35 People Respond To “What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?”

Our behavior, and the actions that follow it, speak more than thousands of words. So often all you need to do is to sit back and watch people. Remember your male colleague who always uses that patronizing tone of voice when talking to you? Yes, it’s annoying, and no, he doesn’t sense it.

But what if it’s a tell-tale sign that the guy has internalized toxic masculinity? What if this is a precise indication that he feels insecure or somewhere deep down, even threatened by you? You may only speculate or see what guys have to say on the subject matter themselves.

The question “What is a tell-tale sign that a man is insecure about his masculinity or himself in general?” on r/AskMen got a bunch of people sharing what they think are the red flags. And it’s truly eye-opening!

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" If he claims to be an “alpha male” - dude, if you have to tell people (loudly and often) that you’re alpha, you are definitely not

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Homophobia

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Jonathan 3 years ago (edited)

I do believe that the most homphobic are only trying to fool themselves and their true feelings.

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Paul Davis 3 years ago

How true! I remember the U.S. Army came up with a test for homosexuality. The officers who were most keen on catching and kicking out the gays unfortunately seemed to score the highest on the test, and the project was quickly discontinued.

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Full of Giggles 3 years ago (edited)

I strongly disagree. Denial may be a huge factor in homophobia, but religion far exceeds it. Homosexuality is illegal in 72 countries and religious morality is the leading factor in a majority of them. People who live in these countries follow whichever religion influenced the criminalization of homosexuality. They’ve been brainwashed into believing homosexuality is a sin/abomination. They were taught to be homophobic. There are millions of bat s**t crazy Christian’s in the western world that have been taught to believe homosexuality is wrong too. I’ve seen it within my own family and I know for a fact none of them are in the closet.

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Rachel Connot 3 years ago

This could be true for some, but I don't believe all. I think some homophobia comes from generation after generation being raised to hate...having it pounded in their heads.

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Wolfowl 3 years ago

"Mom, you're gay." "WHAT"

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Dave Kool 3 years ago

...and science agrees with you.

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InfectedVoice 3 years ago

Not whatsoever, people are just hateful assholes.

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blugeagua 3 years ago

Yep and that goes for both men and women who are like that.

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Grumble O'Pug 3 years ago

Fear seems to be a driver

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Uncommon Boston Premium 3 years ago

We had to walk through a gay pride parade to get where we were going. My ex refused, what if someone saw him or took his picture? Like I said he is an ex. Husband #2 had comfortable pair of hot pink running shorts. He wore them all the time. No problem. He was confident in his masculinity and had nothing to prove. He once carried my purse someplace to meet me. Pink shorts, purse no problem. Neither should be used to judge or stereotype people.

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deanna woods 3 years ago

THIS! Too many jerks are homophobic pricks. I know some guys like this and they all use religion as a justification.

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Jayne Kyra 3 years ago

Just because someone is homosexual it does not mean you will be attractive to them.

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Sofiia Melnikova 3 years ago

....Because even the most desperate people don't love jerks

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Computernaut 3 years ago

I doubt it. Women can be homophobic too so...

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Deceased Nemo 3 years ago

The only reason why I think anyone would be homophobic is because 1. they themselves are confused 2. they're just nosy asshats I don't belive that homophobia can be blamed on because past generations have passed it down because I know some people with homophobic parents that are the perfect example of what an ally is

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Michael Allen 3 years ago

It's been proven by numerous accredited scientific studies that homophobia in men is a sign of an underlying same sex attraction.

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Flexiegirl94 3 years ago

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Smart blobfish 3 years ago

i'm not homophobic, i'm christian and don't agree with some things LGBTQ+ people do, i have a couple of friends who are gay and trans and i treat them like a normal person, but i don't say there gonna go to hell for being gay.

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Jacob Allen 3 years ago

That's okay, you're entitled to your beliefs. If you don't mind me asking; what things do you not agree with?

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giovanna 3 years ago

YES a thousand times. An ex friend of mine was obsessed with the fear of seeming gay. He was not. But it says a lot about the internalization of machism he was suffering from.

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Lucy Skinner 3 years ago

I know a lot of men who touch womens’ bodies to hide that they are into men. Don’t do it. Someone will know.

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Deal _Anneal 3 years ago

"How can you know you’re straight if you’ve never slept with a man?" ( •̀ ω •́ )✧

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Wolf Gamer 3 years ago

Okay, two points. 1. If your not gay, don't use the f-slur. It wasn't used to oppress you, so you have no right to it. 2. We know what phobia means. We didn't create the word. But it's an actual word, so we use it. Please stop spreading hate.

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" When he doesn’t let his girlfriend/wife wear sexy outfits in public

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In daily life, we come across numerous examples of what we think is men’s anxiety about violating the male gender role. Like, a man hesitating to hug his male friends in public. Often, we jump up to conclusions and don’t give it a second thought.

But according to Jennifer Bosson, a social psychologist at the University of Texas at Austin, this may come down to how people think about manhood. She proposes that “manhood, relative to womanhood, has historically been viewed as both elusive and tenuous.”

By “elusive,” Jennifer means “that manhood is not considered a developmental certainty, but instead is seen as a status that must be earned via action.” And by “tenuous,” she is referring to the idea that “manhood status, once earned, can be lost with relative ease, via a wide range of social shortcomings.”

35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" His view on what makes a man a man is narrow. In his mind, there are only 2-3 types of men and other types are wrong

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Constant attempts to "one-up" anything and anyone at anytime.

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Worrying about face and honour and fighting over it.

I've never been in a fight. 99% of my friends have never been in a fight. None of my colleagues have ever been in a fight.

Yet... you come across these f**wits who seem to think that it's normal. Quite often they complain about it. "Aw I can barely leave my house without someone starting sh*t".

In every single scenario, it is them who is the problem

Tundur , Dollar Gill Report

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These may, of course, seem ancient today, but they do emerge in daily discourse, says Jennifer. According to the psychologist, “Men—even those who are perfectly 'secure in their masculinity'—are aware that their manhood is precarious and that they may, at any moment, lose manhood status in other people’s eyes.”

“Until widespread beliefs about the elusiveness and tenuousness of manhood change, it may be unrealistic to expect the average man to violate gender role norms with ease,” she concluded in her research.

35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Trying to dominate a conversation or activity for no reason/Being needlessly competitive

TheBookOfSeil , fran hogan Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" My friend introduced me to a potential love interest of hers one evening. The conversation turned to what I look for in a guy and I said I like guys who own cats. The dude immediately cut me off and said ‘I’m sorry, there’s nothing wrong with a woman who owns a cat, but there’s something wrong with a guy who does.’ The next day my friend asked me what I thought of him and I told her he’s insecure

Mello-Knight , Elsa Donald Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Always fighting to be right no matter what, even if someone obviously knows what they are talking about.

Beccaaaaaalolz , Ben White Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Trying to crush your hand when they shake it. Usually accompanied by fixing you with what they think is an intimidating stare.

J8766557 , Massimo Sartirana Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" When he's not supportive of the other men in his life. A truly masculine man loves and supports his brothers and celebrates their achievement

An insecure man brings others down to prove he's on "top"

Vega3gx , Tyler Nix Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Any guy who thinks the words alfa and beta mean anything in a social group

idc55342 , Ashkan Forouzani Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" When someone gets upset over something as silly as the way another man enjoys his comfortable clothing, takes care of their body, or the way they like their vehicles.

TurtleChickenFart , Giovanni Randisi Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Aggression and violence. Many insecure men use tactics of intimidation or just plain old violence because they feel attacked by everything, cant discuss like a normal grown up, feel like it proves they are a "real man" etc.

DevilOuttaSpace , David Hinkle Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" The worst are guys who use hashtags on instagram like #realman, #realmen, #realmenhavebeards, #manly, #man, #men, #alphamale, #intelligent, #smart, etc.

I'm like dude, I've never seen a confident masculine man ever once use [things[ like that. If you have to tell the world you're a "real man", or how "intelligent" or "alpha", you are... you aren't. hahaha

Nickolai808 , Dimitar Belchev Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Pretending to know something about a subject they don’t understand.

bayswimmer23 , Tyler Nix Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" When i was in the army we would definitely see people who were bullied in high school and decided to be "billy badass" and join the military then they would be teased and hazed a little as privates. But as soon as they got their own little team and a taste of power they would be the ones that made everyone's lives much more miserable than they needed to be reveling in being the tormenter.

eleazar1997 , Scandinavian Backlash Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" won't let his girl have friends

littlegreenrock , Lauren Rader Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Guys who brag about how much sex they have. Ok we get it, you have sex

vidrenz , Angelo Pantazis Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Constantly looking for the need to brag about your wealth and physical prowess, especially on social media. I know a few dudes who define themselves by the amount of money they've made or how they're better than everyone because they practice a certain martial art

Retro_Riven , Aylin Çobanoğlu Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Insecure about himself: he’s middle age but constantly shares photos of himself in his “prime” such as football team, military uniform etc

weasel999 , Matt Seymour Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" People online who post cringey graphics of a lion or the joker with an equally cringe quote next to it saying something along tbe lines of "followers work for other, the alpha works for themselves" with some dollar signs next to it. Or other similar "motivational woke" posts

dimdimthelesser , Alex Suprun Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Judging people on their choice of shirt and vehicle

Comfortable_Storm_59 , Marisa Harris Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Constant need to demean or put others down

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Definitely show offs. If you are easily insulted by things tied to lack of masculinity(secretly liking pink for example) then you have fragile masculinity. Normally the truly masculine people are those that a true people. They don't need reassurance, they show emotion and the idea of girly colours, smells etc do not exist.

ArchangelDeltius , Shamim Nakhaei Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Here are some that I’ve seen: 1. Constant need to be in a relationship or have a “girlfriend” no matter how he feels about her. 2. Guys who talk sh*t about women who speak up or needlessly call them names 3. Guys who are uncomfortable being CLOSE emotionally or physically around other men in fear of being gay or emasculated. Also just trust your gut around people. Everyone has insecurities but there’s a fine line as to when it’s a part of people verses when people are a part of them

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" creates a nickname for himself

FaberGrad , Samuel Raita Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" If they think a beard equals a personality.

trumpstinyd*ck666 , William Krause Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Over the top displays, or almost caricatures, of masculinity. Making an effort to communicate dominance, like the sticker you described

ryanb450 , Brad Neathery Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" The only sign I can think of is going out of your way to prove that you are not insecure about your masculinity and/or yourself in general. Secure people aren’t looking to be validated for being secure

Plebe-Uchiha , DESIGNECOLOGIST Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Thinking he can beat ANYONES ass, simply because he happens to be male

dodojotaro , Victor Freitas Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Just LOUD in general. Says he does't care what anyone says or thinks about him, but it reality seeks validation and attention from other people all the time

Makivivu , Colton Duke Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Has to make any situation about them, has the be the "alpha", compensates not just with a truck but constant overt "look at me" actions, disregards your opinion immediately if they disagree, dismissive towards anyone who doesn't act like them, loud on purpose because they think everyone like the sound of their voice as much as they do, "act like a man bro", constant put downs, refuses to drink any non "manly" drink, mentions how big their d**k is (it isn't), thinks sport knowledge is a personality trait

roovy60 , Jacob Bentzinger Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Emotionally abusive in relationships

erika513 , Matias Tapia Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" I go to the gym a lot, I've seen guys ripped af yet don't show it off. Then I see the guys who think they need to show off every muscle in their body and have close to no actual muscle.

Or simply people on any online game with the name "alpha"

If you are alpha you don't need to show it off like its a big deal lol

UselessAccounts2020 , Dollar Gill Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Responds to any TRULY constructive criticism negatively, and has to defend themselves from it

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" The "one upper." We had one at a job I worked years ago and I started lying to him to see what he would say. My favorite was when a new Taco Bell opened and I asked if he knew about the secret menu, specifically the "Quattro Macho Guapo Nachos." Apparently, yes, he had ordered them before

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" AlphaMaleChad has entered the chat

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Makes gay jokes.

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" How violent he gets if you call him gay

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Putting nuts on their trucks probably

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Whenever the dude constantly asks for validation from other people

psychowolf00 , Kaleidico Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Whenever he insults himself a lot, doesn't like to be complimented, when he acts very negative,

These are some of the things that I do when I'm insecure.

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" The best indication of insecurity I’ve seen in this thread is the guy who saw someone in real life who seemed hyper masculine and decided to post about him online with a leading question hoping the echo chamber would make him feel better

RiMiBe , LinkedIn Sales Navigator Report

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35 People Respond To "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A Man Is Insecure About His Masculinity Or Himself In General?" Procrastinates on difficult tasks. Often this is a sign that this man is insecure about their ability to produce good work and self sabotages in order to give themselves an out when the final result does not meet their standards or someone else’s standards.

I’m guilty of this and many other behaviors that are deep down rooted in insecurities.

13ass13ass , Shane Rounce Report

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Mrs_ Possum 3 years ago (edited)

From personal experience, a lot of these are not just male things. I've experienced quite a bit of this from women, too. Especially the competitive, one-upmanship thing.

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Chris 3 years ago (edited)

100% this. Should be titled "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A dickhead Is Insecure About themselves". The gender is irrelevant.

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SykesDaMan 3 years ago

THANK YOU!!!

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Computernaut 3 years ago

Agreed.

2points

Hugo Raible 3 years ago

Yes, BP just thinks it's cool nowadays to take a dump on men.

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Bill 3 years ago

If you drive a pick up plastered in Trump stickers and a Trump flag in the bed.

16points

BG 3 years ago

They're now referred to as "participation trophies".

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Steve Barnett 3 years ago

I’m a man and I couldn’t give a flying f-word about masculinity. The so-called ‘alpha males’ that I’ve ever met have been complete fools. Just be a useful person, care for people, not everything's a competition.

15points

Martin Kaine 3 years ago

Absolutely. Take care of those around you, help those in need, listen when people speak and hear what they say, find your passion and work at it, and if you have children, be a dad (not just a father).

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Ozacoter 3 years ago

That reminds me of my ex. He wouldn’t let me spoon him ‘because it’s not masculine’. My partner now might have a lot of defects (like not cleaning) but he is awesome in that sense.

7points

EQXL 3 years ago

How is this about insecure masculinity when most posts are about insecurity because they're just not reserved to men only?

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago (edited)

(Repeat comment) the article seemed to shift since it popped up from originally being just about insecurities that belie toxic masculinity, to also being about general insecurities, which really is an entirely different thing

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Nicholas Yu 3 years ago

Voted for Trump, refuses to take the vaccine...owns an AR-15.

5points

Nevits Yibble 3 years ago

Believes the virus is a hoax fabricated by democrats, attacks Asians for a virus he doesn't believe exists. (That would be all Asians. Doesn't know the difference.)

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Lilith the Demon Panda 3 years ago (edited)

downvote me all you want, you know I am right - bored panda is just turning into toxic femininity propaganda, ever other post is just "all men bad and if not all then enough of them"... you all toxic bitches are exactly the reason why we still don't have equality in this world and why men don't take you seriously... you are just whiny insecure princesses demanding special treatment and all the advantages but refuse to fight for yourselves and take responsibility in your own hands... you are the exact opposite of feminists, opposite of strong responsible women who deserve their right to be treated equally... all bad men in the history of humankind were raised by women - women just like you!

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

it is NEVER "all men", or even "most men". These are articles about describing men who ARE toxic. i.e. "these are the characteristics of a toxic man"... which by default implies that other men don't exhibit those characteristics. Many men respond in the comments with "yup, I hate men like that too". Bored Panda certainly seems to have a feminist slant lately, but to call it "toxic" is overly dramatic and embarrassing.

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Carlota 3 years ago

Just go at any bored panda post about women, lgbtq+ or anything remotely genderless/fluid and check out the comments at the very bottom, you'll see so many fragile masculinities acting up it's sad

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Sri Nath 3 years ago

Nah. This entire website is slowly turning into a generalisation echo chamber. I agree with the alpha male thing but a lot of this is common to both sexes and they want to generalise it only for men.

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Nevits Yibble 3 years ago

Honestly, a lot of these remind me of some women I know

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Johnny Rodriguez 3 years ago

As a man, I have a question for the women here: Is the image those men have of themselfes attractive to anyone of you? In my opinon, with most of these behaviors, it's just men trying to attract other men..

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Elio X 3 years ago

Do youtube dudes who scream at everything count? (That's why I don't care for most popular video game streamers.) Strongly agree about the homophobia and being controlling to a romantic partner too.

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jknbt jknbt 3 years ago

you people missed the $45,000 badge of male insecurity: a giant pick-up truck with large diameter wheels... this is common in Texas where I live & all the US south... these men do not feel like they are big men unless they are driving an intimidating pickup truck. They are always driving inconsiderately and rudely, which is a way of saying "I am bigger than you, get out of my way"... The Dodge Ram is their favorite... Will somebody that owns a bumper sticker publishing company make up a bumper sticker that says, "Yep, I am COMPENSATING"... These men are compensating for being short-changed behind the zipper. Pathetic, not impressive.

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M O'Connell 3 years ago

I just wish there were some variety, every lifted truck with swampers looks exactly like every other lifted truck with swampers. Show me a lifted Mercury Topaz with swampers, then I'll be impressed.

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El muerto 3 years ago

sexism is to apply traits and behaviours to individual base on gender. sometimes it feels like you are measure by the gender you are born with, more than what you do...I'm a bit of a hairy guy, that's enough to label me as "macho", even before i open my mouth...have female friends with exakt the same problem. the fact that you constantly have fight the prejudice from both gender, and even från feminist and anti feminist that can see pass their stereotypes, including sexuality. makes you damn defensive, and a little hostile to people that try to put you in a box.

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Trista Weidenborner 2 years ago

Used to work with an older guy that one day decided to trade in his old car for big red brand-spanking new F350. This thing was gorgeous... and it was obvious he couldn't handle that much truck with how terrified he looked when driving and the way he hit every curb he passed and couldn't go two days without hitting another car in the parking lot. However, anytime anyone questioned his choice of vehicle he got red in the face and blew up at them because "Real men drive trucks!!"

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Sue Prewitt 3 years ago

I see Trump in so many of those

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Mimi777 3 years ago

The ones who think it’s cool to be mean or hate small animals especially small dogs. They feel the need to announce to anyone who will listen that they hate them.

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Serbob 3 years ago

I re-read this replacing the he with she and it still rang true for the most part. A lot of people are insecure regardless of sex.

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

Yes, this should be genderless and sexless.

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Abhainn 3 years ago

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T Simmons 3 years ago

Why all the hate for men at the moment

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Becca Gizmo the Squirrel 3 years ago

One word to run from: Controlling. First sign of a control freak, run the other way. It only gets worse.

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jknbt jknbt 3 years ago

Another sign of male insecurity is that they dare not have a close male friend, lest they be accused of homosexuality. They have to go off on a weekend hunting or fishing trip to get some "Bro-time" with a close male friend.

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Thenatural 3 years ago

What absolute nonsense! You think maybe the go hunting or fishing as a shared interest?

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Manu 3 years ago

Can we all just accept everyone is insecure sometimes and move on?

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

An article saying "here are early warnings about insecure people" is handy, so you can avoid people like that.

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Sky Render 3 years ago

No entry for "has a stupidly overpowered car stereo and blasts hardcore gangster rap everywhere they go" or "deliberately detunes their car to sound like a dying lawnmower"? I'm shocked.

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Nevits Yibble 3 years ago

Different category. The Strutting Peacock who craves attention. Please please notice meeeeee

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Lilith the Demon Panda 3 years ago

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Thenatural 3 years ago

Becoming a bit of a common theme now isn't it...

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Javiera Gotelli 3 years ago (edited)

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

Wouldnt it be just as rude to tell a woman they're bad in bed? True feminism isn't about punishing men or females before males, it's about gender equality.

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Thenatural 3 years ago

Have you had to tell many men they're bad in bed then?

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elStiJneriNO 3 years ago

So you feel like you should insult people based on no knowledge about them whatsoever and they should like that?

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David Cartwright 3 years ago

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Sky Render 3 years ago

Because it's more important to stick to a social concept of "manly" than to just be yourself? That's a curious mindset. How's that working for you?

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Vanta Black 3 years ago

David... buddy... your fragile masculinity is showing. There is nothing "innately manly". There never has been. Things that people have said were "manly" in the past were only labelled as such because nobody would let women do them. These days, women play football, are fighters, can hunt, smoke cigars, wear trousers, have short hair, fart, swear... and anything else that used to be considered "unladylike".

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Fred L. 3 years ago

Oh, seems we just found one.

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Mrs_ Possum 3 years ago (edited)

From personal experience, a lot of these are not just male things. I've experienced quite a bit of this from women, too. Especially the competitive, one-upmanship thing.

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Chris 3 years ago (edited)

100% this. Should be titled "What Is A Tell-Tale Sign That A dickhead Is Insecure About themselves". The gender is irrelevant.

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SykesDaMan 3 years ago

THANK YOU!!!

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Computernaut 3 years ago

Agreed.

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Hugo Raible 3 years ago

Yes, BP just thinks it's cool nowadays to take a dump on men.

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Bill 3 years ago

If you drive a pick up plastered in Trump stickers and a Trump flag in the bed.

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BG 3 years ago

They're now referred to as "participation trophies".

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Steve Barnett 3 years ago

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Martin Kaine 3 years ago

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Ozacoter 3 years ago

That reminds me of my ex. He wouldn’t let me spoon him ‘because it’s not masculine’. My partner now might have a lot of defects (like not cleaning) but he is awesome in that sense.

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EQXL 3 years ago

How is this about insecure masculinity when most posts are about insecurity because they're just not reserved to men only?

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago (edited)

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Nicholas Yu 3 years ago

Voted for Trump, refuses to take the vaccine...owns an AR-15.

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Nevits Yibble 3 years ago

Believes the virus is a hoax fabricated by democrats, attacks Asians for a virus he doesn't believe exists. (That would be all Asians. Doesn't know the difference.)

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Lilith the Demon Panda 3 years ago (edited)

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

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Carlota 3 years ago

Just go at any bored panda post about women, lgbtq+ or anything remotely genderless/fluid and check out the comments at the very bottom, you'll see so many fragile masculinities acting up it's sad

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Sri Nath 3 years ago

Nah. This entire website is slowly turning into a generalisation echo chamber. I agree with the alpha male thing but a lot of this is common to both sexes and they want to generalise it only for men.

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Nevits Yibble 3 years ago

Honestly, a lot of these remind me of some women I know

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Johnny Rodriguez 3 years ago

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Elio X 3 years ago

Do youtube dudes who scream at everything count? (That's why I don't care for most popular video game streamers.) Strongly agree about the homophobia and being controlling to a romantic partner too.

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jknbt jknbt 3 years ago

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M O'Connell 3 years ago

I just wish there were some variety, every lifted truck with swampers looks exactly like every other lifted truck with swampers. Show me a lifted Mercury Topaz with swampers, then I'll be impressed.

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El muerto 3 years ago

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Trista Weidenborner 2 years ago

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Sue Prewitt 3 years ago

I see Trump in so many of those

0points

Mimi777 3 years ago

The ones who think it’s cool to be mean or hate small animals especially small dogs. They feel the need to announce to anyone who will listen that they hate them.

0points

Serbob 3 years ago

I re-read this replacing the he with she and it still rang true for the most part. A lot of people are insecure regardless of sex.

0points

Aliquid A 3 years ago

Yes, this should be genderless and sexless.

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Abhainn 3 years ago

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T Simmons 3 years ago

Why all the hate for men at the moment

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Becca Gizmo the Squirrel 3 years ago

One word to run from: Controlling. First sign of a control freak, run the other way. It only gets worse.

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jknbt jknbt 3 years ago

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Thenatural 3 years ago

What absolute nonsense! You think maybe the go hunting or fishing as a shared interest?

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Manu 3 years ago

Can we all just accept everyone is insecure sometimes and move on?

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

An article saying "here are early warnings about insecure people" is handy, so you can avoid people like that.

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Sky Render 3 years ago

No entry for "has a stupidly overpowered car stereo and blasts hardcore gangster rap everywhere they go" or "deliberately detunes their car to sound like a dying lawnmower"? I'm shocked.

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Nevits Yibble 3 years ago

Different category. The Strutting Peacock who craves attention. Please please notice meeeeee

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Lilith the Demon Panda 3 years ago

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Thenatural 3 years ago

Becoming a bit of a common theme now isn't it...

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Javiera Gotelli 3 years ago (edited)

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Lauren Caswell 3 years ago

Wouldnt it be just as rude to tell a woman they're bad in bed? True feminism isn't about punishing men or females before males, it's about gender equality.

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Thenatural 3 years ago

Have you had to tell many men they're bad in bed then?

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elStiJneriNO 3 years ago

So you feel like you should insult people based on no knowledge about them whatsoever and they should like that?

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David Cartwright 3 years ago

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Sky Render 3 years ago

Because it's more important to stick to a social concept of "manly" than to just be yourself? That's a curious mindset. How's that working for you?

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Vanta Black 3 years ago

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Fred L. 3 years ago

Oh, seems we just found one.

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