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My son is turning 6 very soon… I’ve lost track of the number of times people have told me, “Cherish these years—they grow up so fast.” But it’s a lot. And I guess it’s true. One moment you’re changing diapers, and the next, your child is having their own children. It’s tempting to want to hold onto them tightly, hoping they’ll stay small and cute. But inevitably, at some point, parents have to let go.
One dad has been left puzzled after his 16-year-old son suddenly started being unusually affectionate with him. The topless teen cuddled up to his father on the couch without saying a word. The man says that, while he doesn’t want to complain, his wife thinks it’s “weird” and has accused him of being too touchy with their son. The dad is seeking advice…
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But his wife has him second-guessing himself after she called the interaction “weird”
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Research shows that giving your teen physical affection can help keep them out of trouble
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People generally don’t bat an eyelid when a parent shows physical affection to their young child. But some question whether it’s still appropriate to hug, kiss, cuddle, or tickle an older kid. Not only is it normal, say the experts—it’s actually really good. For several reasons…
Research has shown that teenagers are much less likely to seek unhealthy physical affirmation when they have regular healthy affirmation from parents. This is especially true if it comes from their dads.
“They are less likely to get into legal trouble and less likely to get into major school trouble,” notes the Hope For Your Family site. “In short, adolescents with a strong, healthy bond (marked by healthy physical affection) have a stronger sense of self and healthier boundaries.”
What this leads to is a better self-image. And, in turn, better relationships. And that’s definitely not a bad thing.
The experts over at Teen Therapy OC tend to agree. “Your kid is developing a sense of what they perceive as ‘normal’ for their adult life based on the way things work in your home,” writes therapist Lauren Goodman on the site. She explains that physical affection is an important part of love.
It’s also an area where you can make a quick impact on how your teenager feels. “If you continue to hug them and kiss them before they leave for school, sit right next to them on the couch, or rub their shoulders from time to time, you will maintain more emotional closeness,” says Goodman.
Not all teens feel the same way, though. Some get the ick when their parents get too close. But it can depend upon who sees them getting a hug, kiss, or cuddle. One survey found that 58% of moms believe it’s acceptable for a mother to show affection to her teenage son “anytime, anywhere.”
Teenage boys said, “Not true!” 59% of the teen guys polled felt that moms should only ever show them affection at home, away from the public eye.
550 U.S. moms of sons aged 10-17 took part in the Wakefield Research survey, while the same number of American boys also gave their opinions.
“It’s called love”: many netizens reassured the dad that his son’s behavior was normal
Some disagreed and felt it was totally “weird”
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Mobey Drunk 8 months ago
Imagine if the genders were reversed. A dad holding his daughter would be concerned a sweet gesture. However, males are told to reject any comforting touch. So, it's weird that a son would do it. We don't need double standards, one standard will do just fine.
winterwidow87 8 months ago (edited)
The amount of people who think this is weird and has sêxual undertones is concerning. Hug your sons! (and daughters but i guess that's seen as "normal").
Load More Replies... Susie Elle 8 months ago
Direct your concern to the change in behaviour, not the behaviour itself. Maybe he's upset about something and is looking for comfort. Could be something in school, who knows.
Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
He will tell them in his own time , for now he’s looking for reassurance! Not being pushed ie he’s thinking I need to know I can rely on my dad (strange mind he don’t go to mum but 🤷♀️) that’s what he needs right now nothing more until he’s feels safe n ready to ask for help , speaking as a mother of two kids n a step mother to three times since I was 18 lol n I’m now 60 somethings def worrying him isn’t it x blessed be
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Meyrin 8 months ago
Cuddle with your child ffs (regardless of gender) especially if they initiate it. If you for some strange reason You don't like it then ok your house your weirdness, but in my not so humble option cuddle whenever you get the chance. I'm seriously dreading the thought when my once would decide to stop permanently.
Dragons Exist 8 months ago
Why is physical affection being seen as sexual by some, like yeah it's very slightly weird in this case but it's just laying on the sofa
BoredPangolin 8 months ago
What makes it 100% NOT weird is that they are father and son!
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lenka 8 months ago
Hug that boy as much as you can! There is sooo much emotional development going on for kids at that age. He is seeking connection, grounding and emotional regulation and all of that is GOOD! If he is still coming to you for hugs it means you are still his safe space. If it is unusual for your kid to suddenly come for hugs, you might need to invest some time to make sure there are no underlying concerns. Otherwise, enjoy those hugs for as long as they come and congrats on being your kid's safe space.
Weasel Wise 8 months ago
This makes me sad that the mom is not okay with her child cuddling with his father. I would have LOVED to be able to have kind and loving interactions between myself and my parents. Let the young man engage and appreciate having loving family that isn't afraid to show such affection, ffs!
Kathy Richardson 8 months ago
When my middle son (A) was about 15 his brother told me he had been crying himself to sleep every night. He, A, finally came into my room one night and asked to sleep with me. Of course I said yes, and after talking a while he finally told me that every night as he is going to sleep he would imagine what it would be like if I died because he knew my parents had died when I was a teen (my dad when I was 13, and my mom when I was 15). I think all the hormonal upheaval going on in him contributed to this. We got through it and he was fine in a few months. Comfort your kids when they need it because you never know what's is going on with them (real or imagined) and it can really screw with their minds and emotions if ignored or berated and told to grow up.
Mobey Drunk 8 months ago
Imagine if the genders were reversed. A dad holding his daughter would be concerned a sweet gesture. However, males are told to reject any comforting touch. So, it's weird that a son would do it. We don't need double standards, one standard will do just fine.
winterwidow87 8 months ago (edited)
The amount of people who think this is weird and has sêxual undertones is concerning. Hug your sons! (and daughters but i guess that's seen as "normal").
Load More Replies... Susie Elle 8 months ago
Direct your concern to the change in behaviour, not the behaviour itself. Maybe he's upset about something and is looking for comfort. Could be something in school, who knows.
Crystalwitch60 8 months ago
He will tell them in his own time , for now he’s looking for reassurance! Not being pushed ie he’s thinking I need to know I can rely on my dad (strange mind he don’t go to mum but 🤷♀️) that’s what he needs right now nothing more until he’s feels safe n ready to ask for help , speaking as a mother of two kids n a step mother to three times since I was 18 lol n I’m now 60 somethings def worrying him isn’t it x blessed be
Load More Replies... Meyrin 8 months ago
Cuddle with your child ffs (regardless of gender) especially if they initiate it. If you for some strange reason You don't like it then ok your house your weirdness, but in my not so humble option cuddle whenever you get the chance. I'm seriously dreading the thought when my once would decide to stop permanently.
Dragons Exist 8 months ago
Why is physical affection being seen as sexual by some, like yeah it's very slightly weird in this case but it's just laying on the sofa
BoredPangolin 8 months ago
What makes it 100% NOT weird is that they are father and son!
Load More Replies... lenka 8 months ago
Hug that boy as much as you can! There is sooo much emotional development going on for kids at that age. He is seeking connection, grounding and emotional regulation and all of that is GOOD! If he is still coming to you for hugs it means you are still his safe space. If it is unusual for your kid to suddenly come for hugs, you might need to invest some time to make sure there are no underlying concerns. Otherwise, enjoy those hugs for as long as they come and congrats on being your kid's safe space.
Weasel Wise 8 months ago
This makes me sad that the mom is not okay with her child cuddling with his father. I would have LOVED to be able to have kind and loving interactions between myself and my parents. Let the young man engage and appreciate having loving family that isn't afraid to show such affection, ffs!
Kathy Richardson 8 months ago
When my middle son (A) was about 15 his brother told me he had been crying himself to sleep every night. He, A, finally came into my room one night and asked to sleep with me. Of course I said yes, and after talking a while he finally told me that every night as he is going to sleep he would imagine what it would be like if I died because he knew my parents had died when I was a teen (my dad when I was 13, and my mom when I was 15). I think all the hormonal upheaval going on in him contributed to this. We got through it and he was fine in a few months. Comfort your kids when they need it because you never know what's is going on with them (real or imagined) and it can really screw with their minds and emotions if ignored or berated and told to grow up.
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