Well done good sir. I do know that there are many fantastic fathers our there, single or not. And as a single mother I also hate the assumptions about "mom stuff" and "dad stuff"... really, do not even get me started on that subject.

This is very true.

That probably won't be enough. Since the probabily of this happening is so rare, a man might think that this is a trick or prank. Kinda like finding a gold chest in the moddle of the road. Too good to be true

I really enjoy asking my SO what he's thinking about right now. He's always thinking about something, he always replies when I ask and the subjects are so random!

Why is this listed? Doesn't everybody??

Chaps, I'm happy to share the secret with you. It's not a memory test, it's about feeling connected and (in a marriage or LTR) the shared life. You could talk about a thought you had, something you saw, an idea you had for the weekend. Just share.

This kind of goes against the "I don't pick up on signals" bit. Just say what kind of thing you want. You don't need to get specific but just say "I'd like something like _____".

Aw, this is sad. Personally, big quiet guys don't freak me out or make me uncomfortable, they're usually the ones I like. And I swear I really don't assume that "all guys are creeps", I really do give all people a fair chance. I know that the creepy guys make life difficult for the genuinely good guys, especially if you're the shy and quiet type, and it's really really sad.

We were moving and these two really large men came up from behind us and the first thing that came out of their mouths was, "We don't want to alarm you." Then they said they saw us struggling to move a piano by ourselves and wanted to help. Since they were both about 3 times larger than us we agreed, then they ended up moving every thing and wouldn't let us help. Then we tried to get the dinner but they refused, they didn't drink either so we finally settled on getting them smoothies. They were refugees from Haiti and turns out they had joined the military and both became professors at the local University I work for. Still see them every now and again.

Logged in to upvote this. I grew up assuming women hated men in general, and that the nicest thing to do was just not bother them at all. Stupid in retrospect, but it's a strong cultural signal.

This get me in the feels

I REALLY dig tall guys because I'm 5'7" and I can wear heels and not feel like a behemoth. My husband was 6'2" and most of his friends are taller- a hug from a really tall guy makes me feel so safe because I'm completely wrapped. Bear hugs from him were the best!!! (Widow here)

I feel for the poster's discomfort. It's a shame, but maybe he'd feel a little better at least if he reminded himself that if everyone was as concerned about others' comfort level, there wouldn't be people feeling guilt by association or people feeling fear due to being smaller and weaker. Not that we are likely to ever get to that point, but at least you're one of the good guys if you worry about such things. Hopefully he can work on not letting it consume him and keeping himself in a place where he can just feel good about being a good person.

Hi dear dude, sorry you've been feeling this way for so long. I think the best way to deal with it is to pretend you're Spiderman, and that "with great power [size] comes great responsibility." Try to imagine how potentially threatening it might feel for someone much smaller than yourself to be in your presence, if they don't know you personally, but they've had past experiences with big folks not as nice as you. It's not difficult to defuse the situation -- you could just smile, or offer to help the other person open a door, lift their luggage, etc. Maybe even make a joke -- "Hi, I know I'm a great big guy, but I'm one of the good ones. Can I help you with your walker, Ma'am?" Reaching out in a warm, kind, agenda-free way is always good.

Many women often refer to men s creeps simply because the man showed interest and she found him unattractive. It would help if gals limited the use of "creep" to me they actually feel threatened by instead of just not attracted to.

this is so sad, women do this, as a woman myself i try to treat every man as equal beings, i have been with the same wonderful man for 14 years now and i believe its so good simply because we dont have any gender roles, we both wash up, we both do the chores were both the best parent we can be you dont need to put your self in gender roles just human being roles

As a white male in the U.S., I feel like a creep for existing.

This. Over the years I've just become accustomed to keeping to my own little corner, out of the way of people. Ah well, almost 40 now. Only about 20 years to go.

The really creepy guys are the good looking, quiet "Chads" from Marketing - whose Dad owns the company, so he assumes he can accidentally brush against your boobs or butt, or make disgusting lip licking signals at you. I'll take a giant teddy bear any day.

Guys need to call Bull on the creepy guys who make their life's so difficult by us females rolling our eyes when we think we're about to have to let some creepy guy down easy so he'll just go away. I'll bet we pass right over the nice ones. Guys need to get mad and make them be less creepy. Boys will be boys is just so overused

I have this fear that I give off the creepy vibe and am oblivious to it. what is the creepy vibe exactly?

Don't sit down before you're falling. You won't get far this way, just stuck. It's not YOUR fault, that other ppl MIGHT be insecure. All the best.

There has been PLENTY of explanation about why people would say guys are creeps.

And you get a lot of that on Bored Panda. Especially from people who post their entire lives, with pictures, and then bitch when someone gets "creepy." Which means that they are interested, I really feel sorry for guys. How in the hell do they know what to do? What is or is not "allowed" or what is or is not creepy?

:(

The creep wibe is usually killled with a Quick smile and non-lingering eyecontact. I live in norway, were we dont like to talk to people and see everybody as potential riska for talk. But this gives both me and others a small piece of interaction without the creep-wibe. Hope this helps some body.

The only guys i regard as creeps are the ones actually creepy, like a horror movie creepy sort of thing.

well, if men didn't aim to bed us, stalk us, abuse us, physically / emotionally / mentally hurt us, and kill us for saying "no" to them, then we wouldn't feel every guy has creep tendencies.

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that because most women are insecure

Whenever a girl talks to you nicely: "Is this LOVE?"

True. In my engg. dorm, guys used to wear those containers used to store design sheets over their arms and legs and fight with each other believing they were transformers. Crazy days.

YES!

If you do it ocasionally thats great. But it sounds as if he never talks seriously to his brother. It is important to ask your loved ones how they are doing.

They have pictures for everything...

We don't need a hundred reasons. Usually the answer we're after is something along the lines of "because you're you, and I wouldn't want to be with anyone else". (Don't you dare say that insincerely, though!)

I argue with my hubs about going out. Why is it always my decision? Food is pain for me, just pick someplace you know won’t kill me and I’ll find something I can eat.

Not expressing emotions doesn't really mean there are none.

I don't understand