One year a family moved into my neigbourhood from Turkey. The kids (twins) were friendly with mine so I took them around for their very first Hallowe'en. Some neighbours refused to give them candy because they had no costume and didn't know the rhyme, being barely able to speak English. They had been so excited to go out, and this really upset them. They couldn't understand why other kids were getting candy, but they were not. I tried to explain, but they would not listen. Still sad about that, it was less about the candy than being made to feel different and rejected, their first time out in a new country.

We go trick or treating in a friend’s neighborhood every year for a couple reasons. Mainly, because our son is an only child and also because their neighborhood gets into it. So I spend the night following around my 7 year old trying my best to keep eyes on him with herds of costumed kids around. At one point I couldn’t see him and I asked the parents I was with where the kids went. We all realized we couldn’t see about 5 of our kids. But a moment later they emerged from someone’s backyard. There was a big open gate where you could see the whole way in. They had a screen and projector set up playing tv (about a quarter of these houses do this). Anyways we all talk to our kids and apparently they just walked back there and had some pizza and soda. No one gave it to them, they just took it. Now my son is a super sweet thoughtful kid that doesn’t really get in trouble much. So stealing, trespassing, etc are not normal behaviors for him. I think part of it was the group mentality. Idk.

I suspect she just "picked the wrong hill to die on" and didn't get the pat on the back she felt she deserved and was too ìnmature to admit she was wrong

My son (33) found the perfect house for trick or treating this week. His wife was going with their baby and son (6) with some friends while he was coming along behind with their oldest daughter (2). At one of the houses the lady was giving out full sized candy bars instead of the small ones. There was also one raw potato in the bucket, and little bottles of booze for the adults if they were in costume (my son was). My grandson took the potato, by the way.

This is not just about Halloween. Children should be kept away form this woman every other day of the year as well. Probably adults too.

That neighbor was being a b*tch, especially once you explained the situation. How old was this neighbor to not understand your daughter's issue? She deserved the pranks and lack of kids at her door.

You can't look at a child and tell that they are neurodivergent. But if a child is not speaking or acting a bit oddly, just let it slide. Could be a hundred reasons: shy, ailing, neurodivergent, upset over something you don't know about, whatever. We, as adults, only need to "do something" if the child is actively in danger or causing harm to others (setting something on fire, hitting another child, hurting an animal, pocketing goods in a shop, running into traffic). It's not that hard to understand that kids are kids and they come in a variety of packages.

This reminds me of something I experienced in 3rd grade (am autistic). Some kid was handing out cupcakes at snacktime and the teacher took my cupcake away cause I didn't say thank you. I did not even have time to process the fact that I HAD a cupcake, let alone remember to say thank you and then actually speak.

People can be real jerks when it comes to giving. I saw another recent post from a guy complaining about kids from poor neighborhoods coming trick or treating in his fancy upper-class neighborhood where the candy is a lot nicer. I guess he figures that poor children don't deserve to have anything nice.

What an AH... She HAD to get revenge, isn't it? How many parents claim their child is autistic to get favors? Way too much. I don't blame if they didn't believe them.

The woman is an AH. But doxxing her was also an a*****e move. You never know how violent people can get over mundane subjects. We protect our children but ultimately they need to understand there will always be aholes in the world. We can't let them live in our heads.