I love my commute to work and back through the countryside, although mine's only 20mins each way via our local expressway (@ 110km/ph). I also love driving as I do find it relaxing. It's one of the few places where I can get peace and quiet without other people in my face talking all day long or having to listen to a radio nonstop. It's great being able to get glimpses of countryside as I whizz by rather than the 20min stop-start I used to do in the city to get to my previous job.

Yeah but that's different from business travel where you're far away from home for several days. That's just commute and 20 minutes isn't that bad. But try living out of luggage for several days in a mediocre hotel room, eating mediocre, cheap food to not bust your allowance, hustling to and fro to the workplace you don't know well in a city you're also not used to, and definitely no friends anywhere close to go out with to relax after work and only having the limited ressources in your hotel room to relax with no guarantee that the hotel bed is in any way comfortable

If she travels for days it's probably the dad and the oldest brother who tak care of the younger kids though.

My good friend is a purchasing agent for a big manufacturing company. She travels all the time for work. She travels to the same cities regularly, but also to new places all the time as well. She loves it and gets quite a lot of down time to explore the area and try the foods. She sometimes feels guilty for leaving her husband as often as she has to but when she gets home she makes it all about the family! Some people like to travel!

"woman" used dismissively is not sexist? It certainly wasn't meant respectfully, it wasn't her name, it wasn't even a more or less gender-neutral insult. "Read it again carefully - she's not an exhausted SAHM, she's the one out of the house". Yeah, I am still missing the part were it said the husband is a Stay at home Dad. His answer on if she gets time off from the kids is lacking. Just because she has a job away from home too doesn't mean she isn't also the one doing the majority of the housework and childcare. Statistically speaking she probably is, even with a paid job. I explicitly stated before that "Traveling for work" probably just means more piled up work at home. What she is, is probably struggling to relax, struggling to turn of the "what needs to be done (next)" generating unnecessary stress. Stress that affects the interactions she has with her husband and father-in-law. Maybe her problem with her eldest son is that he is a teen and doesn't do his chores.

Maybe she is in fact unconsciously resenting her oldest for stalling her career. But why is having a child bad for her career in the first place? Because she is a woman. Plenty of men had children at various points in their career without it affecting their career at all. The differences are A. society and the employer thinking a woman can't have a career and children and B. who still does the most work at home. It's great coming home from work and being able to relax, but who does the laundry, who cooks, who cleans, who wrangles the children? Even when both partners work the same hours in a paid job, more often than not 50/50 on household chores is not the reality. (Statistically speaking men also oftentimes overvalue the chores they do (or undervalue what their wifes do)).

The dad and oldest son probably take care of the kids a lot as she travels a lot for work. She did also decide to get baby 6 after having 5 kids already, so it doesn't sound like she's stuck with them a lot/ too much. The reason she's so grumpy is probably cuz the oldest kid won't be playing parent to his younger siblings as much anymore

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Maybe you are the mother in O.Ps post H.M.V... u seem to be taking the comments from people denouncing the mothers behavior very personally... Anyway let's move on to another point... (I'm not gonna lie... I get evil enjoyment out of blowing holes through the stupid s**t people like u say... Because it always sounds so reasonable if the person reading your comments simply read them once at the speed they are comfortable reading at while still being able to comprehend the logic u use at face value, which is what around 97% of the people reading these comments will do...) You seem to like the words "statistically speaking"...AWESOME!!! I love it when people who are clearly being ruled by their emotions use big words to try to fool people into thinking they are using their mind to make their point... They never take enough time to actually make sure their responses don't have any weaknesses before they post them... So "statistically speaking more often then not 50/50 on household chores

🙄 you sound like a Ding dong. So here's some assumptions I have about you! You treat all women in your life like second class citizens. If you're married, you probably under value your spouse. If you consider "statistically" a big word than perhaps you should try to expand your vocabulary a bit. I don't see how you put ANY holes in HMVs arguments as all you did was attack them on a personal level... making yourself out to be the fool. I want to live in this magical world of made up statistics you live in... too bad I'm stuck in reality.

Why should he be respectful when she's not being respectful either. Respect is earned. She'd been harping on him for a while and wouldn't relent despite multiple requests from the grandfather. After a lengthy time of being nagged at he snapped and called her "woman". Oh how terrible.