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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter I personally want to find the person that told women freckles should be covered up and I don’t want to hurt anyone so I’ll just have a strongly worded conversation with them. Maybe it’s just me, but I have a serious weakness for freckles. From a dusting across the bridge of a woman’s nose to head-to-toe ginger freckles. I think they’re gorgeous.

sloowhand , Chermiti Mohamed Report

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Susie Elle 2 years ago

The number of ads I get on Youtube about cosmetics that cover up 'facial impurities' is staggering and all of them are dumb because why are you not allowed to have a mole or something along the line?

95points

Representative-Fig96 , Rebecca Manning Report

To learn more about female insecurities and how needless obsessions over them affect our lives, we reached out to psychotherapist Sheri Heller, LCSW who specializes in the treatment of complex trauma, narcissistic abuse syndrome, and addictive disorders. "How we criticize ourselves is predicated on whether or not we have a realistic assessment and sense of acceptance of who we are," she told Bored Panda.

Heller explained that when our relationship with ourselves is mired in rejection, perfectionism and self-loathing critical scrutiny of who we are and what we do is a constant source of distress. Way too often, women find fault within themselves and worry about how other people perceive them. And even when they hear words of encouragement to stop self-doubting themselves, learning how to overcome it is challenging.

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Ovulation and periods. It’s completely natural, and only weirdos and teen boys get grossed out by you talking about it.

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Nor 2 years ago

So true, my guy get pads and tampons for me, without me asking

125points

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Not a man, but a lesbian, so I think I can provide some input here.

Anything genital related - pubic hair grooming standards, labia size, shape, colour, etc.

Everyone is a little different, and I nor any woman I've ever slept with, or any man in any of the guy talk I've been privy to as a lesbian (always a little weird to be a part of), has ever cared about any of it. Whatever you were born with is completely natural and beautiful. And if you want to rock a full bush, or go completely bald, or do a landing strip, or whatever your little heart desires, you do you and anyone in a position to see it is just going to be glad they're in that position.

Sabrinavt , Juli Kosolapova Report

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295points

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Beth S 2 years ago

I love the part that says "anyone in a position to see it is just going to be glad they're in that position" - it gave me a chuckle.

298points

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Being a total dork, plenty of guys want a goofy girl that we can be ourselves around

This-Artist-3541 , Brooke Cagle Report

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Kesam 2 years ago

Well, I'm a total dork, so it's a perfect fit! ❤

68points

Master-Frosting-201 , Maddi Bazzocco Report

According to a report by Weight Watchers, females are indeed highly self-critical — they were found to criticize themselves at least eight times a day. The survey of more than 2,000 women revealed a worrying trend with one in seven admitting to being regularly judgmental of their body, personality, relationships, money, or career success every day.

An estimated 46 percent admitted having negative thoughts at least once before 9:30 AM. Moreover, a staggering 89 percent revealed they prefer complimenting their friends but not themselves, and 88 percent even said they would never criticize them in the same way.

"Women often get caught up in one-dimensional prescriptives that superficially measure a woman’s worth," Heller said. "This runs the gamut from measures of beauty to degrees of selflessness, popularity, and image."

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Being bad at sex. If a guy says you’re bad at sex, he’s a piece of s**t. Real good sex comes from an emotional connection. It’s not you, it’s them. They suck.

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Kesam 2 years ago

Oh yes, that's a big one for me. Sex in itself is not a skill. If you're good with your partner, you're good at sex.

111points

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Wearing the same dress again. Nobody cares except other insecure women.

rubenespanyol , gbarkz Report

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283points

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Kesam 2 years ago

Please, pleeease don't throw out clothes after wearing them once. Producing new clothes does a lot of environmental damage and is often done in sweatshops.

185points

Approaching/getting rejected by guys. We'd say yes to a tree if one approached us first

Loubacca92 Report

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Mama Panda 2 years ago

This made me laugh way too hard!

136points

"Likewise, there are cultural demands placed on women to not only embody mothering attributes and live up to markers of vanity, but also to achieve success in the marketplace. This do all, be all paradigm sets many women up to be self-conscious about falling short of the impossible," the psychotherapist added.

When self-consciousness finds its way into every aspect of our lives, it can significantly affect our well-being. Heller told Bored Panda that being plagued by insecurities causes a person to live an inauthentic life. "One may attempt to conceal their fragility and wounds and aspire to be someone they are not."

"Moreover, one may go into hiding and not realize latent potentials. Psychologically and emotionally, the person afflicted by insecurities feels alienated and alone. They are disconnected from themselves."

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Lack of long eyelashes. Literally, no dude has ever cared about eyelashes.

frankwhite97 , Aryan Dhiman Report

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261points

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Isaac7lego🇺🇸 2 years ago (edited)

Yup, honestly those long fake eyelashes can kinda be odd looking

159points

#10

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter I like girls who can be real around me. When they feel comfortable and say whatever dumb s**t is on their mind, I feel like I’m actually connecting with someone. Cliche, but I think being yourself and losing the insecurity, in general, is the most attractive thing someone can do.

jrugz320 , Eye for Ebony Report

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Trond Øien 2 years ago

This actually sums it up quite nicely imho.

59points

#11

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Brains. Being a nerd is the new sexy.

trzvk22 , Kevin Lehtla Report

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Serial pacifist 2 years ago (edited)

Brains should be a point of attraction regardless if you are a man or a woman. I am a man, but I find it very condescending to conclude that smart women are "sexy", as if they are some rare, extravagant breed, while it is supposed to be some kind of a natural state of men, who are actually proven to be, throughout history, the supreme idiots of humanity.

164points

It's troublesome enough to feel doubtful about yourself, but often these thoughts seep into our relationships as well. When asked how big of an impact they have on our connection to others, Heller told us, "When we are not at peace with who we are, we cannot adequately engage with others. The inability to authentically express oneself with others leads to co-dependent maneuvering. One might succumb to fawning, people-pleasing, manipulating, and controlling to fulfill dependency needs."

#12

Things I/most men don't care about:

Stretch marks.

Uneven breasts

Breasts that hang/sag (That's actually sexy, in my opinion).

Veiny breasts

It's perfectly fine if you aren't shaved down below.

Your round belly is actually cute.

I love the way you look in the morning.

Imperfections make you unique, and aren't something to be self-conscious about.

In short, if you treat me/most guys with respect; give lots of affection; are dependable; trustworthy; kind; honest; and make us feel good about ourselves, whatever insecurities you have, we likely find endearing/cute/sexy.

Merckx5251 Report

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Mama Panda 2 years ago

Hmm I wonder if he is single.... LOL

160points

#13

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Breast size. A good portion of us don't give a s**t about that.

TheBigPasta , Jernej Graj Report

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Kesam 2 years ago (edited)

They come in all shapes and sizes, and they're all beautiful! 😄

116points

#14

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Gray hairs, I love when you own it. Plus the silver streak kinda reminds me of Rogue from X-Men.

Probablyagoodidea , Aine Report

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TheSeany 2 years ago

Grey suits lots of people.

68points

chucklesbtoken2 , Conscious Design Report

To avoid bringing other people down, everyone should think twice before making unsolicited comments about a person’s looks, characteristics, or qualities. "When men (or women for that matter) highlight things in women which they view as 'problematic', it exacerbates shame," Heller explained and added that a common example of this is body image. Pointing out or shaming perceived physical flaws diminishes self-regard and self-worth.

#15

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Wrinkles. Every wrinkle is a scar of a thousand smiles.

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Kesam 2 years ago

Yes. Love my wife's (and my) wrinkles. 😊

74points

FaithlessnessFirm646· , Sincerely Media Report

#16

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Burping or farting around us. I know too many girls that have said they think it is rude or going to turn us off of them. Personally, I would want you to let go of any gas because I know how uncomfortable that is and I couldn’t imagine if you were holding that in on top of period pain or other things. Please just pass your gas and don’t let it be something you think will turn us off.

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Kesam 2 years ago

Yes! Better out than in! 👍

76points

#17

Being the one to make the first move. Especially in today's age, it can be very complex for a man to know if it's even ok to ask anymore...

ReasonsUnkown Report

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195points

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Tobias Reaper 2 years ago

i love it when women make the first move

72points

When our confidence is low and fragile, we have a hard time believing in ourselves. This might lead to ditching our dreams or even cause serious health issues. "Often, this sort of wounding leads to self-destructive behavior such as eating disorders and sexual compliance," the psychotherapist noted.

Luckily, threads like this one remind us how important it is to raise awareness about self-worth issues women face every day. You see, shrinking others' faith in themselves is never the right way, and people should be encouraged to embrace their bodies and silence those inner critics that limit their lives.

#18

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Honestly, damn near everything. It’s sad seeing beautiful women treat themselves like s**t because their cheekbones aren’t right or their thighs are slightly red or whatever. Ladies: guys DO NOT CARE IN THE SLIGHTEST about these things. They will love you for who you are. And the guys that do make a big stink about physical 'abnormalities' aren’t worth chasing after in the first place.

icerope1199 , Waldemar Brandt Report

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190points

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Edgar Rops 2 years ago

Amen!

45points

Zealousideal-Way3105 Report

#19

Not wanting to be a mom.

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DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago

This is absolutely normal and very easy to understand.

82points

#20

Small breasts, contrary to what most would have you girls think, there are plenty of guys out there that love, if not even prefer, smaller breasts over larger breasts.

Frankieo1920 Report

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Naesil 🇫🇮 2 years ago

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104points

#21

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter I grew up with older sisters. There were so many things they would be insecure about but I always assured them they shouldn't. Please dont be so stressed about your hair first of all. Your weight, please don't be so hard on yourself. Your clothes, please. The differences are small to notice to most men when you stress about those little things. Please, take it easy

Hicbjorn , Darya Ogurtsova Report

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166points

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pigasus1 2 years ago

Love yourself, love the world, and the world will love you.

48points

#22

Intelligence.

Some of the smartest women I know will too often concede the room to loud but dumber men.

TheOvy Report

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163points

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Beth S 2 years ago

We know it isn't worth the extra breath....

140points

#23

Being afraid to make the first move. I can't tell you how fantastically guys would respond if women just dropped this "men have to make the first move" mentality. If they just walked over and said "hey you're cute and I like your personality, wanna go out sometime?" Men would go nuts. A lot of Women, not all, act like this is an insane idea, but tbh it's very refreshing and a really attractive quality. Fuck the bs of norms.

AustinFest Report

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Skara Brae 2 years ago

Oh yeah.This! Ladies, if the guy you like inexplicably won't ask you out, it could be they like you, but are afraid it would ruin your friendship if you say no. Also, obvious hints aren't as obvious as you think, especially for guys who haven't had a girlfriend yet.

69points

#24

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter How much sex they’ve had. As long as it’s done responsibility and you’re loyal to your established SO, I couldn’t care less how many came before.

Largicharg , Womanizer Toys Report

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147points

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Naesil 🇫🇮 2 years ago (edited)

We have a saying in finnish that could roughly translate to "You can't dry/wear out a lake by rowing"

164points

#25

Makeup

Most girls I’ve know look better without it

MusicIsLife003 Report

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140points

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weewoo 2 years ago

it makes me feel more confident because the last time i didnt wear ppl called me out and called me ugly. But i realised i looked ok without it, now i just prefer to wear it because i personally like it, not bc others do.

78points

CilliamBlinton· , Nenad Stojkovic Report

#26

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Cellulite, stretch marks, anything that might be seen as a 'blemish.' My girlfriend has all of the above and I never noticed any of it until she said something about them.

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NsG 2 years ago

Blame Photoshop and all the media that sets the standards and expectations for what women should look like. Throw in pron magazines and we're up against impossible images. I realise many, many men can tell the difference between the false images and reality, but a lot of the damage to our self worth happens in our teen and pre-teen years from boys who *haven't yet* worked out the difference and make us feel less worthy. (And pre-teen magazines aimed at girls)

72points

#27

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Their body hair. It's natural to have body hair.

ty_perry_much , Billie Report

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128points

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Donkey boi 2 years ago

My wife said it's weird that body hair on women doesn't bother me in the slightest, but on men I find it disgusting. I couldn't care if my wife grew her hair like Cousin It, but I'm shaving my armpits, I'm waxing my chest, I'm trimming my pubes!

52points

No you can't have my name 2 years ago

"on men" or just on yourself? Big difference there.

11points

Josh 2 years ago

I get what you mean. Maybe not on all men, but I like to keep my stuff clean and neat. Makes me feel better about myself.

6points

Pamela Blue 2 years ago

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Samantha Mannion 2 years ago

I'm sorry but in the winter I am hairy. If u don't like it u can shave my legs urself thank u .... Lol thankfully hubby didn't care after forever 😂

10points

Mizz Kitty 2 years ago

I wish I could grow hair on my legs! Winter is so rough where I am and I have to double up on pants. A lil leg hair would go such a long way! 😂

2points

Ellen Ranks 2 years ago

Maybe some men do not care and I applaud that, but I've been with several men who DID find it a problem. And that is a challenge for me because I have hirsutism. Have been pestered about my body hair since age 13 or so.

6points

DDmaybeandor 2 years ago

Amen friend, me too. If I’m not rocking facial hair, or you know what, even if I am, leave me the F alone. Leg hair, underarm hair are the least of my worries. God damn I woulda been in a freak show back in the day if I truly went all natural. Guys bellyache about a 5 o’clock shadow but what if they had to shave half of their body every dang day just to maintain a socially acceptable standard? Even talking about it at all or admitting it to strangers is taboo, but it needs to be talked about. Something like 10% of women have hirsutism and we need to break through the shame society heaps on.

3points

Amy Stone-Chandler 2 years ago

I don't shave at all. Don't care what other men or women think! Don't like it, don't look at it! BTW, I find women with unshaven armpits ultra sexy!!! Tis' true!!

4points

Robert Thompson 2 years ago

My bestie doesn't want me to see her legs after a few days of not shaving. Girl, I don't care. I didn't become your bestie for your legs.

4points

Tatiana Kouzmanoff 2 years ago

It's a personal preference and there is nothing wrong with anyone's preference. What's wrong is to try and force your preference upon someone else.

3points

Carol Karbowiak Gilbert 2 years ago

My guy actually loves body hair. I've grown my pits and my pubic hair out for him. He asked me to

3points

Iseefractals 2 years ago

Biologically? Sure, societally? Hair removal has been common since at least ancient Egypt, where it was practiced by both men and women. Today, like it or not it's the standard for women, and many men have boarded that train as well. This is like saying "body odor is natural!" It absolutely is, but that doesn't mean you aren't going to be called out for pretending that wearing deodorant isn't the societal standard we've all agreed is considerate to those around us.

1point

Jill Bussey 2 years ago

I prefer to have no underarm hair, but pretty much everything else is as nature intended.

1point

Jackson Tobin 2 months ago

I can't do pits hair

0points

Shawn Barry 2 months ago

I shave my pits, less stinky

0points

Corey Adams 2 years ago

Dudes don't shave our armpits (typically) no reason why you have to

0points

zoponex 2 years ago

I bet there aren't many who are okay with the hair that grows on womens' chins and upper lips. We need more Frida Khalos setting an example. Though I don't personally give a f++k what anyone thinks of my body. It's mine and no one else's.

0points

Riley Quinn 2 years ago

My body hair disappeared. Still have head hair, but none on my body. Weird, but saves time in grooming.

0points

stinkytoe 2 years ago

there’s a boy named Lyle in my class and he said “eww you got hairy arms...” my crush WHO HAS A CRUSH ON ME ❤️ said he’s a big jerk. I’m so glad my crush is respectful to me and other women. (p.s I could tell Lyle was about to combust when I said “It’s literally normal, and it means I’m smart actually...but whatever Pherb.” BAHAHAHAH HE LOOKS LIKE PHERB FROM PHINEAS AND PHERB 💀) (another p.s the thing about having body hair making me smart is true! if you’re abnormally hairy for a woman or man, you’re sure smart! I know this because I watched a random fact YouTube video...also in 4th grade I had an 11th grade reading level 😂

0points

Deadman Walking 2 years ago (edited)

As long as it is not on the chest or the legs, I don't care about hair. In fact I love hair and could marry a yeti woman

0points

Jo Frey 2 years ago

I stopped shaving my legs in my late teens, and I don't like shaving anything else below my waist. But I feel like I sweat more with hair in my armpits, so although I don't shave them regularly, I don't let my underarm hair get longer than half an inch at most. Just can't tolerate it!

0points

Channo Sagara 2 years ago

Yea....... Different strokes for different blokes. My wife shaves and I appreciate it. Just putting this out there so y'all know that the post is not absolute truth.

0points

Joel Runestrand 2 years ago

Sorry, can't get past hairy legs or unshaved armpits.... To be fair, I trim my own armpits. Women are soft, not hairy.... but to each their own.

0points

Amy Taylor 2 years ago

I shave for myself, not what a man wants. I just personally don't like it. But rock it if you want it!!

0points

Lillian Cooper 2 years ago

My husband doesn’t care about my body hair he still looks at me the same way every day with love regardless

0points

Samantha Floyd 2 years ago

My husband is fine with body hair but prefers less, and I can understand that. After all, the silky smooth feeling of freshly shaved legs DOES feel amazing!!

0points

Purple Orchid 2 years ago

I guess I'm lucky. I only have to shave my legs maybe once a year. I just don't have hair on my legs hardly at all. My pits I shave maybe once a week. Pubs I trim up on occasion if it gets too out of control but it's never been an issue in my relationship...

0points

Shari Langner 2 years ago

I had a guy make me stand naked while he told me everything wrong with my body. A lot of it was my body hair. Now very self conscious about it.

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Brooke Clifford 2 years ago

What a jerk

1point

Denise Lewis 2 years ago

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Tatiana Kouzmanoff 2 years ago

The same people who expect you to accept their preferences, downvote you for expressing yours. The hypocrisy is hilarious.

1point

pigasus1 2 years ago

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u/YeetThatLemon , Saluda Programa de Salud Report

#28

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Acne on the face, back, or wherever. None of us really care. I had bad acne growing up and at some point, I learned that any respectful person will not judge you for it because you can’t really control it.

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Micah 2 years ago

They really try to shame teenagers into getting any number of products to combat a normal effect that comes from hormonal or other biochemical changes.

44points

#29

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Your weight has nothing to do with self-worth.

afi931 , i yunmai Report

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Ozacoter 2 years ago

Again not true in this society. It should be true but it isnt. People judge women (and men) for rheir weight and attractiveness all the time. Specially doctors, they never take you seriously if you are not skinny.

100points

#30

I had a GF who was insecure about the shape of her breasts. To me they were fantastic.

Kingibew136 Report

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104points

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HolyHannibal 2 years ago

Yeah society has taught us that National Geographic boobies are just not ok. Must be Playboy boobies or else! Pretty freaking shallow.

62points

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Don’t be afraid to look stupid. Or embarrass yourself asking a seemingly dumb question. It’s way cooler if you want to learn something, than say ‘I wouldn’t understand it’.

Not looking/appearing ladylike. Just get in there and destroy that burger. Or make a fool of yourself. Many guys will prefer a girl who’s goofy or brave. (Not that you should validate yourself in guys eyes, it’s just this post asks for men’s opinions.)

PotatoBestFood Report

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Me Oh My 2 years ago

Most of the guys I know find girls with big appetites hella sexy.

7points

#32

The most ridiculous thing must be the thigh gap

Statakaka Report

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Firstname Lastname 2 years ago

I do not want a thigh gap to look good. I just wanna avoid chub rub.

41points

#33

That little belly bump seriously it don’t make you look fat it makes you look human

buffkirby Report

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Saint Thomas 2 years ago

And also it's very satisfying to caress ^^

11points

#34

Not being in elite athlete shape.

The fixation on abs and no body fat is annoying af.

Would rather chill at the beach with nothing but Mom and Dad bods.

I know the time and commitment it takes to be perfectly fit. For 99% of us that is time taken away from more important matters.

Hooliken Report

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I I 2 years ago

time and money , trying to bulk up costs a fortune in extra protein , either eating more or protein powders are needed and it adds up

4points

#35

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Frizzy hair! It’s really fun to look at. Some women seem to try to straighten or curl their hair but I think going with what your hair wants is best. I know there are always those shampoo commercials with impossibly silky hair, and that looks nice, but there are so many different ways to have beautiful hair. I think genuine hair is often beautiful hair!

MQ116 , Drew Coffman Report

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28points

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StormsTempest 2 years ago

I have silky hair and I hate it bc that mf will do NOTHING I tell it to- 😐 I would kill for some texture man

16points

#36

Their laugh. If you snort like a piggy, go on girl. Most of the time it's cute.

CasualOddBall Report

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Jitka Šedová 2 years ago

My husband loves my snort laughing. He oftrn tries to make me laugh hard enough to snort and then we both laugh even harder (and I snort even more :D)

6points

#37

I dated a girl once who had a larger than average labia. She hated it, the first 3 months we dated she didn't want me to even look at her parts bc she was so insecure about it. We'd been playing with each other for ages so obviously I'd felt it and didn't mind and the first time I saw it I was about the go down on her and she started crying bc she thought I wouldn't be attracted to her anymore. I never minded though, and we had a conversation about it and how it didn't matter, I'd noticed it before and it didn't turn me off at all. I loved her and a little labia wasn't gonna stop that

Unknown_Captain Report

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Trond Øien 2 years ago

Give me large labia over the barbie doll look every time. Who knows where this madness came from.

15points

#38

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Being assertive. There's nothing wrong with a person being assertive, man or woman. There's no reason to be self-conscious about competence and knowledge. And assertiveness is just the expression of those."

DuvalHeart , Sarah Cervantes Report

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Tobias Reaper 2 years ago

i really like strong confident women

11points

#39

Height and being older than your partner.
If someone's gonna be with you all these "trivial" things won't ever matter, believe me...

Maybe that's just me but I do prefer to not really ask those 2 specific things among others, if they want to share then all good (at least height will be kinda obvious but my point stands lol)

As for being older, that freaking double standard and taboo about the guy having to be older is ridiculous and it kinda hurts the feelings of so many girls it's sad.

TCSK8 Report

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Mama Panda 2 years ago

Height has always been an issue for me. Of course I am 5'11". I have tried to date men shorter but I just can't handle feeling like a giant. Age on the other hand is not a problem. I have dated younger men and have had just as much fun as with older men. I think it's more of a maturity issue if anything.

11points

Illustrious-Fault224 , Priscilla Du Preez Report

#40

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter how much you eat (eat what you want but like your doctor would say, have balance)

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Donkey boi 2 years ago

I'd rather see you enjoying what you're eating than concern myself with what or how much you are eating.

8points

#41

Brand names. Most single guys have no idea the difference between a handbag from Michael Kohrs vs Louis Vuitton.

Jim105 Report

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Jon Steensen 2 years ago (edited)

...and many of us find designer bags rediculously overpriced, and see them as a sign of weak personality, since they indicates you can be manipulated to pay a redicoulus amount of money for something worth far less than that. Even if you have so much money that you can spend them carelessly, flashing that fact by wearing the badge of a wellknown brand, can come of as bragging, and can send some a*****e vibes. Don't just follow the mainstream route, but show off some of your own personality and be a little creative with the objects you choose to surround yourself with. Be brave and put some effort into it, instead of just going with the secure option where you are leaching on an establish brand. And don't let your entire life revolve around a material good, but get a proper perspective on what is important so you don't whine on the internet like a spoiled brad, and performs a stupid media stunt, when Chanel won't trade with you.

10points

#42

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter The nose. I don't understand why almost every girl who doesn't think they have a 'perfect' nose, will at some point consider operating for that. We don't give a s**t about the small hump on your nose or if the tip is pointing slightly up or down.

Daviex7 Report

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John Carr 2 years ago

I love my partners cute little nose. I didn't know until a lot later that it's slightly crooked because her ex broke it.

8points

#43

Grey hair on a woman is kinda hot.

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Caro Caro 2 years ago (edited)

Thank God for that :D. My hair is dark blond/mousey in the winter and you can see the grey coming through (not much but still). In the summer my hair gets lighter and then you don't see the grey... I love the summer for so many reasons ;)

9points

#44

Nipples. Me, the male, very excited to play with your boobs in general. Literally do not care what they look like. Boobs are great and wonderful, playing with them also usually leads to sex which is also pretty great. Hurts me when partners dislike their bodies over something you can’t really change.

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Sent From The Slytherin House 2 years ago

mine are inverted and i'm super insecure about it

6points

#45

Being more competent in something than colleagues, friends or SOs. The insecurities of others around you shouldn't affect your own behavior and make you downplay your own abilities and strengths.

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Skara Brae 2 years ago

Please don't hide your skills. The world needs all the competent people we can get.

11points

#46

Height! As a 5'9'' guy, I love girl's my height and even taller, so stand straight for God's sake!

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#47

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Lips and eyebrows. We don't really care. Every guy I'm friends with agrees that lip fillers make a girl instantly less attractive and as long as you're not completely missing your eyebrows, we don't even think about them.

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I I 2 years ago

lip fillers are the dumbest thing ever , like WHY ?? they make you look like a cartoon character

16points

#48

We don’t care what you look like when you eat as long as you follow basic table manners. F**k do I care if you want a big a** bloody hamburger. If you’re hungry eat! I never got that. You go to a restaurant to eat not to nibble on rabbit food.

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#49

Basically anything that is out of their control. You shouldn't be insecure about body parts that we can't change, or disfigurements or medical conditions. Imperfections are perfect in my eyes.

I think insecurities should only exist in situations where you know you can make that change for the better but you don't take that step, being insecure about something like that should encourage self improvement.

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Micah 2 years ago

This should be higher.

6points

Dutch Swimmer Goes Viral For Super Revealing Trunks During 2024 Olympics: “Is This Legal?”

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#50

Muscle. There's no shame in being or wanting to be muscular. Getting in shape is attractive and anyone who tells you otherwise doesn't know what they're talking about or care about other people's appearances too much.

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Naesil 🇫🇮 2 years ago

And you dont turn into a pro female bodybuilder by lifting weights, I have heard that as a reason to not lift weights because they dont want to turn super muscular.. hell majority of men wont look like that even if they train seriously.

16points

#51

Wearing glasses (prescription not sunglasses), I don’t know why many feel embarrassed using them and go all day at school mainly and struggle. 9/10 you look even prettier with them

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Jon Steensen 2 years ago

A pair of well chosen glases often makes people look smart, and smart people are often much easier to be around, as they can focus on the important parts of life and you do not constantly have to correct for their mistakes, or spend a lot of time making them follow your train of thoughts.I know it is stereotypical thinking, but I think a lot of people make the same set of connections, and hence find glases attractive. Furthermore it is often just a matter of getting used to the look, and in most cases when you know someone who usually wear glases, they look odd without them.

3points

Woman Put A Water Fountain With A Camera In Her Yard, Here Are 24 Photos Of Regular Visitors (New Pics)

#52

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Having a woman that is confident in making her own decisions is great. You don't need anyone's f**king permission to do a damn thing that doesn't directly involve them. Asking someone's opinion or input versus their permission are two different things. Girls, ladies, women, anyone hear this: Confidence is far more beautiful than any makeup or clothing. I love the inner beauty that radiates out! I've seen dolled-up women that were rotten to the core. Love yourself and love will find you!!!

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#53

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Their face without makeup. I've been told that makeup isn't about impressing other people and is more of a self-confidence/self-love thing, but the only reason it's even a thing is because it impresses other people.

seniorfrito , Radek Homola Report

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White Wolf 2 years ago

Big truth.

1point

#54

Eye Color!!!!! I know so many girls who are upset they have brown eyes instead of blue or green. Brown eyes are very attractive!

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iLoVeGrOoT.... 2 years ago

I have black.... :|

12points

#55

First of all women stop being doormats or second class in relationships. If you want to go to KFC say it. It doesn’t make you look fat. It makes you look hungry.

Also my GOD stop saying you are fat. Unless you are actually morbidly obese 90% of guys are not gonna give one single iota of a F how much you actually weigh.

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plain bOrEd not panda 2 years ago

This is actually so very true, but women realize it much later in life when settled down. While I was a teen and in my early 20s, I had crushes on guys I thought were way out of my league, because I always considered myself on the bigger size (looking at my pictures now I say to myself "Damn, what a hot piece of beauty and so much slimmer than I remember myself being!"). Surprise, surprise, all of these guys ended up with much bigger girls than me, and also not as pretty and a father or themselves have told me a few times what crushes they used to have on me in their 20s. So if you're not obese, the only person who is judging your weight is yourself and your "girlfriends", it is never a good reason not to have the self esteem you are in these guys' league.

8points

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#56

Stretch marks

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#57

Their tummies. Some of us like a tummy on a woman.

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Jon Steensen 2 years ago

Men are preprogramed to like a curvy lines that sets a woman apart from a man. Distinguished abs are something most people asociate with the male figure and hence a sixpack on a women is a turn off for many men, who would prefer a bit of a round belly over that.

2points

#58

Everything about your body.

Your not a super model and we aren't expecting you to be. We aren't male models either. Real life isn't p**n.

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#59

Whether your bra matches the panties

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KandiedKat 2 years ago

personally, i just like to do this because i like how it looks :)

6points

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#60

Having no sexual experience

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KandiedKat 2 years ago

covering up a nasty comment! I agree :)

2points

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#61

Their career skills. Women second guess themselves so much more than men do. Seriously, f**k that.

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#62

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Crooked teeth. I think they're sexy as hell.

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Luther von Wolfen 2 years ago

The center gap some women have is lovely.

11points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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#63

Constantly apologizing. It’s okay to apologize, we probably understand, and you probably don’t have to apologize, and you’re doing just fine, whatever, and however that is.

This being said… don’t stop, it’s adorable and flattering that you care that much.

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Beth S 2 years ago

Thanks! It's my social anxiety/awkwardness!

14points

SecretSummerMidnight Report

#64

A lot of those beauty trends. Thigh gaps, that weird bikini gap thing, stretch marks etc, I genuinely don't care. Also apparently some are self-conscious about freckles, I think they look stunning.

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#65

Stretch marks/mom bod. You created a human/humans. The “perfect” body isn’t flawless or without blemish. Sexiness is more in how you present yourself vs physical appearance 99% of the time.

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Rick Hoppenbrouwer 2 years ago

Perfectly said.

2points

#66

Almost everything you're insecure about is what other women would judge you for and most men wouldn't even think about it.

Breast or a** size. Stretch marks. A couple pimples. That hair you have somewhere. Height. Those couple extra pounds. Clothing style.

All the surface level s**t doesn't matter.

NoobSkills Report

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Jon Steensen 2 years ago

In fact a perfect woman can be a bit intimidating. The Russians discovered that their previous strategy of using beautiful intelligent women as "honey pots" did not work when they tried to infiltrate the enemy's programmers. The poor guys were simple too scared to aproach them, and when the women talked to them, they could not establish the all important eye contact. Using more imperfect women had a lot better succesrate, since it leveled the playing field, and made the women more relatable for the men. Knowing that you are imperfect and owning it, while being brave enough to let the world see you for who you are, can be a hell of a lot more attractive, than spending your limited lifetime in the bathroom and nail salon trying to correct any minor imperfection, instead of focussing on what is important.

6points

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#67

Worrying about their boyfriend cheating on them out of instinct due to having bad relationships in the past. I've dated around a dozen women in my life and prior to meeting my wife (of 4 years now) I literally had to break up with women due to such trust issues being projected at me.

One insecure woman punched me in the face twice because she thought I was cheating on her as she thought I was being overly nice to other women despite me just being nice to everyone equally as that's my personality.

I pushed her off me after she grabbed me by the neck trying to force me to confess to cheating (she was a strong person) and she calls the cops so I spent three weeks in jail awaiting a court date for domestic violence that was thrown out anyways.

When I met my wife and noticed she wasn't insecure I married her within 6 months of dating and couldn't be happier now!

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PotatoPretty 2 years ago

My ex-husband left me for someone else, I've had friends betray me with boyfriends, just was a bad judge of character for a long time. So I came into my current relationship with major trust issues. I told him everything and explained I would need help working through it. He was patient with me, still is, and we have a great relationship. So please don't always discount insecure people. If they're willing to be honest about it, they could be worth the effort.

1point

Illustrious-Fault224 Report

#68

material possessions you have or don’t have in relation to your peers.

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18points

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#69

Everything except bad personal hygiene

Of course you can find someone who doesn't care about hygiene but most won't play ball, wash your body especially your privates, only the inside is self cleaning

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#70

Not wearing a bra.

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Jess 2 years ago

All of these sound nice in theory, but I haven't met a guy who didn't care about these. I once dared to go get my food delivery in a shirt with a spaghetti strap w no bra on and the next time I ordered from them the delivery guy brought a friend and they both giggled and ogled me like I was in a window display -.-"

13points

#71

Getting the latest trendy clothes. Have not met a guy who gives a damn if that hat is half a year out of style. Rock whatever look you like, ladies!

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Jon Steensen 2 years ago

yeah and what is in now, you may think look redicoulus in a year. Fashion is really just something the industry has invented and is brainwashing you with, in order to make you spend more money. Don't fall into that trap trying to buy what is currently trendy, but instead spend your money on building a longlasting wardrobe of quality evergreens, and play with how you pair the items you already posses (e.g. a basic charcoal blazer can be dressed up by wearing it with a skirt, the right scarf and jewlery, or dressed down by unbottoning the top button, pairing it with a jeans and letting the hair down).

4points

#72

their smile, body weight, nose , just everything and anything

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#73

Being a little cubby , not every guy wants to have a girl who looks like she hasn’t ate in four months.

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Saxophone 2 years ago

I am a literal stick. It is just how my family is. I can eat lots, then be like "Oh look, my ribs." People ask "How?" and I just say "Genetics". Perfectly healthy.

4points

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#74

Asking a guy out. If you like a guy, don't be afraid to ask him out on a date. Guys only making the first move is an outdated and sexist concept.

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mcborge1 2 years ago

My girlfriend made the first move, she totally knocked me off my feet and it was wonderful. :)

12points

#75

Body hair, makeup, nails, hairstyle, etc.

Those stereotypes in sitcoms when the wife gets angry at oblivious husbands that don't notice the new haircut; those exist because most of us really don't notice.

Not going to lie and say looks don't matter, but personality, intelligence and empathy are a big part of my attraction to someone.

If you're looking for something to be insecure about, male or female, evaluate how you feel about yourself as a well rounded person.

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#76

Their noses. An old girlfriend of mine had some deep insecurities about her "big" nose. I thought it suited her face perfectly and gave her a really striking profile and i tried to give her compliments whenever i could. She eventually ended up getting a nose job despite my protests. I told her i thought it looked great even though inside i was crushed because i felt like i had failed in my job as a boyfriend in making her feel sexy and confident.

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I Just Changed My Name 2 years ago

You sound like a beautiful human

8points

#77

Your faces. The only people that don't like your faces are you and the cosmetics industry. I would take a natural 5/10 face over a 10/10 makeup face any day. Please try to have the confidence to be natural... anything else is a lie.

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#78

Stubble. I had a girl once being too insecure to have sex because she hadn't shaved her kitty in a week. It didn't stop me from closing the deal.

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#79

-How they look without any makeup. I feel like most guys prefer Women with little to no makeup. I know I do.

-Also height, all the women I've dated were about a foot shorter then I am.

-Your hair, honestly you look great and most guys won't notice or care if your hair "looks bad"

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#80

Moles on the face

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15points

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Official_Blink 2 years ago

I have a mole on my face and I find it GORGEOUS ! Tbh , Moles , to me , are really cute

6points

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#81

Their voice

9/10 times they sound gorgeous

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15points

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BrianAbi Benson 2 years ago

Bro I sound like a man sometimes, some dude even thought I was a guy cuz my short hair in public once

1point

#82

Public speaking. You'll do fine!

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Me Oh My 2 years ago

I don't think this one is specific to girls, really.

10points

#83

30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter How her vagina looks. We literally couldn’t care less. Outer labia, inner labia. We promise.

White_beetlejuice , Timothy Meinberg Report

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Ozacoter 2 years ago

The vagina is an internal part. Vulva is the external one.

13points

#84

Messy hair

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Trond Øien 2 years ago

Messy wet hair and no make up straight out of the shower is peak attractive in my book at least.

9points

#85

If they're a little chubby or have a few imperfections. That s**t's normal for everybody. Besides, if you were skin and bones backshots would sound like skeletons from minecraft.

Axeman1721 Report

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KandiedKat 2 years ago

the skeletons literally had me laughing out loud, got a few looks from my class lol

5points

#86

I'm not a guy but Their eyebrows. Literally they are never ugly and it's honestly more disturbing to see ultra thin ones.

Also armpits?? Ok all the shampoo commercials lead you to believe that shaved armpits are sexy but like... If you want to keep the hair, do it it's your body.

smolinga Report

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Daniel Atkins 2 years ago

The painted on eyebrows make me think why that expression today?

6points

Illustrious-Fault224 Report

#87

Being seen naked, we can already tell what you look like and we’re into it if it’s at that point.

floog Report

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#88

Thigh size. Everyone's is going to be different. If you try to take care of yourself and be healthy, that's all that matters.

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#89

Your career / level of education

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another one 2 years ago

Plenty of men are terrified of a woman who is more educated or better paid than they are.

8points

#90

Hip dips

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#91

If a guy is actively interacting with you and you start to mention how you're insecure about your looks, don't be.

Guys are wired for looks, for better or worse, so if they're interested in you and hanging around you (and you're ok with that) they more than likely adore your looks, and wouldn't change them for the world.

See so many girls out there doubting their beauty, and it breaks my heart.

RavenX185 Report

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Naesil 🇫🇮 2 years ago (edited)

Men are visual creatures, its just natural, and the proof is in how much money is spent looking naked women every year (billions). But I think generally what we find attractive is not only the socially decided "perfection". Personally I like the uniqueness in "imperfections" more than the perfect barbie look.. have you seen the crooked smile of Natalie Dormer? Damn that is attractive.

5points

#92

Previous relationships which have caused physical or psychological damage to you

baconboi86 Report

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Mama Panda 2 years ago

This isn't considered to be an insecurity. It's a fear. It's a horribly negative experience that will haunt us until the end of time and men just need to understand that and just accept it. Once a woman (can't speak for men as I am not one) has been in an abusive relationship, we will be cautious, scared, alert, and have PTSD. And if you are a man who is trying to be in a relationship with a woman who has experienced domestic violence, do not negate or minimalize her experiences or force her to talk about it with you. It is a serious issue.

13points

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Beth S 2 years ago (edited)

I think this list is very sweet, but the fact of the matter is that many women are absolutely brutal towards each other and even more brutal with themselves. We need to learn to lift each other up and also love ourselves.

45points

Aliquid 2 years ago

True... a lot of people complain about the "beauty standards", but most of the time it is other women who are judgmental, and the women's magazines that are setting the standards... half the time the men are completely oblivious to the things that women are told to be self conscious about.

23points

blugeagua 2 years ago

Not just women. Even though this list was sweet, many men can still be brutal towards us. It's the patriarchy that causes men and women to act the way we do. And the women who are brutal have internalized their misogny because of society brainwashing. Fortunately, most of us women are learning to know better and are bettering ourselves and uplifting other women.

2points

Si 2 years ago

Men are even more brutal to women. There are a lot of misogynistic trolls, revenge pornographers, voyeurs, school boy bullies and chauvinistic boyfriends and husbands in this world who absolutely do care about every inch of women’s bodies and to say otherwise is disingenuous at best, gas lighting at worst.

1point

Aurora Borealis 2 years ago (edited)

When girls watch movies with girls bullying each other they always act like that's the worst thing ever. And girls online always agree but then they go back to the real world, feel insecure or whatever, and bully again. It's sad. Love yourself. There are things you would never be able to change about yourself. You need to learn to love and accept yourself the way you are! The sooner the better. It's quite the learning curve for some but if I can do it (I'm a severe perfectionist with a very different appearance) I know y'all can.

0points

Swan 2 years ago

these men are talking for themselves; not evry single men; they're all different with different tastes and personalities

10points

Bljurg 2 years ago (edited)

Yes, and those men that have juvenile or idiotic standards are, guess what, juvenile idiots, not men, so you you should not care about their opinion, they are not worth dating.

1point

Swan 2 years ago

can't we just say that all women can or could be beautiful instead of insulting the other spectrum : "don't care about thigh gap it's only good the other wy, big labia is better than barbie doll looking having wrikles/stretch marks/fat makes you look human i.e. not having those makes you look not human, not makeup better than make up, small boobs better than ugly big boobs........ no need to insult the opposite spectrum!

9points

Ghosts 2 years ago

I think the message was wholesome but got a little mixed up. Nothing is better or worse. There's someone for everyone.

17points

Leah Jay 2 years ago (edited)

Generally, thigh gapped, smooth, large breasted women get a ton of attention. Just because this post is reminding those of us who do not fall into that category, doesn't discount those who are genetically blessed.

1point

Jus 2 years ago

Ugly big boobs? Thanks.... That was awful

1point

Tami 2 years ago

The general public tends to be rather judgemental towards women. You can be neat, clean, and well-behaved, but if your hair is just natural, not styled and colored, you don't wear makeup, and your clothes aren't fashionable, people tend to ignore you or even be a little suspicious of you. Maybe they think that since you don't care how you look to them, you don't care about them and therefore aren't a nice person.

8points

Alexis minnix 2 years ago

Ok but I don’t spend time on my hair, makeup, outfit etc for men. I do it for me.

6points

Jen Szabo 2 years ago

Yes!!

1point

Nojman 2 years ago

Normal Guy checklist for potential mate: ---- 1. Is female

6points

MagNat 2 years ago

Heterosexual guy*

3points

Kathy Smith 2 years ago

The idea of this is nice, I guess, but it still comes down to whether or not women are found to be attractive by men. Wouldn’t it be much better if people could be happy with themselves, and other people, completely regardless of their looks?

6points

Aliquid 2 years ago

Yes, I agree. I actually have a problem with the "everyone is beautiful" movement... because it still promotes the myth that being beautiful is important in the first place.

2points

Kesam 2 years ago (edited)

To sum up everything I find attractive in people (regardless of gender) in one word: imperfections.

5points

Evelyn Ann 2 years ago

Yes! I love crooked teeth, i find them endlessly charming

0points

Erik Ivan 2 years ago

Looks are not that important. If you live together for a few decades, none of the couple will look the same anyway. In the long run it's what's inside that is important.

4points

Mud spider 2 years ago

I clicked on this thinking it would be boring and I really forget why I even clicked but I really like it! I agree with most of these and I am in fact, a woman! It’s very sweet and I think making this question was a really good idea :)

3points

Wang Zhuang 2 years ago

I agree with this entire list. Don't let the IG models and magazines be the ones to set beauty standards. Beautiful women come in all shapes and sizes. It's what's inside that makes you the most unattractive.

3points

Marvelous Rex 2 years ago

And the biggest problem with those are that they aren't even real. Most of those models have entire teams of people doing makeup/hair/etc and then photoshopping the pics on top of it. It's literally an impossible standard.

1point

Ein Steinbeck 2 years ago (edited)

I had to stop at #5 because 4/5 of the top 5 is complete bullshjt. Yes, freckles are fine. But also, NO, we actually DO care if you're fat and bad at sex and have bad hygiene and grooming, especially down there. Stop with the echo chamber and go take care of your life.

1point

Marvelous Rex 2 years ago

There's a lot of repetition in this list. it's more like 15-20 things. One that I've thought about is comfortable shoes. Has there ever been a guy outside of the fashion industry who cared if women wore heels or some other type of uncomfortable footwear? You certainly can if you want, but I know I would rather see a woman wear something comfortable versus something that makes their feet sore. I feel like that's one of those that's much more for other women than guys. I doubt most guys even notice or care.

1point

Aaron Matye 2 years ago

Can we also get the 'Male Insecurities' one? I think we need to hear about both sides.

1point

MagNat 2 years ago

I'm not a guy, but how about: any kind of features that your body naturally has?

1point

KnowsWhatsUp 2 years ago

About the whole boobs comment... Most men would probably notice big boobs but they sure as hell don't turn me on.

1point

blugeagua 2 years ago

This list is great but there are still too many men who treat women horribly for not meeting beauty standards. I know women can do the same but it's all because of society brainwashing that teaches humans to hate women and look down on us. Fortunately more and more women nowadays are getting better at being supportive and loving toward each other.

1point

Swan 2 years ago

sad that men are forgiving of lots of things but not scars..:(

1point

Ghosts 2 years ago

Eh? I couldn't give a s**t if a woman has scars. I have scars. If you have scars & anyone has a problem with that, then they aren't worth your time.

4points

Milena Stuchi 2 years ago

I have a huge (I mean HUGE) ugly scar on my belly wich I totally hate, yet none of the guys or girls I've been with had any type of problem with it. I think it is all about what the relationship is built on, if it built just on looks, maybe it will be a problem, but when the connection is emotional and there is respect, it is nothing but a feature. I hope you find people in your life that help you feel like it is not in any way a problem, as it is not :)

3points

Sam J 2 years ago

Would've been nice to see things like moles and eye bags mentioned outright as well, because those are probably my biggest concerns for how I look.

2points

Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

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Falcon on Dizzy 2 years ago

Pretty much all men be like: woman sexy lol idc about most stuff also wtf is louis Vuitton or whatever

1point

RatherLoopy 2 years ago (edited)

The myth of vaginal tightness. As a rather ordinarily-endowed male of 68 years (and who was a traveling nightclub musician during the sexually-permissive '70s), I've been with a few ladies over the past 53 years and have never really noticed the "fit" of any particular person. So don't let anyone tell you differently; it's all wonderful!

1point

Iriané Marie Laurentwolff 2 years ago

Aha! So I'm alone because...? 😂 😂 😂

1point

Ghosts 2 years ago

You haven't met the right person yet. No rush.

4points

Dorian Reeves 1 year ago

My girlfriend has very obvious stretch marks down the back of her legs, on her breasts, on her arms, on her stomach… she cares about it way more than I do. Women tend to be their own worst critics because society is so harsh that they internalise it.

0points

Momica98 1 year ago

I've had the opposite experience. Being told I'm fat and ugly has made me very insecure.

0points

Maledicta 2 years ago

SO glad some MEN deigned to explain to us what we should or shouldnt feel insecure about. Newsflash: it's not always about you!

0points

Samuel Zhao 2 years ago

If a guy doesn’t like you simply due to breast size, leave them. You’re better than them

0points

Piggie8 2 years ago

I call b******t on all of this. People are not that realistic.

0points

Scarlett Barbee 2 years ago (edited)

So then, I am going to be practical, well realistic actually...these things matter to some men and to some women. They matter to some degree to everyone in different ways. These are opinions expressed and supported by those who agree...let's face it: it different strokes for different folks. It is extremely unrealistic to say that men collectively don't care about the things listed. Then there are the many women who care about these things for themselves. There is also the fact that men and women have left their SOs for someone else for the above mentioned... In an ideal world and all that jazz...as it is, people like what they like and don't what they don't. The bigger issues are what happens as you age, have children, or get sick and are looked at differently...

0points

Jen Szabo 2 years ago

Thing is, we do what we do to make ourselves feel better. Our worth shouldn't depend on what guys like it don't like. Every woman wants to feel beautiful and if that doesn't attract a man, ok, I still look damn good!

0points

Si 2 years ago (edited)

Silly women for inventing insecurities that have nothing to do with lovely undiscriminating harmless men

-1point

TheSeany 2 years ago

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jonathan rasco 2 years ago

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zz zz 2 years ago

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Ghosts 2 years ago

You're definitely not worth being with.

10points

Oliver Ruddell 2 years ago

You are a little piece of s**t. It's perfectly fine if anyone, even and especially woman get far because is you like food just eat it. Also if you get uncomfortable about period jokes you should stop being such a sensitive baby.

4points

Jen Szabo 2 years ago

You didn't understand the assignment.

2points

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Beth S 2 years ago (edited)

45points

Aliquid 2 years ago

23points

blugeagua 2 years ago

2points

Si 2 years ago

1point

Aurora Borealis 2 years ago (edited)

0points

Swan 2 years ago

these men are talking for themselves; not evry single men; they're all different with different tastes and personalities

10points

Bljurg 2 years ago (edited)

Yes, and those men that have juvenile or idiotic standards are, guess what, juvenile idiots, not men, so you you should not care about their opinion, they are not worth dating.

1point

Swan 2 years ago

9points

Ghosts 2 years ago

I think the message was wholesome but got a little mixed up. Nothing is better or worse. There's someone for everyone.

17points

Leah Jay 2 years ago (edited)

1point

Jus 2 years ago

Ugly big boobs? Thanks.... That was awful

1point

Tami 2 years ago

8points

Alexis minnix 2 years ago

Ok but I don’t spend time on my hair, makeup, outfit etc for men. I do it for me.

6points

Jen Szabo 2 years ago

Yes!!

1point

Nojman 2 years ago

Normal Guy checklist for potential mate: ---- 1. Is female

6points

MagNat 2 years ago

Heterosexual guy*

3points

Kathy Smith 2 years ago

6points

Aliquid 2 years ago

Yes, I agree. I actually have a problem with the "everyone is beautiful" movement... because it still promotes the myth that being beautiful is important in the first place.

2points

Kesam 2 years ago (edited)

To sum up everything I find attractive in people (regardless of gender) in one word: imperfections.

5points

Evelyn Ann 2 years ago

Yes! I love crooked teeth, i find them endlessly charming

0points

Erik Ivan 2 years ago

Looks are not that important. If you live together for a few decades, none of the couple will look the same anyway. In the long run it's what's inside that is important.

4points

Mud spider 2 years ago

3points

Wang Zhuang 2 years ago

3points

Marvelous Rex 2 years ago

1point

Ein Steinbeck 2 years ago (edited)

1point

Marvelous Rex 2 years ago

1point

Aaron Matye 2 years ago

Can we also get the 'Male Insecurities' one? I think we need to hear about both sides.

1point

MagNat 2 years ago

I'm not a guy, but how about: any kind of features that your body naturally has?

1point

KnowsWhatsUp 2 years ago

About the whole boobs comment... Most men would probably notice big boobs but they sure as hell don't turn me on.

1point

blugeagua 2 years ago

1point

Swan 2 years ago

sad that men are forgiving of lots of things but not scars..:(

1point

Ghosts 2 years ago

Eh? I couldn't give a s**t if a woman has scars. I have scars. If you have scars & anyone has a problem with that, then they aren't worth your time.

4points

Milena Stuchi 2 years ago

3points

Sam J 2 years ago

Would've been nice to see things like moles and eye bags mentioned outright as well, because those are probably my biggest concerns for how I look.

2points

Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

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Falcon on Dizzy 2 years ago

Pretty much all men be like: woman sexy lol idc about most stuff also wtf is louis Vuitton or whatever

1point

RatherLoopy 2 years ago (edited)

1point

Iriané Marie Laurentwolff 2 years ago

Aha! So I'm alone because...? 😂 😂 😂

1point

Ghosts 2 years ago

You haven't met the right person yet. No rush.

4points

Dorian Reeves 1 year ago

0points

Momica98 1 year ago

I've had the opposite experience. Being told I'm fat and ugly has made me very insecure.

0points

Maledicta 2 years ago

SO glad some MEN deigned to explain to us what we should or shouldnt feel insecure about. Newsflash: it's not always about you!

0points

Samuel Zhao 2 years ago

If a guy doesn’t like you simply due to breast size, leave them. You’re better than them

0points

Piggie8 2 years ago

I call b******t on all of this. People are not that realistic.

0points

Scarlett Barbee 2 years ago (edited)

0points

Jen Szabo 2 years ago

0points

Si 2 years ago (edited)

Silly women for inventing insecurities that have nothing to do with lovely undiscriminating harmless men

-1point

TheSeany 2 years ago

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jonathan rasco 2 years ago

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zz zz 2 years ago

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Ghosts 2 years ago

You're definitely not worth being with.

10points