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The YTAs on this post are toxic AF.

This story is sad. My mom gave me an eating disorder saying/doing things like this. She as well bought me a pair of pants a few sizes smaller than I was at the time. She also told me I could use the pants as a weight loss goal. I wasn't even trying to lose weight. The other day, she told me my back would feel better if I lost a bit of weight. I am 5'6" and 136 pounds. I am at my ideal weight and she still does this c**p. Even after I told her to stop commenting on my and other people's weight. Some days my disorder still rears it's ugly head. I can last for a long time on just one small meal a day.

The daughter has clearly articulated what she wants and doesn't, the idea that the mom of a friend would contradict that goes way beyond any reasonable boundaries. Buying a clothing for a child "to aspire to" is also all kinds of wrong and can even cause eating disorders. Keeping the daughter away from an adult that clearly doesn't have her best interests at heart isn't just reasonable, it's what's required to protect her.

Standing up for your daughter does more good than you will ever know. She sounds like a great kid and modelling good behaviour about how to set boundaries with toxic and cruel people is an incredibly valuable lesson.

Gigi's mom sees women and girls only in the context of boys and husbands, not as independent persons who can decide themselves for themselves. Of course this woman tries to get people on her side, because she thinks that if you have 10 people who are wrong and one who is right, the one who is right must be wrong.

OMG... all the stuff mentioned we are trying to get banned or restricted for children i denmark... that gigi-mother is a lunatic

Excellent-count4009...do one you AH. You're going to be exactly the same as this witch who sexualises 14 year olds and encourages toxicity among young girls. YTAs are nothing but trolls and toxic MF!!! I can only imagine how your children are with mothers like yourselves! Shame on you all!!!

What century does Gigi's mother live in? A woman can't be happy without a man in her life? We must doll ourselves up in makeup and fancy clothes and 80's hair JUST to be able to attract a superficial moron for a partner? Gigi's future of divorced with 3 kids at 28 and no self-earning prospects looks very sad because that's what her mother is pushing her towards. Can't believe in this day and age mother's are still teaching their daughters that boys are everything, even above self-worth. So many people shouldn't be allowed to breed.

Oh my gosh! A 14-year -old girl is "not let be happy with a BOY FRIEND"?!?! CALL THE FÜKING NATO!!

NTA. the girls are 14. almost sounds like lauren is trying to make gigi grow up too fast. an athletic body is shaped different than a 'normal' body (couldn't think of another word). i know bc i was very athletic/muscular in school. hated dresses/skirts bc they never fit right. so i lived in jeans/pullover shirts. my mom/grandmother were like lauren. i think mom celebrated when at age 18 i actually started using mascara. restricting contact w/gigi may not be the best idea as it could make bonnie feel more different because of the reason. she needs to be supported & told that her body is hers-not gigi's or any other girl she may see. as for the boyfriend issue bonnie needs to know that will come in its own good time. i know how it feels when other girls are getting starting to date as i was the muscular one that didn't wear makeup or dresses. unfortunately my mom was like lauren. i think mom celebrated when, at 18, i started using mascara and lip gloss. bonnie just needs support.