🏼‍♀️🤣

3points

Chucky Cheezburger 2 years ago

2points

RafCo 2 years ago

2points

Susanne B 2 years ago (edited)

That is a long time. When it happened to me I figured it out already the day after. Too late of course

0points

sofacushionfort 2 years ago

42points

Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

Yes, I'm a little disappointed that this wasn't mentioned too.

14points

Swaf 2 years ago

2points

Jen Pierce 2 years ago

Never OK.

2points

Mahogany Eclipse 2 years ago

This is important!

0points

JB 2 years ago

32points

Susanne B 2 years ago

Yes creeps are the exception

1point

Mikayla Lynn 2 years ago

I love how this thread is what men want women to know and somehow you still made it men's fault. How about toxic femininity? Take responsibility for your own actions, Ladies.

-3points

Stannous Flouride 2 years ago

Several of these are about men thinking of nothing. I wish I could experience that.

11points

Hayoon Kim 2 years ago

69 things. That is so intentional

11points

Robert Thompson 2 years ago

I want love and peace. A best friend to spend my life with. Butts and Boobs don't put a smile on my face; but a smile on your face will.

10points

Crazy Dubagay 2 years ago

Exactly. Agreed

4points

BA Nelson 2 years ago

7points

Amy S 2 years ago

7points

Octavia Hansen 2 years ago

5points

Gianna 2 years ago

3points

DragonflyGreen 2 years ago

3points

Justine Queequag 2 years ago

3points

nad krut 2 years ago

Me cussing through a home improvement project is just how I work through it, has nothing to do with whether or not I want to do the project.

3points

Susan Mercurio 2 years ago

Too bad men have been whining for centuries about What Do Women Want? You want us to understand you but you never put any time into trying to understand us.

2points

Monica Hall 2 years ago

It makes me sad that this thread even exists. :( Men are human, too, just like women. Why they are expected to act like tough, emotionless, untouchable beings is beyond me.

2points

Jamie Mcdonald 2 years ago

We're not rocks.

0points

Yayaboobo 2 years ago

This post is contradictory at times which makes it exhausting. That's why I'm out of the game and have been for awhile. I don't EVER want to go back.

2points

Phil Vaive 2 years ago

5points

KnowsWhatsUp 2 years ago (edited)

Another on is that we don't all drive big trucks to compensate.

2points

Rotunda 2 years ago

1point

Piglet 2 years ago

Karin, are you commenting about a completely different post, because I see ZERO sexism here.

1point

jk nbt 2 years ago (edited)

1point

Falcon on Dizzy 2 years ago

I think I'm speaking for all men rn, but yeah us men are dense as hell

-3points

John L 2 years ago (edited)

1point

observations from the moon 2 years ago

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0points

ZAPanda 2 years ago

1point

Bug 2 years ago

9points

anime girl 2 years ago

But…..I knew all this and I’m a girl.

0points

Squee She 2 years ago

Good article! I'm asexual and aromantic, but trying to improve my friendship game. Some of these are just really good unisex things across the board!

0points

Tamara 2 years ago

So, it turns out that men are actually very simular to women, it's almost like we're the same species

0points

Liz-ard 2 years ago

There is a book in Sweden called “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus”. Don’t know from what country it comes or if it’s in more languages than Swedish, but it explains a lot!

0points

Susan Mercurio 2 years ago

So this Dan person is spouting off about "what women think"? And he knows this how?

0points

Isaac Harvey 2 years ago

Not everyone does the same thing to relax, either... my dad likes to drive cars with his friends, I like to just sit down at my desk and watch YouTube videos or visit Bored Panda.

0points

Homer Jay 2 years ago

Posts that just make men stalkers preys and psyco preys. But, hey, who am I to stom them if they want these perks

0points

Lovin' Life 2 years ago

If it's a feeling that a woman has then most likely, men have that same feeling. Validate them all.

0points

Karin Jansen 2 years ago

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JB 2 years ago

Seriously? You take a thread that allows men to speak up and say how they feel as sexism against women? Yeah, you should be beyond this b******t.

13points