Honestly, I don't think OP is in the wrong one bit. I like the suggestion by one of the redditors saying OP and his brother should have their own Christmas together. And if the parents want to teach Bree any manners whatsoever, they would make her choose a thoughtful gift for each of her brothers, but I doubt that would happen. Bree is well on her way to being a gold digger.

Bree will be the "baby" even when she's 40 years old. NTA.

In Scotland a bree is a disturbance. She lives up to her name lol

Wow, OP's sister is spoiled as can be. Not only is she constantly being given gifts at occasions where she shouldn't be (like at the birthday parties of others), she's not expected to give anyone else gifts, and she throws tantrums at 17? Yiiiiiiikes. Those parents aren't doing her any favours whatsoever. She's going to end up the type that everyone around her secretly (or not-so secretly) hates. The type who throws hissy fits in public when she doesn't get her way. Someone who thinks absolutely everything revolves around her. The type that everyone looks at and wonders just what goes on in their head, how they got to be so selfish. This is how.

I'm 57. I haven't spent Christmas with my relatives in 14 years. I haven't seen them except for one time when I drove the 750 miles to Philly after my mother had a heart attack. I don't get along with my relatives. We're like gasoline and flame. I do, however, have a new family, one that I chose and who chose me, and I spend my holidays and time with them. DNA doesn't make a family. Love, respect and understanding makes a family. The OP needs to understand that, find a new family and ditch the relatives.

Oh boy the day the parents actually have to say no to their daughter..

Easy enough stop buying your parents Christmas presents, if they say why just say you are adults stop being entitled. Also don't buy Bree anything if they say why just say because she has got enough of you.

"They thought they raised him better" lol maybe they should have raised the daughter better. I have a 6 year old daughter who can throw tantrums that can make a MAGA politician look reasonable, and a 19 year old guy who is chill. Both are getting the exact same amount of gift (at least in money's worth since his computer gadgets are more expensive and she still likes dolls and other less expensive stuff). They are both my kids and will be getting presents as long as I live.

Don’t worry, OP. When your sister has children, she’ll get a big ol’ dose of Karma, and you can laugh and laugh….

It sounds like he wants a token gift to show that his parents have some regard for him. Now his parents and roommates are insulting him. It’s hard to be surrounded by toxic people who dislike you. I’d give up on these people

Wait until this "Karen-in-the-making" is unleashed on the rest of the world. God help us all when she finds out the world does not in fact revolve around her

I'd show up, but only have a gift for your brother.

DEAD NTA I’D DO THE SAME. FIGHT ME

NTA! Why don't you, and your Brother, buy each other a couple of gifts, put up a little tree, make a Christmas dinner all to yourselves! Take pictures, and videos to send to your parents. If they want a low key Christmas, after spending all of the money on her, have a special Christmas with your Brother. You two, could even go out for dinner instead of cooking. If they want to baby, a near grown woman; let them! I'm a grandmother, I raised my two children alone, and I'm now raising my grandsons. I would NEVER, buy for only one child, no matter the age. Unless, I'm broke. Then, it would probably be, scrape a little together for my grandsons. When my kids where 17, and 18, there was never favoritism, and all things were bought equally! I'm sorry you had to go through this, I know it has to be painful to feel left out. Next year, you and your Brother, do it for The two of you only if it happens again. I hope you stood your ground, and stayed home. Sister, sound so entitled, she doesn't even have to buy gifts for anyone.

„She’s still a baby” what’s bothering the most, and it says everything. 17 year old….. seriouslyyy

It really depends on if Bree had a saying in the decision to abolish all the gifts. I was the youngest child with considerable older siblings and I sometimes was really sad when the older family members decided, "what they don't need anymore". They enjoyed the full programm with tree, gifts, cookies and a fancy meal till the age of 25 and then changed their minds? Well, that cut me out of 10 years of lavish Christmases they had. Probably they are fed up with some traditions, but that didn't mean that I was fed up with those!

What got me was you have a "family Amazon", so Bree knows what got. Also there's the what was brought outside Amazon. Just wait, she'll be the "black sheep" one day. Golden Child usually age & disappoint parents. DEFINITELY wouldn't be buying her anything, 17yr old GET A JOB

I'm 16 years old, and I can't even begin to comprehend what's going on in the mind of OP's sister. I couldn't even imagine what it'd be like to live with (or be) an entitled child. I was taught that life isn't fair, and that if you don't get what you want, then you work for it. The parents of OP clearly haven't placed any boundaries or rules with Bree. If they don't do anything about it anytime soon, then Bree is going to grow up continuing to be a spoiled adult-child, which is even worse than a regular spoiled child. Such a shame to see people older than me acting like they're younger than me.

Disgusting behavior from the parents. Don't worry they'll have to deal with that beast of burden for years to come.

My boys are both married and have young babies but I still buy them Christmas presents not much but like socks and pj bottoms and a gift card to some store for 50 bucks, and I get my daughter inlaws gifts too plus 3 grandchildren and I'm not rich I'm a pensioner, I can't believe how your parents are treating u like u don't count anymore I don't blame u for not going home for Christmas, sounds like a spoiled brat your sister

The top (first) comment by reddittor muskiesfan1 is the best !!!

NTA....the OP needs to address this better. Instead of demanding a gift. He needs to do a print out of the gifts brought with the total amount for Bree.( if he can any past gifts too for him and his brother compare to her) sit his parents down when it is not then holidays and explain your point. Showing then the gifts the amounts and explain how wrong they were to say no one is to get gifts and assume that didn't include an 17yo who is about to be an adult. If they want a low stress Christmas but still expected gifts for the daughter then should have requested you and your siblings do 1gift don't worry about them.

Initially I was flippy floppy on this but after reading other details from OP like ‘she got something on OUR birthday as well’ wtf?! Did ya bake her her own cake w candles too?! If the brothers didn’t get a gift on HER birthday OR EVER received ANY gift from her… yea, nta but the parents are sure raising one!!! What this world needs! More entitlement!

Bro my niece had her period in 5th grade. Your 17 year old sister is not a baby. Wait till they pay for all her college everything that goes with it.

I was a middle child also. Seems like middle child syndrome (just what I called it) Either my older brother (a Jr.) or my younger siblings were spoiled. I got the hand me downs or I worked hard for everything. Mowed lawns for money since I was 10. My two youngest siblings died from accidents 16yo brother and a 18 yo sister right out of high school. My oldest brother (Jr) died from Covid in 2020. Middle child syndrome just turned right into regret for any ill feelings I’ve ever had. I hope he takes his brothers advice and be a better man. OP has good parents. He’s still NTA for having those feelings and good in him to set boundaries. Best to stay away for Christmas. Maybe miss it and go for NYE instead. I hope it works out for him and has a healthy relationship with his whole family.

Dude I get your worships the boys. Girls are someone else's her husband's problem. My brother's even my half bro that is not his is better then me. Yeah when I was eleven my first time meeting my 2 year old little brother was a stab in the back. My dad moved his new wife across the country and seven years later my first visit to him they rub in my face that my little bro got to go to Cali disney land the week before i arrived, because they had free ticket about to be expired. The problem wasn't that they took him that he has no memories of now. But that they rubbed it in my face and made me look at the pictures and berated me for being upset about. Even though they never cared about what i qished for on every years blow of the candles was to go to one of the disney places. That's cruelty to a child.

OP you're not the ah. In my family the boys are treated better than girls. One gmother because my brother was the only one to carry on the name. My dad was only son to 4 sisters. Jokes on her. My brother didn't want children. my mom only one brother and 2 other sisters. Even my mom treats my brother different/better than me. I can say something and 5 mins later he says the exact thing and he's right. I had to try to explain what my brother was saying once in conversation. She told me flat out I was wrong this happened twice in one conversation. She kept telling me I was wrong. Later I made her apologize to me. Reluctantly she did on one thing then she realized her screw up on the 2nd one and got a better apology. She stills listen more to what he says, treating me like I'm stupid despite the fact I'd being saying the same thing for months. My friends see how I'm treated differently and don't like being around them..

This is just a thought, and it may not sit well with some, but Christmas is a time for giving. You could lead by example, show them how it's done, by giving presents to the needy, take a toy or two to a childrens hospital, or small gifts to a nursing home, or to a homeless shelter. It doesn't sound like your parents will change anytime soon, but the most important part of Cristmas is time spent with family, while you still have a family. And give without expecting to receive. To those less fortunate. You may stir up some dust, but who cares? It sounds like you could show them all the true reason for the season.

I'm guessing your parents feel that you and your brother are the cause of all their stress. It seems as if they don't buy you and your brother gifts, they will have a lower stress experience. Are you really going let your parents treat you like this? After agreeing to no gift giving, they tell you what to buy your sister! Are you really going to let your parents treat you like this? They tell you one thing but then tell you the exception to the rule....your sister. It's not your sister's fault. She is following the only path she knows. The path set forward by your parents. Her life, as adult, will be horribly destructive to her. All these things are your parents fault. If you think they brought you and your brother up well, even more to be angry about, because they had the right path. Why do they choose to ruin her life? I would go, but without a present for your sister. Leave your resentment outside. Don't worry about getting a gift. Feel good about not being "special"!!!

OP, you are right. Pass on Christmas with them this year, take a breather and start creating your own traditions. Let them know budgets are tight for everyone and since you aren't exchanging gifts you don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable. But, you'd love to treat them to lunch after the holidays. Unfortunately there will be consequences down the road with Bree as a result of the favoritism. She will continue having temper tantrums to get her way, narcissistic, entitled and manipulative. Be prepared to deal with this in the future. Good luck. Or, one last option is say "I can't afford a pricy gift for her but wouldn't mind contributing $ towards something you are getting her, here is what I can afford and you can add my name to the gift". Make sure the offer is made for something they have already paid for, to offset their out of pocket for it. Be specific and exacting and only if you are choosing to be there. Holding Christmas hostage probably wasn't your best move though.

Here is some possible insight, your sister may not be aware enough to realize how this is affecting you and your family. Once she hits emotional maturity, she is likely to eventually realize she was favored in a way that hurt the feelings of others. She may even be on your side, after such a realization.

Your parents are creating an absolute f*cking entitled monster. Sure wish I could be there when reality slaps her in the face.

It's stories like these that make me very happy I am an only child.

We have a Bree in the family. My dad is closed to 70s, his kids are around 40s, our Bree is in the middle. We have always have to take her into consideration or she will make a scene that "we don't love her or care about her". This Xmas she told my dad she wants her percentage of the her inheritance. This is what they are up to spoiling rotten her.