Me (age 23 F at the time) saw my maternal Grandfather who I hadn’t seen since I’d been on chemo and steroids, which obviously changed my appearance somewhat, specifically made my face very swollen and lost a lot of my hair.

We didn’t see him often (his choice)… his first words, “Huh, you certainly look different now you’re older, I wouldn’t even have recognised you - didn’t you used to be a model? Shame.”
Yep, cheers dude.

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I was at a family Thanksgiving,it was warm, we live in the south of the u.s. I was the new stepmom to a beautiful,and awesome, intelligent and incredible nine year old,who is now all of those things in a 40+ year old woman. She, being a kid, accidentally knocked out the screen to the sliding door, because she ran through it not seeing it was in place. My MIL lost it and screamed " *stepdaughter*, you are stupid and a loser and you always will be, just like your fat loser mother!!!" Death silence. Kid crying. I took her by the hand, announced we were leaving and anyone who wanted to be in the car better be ready in fifteen minutes. My husband was there. After he had a few words with his mom. My stepdaughter called me mom from then on. ( She calls her mother mommy. And ftr, her mom is very cool.)

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Sheila who?

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MIL-to-be said I was "ruining her son's life" by not having children. I was always open with him about my intentions.

When I said that if I did have a child, I would adopt because so many children need homes, she said "not healthy white babies."

FYI, my family has a ton of mental illness and breast cancer; both his parents and 3/4 grandparents were alcoholics. What kind of an a- hole would I be to pass those genes on?

BTW, she was a Republican. Once again, "caring" about fetuses but not children.

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Chicago Dog Lover

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We were staying at this inn for my sister in-law's wedding, and I had a horrible UTI. My husband inadvertently mentioned this to his mother, and when I came down for breakfast the next morning she said "Hey how's your crotch" in front of everyone. Aunts, uncles, EVERYONE. I was mortified. His family is very wealthy too; just goes to show you can't buy manners.

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My mum’s father at my brother’s 18th Birthday. “Your mother should have never married your father, biggest mistake of her life, she had so much potential, she could have done anything!”
They’ve been happily married for 40 years and if they hadn’t married, neither I nor my brother would exist, so…

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Hey Ho neighbours

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My aunt from my step-side of the family was going on about “providing the first male grandchild” — my brother was standing right next to her and grandma.

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Potato

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This wasn't at a family gathering, but my dad says a lot of rude things. He's nice but he gets really passive aggressive towards anything he even vaguely disagrees with.

This one time I was having my friends over soon and was reminding my parents to use the right pronouns for my non-binary friend. My dad then said, in the most FREAKING CONDESCENDING TONE, "oH, sO tHeY'rE mUlTiPlE pEoPlE aRe ThEy?"

Same person who got very passive aggressive when I got out of a crowded place after having a panic attack due to the noise and went to put my earbuds in to listen to music. "are you SURE you want to put noise in your ears if you were SO WORRIED about loud noises?"

I was even brave enough to come out to him as lesbian, and he still asks me if I'm 'interested in any boys atm' and refers to my 'future boyfriend' despite being fully aware I don't like guys.

He's usually nice but it makes it really hard to love him when he acts like anyone with a different opinion to him is 1/2 a year old and needs to have it spelt out for them.

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You know how crusty old men tell young women to "smile" when we don't appear insanely happy at all times? WELL...

A few years ago I got told to "smile"... by my own cousin... at our grandmother's funeral... Just me... not my older brother who was standing beside me, just me... I was on vlthe verge of tears of course and just wanted to slap him!

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"So, you're marrying a "J*p?" Racist Uncle

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Robin Roper

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"Way you said that you are burn out and depressed because of your job? You are sitting in the office whole day! Your grand grand father worked in a coalmine since his was 16 and wasn’t depressed single day of his life! Your grandfather run the still mill and wasn’t depressed to. Depression is a modern word for the lazy and weak people". And the same evening: "Anyway, you are already passed the age to have children (I am male 35 years old). You will be too old and weak to support them through college and no child should have an old boring parent to whom he has to look after in his prime age."

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Not my family but my "Uncle in law". We were at the christmas dinner and their parties are really long. I am a migrant and then I still struggled to understand them when they all speak at the same time in the parties and it was very tiring for me. I was five hours speaking and listening to flemish when I forgot how to say a word. My UIL got really upset and gave me a very angry speech about how "This is Flanders and you must speak Flemish" and kept rambling about "immigrants not integrating". Like I said not only I had been 5 hours in a flemish speaking room but also at the time I was going 4 days a week to language classes. But yeah, migrants don't want to integrate... Nobody in the table except my partner defended me. Probably because deep inside they are as xenophobic as him.

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Ozacoter

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Step-uncle-in-law told me if I had a C-section I would never be "skinny" again. Who are you?!

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Alyssa

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When they always talk about how skinny I am at family gathering, where in fact I'm quite normal (BMI 23, body fat 18%). I didn't hate my current look anyway... In Indonesia, some people believe that overweight person looks like a rich man, and those who have less fat looks like a beggar.

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Fei

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Overheard SIL say I got really fat. I am disabled and chronically ill, what's you excuse?

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Rens

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My aunt told me that I should “stop being bisexual” and that it was wrong of me to be bi…On the day my grandma died

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Chelsea Bates

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My mother's Aunt Jean was a woman who couldn't keep her opinions to herself, and rarely stopped talking. We don't have family reunions regularly, so the first one after Aunt Jean died was the first chance Uncle Harry, her husband, had had in years to speak without Aunt Jean interrupting him. He was chatting up a storm with far-flung relatives when my mother and I arrived and carried our food over to add to the lunch choices. Mom whispered to me, "The man talking without taking a breath is my Uncle Harry. He hasn't seen you since you were a toddler." I nodded, unsure what to do with that information.

Mom walked over and greeted Uncle Harry with a kiss on the cheek. His eyes lit up and he focused his unending rush of words on her. When I walked over to join mom, she told him who I was and I just smiled, unsure what to say to him. I certainly didn't remember him from my toddler days.

Uncle Harry turned his attention to me, gave me a quick once-over and smiled big. "The last time I saw you, you were still in training pants!" I nodded and smiled. "You sure got fat!"

...thanks, Uncle Harry. It became clear that during the decades of Aunt Jean shushing and over-talking him, he'd forgotten about basic manners, discretion, and tact. Harry died a few years later, long before the next reunion.

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Hilary Mol

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My step-grandfather hugged me (16 at the time), kissed my neck and then said "Mmm...so tender". I've never wanted to disappear so badly before.

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Emily

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We were invited to an aunt's sister's wedding.

The aunt in question is my dad's brother's wife and she's a real nasty woman. Got into fights with almost all the members of the family but since they stay at my grandma's we still used to talk.
Anyway she's always been jealous of the fact that my mum is a working lady and that since my dad's skin is fairer than my uncle, I turned fairer than her daughter. (I'm the eldest grand-daughter). My mum's skin is darker and my brother's too.

So at that wedding she was sitting with everyone and decided to say that there was another proposal for my dad before his wedding to my mum. And she chose to emphasize that said lady was also fair right in front of my mum and me and everyone else. As if this wasn't enough she told me, "Imagine if your dad married her, you'd be even fairer, like a foreigner."
My blood boiled then and there but mum said not to say anything. Thankfully i didn't have to, another auntie said that there's no need, I amalreadyfairer than her daughter and better looking alredy, anymore and they'd have to hire body guards. "Maybe we should have married 'my uncle' with her. then maybe your daughter would look same as 'me'."

My evil aunt got offended and left to see her sister. No need to say we never went to another wedding on her side of the family after.
She's current not on speaking terms with anyone in the family.

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ShadowShini Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ

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My brother launched into a diatribe about how my relationships from 16 to 25 were basically sex for money. Not even going to offer up my stance.

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At funeral for grandfather:
super religious (Irish Catholic) Aunt to my then girlfriend (now wife of almost 15 years): "so what religion are you"
Wife: "my family is evangelical free"
SRA: "oh, well, you know you are still going to hell, right?"

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Partners father, at a family meal, said he thought Hitler had some good ideas… that was just one comment which seems to sum him up for me.

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DaisyBlue

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My aunt couldn't stop telling how special it was that - now her daughter was pregnant - they could spend their days doing precious mother/daughter-stuff. I lost my mother when I was 10. I never had a mother/daughter-thing, and will never get them either. But I didn't dare to say how much those words were hurting me.

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"It is so much nicer when you are not here, please don't come home for the summer." Just before summer break in college. Twice, once a day before the dorms closed. The other, hours before we were evicted. Her actions, followed by my family denying it, even in the midst of her publicly humiliating me, have given me PTSD. At two she told me my birth ruined her life, I knew nobody would believe me and she would deny it at 2. They believe her lies -- without question. Most recently she gave me 6 months to leave her apartment. My PTSD was intensified due to a horrible rape. She owned the apt I lived in. Where did she think I would live? My father came to my rescue. She denies anything happened and says it was a good financial move for my father. He never corrects her. Her new husband went through my apartment and took what he wanted. Everything was dumped on the floor. It was impossible to get past the entry three weeks before the moving trucks arrived. There was a class in self harm and suicide prevention. After at least one hospitalization a year for 9 years, she made sure I couldn't attend. I developed serious physical health problems, she insisted I switch doctors from the best in Boston to local doctors. When I moved out of Boston, she couldn't understand why I refused to talk to her. Within six months, all the serious problems went away or. drastically improved. I always believed the entire family didn't want me to return, recently I discoved it was just her. Mothers have the power to destroy lives and she knows it.

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"you shouldn't have cut your hair so short. people might think you're gay."

WAIT PEOPLE MIGHT THINK IM GAY IF I HAVE SHORT HAIR?! hold on, lemme shave it all off, NANA, cause maybe i wanna look gay!

(we're on fine terms, i still love her, but she doesn't know im non binary so... awkward)

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Helping senile family move. Wrapping an ancient candy with great care. "I guess you are going to steal that too", popped out of her distant memory bank. I said nothing. What good would it have done.

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Not family, but when I was about 50, my Father told a group of people (at church, in front of me) he was glad he put me on birth control as a teenager so I wouldn't get pregnant. I was on hormones but it was due to a problem regulating my cycle and he had NOTHING to do with it.

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Martha Burgess

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Someone asked "How is your sister?" when I haven't seen her or heard from her since she left her child with me and my mom and my niece was standing right next to me!

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My great Aunt told me one Christmas,as I got a beer, that "only whores drank from the bottle in her day.

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Biological father on his deathbed, the first time I saw him since my parent divorced when I was 4 years old.

“your mother was a cheapskate, she didn't share me the money from the house sale”

That's it, the only thing he said to his only daughter after 22 years, before his death.

I asked ny grandma permission to went home and she said “yes my darling, you're free to do anything you want, and this is your last duty as his daughter, you don't have to come again” she knew how hard it was and hugged me, and we cry together (she was awesome, miss her much)

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FYI my mother bought the house with her own money and raised 3 children on her own.

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“Hey Sis! Is the reason your gay because Mom dropped you on your head as a baby?”

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Years ago and it was to my ex and not me. We were young and expecting our son. We were at a large family function and I had left her alone for a bit, probably off to say hello to someone. Came back and several middle aged+ biddies had surrounded her and were telling her horror stories of births gone wrong which was plainly freaking her out. I came over sat beside her, smiled at them and told them they could all just f**k right off. Think I even got a "well I never" or two :)

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My great aunt, no joke, asked me when I was going stop being "childish" and act "properly". I was ten.

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Aesthetically Pleasing Rat

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“Bats will intentionally fly into your hair to give you rabies” said my sister in law. I was astonished at the depth of ignorance.
This woman is now a national celebrity (no longer my SIL.)

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I (F) was 13 yrs old at the time, and my dad asked me at a family gathering if I realized my face was broken out...

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Madam Puddyfoot

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I was sitting next to my sister at my grandfather’s funeral when we heard our semi-senile great aunt talking about us from behind. She said, “Those girls sure have fat necks.”

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Devin Smith

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About 25 years ago, my favorite aunt, whom I adored as a child, said, "You know, I couldn't stand you when you were a kid. But I kind of like you now. I understand you now. Do you like yourself?" She was drunk. After that, whenever she would see me, she'd have to tell me how much she hated me as a kid. I was devastated. To me, this woman hung the moon. It's still hurtful. Since I lived 750 miles away from my family, I didn't see my mother often; therefore, I didn't see my aunt, either. I would go only as a favor to my mother. Eventually, I stopped doing that. I had no desire to see someone that felt the need to say hurtful things to me to make herself feel better. I don't understand what motivates people to be so cruel.

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Teresa Taylor

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(note that pretty much everybody is drunk except me, my mom, and my dad)

So it’s a casual dinner with 27 people. Everyone is drinking, then someone drives a car into the wall. Who is it you ask? It’s my cousin Lexus, who appears to be unconscious at the wheel. My uncle is asking me (a girlflux) “wHerE is YOur HusBaND” IM SIX GET IT TOGETHER BOB!

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Sister’s 21st. I don’t get on with my parents cos they hate my wife. Brother tells my wife it’s her fault, so I break his jaw after he refused to apologise. Now none of the family understand why I don’t talk to any of them!

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I was at Christmas dinner and my grandpa said "That's a lot of food, are you sure you can eat all that" then I proceeded to leave the table and go to my room and cry.

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After my Dad's funeral, my mother in law comes up to me, points to my father in law and says, "he's your Dad now". I was so dumbfounded by her comment and it still baffles me.

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not at a gathering.. but my stepdad told me he almost grabed my ass because allegedly i look like my mom from behind... and we would wear similar pants.. that's some what rigt because we both wear jeans but she is 13cm/5 inc smaller then i am.. soo yeah

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At my wedding reception, greeting two cousins I had met a total of four times in my life; “Oh, so you finally got around bothering to speak to us then.” (I got on with my Aunt but don’t know why they even came.)

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At my cousin’s wedding my grandma motioned to the very pregnant bride and whispered to me, “I thought you’d be my first grandchild that ‘had’ to get married.” I think I was 12 or so.

Many years later at my first wedding, I was 7 months pregnant. Grandma came thru the line, hugged me and again whispered to me, “I knew you’d get married pregnant.” The woman was awesome :D

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Grandma died so grandpa remarried. The first thing she said when she met me was, "I thought you'd be skinner!"

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My brother and his wife came to visit us in our new home. SIL says it will look nice once you’ve had a chance to paint. The house was purchased freshly painted. I have no intention of painting over the fresh paint. Guess she didn’t like my house. Jokes on her because no one in the family likes her, but we are polite and won’t tell her that.

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My Mom called me a pervert for being Omnisexual. Also I came out to her as Ace before that so :]

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My preschool cousin telling me, in front of everyone, that I should marry her older sisters (also my cousins, also two of them).

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A conversation at Thanksgiving one year

"so like polygamy"
me: "No grandma, polyamory. I'm dating him and her."
grandma: "oh" ... "..." ... "her too?"
me: "yes, her too."
grandma: "ok"

I have a lot of Mormon (all monogamous) relatives, so she probably thought I was wading deeper into that pool.

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nothing incredibly "terrible" so to say, but it still was very uncomfortable for me when i was a child....

My dad is atom physicist in a research institute... Everyone in my family, even friends and acquaintances kept on saying how much i look like my mother and how my dad for sure must have "experimented on clones" or something like that...
How i could be a clone of my mother because i just look exactly like her. To me, it was hurtful because
1. i have an other eye color and nose shape - people seemed to not notice, i thought people didn't see properly or their observation skills were just really bad...
2. i felt like my dad (who did at least half of the NATURAL creation work) was left out, felt uncomfortable too ...but since i am the only girl in the family they never had someone of the same gender of that part of the family (besides my grandmother) to compare me with.
3. i do not like to be a "copy" of someone (i just rather preferred to be compared to my dad, because, i guess intelligence is more important than looks to me)
4. being exactly like someone who you are having constantly arguments and disputes with is not a nice comparison.
5. it wasn't an unique comment, i kept on hearing it every time i met some family friends or family members

But looking back I think they were all just trying to be nice and
if someone tells me now how much i look like my mother, i take it as a compliment, because she is 56 years old and still look super young and beautiful and i hope i take after her genetically speaking. - i still value education more than looks tho and i see how sad my mother is to see how her beauty is slowly fading.

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