30 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men

Unfortunately, we’re not mind-readers—at least… most of us aren’t. That means that if we want somebody to know something, we have to vocalize it. Or hope beyond hope that they’ll pick up on the trail of clues we leave in our body language.

The men of Reddit have come together and shared the things that they wish women knew and the things that are important to them, in the context of romantic relationships and beyond. They opened up about cute things like the fact that men really do enjoy hugs and compliments and also broached practical topics like the need to be alone from time to time. (Hey, boundaries are important, especially in relationships.)

As you’re scrolling down, upvote the posts that you agree with. And you should also swing by the comment section to share the things that you wish your partners knew, too, dear Pandas. Bored Panda spoke about the dynamic between men and women, and why it’s important to communicate about what’s most important to us with dating and relationship expert Dan Bacon, the founder of The Modern Man. Scroll down to read what he had to say.

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Just say it straight. Don't make me read between the lines or trying and take a hint. How in the heck am I supposed to know you're into me if you don't say it. I don't know you well enough to read your brand of body language, but I'm interested in you cause you seem cool.

If you respond with a "no" to my interest I will respect your boundaries, don't expect me to "try harder". No means no.

Verbal communication is way better.

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Bored Panda asked dating and relationship expert Dan to elaborate on the kinds of attitudes that are healthy in relationships, as well as whether it’s important to be on the same page in terms of respecting and understanding each other’s passions in life.

“The best attitude is true, sincere love where you honestly care about the other person and only want the best for them. However, that can only happen if the dynamic of the relationship continues to produce those feelings over time,” the expert told us.

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“If the dynamic of the relationship causes one or both of them to lose their feelings of attraction and love, then it will be very difficult to behave, think or care in the same way they did in the beginning. As a result, the relationship will become stale and a breakup or divorce will almost certainly happen at some point,” he said that consistent, genuine effort has to be put into relationships to make them work.

“Unfortunately, most people don’t ever get taught how to create and maintain a mutually happy, in love and attracted relationship dynamic, so they just wing it and hope for the best, which then results in high levels of breakups and divorces,” Dan said that just hoping for the best without actively doing your best isn’t good enough.

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Girl: I’m dropping so many hints! Why doesn’t he get them?
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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Please ask us out. It makes us feel wanted and loved.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Just because I’m not talking, doesn’t mean I’m not enjoying my time with you.

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Relationship expert Dan explained to Bored Panda that even though it’s wonderful to have the support of your partner when it comes to the things that you most care about, at the end of the day, we have to understand that this won’t be the case in every scenario.

“A man needs to be aware that his girlfriend or wife may not understand his passion project the way he does,” he pointed out that a guy’s girlfriend might simply not ‘get’ why he wants what he wants or needs what he needs.

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We like random gifts, we like random hugs, we like random signs of affection and love — sometimes just a cup of coffee in my favorite mug is enough to convince me it’s going to be a good day.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We don't know where we want to eat either.

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shae 2 years ago

I knew it!

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Nathaniel 2 years ago

But we can all default to burger and chips.

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Don't Look 2 years ago

I know where I don't want to eat. Then again, if we go there, I'm going to eat something. I'm just not picky enough to be picky.

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Foxxy (The Original) 2 years ago

I can attest to this. Hubby and I are as bad as each other.

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Babsevs 2 years ago

Yup, my hubby is as bad as I am when it comes to choosing where/what we want to eat

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Philly Bob Squires 2 years ago

Like the old joke... "Hey hon! Guess where we're going for dinner tonight?" Her: "XX place!!" Me: "How'd ya guess?" Then XX place is where you take her! LOL

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Tom Wilson 2 years ago

I wish women would realize I don't care where we eat or what I ask them out just because I want to be with them

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Donkey boi 2 years ago

And once we've decided on the 'where', I'll need an hour to decide the 'What'... before settling on my usual "safe" option.

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Bobby 2 years ago

I don't always know what I want, but I can have feelings about what I don't want. My wife hates it

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SPQRBob 2 years ago

If you have put the choice on the other party, it is best that you state your veto options up front before the other person starts making suggestions (e.g. I don't really care where we go, but I would prefer not to eat X, Y, or Z tonight).

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Pink Aesthetic 1 year ago

At least dont be like my ex who threatened to break up with me if I didn't decide the food

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Dillon Hughes 2 years ago

With you is all that matters. And not next to the people that talk way to loud…

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Sam McKillip 2 years ago

"Why else would I ask you?!"

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Asswipe 2 years ago

I know. If I don't know it's pizza. And if I say I don't know I don't want to suggest pizza (again).

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Emo_Raccoon 2 years ago

ah!

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Vitor Hofstetter 2 years ago

Weak men don't know

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uh oh 2 years ago

AHAHAHHAHA

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backatya 2 years ago

choices choices choices. I usually flip for the 2 best choices

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Susan Mercurio 2 years ago

So you throw the burden of the choice on us?

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Moiya Hackett 2 years ago

nobody does! The best thing is to turn up to a date and be told where you going or what your doing.

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Diane Knight 2 years ago

Not in this household, I suggest somewhere, it's "too expensive" then I go to a cheaper option it's "no I don't like fast food place". 'You have preferences, then you choose or I stay at home and cook.

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Erirug 2 years ago

🤣😂I depend on my husband to make this decision for us. He's just so good at it😩 but he swears he doesn't know either. Now I believe him.

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Caleb Bishop 2 years ago

On that note the vast majority of men are omnivores...we will eat literally anything and can find anything on a menu to eat. We ask because It's more about making you happy and comfortable.

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SelkieBlackfysh 2 years ago

Frankly I only ever have a vague idea of what I want. I want Mexican. I want meat. I want asian. At least it's a starting point lol

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Mike Loux 2 years ago

Yup. We were hoping you would have some good ideas. Honestly, we'll eat anything, just as long as we don't have to pick.

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Alana Voeks 2 years ago

But me saying Tomaso's is going too far. I like quality! Forgive meee

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Redwood Rebelgirl 2 years ago

The classic struggle! 🤣😂😭

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Eric r 2 years ago

? Yes we do

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Rijkærd 2 years ago

Aaah s**t...here we go again...the never ending circle of takeout weekend...

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jolie laide 2 years ago

I always look at this as a challenge. I try to break it down, like... "Do feel like meat?", "Cheese?" etc. plus try to take into account what I know if their eating habits (if I do), etc. I can eat anywhere and find something good for me, so if the person I'm with is struggling, I try to figure it out and take my best guess.

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Maggie Hood 2 years ago (edited)

So that's why they ask us lol

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Crazy Dubagay 2 years ago

So PLEASE just take the initiative.

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commie pinkofag 2 years ago

It's always a man's duty to come up with all the good ideas. So that women may complain about being forced to submit to someone else's agenda.

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Ashlea Saunders 2 years ago

I always know where I want to eat. The problem with my last bf was he was so picky so the selections were very limited. Next time I decide to date someone one of the essentials will be that he likes lots of different kinds of food and will try new places with me.

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marianne eliza 2 years ago

Divide the choice. One person chooses the food ethnicity then the other chooses the restaurant.

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EEF🤓 2 years ago

I always know where I want to go to eat 🤣

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Brendan Wood 2 years ago

False

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Nicole Backs 2 years ago

HA!

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I I 2 years ago

i cook in my house and its a nightmare , ask them what they fancy and they NEVER KNOW but would ALWAYS prefer the thing you didnt cook

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September 2 years ago

I want tacos. Why are you asking? Is tacos a foreign concept for you 🤔 Allow me to educate you then! 🌮😃🌮

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Jules Creative 2 years ago

Whoever is paying / invited the other should pick the place based on dates preference and VALID RESEARCH.

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Ben Steinberg 2 years ago

I think this trick works with all genders, you say "We're going someplace you think is nice. Try and guess!" Then take 'em to their first or second guess...(and tell them they were right).

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Gabe Lumbus 2 years ago

Or when we say we don't care we literally don't care

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Cairo Iceis 2 years ago

I can say with 100% certainty that my husband can NEVER decide where he wants to eat!

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Maurettis 2 years ago

And we don't want to show what we like in fear of being weirded out

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El muerto 2 years ago

but sometimes we want you to chose what feels better for you...so yeah...sometimes is frustrating tho

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Paul Davis 2 years ago

Not true...most guys I know simply aren't that picky, and can think of a dozen places they wouldn't mind eating at. Unlike, it seems, women, who can only ever enjoy eating at one very specific place that they are somehow forbidden to name themselves.

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Mike Ipsen 2 years ago

More likely is we just don't care where we eat most times.

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Kai David 2 years ago

Man- where do you want to eat?. Woman - I don't know/don't care. Man chooses a place convenient. Woman gets mad because thats not where she wants to eat and man is supposed to read womans mind. Evening ruined because she gives man silent treatment like he is supposed to know why she is mad

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AidenDaBored 2 years ago

Well I know, so there won't be a problem with that haha. (I'm a girl if ppl don't get it)

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An Co 2 years ago

Never ask what someone wants to eat. Instead ask "What do you NOT want to eat."

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

Dear women. It's really simple to solve this. State what you prefer (thai, sushi, etc.) and we will just comply. It's really less hassle than tippytoeing around each other. If you want to give us a turn to decide, you know, sometimes, the answer is burger, pizza, or steak and chips. Most times. Really simple. Same goes for movies. If you want to go watch something in French with subtitles, cool. Say so. BUT at least be fair and let us watch some stupid s**t with guns and car chases next time and don't sigh all the way through it. Thanks. Apologies if that's "stereotyped", I haven't yet met a couple this did not apply to. Feel free to cite yourself as a counter example, I am happy to learn. Namaste.

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Damitria 2 years ago

I'm a woman who loves car chases and action. Subtitles not so much and not really into rom-coms. I own my weirdness.

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Catarina 2 years ago

When i choose a table at a restaurant or Simply say: i want to go to the Park with the kids, my husband is relieved because i think he just wants to go along with us and don't have to always make decisions

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Janus Preez 2 years ago

Exactly

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Sometimes stuff is just difficult. For no reason I can also be sad, just because I don’t cry doesn’t mean I’m not sad.

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We don’t want to be the ones who always initiates sex, it makes us feel creepy sometimes.

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“She may not see the importance of it, or might be annoyed with it because he has failed at it for years on end and they have bills to pay,” Dan said that some people might even start resenting their partners if their passions, projects, and goals haven’t yielded fruit (yet).

“She wants to see progress in their life and have a feeling of security about their future, rather than watching him spending years or decades fiddling around with something that isn't providing results for them as a couple now,” he noted how some women think and how they sometimes disregard what guys think is important.

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When we're start dating, all other women don't magically become unattractive. No, I don't want to be with them, but some are still pretty. I will look. I won't stare. It means nothing and has no influence on my feelings for you. Btw, I'll probably look at that guy with huge arms too, and it won't bother me if you do the same. Attractive people are just beautiful things in nature like a sunset or a mountain view. Go ahead and look. Enjoy. I don't want to stick my d**k in any of them.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We need just as much support as you do, it’s always a shock when a guys kills himself until you look back at all the subtle cries for help. We’re screaming on the inside and we need someone to let us know it’s okay.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Men love being the target of a romantic gesture. Many men never have been.

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However, Dan believes that even a lack of support can be a blessing in disguise. “A woman behaving like that in a relationship is often a blessing for a man. In many cases, a dissatisfied girlfriend or wife will drive a man to work harder and smarter, which can lead to the success of his passion project,” he said that some guys go the extra mile when they have something to prove to the people closest to them.

“He will have a 'must succeed' attitude, rather than only giving it a shot and seeing how it goes. That's often the difference between success and failure.”

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We aren't great with hints. Communication is king.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We actually really want to be complimented too. A 60 year old women complimented me 5 years ago and it still makes me feel good, which just shows how little we get compliments.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Get away from me at night in the summertime, I still love you. I’m just hot and don’t want to snuggle.

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However, that’s not to say that support isn’t important. It is! And a lack of it can be a very clear indication that the relationship might not be working as well as it should. Passion projects, large or small, can help identify weaknesses in relationships by seeing how one’s partner reacts to them.

“If a man finds that no matter how much progress he makes, she still gets annoyed and doesn’t like him working on it, he needs to start thinking about whether or not she should remain part of his life,” the expert said.

“He doesn’t need to leave her right away, though. He should make real progress on his passion project and then, if she is still dissatisfied, he should calmly and lovingly let her know that he’s not going to stop working on it and if she doesn’t like that, she is welcome to leave him.”

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men It’s ok to make the first move. Guys can be shy too. Come talk to me instead of staring at me.

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#17

If you don’t want to hear the truth about something don’t ask me to tell you the truth. Because I’m going to tell you the truth every time.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men When we say we're thinking about nothing, the majority of the time it literally is just nothing or ridiculous scenarios that we make up that sound stupid when said out loud.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men When we tell women that we don’t know how we feel about something it’s usually true and we genuinely don’t really understand how we are supposed to feel. I personally wasn’t allowed to express emotions growing up and it turned into me not being able to understand my emotions.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men I really like to hang out with my friends because I love them. Not because I don't want to spend time with you.

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#21

We aren’t unemotional, we just may not show it as often. It hurts when I’ve had to hear from my mother or sister say things like “you’re a guy, you aren’t good with your emotions” or “you don’t understand being emotional”. I do. I absolutely do. Saying things like “I don’t understand” in such an arrogant, condescending tone only makes me want to show them less.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men All the hurtful things they say don’t just magically disappear from men’s memories. We have feelings too. And criticizing a man for being honest with feelings as not being manly is not only cruel but also highly ironic considering there’s a constant yearning for men with emotion.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Not all men of course, and some women have it too but.......The nothing box is real.

The nothing box is a small section of the brain that contains absolutely nothing at all. When we enter the nothing box we genuinely are not thinking a single thought. There is no song playing in our head, there is no thought process, there's so much nothing that we don't even recognise at the time that we're not thinking anything, because to do so would be a thought. If someone looks like their brain has just checked out and they have a dead-eyed stare into middle distance then they're probably in the nothing box.

The passage of time ceases to exist, no physical sensation makes it through. Once in the nothing box, you stay in there until some external stimulus or the formation of an errant thought pulls you out of it. Leaving the nothing box is the first time that you are even aware you were in the nothing box.

It's like a nap for the brain while all other functions remain.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men I want real knight armor for my birthday but I’m not allowed to say so because society forces me to hide it.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men If I’m lying in bed with someone, just enjoying the moment together, I should be able to just enjoy the moment and let my mind drift to wherever it’s going. If you want to talk about the future of the relationship or something, that’s great and we can do that if you start that conversation, but if you ask me out of the blue what I’m thinking about, and I say Bolbi’s “Slap slap slap” song from Jimmy Neutron, then you shouldn’t get mad at me just because it’s not the thing you wanted me to be thinking about! Just tell me you want to talk about the relationship and we can do that!

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Playing “hard to get” does not work for a lot of people.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men If you take the initiative and ask an average looking dude out, there's like a 99% chance he'll say yes.

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#28

When I get angry at my video games I’m not an angry person. I just f**kin suck at Dark Souls.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Sometimes men just need some alone time. (From everyone and everything)

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men When I say “I don’t mind,” I really mean it. If I did mind, I would say so.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men When we went on that date and I kept you warm on that bench and you rested your head on my shoulders. And afterwards we kissed and said goodbye...I still wasn't entirely sure you were into me and I've been thinking about how dumb I am for the last couple of days.

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I still have fond and treasured memories of being appreciated or generally uplifted by compliments I got in 10th grade. I can tell you the exact date of my last hug. I still remember what time it was when someone last told me they were proud of me. And I drown the pain in p**n, booze, and weed, but I still cry myself to sleep most nights because the pain just gets to me.

What, as a guy, do I wish girls knew? I wish they knew how much the little s**t matters. Especially to guys who are anti-social or just introverted. Compliments, appreciation, hugs, it doesn't matter. Affection does so much for guys, in a world that's increasingly devaluing them.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men if you dont tell us you want something we honest to god wont know...

case and point, my Ex was sat at home and i was going to the local shop

"hey, do you want anything from the shop?"

"no, im good"

she got mad because i didnt buy her anything....

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Sometimes men just don’t get hard. It’s not you. It’s many things, from lifestyle and diet to stress and anxiety. And just getting older. Please try not to take it as a sign of lack of attraction or affection. Sometimes it just happens.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We want to be seen as sexy, beautiful creatures. Many of us want to be pursued also, to feel like we don't have to always motivate women into wanting us. Nobody should be the designated initiator 100% of the time.

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Days off are for resting. Ive dated a lot of women who heard I had 2 days off work ad took it as an invitation to make plans for us. Like yeah I appreciate that you put all this effort into planning our time together but sometimes Im just burned out and need like 2 days of just sitting home in my underwear watching tv.

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Just because I'm not in the mood right now doesn't mean I think you're ugly. Sometime when we snuggle, I end up falling asleep. The bed is comfortable, so pressing up against me might not get me in the mood. I'm just content laying down, feeling your body, and falling asleep knowing everything is okay at the moment.

We crave affection and close intimacy, but society tells us if we aren't ready for sex at a moment's notice, we aren't really men. Like F**K I JUST WANNA BE HELD SOMETIMES TOO.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men “Why are you grumpy” is all I hear from my fiancée. Sometimes I just want to be quiet.

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#39

Our feelings are just as valid as yours, and shouldn't be held against us. My fiancee and I are in the process of planning our wedding, and she consistently gets irritated with me because I don't get as excited as she does. I'm sorry, I do want to marry you and I am excited, but I find it really f**king hard to jump up and down about picking out flowers and centerpieces. Just because you have been planning your Disney wedding since you were a young girl doesn't mean dudes do the same, and getting pissy with me because I am not mirroring your emotions exactly is really not cool, and not healthy for both of our mental health and the relationship.

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Only speak if it improves upon the silence.

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If you're throwing signals at a guy, and he's not catching them, it might not be because he's so dense he doesn't notice them. It might be that he does see them, but his self-esteem is so low his internal dialog talks him out of believing you are interested in him in a romantic or sexual context.

Throwing more obvious signals doesn't overcome that. If knowing his self-esteem is that low isn't enough for you to lose interest, be direct. That doesn't mean ask him if he wants to "have coffee" or "get a drink" with you, as either of those leave wiggle room for misinterpretation. Ask him out on a date (specifically say "date"), so there is no mistaking your intention.

The worst thing likely to happen is that he'll say no. Which does sting, but not like spending a month throwing hints he never responds to.

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Respecting our wishes is just as important as us respecting yours.

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#43

When you're mad at anything we did tell us. Don't play the silent treatment game and then get mad when we don't pick up on it or understand what you're doing or why you're doing it. Told my wife this before we got married, lol.

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#44

About the shrinkage. Sometimes it hides like a frightened turtle.

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#45

That every expression that crosses our face, does not relate to you. Some of us have a lot going on between the ears and we're trying to make sense of it.

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#46

We are not all good at fixing s**t. I'm absolutely terrible. I hate working on cars. I have zero interest in cars and have zero interest in figuring out how it works to fix it.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men I am perfectly happy sitting in silence/playing video games for a few hours at a time on a weekend morning/night and it doesn’t mean I’m mad at you/ignoring you/don’t want to spend time together. Ya boy is just trying to chill.

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#48

I am interested. Don't let my aloofness fool you. I just have no situational awareness when it comes to being hit on.

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#49

If you genuinely compliment a guy... don’t be upset if they don’t react the same way a woman would react to a random compliment. Most dudes get them so infrequently that when it does happen, there is a part of them that wonders if it was genuine...or if they are just giving them a polite and/or pity compliment. This often leads to an awkward/unenthusiastic response to the aforementioned compliment. It never occurs to most guys to just say, “Thanks!”

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#50

That when 2 guys talk to each other, they dont talk about life, hobbies, kids, work, etc. We just talk, and we dont remember what we talk after it.

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#51

When we say you're pretty without makeup and that you don't need it to be beautiful, we mean it.

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#52

A lot of us aren't horny 100% of the time. If I just came off a 12 hour day in 104 heat I'm just not feeling it.

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#53

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We like to be the little spoon too sometimes.

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#54

We are insecure as hell at times. Be it "f**k I'm an fat piece of s**t", "i could be the ugliest person alive", "I'm in no way capable of doing this", "I'm drowning and in way too deep". It can creep up out of nowhere and cripple us.

We love being complimented, want to be wanted, want to feel needed.... which is part of the reason we automatically slip into "how can this be fixed" when we listen to your problems instead of giving a "oh damn, that sucks" answer that you might be looking for.

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#55

I can take care of our kids by myself. I'm not an idiot. Go hang out with your friends.

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#56

We would give you way more compliments, but too afraid to be blamed for sexual harasment. Or look like perverts.

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#57

That sometimes a hug or nice compliment can mean a lot. We can ride that wave for quite a while.

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#58

I want physical affection outside of sex. Maybe it’s just the women I’ve been with, but no one ever hugs me, rubs my back, or plays with my hair. And I do that stuff for you ladies all the time. Sometimes I just want you to walk up to me and hug me.

Part of the reason I ask for sex so often is because i feel physically lonely and it’s the only time I get to feel the touch of another human being.

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#59

It’s hard to get over y’all. We don’t really have emotional support systems in place to rely on and a lot of men have small social circles so losing someone means a lot to us.

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#60

You have a massive impact on our lives the smallest things you can harm or help us so much since we are so starved for affection and have our emotions alienated I had one friend who was a girl who just acted kind to me and it helped my mental health so f**king much.

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#61

Wearing my Cubs jersey while watching them play brings good luck and helps them win.

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#62

We are people too. We have the same feelings, fears and dreams as you do. Our way of expressing ourselves may be different than yours but we still experience the same range of feelings that you do. Please don't treat us as something less than yourself. We feel just as much as you do and we express it differently.

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#63

That I’m a softie. I like pink. I like cute things. I like to hang out at home. I want to be the one laying on your lap. Not all of us are mr. macho man lol.

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#64

I know f**k all about my mates. I don’t know what they’ll do in the future, I don’t know that much about their romantic life. They don’t know anything about me. Sometimes guys spend time around each other and don’t get too mixed up in the past or the future. This concept blows my sisters mind.

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#65

That the whole wanting sex all the time pretty much is because we're attracted to you and it's just a biological response. The vast majority of us guys don't start out going, "I want to f**k something!" We start out pretty much thinking about whatever else (cars, games, friends, body aches, et. al.) and then you come along and hold our hand, kiss us, snuggle, and before you know it, we want to be as close as we can to you and that means sex.

My ex-gf accused me of just wanting sex all the time and that's all I saw in her, and it was totally not true. I loved doing stuff with her, hanging out, laughing. But when we started snuggling, she made me horny. Because I loved her and was so incredibly attracted to her. So yeah, I want to share that intimacy with the woman I love. It wasn't "I want sex, come here and f**k me." It was "I'm so happy you're holding me ..... oh I'm getting hard.....let's make love!"

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#66

That sitting on the toilet with the door locked is super peaceful. Just me and my stank.

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#67

Just ask how our day was. I just wanna talk and share my opinion.

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#68

We don’t have the time or the energy to “chase” a girl.

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#69

That us men do not always need to be emotionally strong. They should realize that we are human and we have feelings too and sadness is not a sign of weakness for us men.

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Wintermute 2 years ago

Fun story. In college a girl came into my dorm room in nothing but boxers and a tank top. I knew she had a crush on my room mate so I figured she was there to see him, but he was out with someone else. She stuck around and watched TV with me anyway. We chatted a lot. The topic of sex even came up a couple times. Then she went home. 18 years, yes 18 YEARS, later I was thinking about her for no reason when I started to wonder why she stuck around for an hour even when my room mate wasn't there.... Then it hit me. 18 years! That's how long it took me to pick up on the clue. Poor self esteem is a helluva drug, man.

50points

albernistuff 4sale 2 years ago

Amen Bruthuh! Everyone once in a while, an old memory of how OBLIVIOUS I was slaps me in the face at random, and usually inopportune moments.

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Bob Belcher 2 years ago

Same dude same. I had a group of girls surround me at my locker in 7th grade. One girl was newish, had been there several months and asked me my name. I was having a crappy day and shot back with "funny, if your a girl everyone knows your name but if your a guy noone cares" and walked off. I just realized last year they were trying to set us up on a date. I'm 37 now, nearly 25 years went by.

6points

Linda Simpson Abare 2 years ago

It happens to the best of you! Id you haven't seen it yet look on youtube for something like "Nicole Kidman wanted to date Jimmy Fallon". It's hilarious!! Poor Jimmy🤦🏼‍♀️🤣

3points

Chucky Cheezburger 2 years ago

Yep. Had a girl tell me that way back in high school, she was "throwing" herself at me...Of course,it didn't even register on my radar.She told me this years later after she had married (her husband and I were friends as well) about this while we were hanging out.

2points

RafCo 2 years ago

I can honestly say this has never happened to me. I have never thought, hmm she might have liked me. Not twenty years later. But as I said in an earlier post, I'm a solid 4. Not missing any teeth or anything, but short balding, etc.

2points

Susanne B 2 years ago (edited)

That is a long time. When it happened to me I figured it out already the day after. Too late of course

0points

sofacushionfort 2 years ago

I was hoping to see “it’s not acceptable to hit us when you’re angry with us, and think we can take it because we’re bigger.” That may be true, but hopefully the guys will bail before the relationship produces children. If she hits you, she’ll probably hit them too.

42points

Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

Yes, I'm a little disappointed that this wasn't mentioned too.

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Swaf 2 years ago

At this point I'm happy with not being stabbed with a kitchen knife. It's not like the police would do anything. Once they arrive she'd say she was defending herself and I'd have to finish bleeding in jail. Not current relationship. After the police just assumed I was a villain I decided to try someone else less prone to crazy

2points

Jen Pierce 2 years ago

Never OK.

2points

Mahogany Eclipse 2 years ago

This is important!

0points

JB 2 years ago

This thread made me cry. Toxic masculinity is imposed by all genders and has done immeasurable harm to the wonderful guys in our world. Hey! I see you. I see you are kind, that you have feelings, that you are handsome no matter what culture says you should be. I have met and know far more wonderful men than “creeps”.

32points

Susanne B 2 years ago

Yes creeps are the exception

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Mikayla Lynn 2 years ago

I love how this thread is what men want women to know and somehow you still made it men's fault. How about toxic femininity? Take responsibility for your own actions, Ladies.

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Stannous Flouride 2 years ago

Several of these are about men thinking of nothing. I wish I could experience that.

11points

Hayoon Kim 2 years ago

69 things. That is so intentional

11points

Robert Thompson 2 years ago

I want love and peace. A best friend to spend my life with. Butts and Boobs don't put a smile on my face; but a smile on your face will.

10points

Crazy Dubagay 2 years ago

Exactly. Agreed

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BA Nelson 2 years ago

I was told by a guy that my tools made him feel un-masculine (we weren't dating or anything) so ever since then I've been self conscious of telling people I build things or fix things. Is it really a big deal or do you think it was just that guy?

7points

Amy S 2 years ago

My husband loves it when I do DIY because he's not really into it so I'd say probably just that guy. Imagine the situation the other way round, a guy tells a woman he enjoys baking - will she feel less feminine because he can bake or will she ask for a cookie?

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Octavia Hansen 2 years ago

Think of this kind of article as a road map . . . there's more than one way to arrive at a destination. Sometimes road conditions change. Nothing works all the time, every time. Mostly, it would help if everyone wasn't so passive, thinking the world will come to them. These are just ideas to try. I really wish people would be happier, get off the phone, have something fun to say and ASK about the other person. I've been a free psychiatrist too many times. Brooding is fine for writers and artists, doesn't work in the dating world. Well, guess it does -- if you want to make people go away. Hey, there's a place to walk and talk . . . wanna go? . . .

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Gianna 2 years ago

I hear a lot of men saying things that women go through themselves. There is nothing wrong with any of these things that were posted. However, it is easier to to just tell a woman that you want to be left alone to think or whatever. Or if a guy wants something from women, then when you have your "talks" mention it. We aren't mind readers as well and even when we are better to figure things out about people, doesn't mean all women do. I have very good intuitions, I observe very well and can tell something is wrong, etc...but again, a lot of women don't and they are in their own little world mostly thinking about themselves. I on the other hand, love helping or being their for other people so I get it, personally. Communication is the key and goes a long way.

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DragonflyGreen 2 years ago

So many of these comments are geared toward the misconceptions about women hinting, not being straightforward, and all that BS. I don't know a single woman in my life who pulls that BS. I think some of these men's pickers are broken if they meet the same type of woman over and over again.

3points

Justine Queequag 2 years ago

Same can be said for women who think all men are jerks, when in fact it's only the men that THEY pick over and over yet nobody especially on this forum has the ovaries to admit their faults and mistakes

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nad krut 2 years ago

Me cussing through a home improvement project is just how I work through it, has nothing to do with whether or not I want to do the project.

3points

Susan Mercurio 2 years ago

Too bad men have been whining for centuries about What Do Women Want? You want us to understand you but you never put any time into trying to understand us.

2points

Monica Hall 2 years ago

It makes me sad that this thread even exists. :( Men are human, too, just like women. Why they are expected to act like tough, emotionless, untouchable beings is beyond me.

2points

Jamie Mcdonald 2 years ago

We're not rocks.

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Yayaboobo 2 years ago

This post is contradictory at times which makes it exhausting. That's why I'm out of the game and have been for awhile. I don't EVER want to go back.

2points

Phil Vaive 2 years ago

It's almost as if each of these men are individuals and that all men AREN'T the same...weird, hey? (please note, the sarcasm isn't directed at you, but at articles like this those writers seem to think that people can be defined simply by how/where/when they were born)

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KnowsWhatsUp 2 years ago (edited)

Another on is that we don't all drive big trucks to compensate.

2points

Rotunda 2 years ago

I saw the title and was happy that after so many statements of men about women finally women speak about things they don't understand about men. But nope. The title indicates it is about women but again it is about men. Clickbait.

1point

Piglet 2 years ago

Karin, are you commenting about a completely different post, because I see ZERO sexism here.

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jk nbt 2 years ago (edited)

HERE ARE A FEW MORE: 1) Find a way to verbalize gently & politely so as to let us know what you are thinking. We are not mind-readers. Don't go around huffy and angry is somehow we miss non-verbal clues you are giving about what you are thinking or what you want. Use words with men. Non-verbal clues may work well with your girlfriends, but men are a little thick in this department. 2) You are not going to get your way all the time, even if you feel strongly about something. Don't escalate, it only makes it worse. 3) You will want to do things like go to the zoo or something that might not be possible at that time. Be reasonable. If you get so frustrated over a little thing like that that you end the relationship, the man will probably just let you go on your way since he didn't know you could be so unreasonable. 4) You are not perfect, even if your precious mommy said you were when you were a child. You can make really bad mistakes and say things that are very hurtful. When you man asks you about it later when things cool off, admit your mistakes & try to make it right. Don't say something like, "oh, it was just a misunderstanding. You are the one who is over-reacting." (OUTRAGEOUS)

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Falcon on Dizzy 2 years ago

I think I'm speaking for all men rn, but yeah us men are dense as hell

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John L 2 years ago (edited)

I like how quite a few of these refer to essentially "just say what you want/mean". Too true. My own experience in most of my relationships, is we don't read minds. I've asked a few do you really expect me to read your mind? More than a few, reluctantly admitted, yes, when pressed. I should "just know".....

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

I hate the fact that as someone who considers themself far-left and strictly anti gender stereotypes, all of these comments applied to my past reliationships. It really sucks. And that's why I won't bother again. WAAAAY too much work.

1point

Bug 2 years ago

These are true for women though. All it did for me was highlight how men and women have essentially the same issues but we frame them as being exclusive to "men" or "women". A lot of these reminded me of ex boyfriends and myself

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anime girl 2 years ago

But…..I knew all this and I’m a girl.

0points

Squee She 2 years ago

Good article! I'm asexual and aromantic, but trying to improve my friendship game. Some of these are just really good unisex things across the board!

0points

Tamara 2 years ago

So, it turns out that men are actually very simular to women, it's almost like we're the same species

0points

Liz-ard 2 years ago

There is a book in Sweden called “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus”. Don’t know from what country it comes or if it’s in more languages than Swedish, but it explains a lot!

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Susan Mercurio 2 years ago

So this Dan person is spouting off about "what women think"? And he knows this how?

0points

Isaac Harvey 2 years ago

Not everyone does the same thing to relax, either... my dad likes to drive cars with his friends, I like to just sit down at my desk and watch YouTube videos or visit Bored Panda.

0points

Homer Jay 2 years ago

Posts that just make men stalkers preys and psyco preys. But, hey, who am I to stom them if they want these perks

0points

Lovin' Life 2 years ago

If it's a feeling that a woman has then most likely, men have that same feeling. Validate them all.

0points

Karin Jansen 2 years ago

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JB 2 years ago

Seriously? You take a thread that allows men to speak up and say how they feel as sexism against women? Yeah, you should be beyond this b******t.

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Fransiscus Augusta Tarigan 2 years ago

I think there are much more threads of how men are jerk and stuff, in Bored Panda

11points

Veronica Sjöberg 2 years ago

I actually think this one was ok. It's filled with stereotypes, yes, but most could easily be twisted around as both genders do these things and no one gets hurt on a structural level. I've seen these posts discussing issues about gender inequality in the workplace, family dynamics etc and men trying to say it's the same (or worse) for them. I'm feel strongly against that but this was fine to me.

2points

Bill Evs 2 years ago

Hmm, I think you might be one of the people this article is talking about...........

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Wintermute 2 years ago

50points

albernistuff 4sale 2 years ago

Amen Bruthuh! Everyone once in a while, an old memory of how OBLIVIOUS I was slaps me in the face at random, and usually inopportune moments.

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Bob Belcher 2 years ago

6points

Linda Simpson Abare 2 years ago

It happens to the best of you! Id you haven't seen it yet look on youtube for something like "Nicole Kidman wanted to date Jimmy Fallon". It's hilarious!! Poor Jimmy🤦🏼‍♀️🤣

3points

Chucky Cheezburger 2 years ago

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RafCo 2 years ago

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Susanne B 2 years ago (edited)

That is a long time. When it happened to me I figured it out already the day after. Too late of course

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sofacushionfort 2 years ago

42points

Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

Yes, I'm a little disappointed that this wasn't mentioned too.

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Swaf 2 years ago

2points

Jen Pierce 2 years ago

Never OK.

2points

Mahogany Eclipse 2 years ago

This is important!

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JB 2 years ago

32points

Susanne B 2 years ago

Yes creeps are the exception

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Mikayla Lynn 2 years ago

I love how this thread is what men want women to know and somehow you still made it men's fault. How about toxic femininity? Take responsibility for your own actions, Ladies.

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Stannous Flouride 2 years ago

Several of these are about men thinking of nothing. I wish I could experience that.

11points

Hayoon Kim 2 years ago

69 things. That is so intentional

11points

Robert Thompson 2 years ago

I want love and peace. A best friend to spend my life with. Butts and Boobs don't put a smile on my face; but a smile on your face will.

10points

Crazy Dubagay 2 years ago

Exactly. Agreed

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BA Nelson 2 years ago

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Amy S 2 years ago

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Octavia Hansen 2 years ago

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Gianna 2 years ago

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DragonflyGreen 2 years ago

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Justine Queequag 2 years ago

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nad krut 2 years ago

Me cussing through a home improvement project is just how I work through it, has nothing to do with whether or not I want to do the project.

3points

Susan Mercurio 2 years ago

Too bad men have been whining for centuries about What Do Women Want? You want us to understand you but you never put any time into trying to understand us.

2points

Monica Hall 2 years ago

It makes me sad that this thread even exists. :( Men are human, too, just like women. Why they are expected to act like tough, emotionless, untouchable beings is beyond me.

2points

Jamie Mcdonald 2 years ago

We're not rocks.

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Yayaboobo 2 years ago

This post is contradictory at times which makes it exhausting. That's why I'm out of the game and have been for awhile. I don't EVER want to go back.

2points

Phil Vaive 2 years ago

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KnowsWhatsUp 2 years ago (edited)

Another on is that we don't all drive big trucks to compensate.

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Rotunda 2 years ago

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Piglet 2 years ago

Karin, are you commenting about a completely different post, because I see ZERO sexism here.

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jk nbt 2 years ago (edited)

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Falcon on Dizzy 2 years ago

I think I'm speaking for all men rn, but yeah us men are dense as hell

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John L 2 years ago (edited)

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observations from the moon 2 years ago

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

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Bug 2 years ago

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anime girl 2 years ago

But…..I knew all this and I’m a girl.

0points

Squee She 2 years ago

Good article! I'm asexual and aromantic, but trying to improve my friendship game. Some of these are just really good unisex things across the board!

0points

Tamara 2 years ago

So, it turns out that men are actually very simular to women, it's almost like we're the same species

0points

Liz-ard 2 years ago

There is a book in Sweden called “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus”. Don’t know from what country it comes or if it’s in more languages than Swedish, but it explains a lot!

0points

Susan Mercurio 2 years ago

So this Dan person is spouting off about "what women think"? And he knows this how?

0points

Isaac Harvey 2 years ago

Not everyone does the same thing to relax, either... my dad likes to drive cars with his friends, I like to just sit down at my desk and watch YouTube videos or visit Bored Panda.

0points

Homer Jay 2 years ago

Posts that just make men stalkers preys and psyco preys. But, hey, who am I to stom them if they want these perks

0points

Lovin' Life 2 years ago

If it's a feeling that a woman has then most likely, men have that same feeling. Validate them all.

0points

Karin Jansen 2 years ago

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JB 2 years ago

Seriously? You take a thread that allows men to speak up and say how they feel as sexism against women? Yeah, you should be beyond this b******t.

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Fransiscus Augusta Tarigan 2 years ago

I think there are much more threads of how men are jerk and stuff, in Bored Panda

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Veronica Sjöberg 2 years ago

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Bill Evs 2 years ago

Hmm, I think you might be one of the people this article is talking about...........

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