I want a separate bedroom. One that is super feminine and just my own space. I will still sleep with him in his room whenever he wanted but I know he would always want to plus he would be super hurt. I’m sick of sharing half the drawers and closet. I’m sick of his socks on the floor. He works nights anyways so we only sleep together on the weekend anyways unless he is on holidays. Plus he comes home in the morning, crawls into bed and it wakes me up. Once I’m up I can’t go back to sleep. Plus I can never have a nicely made bed. I don’t make it because when I wake up he’s going to sleep for the day. When he wakes up he won’t make it because I’m going to go to bed in a few hours anyways and it’s such a hassle for him. I miss crawling into a freshly made bed.

ZenCupCake , Sonja Lovas Report

POST

View more comments

I’m not going to the dentist today, I lied about having an appointment. Instead I’m going to the airport and picking up his best friend that he hasn’t seen in a year and a half. We’ve planned this since January and I’m so excited.

NervousPig , Jorge Díaz Report

POST

View more comments

that I will never forgive him for cheating on me no matter how hard I try. I think of leaving him everyday. Even though I love him, i absolutely resent him for putting me in such a f****d up situation. He’s sucked out my self-esteem. I hate when he’s selfish even for the tiniest things. He’ll never be able to emotionally satisfy me ever again and he may as well just move on because I want to so bad. Even though I’m scared and it’s going to be hard. I feel like I’ll never get closure or healing if I stay. I’m scared to break up my kids home. What if I f**k them up by leaving? I don’t want to be selfish. But, I’m honestly so miserable because I’ll never love or trust him the same and I’ll never forgive him. I’m extremely torn.

agmmamma , Nenad Stojkovic Report

POST

View more comments

I don’t want to have a child with him because I feel like I will really be stuck in the marriage. It’s been so rocky for the last two years and his temper is scary. I would just rather not.

No-Explorer8900 , chriscom Report

POST

View more comments

Sometimes I want to live separately, right next to each other, but stay married, a la Frida Khalo and Diego Rivera. He has some hoarding tendencies and it really drives me crazy. Makes me want to cry. Yes we’ve talked about, no he doesn’t think it’s a problem. He’s very traditional about marriage and he’d never go for this idea. To him this would equate to asking for a divorce.

speedspectator , David Sunshine Report

POST

View more comments

Literally that he is an awful, horrible man who goes out of his way to ruin anything that is important to me. He is selfish and nasty and I would have split up with him when he ruined Christmas (again) last year. However he was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and I have decided that I will look after him until he dies as he will be alone otherwise. I don’t want his behaviour to dictate mine so I have chosen to care for him because my nature is caring and nurturing. This doesn’t mean I passively accept his behaviour or let him walk all over me but if I told him what I really think he would spend his time left trying to ruin my life. It’s so desperately sad as I really loved him and he has ensured that I will never feel like that towards him again.

MyDelilah71 , freestocks.org Report

POST

View more comments

That I'd just love to live on my own

InnerFaithlessness93 , Robert Couse-Baker Report

POST

View more comments

How much of a catch he really is. I do tell him but he doesn’t believe me.

Far-Crow9752 , Tim Jackson Report

POST

View more comments

Sometimes I don't want to hear about how s***ty your friends are! Make better friends! Sorry!

stu_vendors , Jocelyn Kinghorn Report

POST

View more comments

That I would give almost anything to live as a woman, while we continue our life together. Unfortunately, I think it would cost our marriage, and that’s the one thing I won’t give up.

thewhytoknow , rjrgmc28 Report

POST

View more comments

I can’t stand how he doesn’t take care of health. His parents were/are not the healthiest. Dad is diabetic, obese, sedentary, weak gait and mom passed away from cancer. A lot of his family hate drinking water, don’t exercise, don’t like vegetables, and love red meat. My husband has all kinds of allergies and constantly has stomach issues yet doesn’t do much to improve his health. We have a newborn and he still won’t shift his eating habits. I don’t get how he doesn’t see how he needs to step it up.

Odd-Educator346 Report

POST

View more comments

That I think about leaving him everyday. If I could hire someone to find me a new place to live , pack up everything and move it while I was at work… I would be gone in a heartbeat

DoIhabetoo , Dion Hinchcliffe Report

POST

DennyS (denzoren)

DennyS (denzoren)

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

This is definitely something to talk about. Is it abusive or is there a root cause? No more love or affection? Maybe you can determine what it is and mutually separate.

59

59points

reply

Wandaluzt

Wandaluzt

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

2 years ago

• Report

Stop trying to talk to people on Reddit. They won't see it.

-3

-3points

reply

Load More Replies...

David Zarrick

David Zarrick

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

Shut up

1

1point

reply

Bubbles and sparks

Bubbles and sparks

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

Why wait and leave it up to circumstance? If that really is how you feel, then sit down with him and tell him the love from your part is over... Staying in a relationship without love is a waisted life...

15

15points

reply

WordWeaver

WordWeaver

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

You need to talk to someone trustworthy.

7

7points

reply

N L

N L

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

Then do it.

5

5points

reply

David Zarrick

David Zarrick

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

If she could do it, she wouldn’t be be putting it on a list of things that you want to say, but can’t. Memory or Following The List’s Clearly Stated Purpose Much?

0

0points

reply

Load More Replies...

Fall F.

Fall F.

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

So, hire someone to fix your life? Just how? You know your life the best, no one can fix it for you.

5

5points

reply

ValdaDeDieu

ValdaDeDieu

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

You're not in a marriage. This is a hostage situation and it's unhealthy. Both of you deserve better.

3

3points

reply

AzKhaleesi

AzKhaleesi

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

Did that once, it was amazing. Do it!

1

1point

reply

Omi bub

Omi bub

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

Just get a crappy place & once you are out you will start living your life, getting a better place, organising stuff etc. It only gets harder to leave

1

1point

reply

El Dee

El Dee

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

You shouldn't be there. There are organisations that will help you (not sure where you live tho) You don't have to do this..

1

1point

reply

Kay Westley

Kay Westley

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

I don’t understand why you need to hire someone for you to leave, if that’s what you really want. Just do it yourself. Look for a place to live then hire movers to move your stuff.

0

0points

reply

Autistic Wolf

Autistic Wolf

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

That means you need to leave. The information provided pretty much gives zero wiggle room. If there's more to the story, please do tell, but if not you have to leave. I'm sorry to be the one to say it.

0

0points

reply

Rosie Mroczynski

Rosie Mroczynski

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

Clearly you could find someone to hire to do what you describe. When you are thinking of leaving every day you are already gone from the relationship.

0

0points

reply

Joy

Joy

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

Be your own 'someone' and do what you need to do. It doesn't sound as if there are any kids involved and since this person's working and wishing they could hire someone to help them, money might not be the issue as to why they're unable to leave. So there might be control or coercion issues. If so, perhaps even more reason to leave.

0

0points

reply

Bea Zio

Bea Zio

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

If you really wanted to, you would. Something in your mind is holding you back

0

0points

reply

Amanda W

Amanda W

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

There are definitely ways to do this. Save up some money if you can and get it done.

0

0points

reply

Jennifer Lee

Jennifer Lee

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

You aren't doing him any favors by staying. Call a couple of local property management companies and tell them what kind of place you're looking for and how much you can spend. When one of their tenants gives notice to leave, they can let you know and draw up a lease agreement. It will save them $ by not having to list a vacant apartment. You can pack your valuables yourself, and hire college students to pack and move the rest. Check out bulletin boards at local campuses.

0

0points

reply

Mark Fuller

Mark Fuller

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

2 years ago

• Report

Yeah. Kinda limited sympathy if that's how you feee EVERY day just do it. You only have one life. It may not be easy, but a couple of years pain vs. Misery for the next few decades?? Own worse enemy.

0

0points

reply

William Shade

William Shade

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

So you're using him? Classy. Here let me speak on his behalf: GTFout. Bye falecia

-3

-3points

reply

norabest321

norabest321

Community Member • points

posts

comments

upvotes

FollowUnfollow

2 years ago

• Report

So you're shaming a woman bc she wants to be happy but is intimidated by a jerk husband?? You are one Klassy dude. Great you have everything figured out.

0

0points

reply

Load More Replies...

View more comments

I love him. I love the little family we built and are building. But I wasn’t ready for any of it. I wish I could go back and just wait a few more years for this aspect of my life to start. I feel like I’m drowning in a stage of my life I didn’t want yet.

NorthernLotus , Eli Duke Report

POST

View more comments

I watched all of stranger things season 4 without him while he was at work

sisu19 , Netflix Report

POST

View more comments

That I absolutely hate some members of his family, and i wish he would cut them out

1980peanut , Leonard Erlandson Report

POST

View more comments

It wouldn’t ruin everything, but I am scared to tell him I ran up my credit cards that I paid off…AGAIN. He would be mad for about a day then he’d tell me we’ll figure it out but yeah.

Edit to add for the rude tonsil stone who commented: they’re 5k combined, I paid them off myself after our wedding and he was so proud of me, and then I went crazy and ran them up again. Goal is to pay them off again by myself but don’t want to tell him because again, of how proud he was.

Being nice is completely free—you don’t need to charge it to do that!

My parents never taught us how to save or not overspend, bad examples growing up, so I’ve had to do it myself. Trial and error, mistakes are made and then fixed. I have: a full time job, paid bills, a good credit score, a paid off car within 3.5 years od purchase, so I think I’m doing ok. 😘

JudgmentalRavenclaw , Sean MacEntee Report

POST

View more comments

I’m better at league of legends than him.

We’ve almost broken up over duo ranked games, he makes terrible dives & gets angry when no one follows him in. I’ve got a lower win ratio with him than I do playing by myself or with my friends.

bigbombsbiggermoms , Marco Verch Report

POST

View more comments

That I hate all the thirsty women you follow on IG and the likes you give them.

galactic_kidd Report

POST

View more comments

I imagine what life would be like if we broke up, and sometimes it feels like it would be a relief. I love him so much, and I don’t want to lose him. I know I’m just fantasising, bc there’s a lot I haven’t done or tried and some of that stuff I can’t do with him. But none of it is worth losing him.

Advanced_Weakness_60 , Adam Kuśmierz Report

POST

View more comments

He’s Italian but I make better meatballs than him

abbyalllover Report

POST

View more comments

My ex gave me PTSD and it creeps up in our relationship . I’m scared you’re going to cheat on me even though logically I can see you’re faithful.

But I thought he was too. I thought he was perfect but I was overlooking a lot of things and making excuses for him and falling for his b******t logic and excuses when he f****d up. He may not have been physically abusive but he was emotionally and mentally abusive and when he and I broke up I had literal physical reactions to it. My therapist said I went through emotional and physical trauma because of him.

I’m working on it honey, I really am. But I get scared that the bottom is going to drop out. You’re in medical school surrounded by these beautiful women for a majority of your day. You’re an endangered species in your cohort. 5 guys out of 81. Again, I have no logical reason to believe you’d cheat or leave me for them, but I’m scared of it happening because I didn’t see it coming with him either. And youve led this incredible life. I mean your ex is a neurologist from the UK and looks like Taylor Swift. How the f**k do I compare to that?! Why on earth would you choose a farm girl from BFE Oklahoma?..

I can’t lose you. I waited so long to find someone as perfect as you. Someone that fits my heart so flawlessly. I don’t feel I deserve you. I’m glad you love me and love me wholly and truly… but my anxiety is always telling me “but for how long?”

A_bit_unladylike Report

POST

View more comments

Sometimes I have regretted getting with him so early (we were 17, now we’re 20) because when we found each other I was just beginning to discover/learning to navigate my sexual and romantic life after spending most of my teenage years tucked away in this idea of “the perfect person will just come for you one day.”

I like women significantly more than men, but I fell in love with him just when I was starting to let go. I got very few experiences with girls (which none ended well and were very brief). I don’t see myself breaking up with him any time soon, we love each other so much and our relationship is freaking great, but I mourn the experiences I wished to have that I never had. I wish I had seriously dated a girl even once, I wonder what it would feel like, how different it would be.

I choose to love him every day, but sometimes I wish things had happened differently. Idk if that makes any sense.

Responsible_Bake_854 , Mac McCreery Report

POST

View more comments

I bought a ring.

FruitSnackEater , Chris Gladis Report

POST

View more comments

Domestic partner, but that I hate how he made me lose some of the trust I have and how violated he made me feel. When weeks before I was ready to spend forever together, but now I’m terrified because I am young and may want to be single and find who I am outside of our relationship that I was so content in before.

CrazyOwl29 , joey zanotti Report

POST

View more comments

That he is to blame for alot of my self body image issues.

HopeIncarnate , Katarína Chovancová Report

POST

View more comments

We had a cockroach that lived in our bedroom last summer. It used to sleep next to me on the wall, behind a lamp. It would poop in the same place, so I would just clean it up. I had originally tried to capture it to release outside, but eventually gave up. It used to spend some of the day in the walk in closet, and I just started ignoring it. Want to tell my husband, but he’d be mortified.

HedgehogGlitter , jimjarmo Report

POST

View more comments

I want out 😂

tlhsg , Leonardo Rizzi Report

POST

View more comments

That I think he has only found love with me because he was looking for the love he never received from his parents. His mom left him almost immediately after giving birth, his dad was working on the road and that caused his grandparents to raise him. They passed away fairly early on.

He has always been in some type of a relationship and I truly believe it's because of the the lack of love. It created a hole and I believe I'm the band aid that covers the hole.

He'd be devasted if I said what I think about this matter. I know he does love me and I absolutely love him so I just leave it be until we're both drunk and ready to have the conversation.

puns_and_pandaroses , Cristian Ungureanu Report

POST

View more comments

That I truly love him, but I think I might be poly and I also love someone else. And I love them both different and equally, but there’s parts of me that neither one can fulfill independently.

silkyaction , Incase Report

POST

View more comments