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People have a lot more in common than you might think. Sure, we’re all unique in our own small special ways, but many of the things that we do aren’t exclusive to us. You might be surprised how similar you are to the strangers you pass on the street every single day.
That’s where redditor u/Miguenzo comes in. They asked anonymous internet users to share the things that most (possibly even all) guys do but that they’d never admit to. From indulging in power fantasies to crying when sad, you’ll find these men’s honest thoughts as you scroll down.
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#1
We love being cuddled. I look like a stereotypical tough guy and know some martial arts but damn, a cuddle from my girlfriend is just the best. Personally, I don't mind revealing that I love cuddles but I know a lot of dudes don't wanna admit that
#2
Debating ending it all often, but not doing it because of how badly it affects those around us
#3
That little knee bend/stretch to get your balls unstuck from whatever position they magically aligned themselves
Its not for our legs/knees/hips its 100% just for the balls to reposition
If nothing else, the r/AskReddit thread is bound to give you a sense of relatability. Even if someone seems like a complete stranger to you, you can be pretty certain that they behave similarly to you in their daily life.
Even if you have different lifestyles and habits, some behaviors are simply extremely human and it’s hard to avoid them. Whether that’s sinking into your daydreams, crying when you’re upset, or singing along to a song that you adore. It’s these little behaviors that unite us.
#4
Daydream about insane scenarios that will never happen where you're the main hero that swoops in to save the day.
Common examples include things like thinking you could figure out how to land an entire airplane in an emergency, thinking about "What happens if there's a robbery and I stop the bad guy", thinking about saving someone from a burning building, thinking you could save someone's life if there's a random medical emergency, etc.
#6
Pee in the shower. I could pee right before the shower in the toilet, but the second the hot water hits me, my bladder says “It’s pee time.”
It’s not just certain behaviors that people have in common. Many men have very similar fears and insecurities. For example, ‘Fatherly’ points out that many men are insecure about developing large breasts. Others are embarrassed about losing their hair or being too thin or too short. On the flip side, men who are taller than their peers might have issues with their height, too.
For others, it’s their situation at home and in the office that haunts them. Guys are worried about the kinds of husbands and dads they’ll turn out to be. Others are scared that they’re not where they ‘should’ be in terms of their career just yet.
Another common insecurity among guys is the fear that they might not be adequate enough in the bedroom, both in terms of performance and size. Meanwhile, many men who have an older understanding of masculinity might avoid showing any emotions or weaknesses at all. In their mind, any sort of vulnerability is ‘wrong.’
This desire to appear extremely macho at all times can have some negative effects on them and the people around them, however. For example, men who avoid talking about their mental health struggles or seeking the help of a professional when they need to can only worsen the situation.
#10
Be straight but able to recognize when another guy is a good looking guy and say it out loud.
#12
If you're single; Having feelings/Attraction to almost every female friend you've got.
Doesn't gotta be strong feelings. Doesn't have to be romantic.
But you've thought about it. At least once. Maybe three times.
Sahil Islam 1 year ago
It is. I never had such feelings to my female friends until I reach 16 yrs of age. It sucked cuz I just got awkward around them 💀
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k1ddkanuck 1 year ago
Weird. As a gay man, I definitely have male friends who I would just straight up never sleep with. Not because they aren't good looking or they're overly promiscuous or anything... We're just friends, and it pretty much ends there.
ILoveMySon 1 year ago
As a heterosexual woman, I agree in that I have male friends in which I have zero romantic interest.
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Trish 1 year ago
I'm a single woman, and I do this. I wouldn't call it 'feelings', it's more assessing if I'm interested in them as more than friends.
Joshua Ortiz 1 year ago
That's what I think it is. At least for me. I mean I'm not getting any younger and I don't necessarily want to be alone forever, but I'm not going out of my way to meet anyone new. So sometimes I evaluate whether or not I am missing something more with the people already in my life.
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Isaac Harvey 1 year ago
I can be willing to defend someone, verbally, financially, or physically, without expecting anything in return. It’s called being a decent human being.
Doctor Strange 1 year ago
False. I've been single for a long time, and I have many female friends that I have absolutely no attraction to. We are compatible as friends, and that is it.
Betty Vanderhooven-SchmaaSchmaa 1 year ago
Cuz if your attracted to them, you wouldn't put them in the friend zone, right?
Load More Replies... Ramirez rachael 1 year ago
You can be attracted to someone because of how much you click on an emotional level. And I think that’s where men get it confused.
TheBlueBitterfly 1 year ago
Where PEOPLE get it confused. It's not just men. Women do it just as much.
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Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 1 year ago
This feels like a men and women can't be just friends thing
Joshua Ortiz 1 year ago
I guess that depends on if the man acts on it and makes the relationship awkward because of said feelings.
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sofacushionfort 1 year ago
This is when the ability to shapeshift into a puppy would come in handy
What we have here is a failure 1 year ago
"Why do I fall in love with any woman that shows me the least bit of attention?"😀
Libstak 1 year ago (edited)
I don't think it's unnatural to notice you have compatible traits with friends and then wonder if you would therefore make a good couple. It doesn't matter as much as we worry it does. Being able to say you love someone should be easy, it's wanting something back from them and being hurt if you don't get it that's the problem. You always have to respect others rights to not feel the same way without letting it make you judge your own feelings as bad.
Darius S. (he/him) cis/grey 1 year ago
or not. i hope it doesn't shock my female friends that i've only thought of them as friends, but i don't think i would've been attracted to possible relationships if i also didn't find them kind either.
Kathryn Baylis 1 year ago
Thinking about it is fine. It’s normal. Women do it too. It’s when you try to do something about it that you get it wrong. Men tend to try to impress women, only the things they choose to impress us with tend to be things that only impress other men. So, instead of trying so damned hard, just be yourself. If she’s going to like you and want to be with you—-the real you—-it will be obvious. If not, then just chalk it up to experience. Keep her as a friend, and try again when someone else piques your interest. Just don’t turn to creepy s**t like stalking and d**k pics.
SkyDragonAerial (Aro/Ace, Cassgender) 1 year ago
I was gonna say 'as a girl I don't do this' but then I remembered I'm ace
silowew628@picvw.com 1 year ago
I'm a guy and I don't do this because I'm gay. This "all guys does it!" stereotypical b******t is so stupid.
Jellicle bat (he/she/they) 1 year ago
Oof, as an asexual i have feared my male friends think about me like that
Appalachian Panda 1 year ago
I'm a gay dude who is also on the ace spectrum and this notion that I'm supposed to want to jump every guy I know who's even remotely attractive has always seemed pretty ridiculous to me. I realize that I'm the one who is atypical, but surely it isn't normal to fantasize about literally *ALL* your friends of whichever gender(s) you're attracted to?
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Bob Brooce 1 year ago
This is so much the opposite of a secret that Rob Reiner made an extremely successful movie about it.
TheBlueBitterfly 1 year ago
Thinking it and acting on it are two entirely different things, though.
Load More Replies...Many men are also wary of getting in touch with a doctor when they have health issues. There’s a certain deeply-rooted stigma that men ‘should’ be strong enough to handle everything on their own and that asking for help is a sign of weakness. While having a stoic mindset is definitely helpful in life, health issues aren’t something you should be playing around with.
Many men are unwilling to see a professional if they have issues that are particularly embarrassing. Others are scared of getting bad news, so they choose to live in denial, hoping that the problems will go away on their own.
To put it bluntly, have the courage to be humble—see a doctor not just when you have health issues, but also for regular checkups. You’re not less of a man because you take care of your health. Quite the opposite!
#13
Sneaking a peak at some cleavage. We don't even have to be attracted to the women but we still gon look
#16
When I was in college, a guy on my dorm floor swore he had never masturbated. He was 19. I'm sorry, but I refuse to believe that.
#17
Morning pee's sometimes goes sideways and there's annoying cleaning up to do
#23
Every man has tucked his d**k back between his legs and gazed upon his mangina in the bathroom mirror.
#24
Check out women (or men if they prefer) they find attractive in public when with their partner
#25
The truth is drinking too much. It is common for men to lie about how much they drink to their doctors and when taking surveys.
#27
Sometimes when we shave we try and see how we’d look with the moustache of a certain Austrian painter
#29
not sure if this is for all guys, but my bf will never ever admit that he prefers to be little spoon 😭
What do you think ?
Squishy 1 year ago
I love posts about mens mental health. Anyone saying they don't like hearing stuff like this, I hope you ask yourself why. If it's because "oh well women go through this too, so it's invalid" that's not a good reason. I know this is a heated opinion but I'm just so sick of people invalidating others because "I have it worse", or "I want to spend more time focused on my problems". Men have to deal with so many things alone because not enough of us care to listen.
Jeanette Thompson 1 year ago
I agree. Telling yourself others have it worse can be a useful tool for self-reflection. Telling someone else others have it worse makes you an a-hole who is trying to invalidate other's experiences and feelings.
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sofacushionfort 1 year ago
Yes, humans. Humans with these weird chicken-skin bags of crazy marbles we’re cursed to drag through life.
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Grant Caldwell 1 year ago
So many of these are specific to individuals. Half of these I never do and I will testify under oath to that fact.
Mike Fitzpatrick 1 year ago
I can't imagine someone fessing up to some of these, even as an anon.
Emie N. 1 year ago
It's not fair to say "what ALL men do" since not all men are the same. Just like not all women are the same. We're all individual people.
David A Paterson 1 year ago
Well then, more that 50% of men do, good enough.
Load More Replies... General Anaesthesia 1 year ago
If these are all "Something All Guys Do" then I can safely say, "I'm not like other guys".
Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 1 year ago
Agreed. Much love to the male Pandas who are in a rough spot.
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Jay 1 year ago
They forgot to mention the kamehameha era when you try it and truly realize how weak you are
JoyfulZebra 1 year ago
I had a friend growing up who would always do a kamehameha while we were playing; and it didn't matter what game we were playing, he would always sneak in a kamehameha. It used to annoy me so much lol. Although in hindsight, I can't really judge because I was the same way with tackling.
Load More Replies... MushroomHead22 1 year ago
more than half of these didn't make any sense considering the title. you really should get someone to proof read this before posting it, and if you did, get a new proof reader.
Squishy 1 year ago
I love posts about mens mental health. Anyone saying they don't like hearing stuff like this, I hope you ask yourself why. If it's because "oh well women go through this too, so it's invalid" that's not a good reason. I know this is a heated opinion but I'm just so sick of people invalidating others because "I have it worse", or "I want to spend more time focused on my problems". Men have to deal with so many things alone because not enough of us care to listen.
Jeanette Thompson 1 year ago
I agree. Telling yourself others have it worse can be a useful tool for self-reflection. Telling someone else others have it worse makes you an a-hole who is trying to invalidate other's experiences and feelings.
Load More Replies... sofacushionfort 1 year ago
Yes, humans. Humans with these weird chicken-skin bags of crazy marbles we’re cursed to drag through life.
Load More Replies... Grant Caldwell 1 year ago
So many of these are specific to individuals. Half of these I never do and I will testify under oath to that fact.
Mike Fitzpatrick 1 year ago
I can't imagine someone fessing up to some of these, even as an anon.
Emie N. 1 year ago
It's not fair to say "what ALL men do" since not all men are the same. Just like not all women are the same. We're all individual people.
David A Paterson 1 year ago
Well then, more that 50% of men do, good enough.
Load More Replies... General Anaesthesia 1 year ago
If these are all "Something All Guys Do" then I can safely say, "I'm not like other guys".
Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 1 year ago
Agreed. Much love to the male Pandas who are in a rough spot.
Load More Replies... Jay 1 year ago
They forgot to mention the kamehameha era when you try it and truly realize how weak you are
JoyfulZebra 1 year ago
I had a friend growing up who would always do a kamehameha while we were playing; and it didn't matter what game we were playing, he would always sneak in a kamehameha. It used to annoy me so much lol. Although in hindsight, I can't really judge because I was the same way with tackling.
Load More Replies... MushroomHead22 1 year ago
more than half of these didn't make any sense considering the title. you really should get someone to proof read this before posting it, and if you did, get a new proof reader.
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