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“The Trashiest Person I’ve Ever Met”: 30 Moments That Altered How Folks Saw Their Partners
If you really break it down, a lot of “dating someone” is just a prolonged exercise in getting to know them. Sure, there are other activities, but if you are looking for a long-term partner, it’s generally best to not commit until you feel like you know who they are. Often enough, that means seeing them in all sorts of situations.
Someone asked “What did your partner/ex do that made you look at them differently?” and people shared their examples, both good and bad. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorite examples and be sure to add your own thoughts in the comments below.
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#1
Said we need to buy a house big enough for my grandmother to live with us instead of her living in a retirement home. Then he found the house and remodeled the first floor to include a 1 bedroom apartment for her. She lived with us for 15 years and died at home with her family around her. Now my Dad lives with us in that apartment and it is the best thing ever. Hubby is a rock star.
RagDollLali 11 months ago
It's really nice to hear about people that get along with their in-laws for once, rather than the usual terrible in-law stories. It gets really depressing reading too many of those after a while 😕
XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 11 months ago
I love my partner's entire family! And my mother & brother adore my partner It is so much nicer when everyone gets on well.
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Nice Beast Ludo 11 months ago
Oh I thought this was going to be completely negative. What a nice surprise
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#2
Kicked my dog. I saw red. I kicked him back and left with my dog. Dog and I are doing great 💜.
SheamusFanFrom1987 11 months ago
Hang in there, I've called John Wick and he's coming to pick me up with a second pistol in tow >:-(
Tim Richards 11 months ago
Kick my dog and I'm going to kick you 5 times and see how you like it. Then, I'm taking my dog out for ice cream and finding a new partner.
Uncle Schmickle 11 months ago
Good ! Anyone who is cruel to animals is lower than snake s**t shadow.
Janissary35680 11 months ago (edited)
My wife I were invited to dinner at an acquaintance couple's house. (The wife had been one of my wife's school chums.) During the meal the couple's dog, a completely unsocialized and ill-mannered terrier, was constantly yapping and disturbing everyone. While I was attempting to earn its trust and calm it down, the guy yanked it up into the air by its collar, pulled savagely at its tail and flung it onto the floor. The dog fled yelping into another room. My wife and I looked at one another and said nothing but soon after we begged our excuses and left. We never accepted another invitation from them or made one of our own. A year or two later we heard that the couple had divorced.
Tyranamar Suess 11 months ago
Can you call the police for this? This seems like it should be a police call.
#3
What hammered it into my head that I loved him - My now partner came over & carried my beloved 75 lb old collie up & down the stairs to my condo 2x a day to toilet for months, insisted on driving us to that awful appointment with the vet, stayed with me during euthanasia & actually was tearful, as an emotionally avoidant man & collected his ashes as he knew it would be horrendous for me, then spent weeks sitting on the floor getting my new rescue to not be afraid of him.. I am a very lucky woman ….believe me I know it!
Family's_disappointment 11 months ago
I don't think anyone in this entire universe can ask for anything more than this. We humans don't need someone who we can laugh together with, but we do need someone who will lend us their shoulders to cry on, all the while they hold our hand to comfort us.
Lousha 11 months ago
Just a friendly warning: there are risks of scoring such a great partner when it comes to having pets. When I was younger, I had a cat who loved me with her whole being. It was the purest, most unvavering love ever. She might've liked a few people in my life, but I was always her person, to the end. Now I have a partner who is as rare of a find as a unicorn. Really, truly awesome guy! We lived in a rented place for years, and while he was not a fan of pets and is slightly allergic to cats, he kept promising that we will have one once we can. As soon as we had our own place, we got a cat. And in no time, the cat fell in love with HIM. So be careful, if you want your pet to love YOU, get a generic ***hole for a partner! You're welcome! ;)
Yayheterogeneity 11 months ago
Stop downvoting Lousha! It's a lovely story with a little bit of well understood jealousy from my side ;) It's always hard if your beloved pet suddenly loves your partner more...
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Blondie23 11 months ago
OMG... same! My little dog that hated all men LOVED my now husband the first minute she met him. He took over the care of her the last year she was alive because he claimed I wasn't doing it right! He even took her to that last vet appoitment and held me afterwards to allow me to break down. My Daisy knew he was the man for me!!!!
Mark Fergel 11 months ago
I'm not a dog person (own a cat). Ex-girlfriend (we'd dated about 1 year at the time) had two dogs. One was old and scheduled for euthanasia. Didn't make it. I carried that dog onto his bed and held him as he passed as girlfriend was at work and rushing to make it back home in time. Never cried so hard in so long.
KatSaidWhat 11 months ago
Some people you just want to clone. Sadly you can't clone personality.
#4
We had just got in my car when it was snowy & very icy out. He saw a woman we vaguely know who is nearly blind & has developmental issues trying to cross the road at a very dangerous spot. Leapt out the car to help her & walked her home to make sure she was safe. He also offers to help anyone who looks like they’re struggling with anything. He’s a keeper!
#5
When we had juuusssttt started dating, my husband kept cancelling or rescheduling dates to "go visit his sick friend in the hospital". It turns out the friend was real, not a made-up excuse, and had emergency brain surgery to relieve fluid buildup and pressure. He didn't have somewhere he could recover with help available, so my husband put him up in his little condo. When the tests came back that it was terminal brain cancer, he let him stay rent-free so that his disability payments would be enough to enjoy life without stressing about finances or pressure to return to work too early, and there would be someone there to help him if needed.
When we had a brief period where we thought maybe he'd live longer and he went back to work full-time (the original tumor was actually seemingly defeated, but then a few months later two new ones formed) my husband asked him to pay a small rent... And was secretly keeping it in an account to give back to him to help get him started if/when he could move out.
My husband re-arranged his one bedroom condo to make a permanent space in the living room so his friend could stay there and the space was still usable. I was amazed by his kindness and it spoke volumes about what kind of person he was, and how he would handle difficult situations.
(For those that are wondering... We all became great friends and had fun hanging out in that condo together, but sadly our friend passed away after about 2 years... However, he didn't have to worry about money or care, and he was happy for the time he had left. He said he didn't have a "bucket list" and just wanted to enjoy life with his friends and family, and he got to do that while staying out of palliative care for as long as possible. I really wish he could have seen us get married, but we dressed up the cardboard box with our portion of his ashes in a little custom box-sized suit that matched my husband's, put googly eyes on it, and it sat at the head table between us.).
Teresa Spanics 11 months ago
Please accept my deepest condolences. He was a great friend and you both are great people to do all of that.
Jenni Howard 11 months ago
Land of the free..... to die with huge medical bills
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I was in an international long distance relationship and my boyfriend at the time was flying to the US to see me. I was very ill with a chronic illness and urgently had to be sent to the hospital. He was still in his own country about to get on a flight so I called him and told him that I was going to likely be in the hospital all week so if he didn’t want to come it was okay and I’d understand. He came anyway and spent the whole week with me in the hospital. Didn’t complain ONCE. Brought my books and laptop to me everyday and spent hours just sitting next to me playing Mario kart on my switch. This was 2022 and we got married a month ago 🩷.
Teresa Spanics 11 months ago
Congratulations! I hope that you both have a long and happy marriage!
#7
During the later stages of covid, he was working 15 hour shifts for NHS. I was in India, he was in UK so there was a bit of a timezone difference and the only time we could talk was during his 1.5 hour long commute back home.
During one such call I saw him quietly get up from his seat and give it up for an aged man and smile at him. It was a small gesture, he didn't realise I saw him, but it still told me the type of person he was.
He's the type of person who would work 15 hour shifts and do home visits for elderly patients during covid. Who would give up his seat for a stranger with a smile. Who would stand out in the snow to get a better signal to talk to me for 5 extra mins. I love him.
#8
Made me pick up food (pasta with sauce) HE had dropped onto the floor with my OWN HANDS despite knowing that I have sensory issues that cause me to gag uncontrollably if I touch food with my hands (only things I can touch are dry foods like bread). I'm autistic so it's not just 'not liking' it, it's literally unbearable for me. Begged him to let me use the sweeper (we didn't have any towels), so that at least I wouldn't have to touch it. Did it in front of his friends and mocked me.
I just left him on Thursday.
Seán Baron 11 months ago
If I had been one of his friends, I’d have pushed him on the floor and then rubbed his face in it.
Jacquie Carr 11 months ago
Do NOT let him talk you into going back; don't even agree to talk with him
Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero" 11 months ago (edited)
Somebody needs to put this CWOHS and his friends into some heavy concrete. Preferably while it is still wet for a foundation.
#9
Stopped teaching yoga, went and got her GED at age 31, enrolled in community college, transferred to university, graduated at 7mos pregnant, took a year off to be with our daughter, got accepted to grad school, got her masters, brought in a second income for our family. Together 20yrs next year, I'll never stop being impressed.
Jane No Dough 11 months ago
My grandfather was partially paralyzed from an automobile accident. My grandmother who'd been a stay at home mom for most of her life at that point (their eldest was 38 and the youngest 20 then), enrolled in college for a nursing degree to enable herself to take over her husband's care from the visiting nurses. She became an RN at 64!
Huddo's sister 11 months ago
My mum went part time at her legal secretary job at 34, (didn't need to get her high school certificate, just sit an exam I think) when she already had 3 kids, one with a disability, started at university studying nursing, had two babies during the time she was studying (had to postpone at least 1 exam because she went into labour), and got her degree. Then she worked full time as a nurse for a couple of years, during which time my older brother died and my youngest brother's disability got more severe. She had to stop working to look after my little brother but still made sure we were all involved in school and community activities as much as possible, even when she divorced my dad so was on her own with five of us (though there were carers for my brother too). Honestly don't know how she did it!
#10
She called me a narcissist for not messaging or calling her back during my aunt's funeral.
Also when my aunt died, she had a meltdown because I might miss her birthday.
It’s like a switch turned off that could never be turned back on, and from that moment, I knew it was over.
Jane Jayne Jain Jeign Jein 11 months ago
Why are you all downvoting Huddo's sister? The A-hole in this story called OP a narcissist for attending a funeral - hard to think of a better example of misuse of the word narcissist.
Nick Brown 11 months ago
Projecting. Red flag is the worry that HER birthday would be missed. B'days ridiculously important to narcissists
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Brian Droste 11 months ago
The narcissist in this story is not OP but OP friend? She wants OP to drop everything she is doing and respond immediately to her.
#11
When we were less than a year into dating, he invited me to his brother’s wedding.
His half brother, whom I had never met, proceeded to be combative and antagonistic with me about everything, frequently looking me up and down, lingering on my cleavage. I’ve always been a fighter with s****y men, so I gave the half brother a piece of my mind over lunch. We walked back to our hotel but I was so uncomfortable at one point that I was shaking while we were getting ready for the actual ceremony. My partner, furious, called his family and threatened to leave the wedding right then and there.
I still remember him pacing around the bathroom, in just shoes and the nice pants from the suit we picked out together, interrupting his mom to say, “No, you need to listen to me. No talking. No excuses.” Throughout the entire wedding he was my shield against his half-brother and we left promptly the next day after lunch.
No one — not even my biological dad — had stood up for me with their own family before. I was always told I had to just deal or “Well they’re family.” But he knew exactly how uncomfortable I was and didn’t question me at all. He said once he saw the behavior he couldn’t unsee it and it just disgusted him.
My partner refuses to ever see his half brother again and has been deeply protective of me with his family since.
I still think about that a lot.
#12
Gave food to a homeless guy and talked to him for a while, patted him on the back. He didn't think anybody was looking. I knew I loved him then.
Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
I am proud to say I raised a son just like that. We went downtown Seattle at Christmas to look at the lights and ride the carousel at Pacific Place. Son was a few years older than my friends' kids and wasn't really interested, BUT there was a homeless guy and his dog sitting nearby & he asked if he could go say hi. He sat & talked with the guy for about 20 minutes. Time to leave and the gentleman thanks me for letting my son visit with him, as it made him feel "seen" and like a human being. I was in tears when I handed him the only money I had on me ($20). On the way back to the car, my son put his arm around me and said, "I don't really care that much about presents, Mom. (I had warned him because I was really broke that year). I have a family, a nice house, good food and warm clothes. That's all that really matters." That interaction really made a difference to him.
#13
When my now-husband and I first started dating, I would get anxious about how much he tipped at restaurants (usually 40-50%, especially if he got any hint that the server might be going through a hard time). I grew up with a huge emphasis on saving money, and I thought it was irresponsible to tip so much every time. But one day I just realized - being with someone more generous than me is the best thing I could ask for.
I’ve since seen him stop everything to help so many strangers, find unique ways to get involved in our community, and just make so many people’s lives better with his empathy and generosity.
#14
My partner shifted my mom to our house during the pandemic days. My mom was severely ill with the pandemic virus and he chose to take care of her than move her to a hospital for isolation.
We couldn't keep her with my dad since he has a lot of comorbidities and a low immunity. He did not fear getting infected from her and took care of her day and night like his own mother.
He used to lift her and take her to the washroom as she was very weak and recovering from low oxygen.
#15
He took my phone off me and called my mum off it, forced me to talk to her about our infertility struggles I'd been keeping from her for months. He knew she'd be able to make me feel better when he wasn't able to.
I knew in that moment I'd married the right man and he'd always try to help me through the hard times.
#16
I once got in a huge fight with my father who I already had a strained relationship with. He told me to get out of his house and several other hurtful things. I came home and my ex gf was asleep and I got in the bath and cried. I stayed in there so long, the water was cold.
She woke up and came to the bathroom and saw me. Without saying a word she just took off her robe and got in the cold bath with me and held me. It was the most loving thing I’ve ever experienced especially right after my father wanted nothing to do with me.
Family's_disappointment 11 months ago
I really want to know why you broke up with her? (genuinely curious)
Uncle Schmickle 11 months ago
Why didn't the gf run the hot water ? That would have made both of you feel better.
Nuku Nyara 11 months ago
OP said that they had already run out of hot water
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My first boyfriend hit and screamed at his dog because he urinated inside...broke up with him the next day.
MegDragon 11 months ago
OP states on Reddit that they told the boyfriend’s mom what happened with the dog, and the mom took the dog into her own care.
MegDragon 11 months ago
And I am glad OP didn’t try to take the dog herself because stealing from a violent person is dangerous. Not to mention the legal trouble the owner can cause. Better to report the abuse to whatever relevant agencies, law enforcement, or services are available.
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Tommy DePaul 3 weeks ago
He hit (and screamed) at his own dog. Reading comprehension is a thing.
Load More Replies... Uncle Schmickle 11 months ago
Shocking behaviour towards a poor animal, which would have made its anxiety worse.
Michelle C 11 months ago
That’s sufficient reasoning for leaving immediately. If one can harm an animal purposefully without any sort of compunction, what is he or she capable of doing otherwise??
#18
Went to a boxing class with her. She is very cute and happy most of the time but when the gloves go on there’s no stopping her. Love it.
Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero" 11 months ago
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#19
One night my worst ex and I were out at a bar in the city and she got hammered and started making out with a girl.
On our way home as I’m questioning her and still trying to decide how I feel about it, she reveals that she did it to steal said girl’s wallet, which she then proudly holds up.
She grew up rich but was nonetheless the trashiest person I’ve ever met.
Shark queen 🦈🦈🦈 11 months ago (edited)
I hope you through the trash out, called the cops and the girl so she could get her wallet back.
Robin Roper 11 months ago
I'd have very excitedly said "May I see that!" When it was handed to me, I'd have said, "Now we're going to the police to return this as found then I'm taking you home for the final time. We are done."
#20
I grew up never learning how to drive in the snow (never had to), but it often snowed where I went to school. In college when it snowed, my boyfriend (now husband) would always go and grocery shop/run errands with me when it snowed until I felt comfortable driving alone. I knew he was life partner material.
#21
He’s now my husband but, before when we were close friends we did have a connection (I thought was one sided and never told him). Anyway, I went through a very difficult situation and opened up to him, I ended up sleeping over and cried periodically throughout the night and he would wake up and comfort me. I basically wanted to give up, but he came up with solutions and helped me get into contact with someone who assisted me in turning things around. He was just there for me throughout the years in so many different ways.
We were friends for 6 years before we got together and, I’ve seen him change a lot. He had his own struggles; he went to therapy and sorted himself out.
He shows up for me everyday and I do the same. I lost my job not long ago and am in a bit of a rut, so this morning as he was getting ready to leave; he made me a coffee in my travel mug, told me to get ready so I could walk him to the underground station. It’s sunny out, and it’s his way of getting me up and out and started with my day; I told him I wanted to paint this morning and he tried to make sure I would.
I love him so much.
#22
Claimed that homosexuality is propaganda spread by television.
in 2010.
he was already an ex by that point but we remained friends. suffice to say we were no longer friends after that.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Yep, that was the source of Oscar Wilde's difficulties. Watching too much TV.
Seán Baron 11 months ago
He loved watching the Real Housewives of the Austria-Hungarian Empire, plus the top quiz show, “Who Wants To Be A Governor-General of the Next Country We Conquer?
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Knowingly drinks till blackout. Alcoholism was a childhood trauma for me, and he knew that. We are young but blacking out & not knowing who, what, where has made me less attracted to him. I always told him, i will not date/marry my father.
I just want him to understand, alcohol is okay to a certain extent.
- but Putting innocent people at risk, or relationships, friendships at risk from your actions due to blacking out?? Not it.
RagDollLali 11 months ago
This makes me sad that it's in present tense and not talking about an ex. OP is putting themselves through a lot of mental anguish with this.
Jacquie Carr 11 months ago
He will never ever change for you but he'll tell you he will over & over
Katie Barnes 11 months ago
My idiot brother has done a couple great things in his life. One is going from being a major alcoholic to sober when his son was born. I never thought he would change but he did step up when it counted! I don't miss the days of him showing up at my place, trashed or in withdrawals begging for a few drinks. You never know what someone can achieve, even the most addicted of addicts.
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Yup. It’s okay to leave and not marry a person who will not get help when they have such an addiction and aren’t willing to give it up !
Joanne Hudson 11 months ago
Move on. He will not change for you. You are enabling him right now.
Mad McQueen 11 months ago
Plenty of ex’s that were drunks. Few died from it. Some jail. Dad was. Mom recovered. I was I recovered. Husband was bad but now is. Pretends I don’t know he drinks for a few hours between him getting home at 230’from work and me getting home at 530. I can tell by his speech. His cooking or lack of. Or how he always seems to need to be in the shower when I get home instead of before I get home. I know where he hides the bottles. I know he gets rude an s****y to me and repetitive in what he says when drinking. I’m waiting for him to get pulled over or have an accident. No one hurt I’d hope. But he doesn’t see it. When he does “drink” on Friday’s a my brother. It’s from 230 til 530 then my brother goes home an he keeps going all night. Dinner. Drink. Pass out. Snack. Drink. Passport. Drink. Bed. And Saturdays too. Usually only day he don’t drink is Monday when I’m off. Cuz I’m home.
#24
We were only dating at the time but I asked him if he could take a look at my car for me because the windshield wiper fluid pump wasn’t working. He told me it wouldn’t be a problem. He’s never worked on my make of car before and apparently it’s incredibly difficult but he’s a super good mechanic so he spent hours watching YouTube videos to fix it for me. On top of that he fixed everything that looked like it needed to be replaced and never charged me for it or even told me about it. Married 2 years this May 😌.
#25
How cruelly he treated me when he was in pain after surgery. I stayed married to him for 8 more years, but I still vividly remember going to take a shower to escape him, standing in the shower and feeling part of my love die.
Blondie23 11 months ago
You are not alone. My ex-husband cheated on me several times and was also abusive in several ways. I stayed with him for the sake of our daughter but every year my love for him died more and more and grew into hatred till I couldn't take it anymore and then finally left him. He was and still is a narcisst and my daughter often says it's a chore to deal with him!
Sera 11 months ago
I have had severe chronic pain for years. I had surgery a week ago. Pain is not an excuse to act like a turdmuffin.
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#26
At our wedding told everyone ‘wasn’t it great that he had paid for the whole thing’. He hadn’t, my parents did, he didn’t chip in a penny. Extremely embarrassing when one of his friends remarked to my mum how nice it was for ex to pay. My mum didn’t correct him, not her style, but it put into perspective all of the small lies I’d watched him tell to bolster his ego. Marriage didn’t last long because I realised I just didn’t like him as a person.
Robert Trebor 11 months ago
I would've gone and found the minister and torn up the marriage license.
Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
That was my first thought. It's not legal until it's filed (at least in the US).
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Mom should have sent him a bill for reimbursement of the wedding costs.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
My dad told me, "It's ok to talk to yourself. It's when you start answering that you should start to worry."
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
That is one of the saddest things I've felt in a relationship - not just that I didn't love him anymore, that I truly disliked him as a person. He was the reason auto mechanics get such a bad rep. He & his idiot friend pushed the car of one of my dearest friends' employees into the garage and it slammed into the engine hoist. They did the work, but when they came to pick up the car, there was a huge dent in the tailgate that he insisted was there when they dropped it off. I SAW THEM DO IT and my face has a hard time lying. My friend took one look at me and knew the truth. I immediately said we would fix it and the service was on the house. The ex had a fit (I later explained that I had seen it all and to just STFU). I almost lost a very dear and valued friend over my ex's f*cking lie. It was then that I began to realize how many lies I had overlooked over the years. It was less than 3 months later that I left him.
#27
My partner stayed up with me when I was crying and having a rough night emotionally. He didn’t have to do that by any means, but stayed up until I was okay again. Showed me just how selfless he is. He sacrificed his own sleep just to make sure I was alright.
Kristen Johnston 11 months ago
While this is sweet, it's also base level relationship stuff. If your 'partner' lets you cry alone, that should end things immediately.
Squirrelly Panda 11 months ago
Depends. Sometimes I want to be alone when I'm crying. My hubby will give me a hug, then ask if I want to be alone or cuddled. Important thing, he does his best to give me what I need.
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#28
This is so silly, but he bought a new box of Q-Tips a couple months ago without prompting and put them in my bathroom drawer where they belong. He has ADHD and didn’t take initiative on most things in the past. Came home last Friday from work and he had dealt with all the leaves in the yard (I had planned to do them on Saturday, woohoo!). Love him more every day, 14 years on. 💕.
Jane Jayne Jain Jeign Jein 11 months ago
People go nuts over big romantic gestures, but I think it's the everyday little thoughtful things that make the biggest impression.
NuscheVonGroff 11 months ago
That is the absolute truth! For 40 years my dear husband has brought me a cup of coffee in the morning first thing! He's been very sick for the past 3 years. I knew he'd kicked some of his cancer in the a*s when he felt well enough to make me coffee again. That's true love
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When I got a promotion (in retail, so not a massive uplift in wages), she said she might quit her job and stay at home.
It was a horror story of a relationship anyway, but her comment was the kick start to get me moving out and finishing things between us.
Je souhaite 11 months ago
Smart move no reason to quit your job and sit on yo a*s while your partner has to work to support both of you
#30
When my mother was terminally ill, we wanted to try a "natural" form of medication as our last form of hope but it was really expensive.
My sibling and I scraped our money together to get it for her, my husband (then boyfriend, not even engaged) said he would pay towards it too so we could buy a longer supply. He actually paid more than me and my sibling because he could.
I didn't even have to ask him, he did it because he knew how much my mum meant to me and how desperate we were and he never wanted to money back because "we are a couple and share".
I already loved him of course, but that moment I realised that he's such a selfless person and really want to spend the rest of my life with him.
He asked my father permission to propose to me not long before my mum passed away, so she at least knew about it.
#31
My partner is not an animal person but I love my cat. Despite his initial reluctance to owning a pet, when we moved in together he accepted the cat as a member of the family.
When I had to put down my beloved cat, he was next to me the whole time, holding both me and the cat while I sobbed. He was also crying himself and told me this is why he didn't want a pet initially. He's dealt with loss a lot more than I have so I realized he's scared to experience grief again.
We've got a new cat now (and she's loving but also a nutcase compared to my sweet old cat) and they've got their own special bond. .
Uncle Schmickle 11 months ago
Glad you have another cat. Cats are very good at turning people around to loving them.
Campy 11 months ago
I think where a lot of disliking cats comes from is that, at least in my experience, cats act very different when strangers are around. Even if they're not actually afraid of a stranger, my cats have always been standoffish, even with me, when people are around. I think people see that and just figure that's what cats are like. I'd guess that's why there are so many cat videos online. It's cat owners saying "Look, this is what they're like when there are no strangers around!"
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#32
Got a DUI. Then put broken glass in my birthday cake the next year. I should’ve quit things at that point instead of anticipating improvement.
Shark queen 🦈🦈🦈 11 months ago (edited)
So you're telling me you just accepted that your partner attempted to murder you. RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!!
Tommy DePaul 3 weeks ago
Don't procreate. This particular branch of your family tree needs to be pruned back vigorously.
#33
Told me I was being "manipulative" because I cried when I was going through a rough spot. I did everything I could to never cry around her again, even at funerals. (she's an ex now).
#34
My ex (who was lying about a lot of other things as well) left me at the ER and went out drinking, didn’t respond to my call at 1:00 AM, which was to give him a health update, and then sent me a half-hearted text the next morning asking how it all went.
I could have been lying there dead in the hospital. I regret not dumping him then.
#35
He was repairing something with his dad, but he turned on his ps5 when his father was still explaining to him what to do, because he didn't want to lose time in the game. And when his dad gave him the electric drill, he just said "Don't give it to me, I don't even know what to do with that!". That was the turning point in which I decided I want to break up. Like we're adults, you should know a little more than just how to use a controller.
#36
I had a pretty severe injury that I tried to downplay for years. Sometimes when my ex was asleep I would sneak out and sleep on our cheap couch when I was as in pain because it was a bit more comfortable. One night I did this and as I was making up the couch she just walked in with the blanket from the bed and layed down on the short part of the sectional so we were head to head and went to sleep without saying anything.
That relationship ended up blowing up in my face but for a few years we were really in love and i hope everyone gets a chance to feel that kind of love.
#37
My ex told me he did everything in his power to purposefully make me miserable at my only sister's wedding for the entire weekend.
#38
Forgot to tell me that he had over 100k in defaulted student loans before we married. I found out the first year we filed taxes as a married couple and the govt kept it all.
#39
Yesterday I told my partner that during a Dr visit I'd scheduled to discuss new symptoms, the doc felt something in my abdomen and sent me to have same day imaging done.
My husband replied, "I'm sorry, that must be rough. I'm thinking of strengthening my core during workouts, I think it'll make my squats better."
This morning when I brought up how that hurt my feelings, he argued why he thought I didn't want to talk about it and not once tried to console me or make it up to me.
So probably that.
#40
My partner (now father of my daughter) stayed with me when I was going through a terrible period of anxiety and depression. We were together for only 1 and half year, we were both 22 at the time but he was there for me. He was such an incredible person, he helped me so much I can never stop being grateful.
I had to stop going out of the house because I was paralyzed, so it was months and months of not going out with friends. Then, I was able to start going out again, but in the beginning we would stay for like, 10 minutes and I’d have to leave cause a crisis was coming up. And he was there. Always.
It’s been 8 years and I’ll never forget.
Now our baby has 2 months and I’ve been feeling anxious again (so many hormones) and as always, he is here. I love him so much ❤️
This showed me the kind of person he is.
Upstaged75 11 months ago
I have also described depression as being paralyzed. You want to do things but your brain just won't allow you to.
#41
Yell at me for costing him $2 on a miscalculation.
Tell me it’s my fault for being in a previous abusive relationship. THIS was ironic.
And another occasion, told me to jump in a trash bag cuz he was going to put trash out. I didn’t appreciate the joke but apparently he said I was too sensitive and can’t take jokes. Hmm.
There’s so much more. I don’t know why I put up with so much.
Panda Panda Bo Banda 11 months ago
I believe "put up" was in the past tense
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Jacquie Carr 11 months ago
He's waving a huge red flag directly in your face; it's up to you what you do about it
#42
Had s*x with a guy in our bed (I'm a female, he's a male) while I was sleeping. Woke me up to watch. Never asked. Never said anything prior.
Dragon mama 11 months ago
The gender of the parties involved is completely irrelevant to the story and I wish it had just been left out.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
It may help to indicate her level of surprise.
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Jealousy issues all throughout our relatiosnhip, always asked to check my phone (didn't have an issue since I'm faithful as hell). Went long distance and she always worried I'd met someone else, called me crying about it several times. She broke up with me suddenly blaming the distance and other factors. Guess who posted pictures with her new bf a couple of weeks later.
Man I was considering uprooting my life for this girl and now I feel like all she wanted was whoever was around a availible. I put up with almost two years of the some of the most insane jealousy you can imagine just for her to be the one to do all the things she was worried I'd do.
kissmychakram 11 months ago
Asking to check my phone would be a massive red flag to me. People who text you should have an expectation of privacy too.
Jane Jayne Jain Jeign Jein 11 months ago
Letting someone check your phone is really enabling the jealousy. It's an unreasonable request and shows lack of trust. That person will never love you more than they love their insecurities, and their requests will only get more and more invasive.
Jacquie Carr 11 months ago
If someone is overly possessive and constantly accusing you of cheating with no reason to be suspicious at all, they are absolutely 100% cheating on you, without exception
#44
Called me a “beta” for not voting Trump.
Chich the witch 11 months ago
The Term Alpha comes from a study done on hens. Another term is apparently "Head Hen" So there you go :) https://stellinamarfa.com/meat/do-chickens-have-alphas/
Jacquie Carr 11 months ago (edited)
When related to humans, it became popular by a guy who wrote a book based on his study of wolves. Many years later the author came out and said the whole thing was rubbish after he'd studied it further so even the person who invented the human alpha says it doesn't exist
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Ex told me he needed to break up with me because he was called by the lord for "single blessedness", but then found out a month after that he was already cheating behind my back. Lol.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
The Lord moves in mysterious ways, and by a reverse double-flip He got this jerk out of your life.
#46
Ex-Bf. He would ghost me at any minor inconvenience for up to a week.. He’d brush me off constantly, whenever I brought up anything that I had on my mind or was bothering me.. He would make me cry all the time, making me feel like a bad person for asking for the bare minimum. Made me feel bad about not being able to meet up (**LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP**) when I was in a crappy spot. He missed and dismissed our 2 year anniversary, then came back to just rub it in that he moved on, and something in me clicked, after waiting for *2 MONTHS* for him to come back after ghosting me with no explanation. He would ignore me for hours to play a game. He would block me constantly then suddenly return, causing me anxiety so bad - I’d violently vomit, we broke up minimum once a month. By the time I got fed up waiting, I realized he wasn’t who I thought he was, however I made him special by creating a special image of him in my mind which wasn’t a accurate image of him at all.
Tommy DePaul 3 weeks ago
People can't MAKE you do anything. Get therapy before putting yourself out there again.
What do you think ?
Kiki Likes Sweets 11 months ago
Yes, I was pleasantly surprised. Shame about the clickbait title making it all sound negative.
Load More Replies... GalPalAl 11 months ago
Middle aged woman. Single. Never married. Have always wanted to find a partner who would be the person that many of these stories talked about but hasn't happened. I have no faith that it will. Resigned to be single and introverted. No longer interested in meeting someone for romantic interactions. Would still be happy to have platonic friends in this category, but am surrounded by so many people who suck.
Tommy DePaul 3 weeks ago
EVERYONE around you your whole life s*cked? Yeah, I think this has a lot more to do with you.
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Sarah S 11 months ago
When we had our first child he was so supportive through pregnancy and birth, but it was this moment after that really got me. I was enraptured with our beautiful child after birth, barely noticing that they had had their first meconium poo all over me and themself. Hubby, without a word, got some paper towel and warm water and lovingly cleaned us up. He then worshipped the ground I walked on for weeks after that, thanking me for the work I did in pregnancy, birth, and in feed our baby. Same level of love and devotion when we had our daughter and then our son. Even though he doesn’t completely understand the whole “non-binary” thing he tries for our child and makes sure to use their preferred name and pronouns. Married for 20 years.
Kiki Likes Sweets 11 months ago
Yes, I was pleasantly surprised. Shame about the clickbait title making it all sound negative.
Load More Replies... GalPalAl 11 months ago
Middle aged woman. Single. Never married. Have always wanted to find a partner who would be the person that many of these stories talked about but hasn't happened. I have no faith that it will. Resigned to be single and introverted. No longer interested in meeting someone for romantic interactions. Would still be happy to have platonic friends in this category, but am surrounded by so many people who suck.
Tommy DePaul 3 weeks ago
EVERYONE around you your whole life s*cked? Yeah, I think this has a lot more to do with you.
Load More Replies... Sarah S 11 months ago
When we had our first child he was so supportive through pregnancy and birth, but it was this moment after that really got me. I was enraptured with our beautiful child after birth, barely noticing that they had had their first meconium poo all over me and themself. Hubby, without a word, got some paper towel and warm water and lovingly cleaned us up. He then worshipped the ground I walked on for weeks after that, thanking me for the work I did in pregnancy, birth, and in feed our baby. Same level of love and devotion when we had our daughter and then our son. Even though he doesn’t completely understand the whole “non-binary” thing he tries for our child and makes sure to use their preferred name and pronouns. Married for 20 years.
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