It's absolutely ridiculous. I had to emphasise that if I accidentally fell pregnant that I will be getting an abortion. I think that made them understand how serious I was about not wanting any more kids. Now I am expecting to have the surgery (salpingectomy) within the next month or so. I'm actually looking forward to it, much less stress and can take my contraception out that causes crappy side effects.

I knew about this because a friend of mine, single mom of 1, 36yo, was denied from getting the operation, I was shocked because me as a 38yo. single man, no kids, got the vasectomy without any problem. I just don't get it...

I'm about to start requesting to grt my tubes tied. I have irregular periods that need to be medically induced or else I am at risk for cancer. Can't wait to fight everyone and my mother.

It should be the same as for a man. You know what your losing? you're sure you want this? ok lets do it

THIS!! In 98 I had my ob/gyn tell me that I should get an iud and I said NO I want my tubes tied, I kept asking at every appointment until she finally said: you’ve waited too late to request your tubes be tied, it has to be 30 days before estimated delivery?! WTF???

my wife always says that she didn,t want kids. it was only in her 30's she completly changed her mind. you never know.

I was extremely fortunate to have an ob/gyn who was willing to tie my tubes (back in the 70's!!!). The hospital required my husband's consent (C.Y.A.), but I knew I wasn't parent material.

Not just her current wishes, but her health, well-being and quality of life. I had horrible symptoms for years, and am in my late 30s. Stated clearly and without hesitation that fertility was not a concern. And still had a doctor dodge my hysterectomy questions because "Some women - not you - but *some* *women* hit 40 and just (snaps fingers) want that baby." This was a female surgeon btw.

I had endometriosis that left me in such pain that I was literally incapacitated. I also had literal non-stop periods - for two years I had maybe twenty days total that I didn't bleed - and was anemic and constantly fatigued and dehydrated despite high iron supplementaion. I was also allergic or otherwise contraindicated to every contraceptive, AND I have a heart condition that makes both pregnancy and abortion extremely dangerous. Yet even with all that, it took over eight years of fighting for me to win my right to a medically necessary hysterectomy. And even then I was abused by the religious doctors the whole time.

Finally had a hysterectomy at 22 after having problems since I was 12. Biggest excuse is that “what if you want children some day”. Beoootch I’m having a period for 2 years straight and it’s not light. Endometriosis, fibroids, cysts, strangulated Fallopian tubes, upside down uterus, cervix removal, right ovary removal, missed school, missed life, but “what about babies!!!”

Or the notion that a woman who's already HAD children and can't have anymore and yet STILL won't give a medically necessary hysterectomy and demands said Woman needs to "try BC for 3 months" and then won't authorize to pay for it. smh

I finally had a hysterectomy a couple of weeks ago, after asking for one since I was 15 (I'm 43). I was told I could "squeeze in a pregnancy" before hand if I wanted to. No thanks. I knew when I was 15 I wouldn't be having children, but every scrap of health care I've had my whole adult life has been based on my fertility. Delighted to now be able to say "Nope, can't have a kid anyway, treat me!"

Hell yes

Oh yes, I had doctors refuse to sterilize me, it didn't matter that I didn't want kids, it didn't matter that I have a disease that could kill me if I carried to term, hell, it didn't even matter that I was married and over the legal age to choose sterilization! Nope, future spawn was all that mattered to them. It took years of fighting to finally get it done.

Yessssss

Gyn nurse here. Our doctors are also very cautious to allow women under the age of at least 35, to have their tubes tied. 1: An IUD is pretty much as save as a sterilisation, 2: You might be 27, have been married for 8 years, have two kids and think you don't want more. Flash forward 5 years, your relationship fell apart, and you've met a new wonderful, but childless man, whose biggest dream is to have at least ONE child. I'm not saying this happens for all, but it happens often enough that women want their sterilisation reversed for whatever reason, so when there IS something on the market that's nearly as safe, doesn't include half the risk of complications and can be reversed in a jiff, it does make sense doctors prefer that. Sure, not everyone can "get along" with their IUD, but there's also the risk of not "getting along" with your surgery, in regards to scar tissue, long lasting infection and/or adherences.......

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Because many women do change their minds later on in life about having children.

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I'm so glad I was talked out of this one!!! I went from no child to four, and after going through a major trauma last year, I'm so so glad I still have the little one who makes my life worth living!

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I kind of get it, from a doctor's point of view. The consequences of sterilizing a woman who later on has a change of heart on wanting children are greater than having someone who wants to be sterilized wait for a few more years to avoid the former. There's just no going back after sterilization, and women changing their feelings about having children isn't uncommon.