Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships

Nothing wrong with separate bedrooms. Every relationship is unique. If it makes yours better, have a talk with him. Maybe ease into it and point out the advantages that he would have too. Whether it's gaming, movies, sports, just find something that he is giving up by sharing a room with you and focus on that when you talk to him. It might feel weird for a few weeks, but there is a good chance you both would dig it.

Years ago my husband was traveling and we both got used to sleeping alone. We're on different sleep schedules so we just kept on sleeping in separate rooms. Honestly, our marriage is stronger than ever. No more fights over covers. No more restless nights. No more being awakened from snoring. Sleeping in different rooms doesn't mean your marriage is doomed or there is a problem. This needs to be normalized.

Married to shift worker like this for 10+ years. Separate bedrooms are a must. This will become a point of high tension for you, especially the being woken up before you want to be over a series of years. The sooner you ask for the separate bedroom if you have space for it, the better.

Honestly, if me and my husband could afford it we'd probably have a bedroom each. I go to bed hours after he does and have to do everything in the dark while trying not to make noise. I use my bedroom as another space to hang out and he just sleeps in there. Neither of us take offence to it. In fact I think it would make sleeping in the same bed feel like a sleepover and be super fun!

I have my own bedroom because we both snore and I thrash around a lot. It's AWESOME. I have my own beautiful linens, soft blankets, and loads of pillows, which are things that matter to me, but he doesn't care about. I need the room to be really cold in order to be able to sleep, and he likes a warm room. Although I miss sleeping next to him, I really enjoy having my own space.

Huh? How would this jeopardize the relationship? Or is there a missing part, like, "...pick up his best friend because we're having an affair."

Plot twist: they're having an affair

Tell me how it goes! This is so heart-warming

If this qualifies as jeopardizing their relationship I hate to see what buying him a new car would do.

...and how would this jeapordize your relationship?

As a woman who got cheated on, I know what you mean... but love isn't always enough to be able to trust again... An unhappy parent is always worse then a divorced parent, because no matter how hard you try, you will always radiate your emortions and kids pick up on that.

Take one step, something that makes you fell happy. One at a time. Try to not fell bad about it. Take care of yourself. If you fell ok everything will be clearer.

The poster needs to understand that by staying with this PoS, she's actually hurting her children, and perpetuating the myth.

From psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb's book, "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone:" 'Forced forgiveness: sometimes people feel that in order to get past a trauma they need to forgive whoever caused the damage. But too often, people feel pressured to forgive and then end up believing that something is wrong with them if they can't quite get there - that they aren't enlightened enough, or strong enough, or compassionate enough. (However) you can have compassion without forgiving. There are many ways to move on, and pretending to feel a certain way isn't one of them.'

My marriage fell apart, not because he cheated on me, but because he didn't love me anymore; instead of telling me this so that we could split up amicably, he put me through 5 years of emotional wasteland while I desperately try to salvage a marriage that wasn't worth saving. If I'd had any self-esteem in the first place, I would have walked the first time he allowed his mother to be abusive towards me.

That's your gut telling you to leave. Listen and act on it.

Be careful, watch your birth control for sabotage and get out as soon as you can.

I see one word, and it is enough... "scary" … if he is willing to do therapy, and there is a marked improvement, re-evaluate and see if you want to stick around for he long haul. If he isn't...leave, and don't look back. However, on the issue of kids - do you not want kids *at all*, or do you just not want kids *with him*? If the former, and he's onboard with that, great...but it all still requires him to see someone about his anger issues. If the latter, let him find someone who does, and let YOU find someone you want kids with.

Then DON'T. If nothing else, it'd be a shitty thing to do to the child, when a relationship is already hitting the wall. That brings a whole new level of pain, tears and complication to the world that could otherwise be avoided. Get out of there.

That is abusive, cut it off. NOW! Don’t bone to try and make up cause if you do you might get baby trapped

If housing was affordable i believe that more people could benefit from that. Like being the weekends together and the week alone.

I always thought a duplex style house with a common bedroom in the middle would be a genius idea.

Hes got issues and you’re now stuck bc u prob ignored red flags. You chose him, if he can’t change now then u have to decide if this is the life u want or not.

There should be duplexes for married people. Affordable housing with a wall right down the middle. Guarantee you'll see divorce rates plummet.

Me too but, other reasons.

No. No. No. If he doesn't deserve that you look after him, don't do it. You're not helping him become a better human being. Sometimes this happens to people to teach them and you're getting in the way of that. Please put yourself first. Get him into a facility; visit him faithfully, but take care of yourself or you're taking on his karma.

Find a hospice and let them do it. Don't waste your life ...

You make me want to be a better person. I truly hope you will find happiness at some point in your life. You are an amazing human being. Please don't let the ugliness your husband has shown you change you. Stay strong my friend!

My heart hurts for you.

If he's anything like my dad the cancer will only make his behavior worse.

Sound like a typical introvert. Did you think that maybe she/he feels the same? Discuss. Maybe you both need time to decompress - then come together, refreshed.

You're NEVER alone with a feline companion.

I LOVED LOVED LOVED when I was living on my own. But as your youth/health starts to wane it's hard.

Than go for it!

Then do it!

May I just say how much I appreaciate the photo that BP has added to this. :)

Don't tell him. Show him!

I hope you don’t suffer from the delusion that you’re lucky to have him because you don’t deserve him?

Some people will just never learn how to deal with, react to a compliment. And that embarrasses them too.

Does he tell you that too?