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“The Cruelty Is Just So Shocking”: People Are Sharing 30 Times They Had To Deal With Mean Professors
Things that nobody tells you about uni life are that at some point, you grow tired of living off instant noodle pots, and that as soon as you become actual roommates with your BFF, all you liked about them turns into everything you hate. And this is just the beginning.
In classes, you meet fellow students, your crush, and the professors. That’s where it gets tricky, ‘cause some of ‘em truly inspire, support, and show you the side of knowledge that may change your life. But some are just so mean they verge on being evil, according to this Twitter thread.
The thread was started by Chris, a senior class president UNC-Chapel Hill, who took it to social media to share how his professor asked for proof of his grandmother’s death in order to excuse his absence from class. “Empathy goes a long way and some folks just don’t have it,” Chris said in a post amassing 194.1K likes.
His story resonated with many more students who shared their own experiences of dealing with questionable, and sometimes plain mean, behavior from professors. Let’s see what they shared right below.
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John Louis 4 years ago
Ex-College Prof here. Please keep in mind that Professors are lied to ALL the time. Remember that....two sides to every story thing....it applies.
alwaysMispelled 4 years ago
Sure, people lie all the time, but about a double lung transplant?! Come the f**k on.
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Martha Higgins 4 years ago
My mother died during orals in grad school and the university also wanted "proof". I was so distraught trying to figure out how to get home from halfway across the country and couldn't believe the insensitivity of the administration. I ended up packing my car, thankfully I had very few possessions then, and never went back.
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KK 4 years ago
director of the department would also be a good place to start
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Laura Stenger 4 years ago
I can’t even post things I want to say on these comments. Will prob leave after lest I smash this thing
*hippie*witchy*bitch* 4 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry you had to deal with this disgusting professor.
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Callie Ge 4 years ago
The comparison, My Dad died a week after I started a new job, I was flat broke after being on a sole parent pension for 2 years, I couldn’t afford to go to his funeral. My Boss wasn’t having any of that, he advanced me some cash for expenses & paid for my plane ticket allowing me to pay it off over a couple of months in small amounts so it didn’t cause me any hardship. That’s compassion. The real milk of human kindness. I don’t know how these people sleep at night.
Freya the Wanderer 4 years ago
Bosses (and professors) from Hell come a dime a dozen. We need more Boss from Heaven stories!
Load More Replies... Max 4 years ago
Did the same when my boss at an old job at a sport retail store (was 16 years old) didn't want me to miss work when my grandfather died. He wanted "proof of death" so I brought the obituary as proof and still expected me to come to work because he didn't believe it to be genuine. I didn't come to work and went to the funeral. I was told my hours will be cut and I resign on the spot with some, let just say, strong words for the manager.
Erik Ivan 4 years ago
Here in sweden, the union would rip new whole im the Bosses ass for doing that. It would cost the company very, very much when they got taken to court. Also - I have not gotten a paycheck since early 90's. It is none existent here. The sallary goes directly into your bank account.
Philly Bob Squires 4 years ago (edited)
I had a supervisor do that to me when my maternal grandfather passed. I said I was taking the day off, she asked why and I said "for my grandfather's funeral." She asked what time the funeral was and I said "at 10 AM" and she said "Ok then we can expect you here at 1 PM then? I was pissed beyond belief.
Bored Panda reached out to Twitter user Charlsie, @charlsiekate, who shared an incident with a professor she had in her freshman year of college. “I missed the class twice the entire semester, once because my grandfather died. I got a C in the class because the teacher said it was her policy to drop people a letter grade for each absence regardless of the reason,” Charlsie tweeted in the thread.
It turns out, Charlsie didn’t understand that missing the class was such a big deal until the semester was over. “It was an honors class with nine people in it and we actually never got any grades during the semester. The class was Western Civ before 1500 and we did a lot of ancient geography research projects and wrote papers, and the final was a big paper that we turned in the last day of class.”
However, according to the former student, the class “never received any of our class work back and graded until the final day, and then it was only a couple of things. The professor throughout the semester claimed she could not grade things in a timely manner because of vertigo.”
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Bobert Robertson 4 years ago
There's wifi in hospitals sure, but I cannot access the wifi through my brain while I'm unconscious....
"Simo Häyhä" 4 years ago
I was trying to think of a response but you put it perfectly
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Callie Ge 4 years ago
I contracted meningococcal Septicemia, I was in a coma for two weeks & recovery for a further two weeks, I nearly died, I started hemorrhaging & had to have emergency surgery, my heart stopped twice. I got home from hospital on Monday , on Wednesday I received an eviction notice, my rent cheque had bounced , while I’d been in hospital my partner had spent my rent money on other things, when I called to explain, I got a week to pay up & she refused to ever accept another cheque from me.
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Angus Carnegie 4 years ago
what the hell is wrong with people. clearly no one in these photos has lost a loved one
V Martinez 4 years ago
In sorry about grandpa, & I know we can be not in our right mind when people close to us, passes away. If I could have thought of it, I'd ask a neutral friend to maybe come take a few pics, from a small distance, then leave, that way I can focus & grieve. And try to not cause any distraction or be noticed too much. We don't always think like that though in the moment.
V Martinez 4 years ago
Ps - you should not even have to show proof at all. I was just sayin if you end up doing it.
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Id row 4 years ago
If so many people didn't use that excuse to scam, people might be more likely to believe it. It's the #1 lie. I used it once when I actually was on my way to my grandmother's funeral and the cop looked at me like, 'Seriously?'. Even as I was saying it, it sounded like a lie even to me.
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Stille20 4 years ago
Yes, when my mother was dying of brain cancer a lot of the places I had to call for her wanted her verbal consent multiple times. I had to explain to them what was going on in detail and what the cancer was doing to her speech center and still I would get, "it's our policy"... find an alternative1
Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
I never could get Obama care to cancel my friend's plan. I mailed them her death cert, the will naming me as executrix etc and they mailed it back to her aunt ( who was not involved) and kept billing me. When I called they said they needed a copy of everything and I said I sent it you idiots mailed it back. I never did get it resolved. Her fiance said let it be, its fine if it ruins her credit as she doesn't need it and I assume they eventually figured it out. It's been 6 years
Honu 4 years ago
I was really surprised when I had to wrap up my father's affairs how seldom customer service has any idea what to do in these situations. Just simple things like closing various accounts, cancelling cable and such. These are large corporations. People die every day. Yes. I know I'm not the person on the account. They don't exist anymore. No, your retention agent is not going to be able to come up with a promo deal good enough for me to keep service on for a dead person. Luckily, the pension folks and his bank were actually competent and helpful. Also, as a note to future pandas dealing with this sad situation (I'm in US, so this may be different elsewhere): get multiple copies of the death certificate. I got like a dozen. Lots of places require certified copies (at least here in the US) to allow you to deal with various accounts. The funeral home took care of ordering them for me when they were handling stuff with the local morgue to transfer the body.
Zenozenobee 4 years ago
Oh my ! Bring me back in my teens. A tax lady called and asked to talk to my father.I Told her he died two years before. She already knew ( why asking to talk to him???) She wanted to know where his TV was because the TV tax were due for the two previous years.... All his furnitures had been given to charity. Answer from the lady " but he has to pay his tax for watching TV last two years!!!". I told her to call me back when she'd figured out how to contact him in person
Amanda Starratt 4 years ago
I had a patient do that with a government organization. She introduced the worker to her late husband... Well his urn.
Cynthia Humphreys 4 years ago
No excuse for this. My son was in a coma on life support and the insurance representative said he would have to give consent for her to talk to me. She said if he was on life support them he was alive. If I could have crawled through the damn phone...
Shauna Voigt 4 years ago
My dad died two weeks before my wedding. When I contacted the tuxedo rental store to cancel his order, they asked me if I could just find someone else to wear it.
Then the class finally received the grades, Charlsie got a C. “I was able to contest the grade through the honors program and the professor’s response was that I missed two classes and she dropped people a letter grade for every missed class. As a side note, no one in the class got an A, everyone else got a B, in a class where she had not graded any of our classroom.”
Charlsie did what she felt she had to and provided all the info, “because I definitely brought her the obit for my grandfather earlier in the semester—showing that I had to miss one class to attend my grandfather’s funeral in a town five hours away.”
The dean of the Honors program stepped in to tell the teacher that she had to change Charlsie’s grade. Since that, the only interaction Charlsie had with the teacher was during a meeting on changing her grade. “She told me I absolutely did not deserve the grade change and that she was only changing it because she was being forced to do so, not because I earned it,” the former student recounted.
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Jo Johannsen 4 years ago
That's just bad teaching. Arbitrary rules only teach you distrust and disrespect..
Bobert Robertson 4 years ago
What would happen if you attended all your classes plus just randomly sat in on two other classes of theirs? Would you get AAA?
DogMom 4 years ago
How do the department heads allow that. At my university she would have been fired. They were very strict about fair grading and not straying from the syllabus. We had one prof offer extra credit for a silly assignment once and the following semester we were told she would not be “invited back” to teach.
"Simo Häyhä" 4 years ago
There should be rules around grading. Like, you cant give bad grades based on things that aren't related to what's being graded.
Load More Replies... Freya the Wanderer 4 years ago
Dropping a letter grade for every absence? That is not just mean, it is IMHO out-and-out evil. What if a student is in a car accident, or gets REALLY sick? Professors like this aren't fit to scrub toilets at the university.
somnomania 4 years ago
that shows that the grade is about attendance, not the subject matter, which is dumb and also stupid
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Cold Contagious 4 years ago
Strength, peace, and courage to you. I hope things got better for you.
Darren Lewis 4 years ago
so, why did you deserve to get a "finals" grade if you could not complete the work and exam? I get you had an accident with physical and brain injury but that doesn't mean you should get a given grade. In fact, given the brain injuries and loss of ability I would expect you to prove you still had the knowledge after healing. I would, however, have happily given you as much time as needed to recover and come back to complete the course with no penalty.
Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
No it isn't but large companies sure want you to think that so they can dismiss lawsuits for harming customers as frivolous ( looking at YOU McDonalds)
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Jo Johannsen 4 years ago
I admit it seems coldhearted, but how many times were they lied to before they got that way. Maybe never, but who knows?
DamnBecky 4 years ago
When I was a TA in Grad School I only asked for proof if it was a BIG assignment or a final. You would be surprised how many Grandparents die around finals. My response would always be along the lines of "I am so sorry for your loss and let me know if you need anything else and take the time you need. Unfortunately due to department policy I need to either see a copy of a death announcement or something like the order of service from the funeral or memorial service. You dont need to show me ahead of time, but I need to have it when I submit your grade to the system after its been closed. Again, I know that sucks but we request it because I have to get an over-ride to add a grade late without penalty" (which was technically true, I did need a prof to over-ride) Something like that would cause 85% of students to go "Oh okay, actually I think I can get it in on time." and then never mention it again. The few students who HAD lost family members understood and the system worked out great.
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Bobert Robertson 4 years ago
This is definitely university policy, as well as policy in most work places.... You can't just take three days off work and get bereavement pay without providing proof, why should you be allowed to reschedule course work without proof? Now, if that professor refused to make adjustments when given the proof, that's an issue
Kimberly Young 4 years ago
Yup. When I taught at a college, I was required to have an attendance policy in which more than 3 unexcused absences resulted in a decrease in the final grade. The only way I could excuse an absence was for an illness (doctor's note required) or a funeral (obituary required). I hated it.
Load More Replies... troufaki13 4 years ago
I'm not excusing his insensitive behavior, but to be honest, there are a lot of people that had their parents/grandparents/relatives die multiple times so as to have an excuse for something
kathoco 4 years ago
We have to treat students equally. This is expected by students and by the administration. I don't think it's cruel to ask for a death certificate. Students lie all the time. People lie all the time. An airline will ask for it if you ask for a reduced rate. Your employer might ask for it if you ask for time off for bereavement. Why is it cruel?
Remi Flynne 4 years ago
I have never had to prove my parents had actually died when, admittedly at work, I required compassionate leave.
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Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
Its the lying students who think you are a moron who drive you either to this or my response "I don't get paid enough to really care so as long as you turn everything in by the time grades are due and have shown up for most of the classes you pass".
Casey McAlister 4 years ago (edited)
That really sounds callous, but there are definitely people who would lie about their relative being dead to skip a day, so to prevent that I guess there are not many options other than asking for proof.
Kevin Camp 4 years ago
This also stems from the literal hordes on entitled lazy brats in college these days that regularly make up excuses to not attend class. That's not a license to be an asshole, but guaranteed you'd be jaded too.
Id row 4 years ago
It's not cruelty, students have been using the death of family members to get out of or postpone class/tests/assignments since the dawn of schools. Airlines make you show the death cert, too, if you're trying to get a bereavement rate on a ticket. There's just too many liars and scammers out there - blame them.
When it comes to professors' mean behavior, Charlsie believes that there’s some overall confusion that “that professors are supposed to be your friend or your mentor, but they aren’t your friend, and a lot of them see themselves more as your boss, as the gatekeeper.”
In addition, she said she had the feeling that this particular professor didn’t want to be at that state university, and “she hated the football team and the Greek life and the focus on sports and the nightlife.” Having said that, Charlsie doesn’t think that being a professor is “the cushy job it once was, and a lot of professors end up places they never imagined or wanted to be, and they take it out on their students.”
The former student also stressed out that the incident happened a long time ago and it was the worst professor experience she had in college. “Most of my professors were wonderful,” Charlsie said, remembering her freshman year.
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Darren Lewis 4 years ago
sounds like most of the Christians I come across so not even surprised
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John Louis 4 years ago
I missed an important test because of Illness and the first thing I did was get a doctor's report to show the professor.
Lisa Reuss 4 years ago
So Christian school professors are no more kind or empathetic than state school professors. Good to know.
Cold Contagious 4 years ago
I worked as a counselor at a Baptist lockdown treatment facility for girls 13-18 years old and many of the staff weren't from christian backgrounds. Just because the business name says so, doesn't mean all the staff are.
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Kristof De Smet 4 years ago
seems like you know now why she teaches, and isn't really a therapist...
Tammie Braggs 4 years ago
I would have given the presentation of my life. Of course I would have centered it around my conversation with her, her lack of empathy, and how a similar response can have devastating consequences on a patient's recovery.
Allison Baker 4 years ago
Well they do say that those who can - do; and those who can’t- teach. ( and I mean absolutely no disrespect to any of my teacher friends and family. You are all awesome doers. )
Kathy Richardson 4 years ago
She kind of proved the saying of "those that can't do, teach" as this shows she wasn't much of a therapist
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Angus Carnegie 4 years ago
the damn teachers don't even give you a benefit of the doubt, that just say frick you, I don't care. sorry for your loss
John Clark1842 4 years ago
i was a teacher and always took the student's word. I guess this headmistress never heard of step-parents and step-grandmothers.
Load More Replies... Allison Baker 4 years ago
That is a dreadful - and stupid thing to say. Due to my family situation I had 3 grandmothers. I was closer to my step-grandma than my paternal grandmother. This is a common family situation these days.
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Margaret Rae 4 years ago
She waited to ask for "proof" in person because she knew it was wrong and didn't want to send her request via email. So messed up
Jo Firth 4 years ago
I'd have emailed her the obituary later and saying something along the lines of, "Here is the doc I showed you today at your request. I thought it important that you have a copy". Always follow-up something inappropriate with an email. Most times people won't respond, but you have it in writing.
Load More Replies... Kari Panda 4 years ago
But she waited till he was ready to go back to class and then pulled him aside rather than addressing it in front of others. I think she tried to be as considerate as she could. Plus, you never know whether university policy required her to ask for proof.
Paul Werner 4 years ago
Idk what's worse these professor's or the people that lied about loved ones dying that made them think this way!
Cam Sanders 4 years ago
"Sure, I'll show you the obituary. Let's go to the Head's office and look at it in there."
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Karl Baxter 4 years ago
Having spent over 20 years in Higher Education I can confirm that Universities are frequently a refuge for dysfunctional people who are mad, bad and dangerous to know. These people with their appalling social skills and behaviour wouldn’t survive for 5 minutes outside academia but are somehow tolerated nonetheless.
Roselyn Park 4 years ago
“Highly intelligent but not very smart” is how I’ve summed it up when describing some academics.
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Laurie Ostergaard-Overbey 4 years ago
i will bring my husbands ashes to the door for people looking for him...there you go!!
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Laura Würker 4 years ago
I really want to know at what lifepoint the teachers thought their behavior is appropriate. What went wrong in their life that they think it is okay to treat their students like that?
Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
Because when you have hundreds of students you do have a few who had 5 grandmas die a semester and it does make you cynical.
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Harriet Gilman 4 years ago
Strange indeed when people open their mouths and say things that degrade and insult others — for what benefit?
Barbara Vandewalle 4 years ago
Which is why I have never wanted to be teacher, do not like the company
John Montgomery 4 years ago
You expect at least one asshole per school, but two? Not that even one is ok.
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Lisa Reuss 4 years ago
Un-f*****g-believable. What kind of monsters do we have teaching our young adults???
M Kate McCulloch 4 years ago
Professors hear that someone has died about 5 times a semester. One in 10 turns out to be true. While you wish they would imagine what you are going through and show some empathy, also try to imagine what they are going through and return the favor.
Linnéa Myde 4 years ago
"I don't want any excuses about dead grandmas" is not exactly a kind was to say that
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Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
I had a student show up high as a kite for finals after getting hit by a bus and breaking his leg the day before. I sent him home and gave him an incomplete which meant he had next semester to make up the exam.
Lorelai Purvis 4 years ago
at least it's better than making him do it without extra time
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Susanne Müller 4 years ago (edited)
Why didn’t your doctor give you a sick note when you were there to find out about the spreading infection in the first place??? Is this again because the American healthcare system is so shitty so you don’t even get a doctors note?
Fluffy Griffin 4 years ago
You only get a note if you ask for it. I can imagine the first time around you don't even think to ask for one.
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Sammi Unni 4 years ago
usually students are notorious for paying for schooling and books/texts, with some left over for food before they can afford anything luxurious like a taxi ride. or a car. what a bunch of cheepos right?? Come on Mariet lol
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Martha Higgins 4 years ago
I can empathize, I had a very similar experience. So sorry for your loss.
Harriet Gilman 4 years ago
That experience is almost unimaginably bleak. The professors’ gratuitous coldness hits even harder on top of such a shattering loss. Hoping someday it may. possible to decouple and heal those memories by contemplating your mother’s love for you. Surely she now watches over you with pure love
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Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
Those who can’t do, teach. (And those who can’t teach, administrate.)
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Nikki Sevven 4 years ago
Academics rarely know how things work in the real world (speaking as the daughter of two of them).
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Lisa Reuss 4 years ago
FOURTH GRADE??? That is some cold s**t right there. What 4th grader is going to blow his career if he doesn't get his homework finished? These people are giving teachers a really bad name.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
That is when you go to his school and tear the teachers, and the principal who condones their behavior, brand new assholes, and you threaten them with a visit to the school board. You’ll have their attention, their condolences, and a very generous extension of your grandson’s homework assignments.
Kim Irving 4 years ago
The rage that will be unleashed on a teacher if this happens to my children will be the stuff of legends, I am not a mama bear, I am A MAMA DRAGON and this B*tch BREATHES FIRE!!! They are trying to throw their power around over students, if a parent jumped in, suddenly they would change their tune I'm sure, which is even more disgusting, if you ask me.
Lisa Chambers 4 years ago
I would have written back: Kiss my butt you plastic mindless trolls. Do you understand that?
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Bobert Robertson 4 years ago
"here's a test for you, professor. If you are standing stationary at a distance of 1m from me, and my fist is travelling at 60km/h, how long until it collides with your face? You have 0.27 seconds"
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Rachel Peterson 4 years ago
Awful. And you didn't owe him SH*T, not explanations, not reasons, nothing. So sorry for your loss and the unfortunate @sshole.
Bobby Sammons 4 years ago
I'd be well it's like this boss, you can fire me for missing that work thing or fire me because I punched you in the nose. See we all have choices to make in this world.
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Dragan Shisler 4 years ago
I kinda hope that prof realized how much of a d**k move it was for him..
Susan Mercurio 4 years ago
I'm sure the whole class saw what a d**k move it was.
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Susan Mercurio 4 years ago
They are *ssholes. Just think about what they do to their patients. Speaking as one who knows
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Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
Not for everyone. I am a PhD now and my adviser though the process was like the lovechild of Santa and Dumbledore. Always kind understanding and willing to go the extra mile for students. We had a Turkish exchange student fall off the roof and break all his limbs and Bill walked him through all the medical billing s**t and applying for aid etc.
Susan Mercurio 4 years ago
Whereas, in Turkey, they have national health insurance
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Michelle Moore-Scognamiglio 4 years ago
Not death but had a high school teacher steal my research and pass it off as hers. We were reading Catcher in the Rye and I told her how the man that killed Lennon had it in his pocket when he did it. She openly argued with me about it so in 1987, before internet, I went out researched this found a couple articles and brought them to her whereas she copied them and handed them out in all her classes and never credited me after already cutting me down.
Carol Emerson 4 years ago
Too many people make excuses and lie about relative and friends death as well as own illness to take time off school/work or get extensions on school papers. It's not about being cruel but about the person being lied to too many times
I want cake 4 years ago
You can deal with that without being a complete and utter cûnt about it. You can be understanding and ask for proof in a nice way. Just because people have lied to you doesn't mean you get to treat everyone, including people who are grieving, sick, or injured, like sh*t.
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CrunChewy McSandybutt 4 years ago
I wonder if any of these people complained to the University? I don't know if it would help, but I think it would be worth a try. But then again, when you are in the throes of grief, you don't really think about that stuff.
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Alphabet Soupy 4 years ago
This sounds a little fake to me, or do parents not usually let the school know if all 3 children are home sick with an infectious disease?? You usually get some work to take home, otherwise you get a zero on assignments. And yeah I’m calling absolute bs on the cops walking away after reading some “quarantine” sign and not questioning the parents of 3 children who are suddenly not in school.
Caroline Nagel 4 years ago
And wouldn't the school have been notified by the doctor/authorities that there was an outbreak of chickenpox and shouldn't the parents of the other children at the school be told as well? Strange story.
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N G 4 years ago
I don't want to come across as insensitive, but it feels like something's missing - why would his father risk his life to do a cremation?
Kay blue 4 years ago
It happened in 2020 so probably the pandemic, the father could be considered vulnerable and at extremely high risk if he got Covid-19.
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Kim Irving 4 years ago
I cannot BELIEVE these people! I hope your remaining parent tore a strip off of this "teacher"!! What 9 year old would lie about something like that?!?! Unreal.
Cory Tollman 4 years ago
I cannot imaging the amount of rage my mother would have had if I had been in that situation. She would have been on a crusade to have that teacher fired.
H Edwards 4 years ago
I do NOT in any way condone the behaviour of this teacher, but when there is a bereavement like that then the school and teachers should be informed. I would also say that a 9 year old kid who just lost their father probably needs a couple of days off school, but I don't want to judge because I don't know the circumstances.
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Susanne Müller 4 years ago
There is always a cutoff somewhere, it’s usually next of kin and night even be limited to parents, siblings and children only. In Europe, one would use vacation days for that probably...
Katrina B. 4 years ago
Most employers in the US have a immediate family only for bereavement. My workplace is parents, grandparents, and siblings. Otherwise you take vacation days.
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N G 4 years ago
Lack of work ethic in some bad apples spoils it for the rest. But some of these are where things have happened to the actual OP - like accidents landing them in hospital, and the lack of empathy and understanding when they appear bruised and PHYSICALLY MISSING BITS, is taking the abuse of power too far.
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Micheal With A B 4 years ago
So, I am chronically ill. I've spent about 80% of my life in the hospital. I have gastroparesis, and was in the hospital about a month ago. I still had Zoom classes and I had emailed my teacher at the beginning of the year that I am chronically ill, I vomit a lot, and I can't turn my camera on this year. She was cool with it, until I was in the hospital. I had told her about my situation. I got onto class and she got all pissy about my not turning my camera on. I again, reminded her. And she persisted. In frustration, I turn my camera on, ans she sees me: Oily hair, NG tube, multiple IVs, rail thin, puking my guts out. She then politely said I could turn my camera off. I hate teachers and I can't wait to be out of school.
Rissie 4 years ago
I'm sorry to say that they are just as bad as a lot of people you will meet the rest of your life. Hope you find something that works for your illness and that you do meet the awesome people that are out there too. And fork her.
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Thea Gegenberg 4 years ago
It's funny my dad is a prof and he did the opposite of these stories. He'd joke in private about the amount of grandmas that died during midterms but he'd always let the students reschedule, no questions asked.
Damon Tripodi 4 years ago
and that's why these people act this way, so predictable - we had bomb threats EVERY time - they just put up official notices saying the building had a threat but everything just kept on.
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howdylee 4 years ago
Senior year of undergrad, my grandma passed away unexpectedly, the Saturday morning as Sprink Break started. She lived in Florida, the funeral was in Florida... if it wasn't for the funeral, it would have been great spending spring break in Florida. Except I couldn't get a flight home until the Tuesday after classes resumed. I thought I'd have to show proof etc, but not one single professor hassled me about it, they all offered their sympathies and didn't have a problem with missing a couple days.
GeneralZod 4 years ago
I had a very opposite thing happen once. My grandmother passed away and the obituary was in the local paper. My then-manager recognized the last name (I have a very unique last name) and approached me that I didn't need to be at work and I should take time to grieve. I planned to take off for the funeral, but was new to the job and never expected such kindness. It's been 23 years and I still work for the same company.
AY1984 4 years ago
When my father passed away suddenly my husbands boss made him take an entire week off work to be there for me. I worked part time through the week but my husbands boss refused to let him come back to work.
Load More Replies... KombatBunni 4 years ago
I just want to send hugs to everyone who lost a family member or a friend and then had to deal with insensitive idiots. I’ve lost both grandparents so I know the feeling.
John Louis 4 years ago
Ex-College Prof here. Please keep in mind that Professors are lied to ALL the time. Remember that....two sides to every story thing....it applies. Besides I missed an important exam because of illness and the first thing I did was obtain a doctor's report.
Ozacoter 4 years ago
That ia never an excuse to be rude or fail a person for being sick or losing a loved one.
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Evil Little Thing 4 years ago
A bunch of these stories describe behavior that is beyond the pale, but asking for some kind of evidence to support giving you an exception to the rules is normal and justified. You don't need a death certificate to show you were at a funeral; any of the little memorial pamphlets or whatever will do.
I want cake 4 years ago
Where I live I have never heard of needing to give proof of bereavement or doctor's notes for sick leave. If I phone my job and tell them I'm ill, or I have to take time off because a relative passed away, that's it. I get my time off. The only time you need doctor's notes is if you're asking for special accommodations at school or university.
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I’m A Black Cat 4 years ago
As a scholar and lecturer and I can't believe the cold-heartedness! Sure students lie about stuff and it's on them. But I would never risk insulting someone who is telling the truth about death of a close relative or a serious health issue even if there are idiots who lie about these things! Unfortunately many professors start taking themselves way too seriously at some point and lose perspective.
Phil Vaive 4 years ago
Man, I was lucky to go to the school I went to. In one of my last semesters in University, I got a major concussion that put me out of commission for about a month. I was in 5 senior level courses that semester, and every single prof went above and beyond to make sure I could finish the semester without sacrificing my health or my grades. Some profs just let me skip assignments and adjusted my grading scale accordingly, some let me make up assignments or created new ones for me at the end of the semester, and some let me make up the missed assignments on a schedule that worked with the rest of my classes. I am truly lucky to have had them in my corner!
Curry on... 4 years ago (edited)
My brother was in the hospital dying from brain cancer surgery. Family was coming in from all over, with several staying at my apartment. It was the last month of my senior year. ALL of my teachers were accommodating. Maybe they were this way because I had never offered up a bogus excuse for anything. Granted, teachers, humans, should show compassion and not resort to callous remarks and demands, but come on people, you know some students will concoct outrageous stories to get out of a test or assignment, and some offer up excuses on a pretty regular basis.
Micheal With A B 4 years ago
So, I am chronically ill. I've spent about 80% of my life in the hospital. I have gastroparesis, and was in the hospital about a month ago. I still had Zoom classes and I had emailed my teacher at the beginning of the year that I am chronically ill, I vomit a lot, and I can't turn my camera on this year. She was cool with it, until I was in the hospital. I had told her about my situation. I got onto class and she got all pissy about my not turning my camera on. I again, reminded her. And she persisted. In frustration, I turn my camera on, ans she sees me: Oily hair, NG tube, multiple IVs, rail thin, puking my guts out. She then politely said I could turn my camera off. I hate teachers and I can't wait to be out of school.
Rissie 4 years ago
I'm sorry to say that they are just as bad as a lot of people you will meet the rest of your life. Hope you find something that works for your illness and that you do meet the awesome people that are out there too. And fork her.
Load More Replies... Thea Gegenberg 4 years ago
It's funny my dad is a prof and he did the opposite of these stories. He'd joke in private about the amount of grandmas that died during midterms but he'd always let the students reschedule, no questions asked.
Damon Tripodi 4 years ago
and that's why these people act this way, so predictable - we had bomb threats EVERY time - they just put up official notices saying the building had a threat but everything just kept on.
Load More Replies... howdylee 4 years ago
Senior year of undergrad, my grandma passed away unexpectedly, the Saturday morning as Sprink Break started. She lived in Florida, the funeral was in Florida... if it wasn't for the funeral, it would have been great spending spring break in Florida. Except I couldn't get a flight home until the Tuesday after classes resumed. I thought I'd have to show proof etc, but not one single professor hassled me about it, they all offered their sympathies and didn't have a problem with missing a couple days.
GeneralZod 4 years ago
I had a very opposite thing happen once. My grandmother passed away and the obituary was in the local paper. My then-manager recognized the last name (I have a very unique last name) and approached me that I didn't need to be at work and I should take time to grieve. I planned to take off for the funeral, but was new to the job and never expected such kindness. It's been 23 years and I still work for the same company.
AY1984 4 years ago
When my father passed away suddenly my husbands boss made him take an entire week off work to be there for me. I worked part time through the week but my husbands boss refused to let him come back to work.
Load More Replies... KombatBunni 4 years ago
I just want to send hugs to everyone who lost a family member or a friend and then had to deal with insensitive idiots. I’ve lost both grandparents so I know the feeling.
John Louis 4 years ago
Ex-College Prof here. Please keep in mind that Professors are lied to ALL the time. Remember that....two sides to every story thing....it applies. Besides I missed an important exam because of illness and the first thing I did was obtain a doctor's report.
Ozacoter 4 years ago
That ia never an excuse to be rude or fail a person for being sick or losing a loved one.
Load More Replies... Evil Little Thing 4 years ago
A bunch of these stories describe behavior that is beyond the pale, but asking for some kind of evidence to support giving you an exception to the rules is normal and justified. You don't need a death certificate to show you were at a funeral; any of the little memorial pamphlets or whatever will do.
I want cake 4 years ago
Where I live I have never heard of needing to give proof of bereavement or doctor's notes for sick leave. If I phone my job and tell them I'm ill, or I have to take time off because a relative passed away, that's it. I get my time off. The only time you need doctor's notes is if you're asking for special accommodations at school or university.
Load More Replies... I’m A Black Cat 4 years ago
As a scholar and lecturer and I can't believe the cold-heartedness! Sure students lie about stuff and it's on them. But I would never risk insulting someone who is telling the truth about death of a close relative or a serious health issue even if there are idiots who lie about these things! Unfortunately many professors start taking themselves way too seriously at some point and lose perspective.
Phil Vaive 4 years ago
Man, I was lucky to go to the school I went to. In one of my last semesters in University, I got a major concussion that put me out of commission for about a month. I was in 5 senior level courses that semester, and every single prof went above and beyond to make sure I could finish the semester without sacrificing my health or my grades. Some profs just let me skip assignments and adjusted my grading scale accordingly, some let me make up assignments or created new ones for me at the end of the semester, and some let me make up the missed assignments on a schedule that worked with the rest of my classes. I am truly lucky to have had them in my corner!
Curry on... 4 years ago (edited)
My brother was in the hospital dying from brain cancer surgery. Family was coming in from all over, with several staying at my apartment. It was the last month of my senior year. ALL of my teachers were accommodating. Maybe they were this way because I had never offered up a bogus excuse for anything. Granted, teachers, humans, should show compassion and not resort to callous remarks and demands, but come on people, you know some students will concoct outrageous stories to get out of a test or assignment, and some offer up excuses on a pretty regular basis.
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