The YTA's are really the AH's! Sharing DNA doesn't make you my family. Not wanting to know someone isn't bullying (If you want bullying, I can oblige, but wont!). Look little girl, we're not anything to each other. You may want something from me that I am unwilling to give. End of story. Now, please leave me alone.

to the YTA people, it's not the child's responsibility to be the adult where his father wasn't. his father didn't have to tell these kids they had a half brother at all. or he could have made the effort to have them meet much younger than this if he wanted them to feel connected. it's not his son's responsibility to create a sibling bond now just because the kids have access to each other now in school. he's a child. if you think he's being petty or childish, consider again that he's the child in the situation. no one is owed access to you, even as an adult, including blood relatives. it doesn't mean it's fair, but NONE of this was fair to ANY of the children. we're past making the situation fair.

I think Roses and Rainbows in particular was off their rocker. Saying that if he didn’t see her as family he’d treat her like any other classmate… uh, yeah, no. One; other classmates aren’t trying to force any kind of relationship with him. Two; I’m sure we all had different catergories for our classmates, like ‘friends’, ‘good to talk to when nobody else is available’, ‘have never talked to’, ‘dislike’, ‘avoid avoid avoid’ or ‘hellspawn’. If he had no desire to get to know her when she was in just one of his classes, why would he change his mind when she ended up in FOUR of his classes?

Those people are nothing to him and they need to stop pushing him. This girl seems to think she has the perfect Daddy and family but Daddy is nothing but a bed hopping piece of garbage! Leave this boy alone!!!

Why so many YTA? The girl asked for a relationship, was told no in a polite but clear way. End of story. Maybe try again some years later, but her inability to accept a refusal speaks of entitlement. No is no. Sharing DNA doesn't make people family, especially when you try to force it.

Downvoting the bot Bored Panda emoloyee who added YTA. Wake up!!

My Dad was married before he met my Mom. He had a twelve year old daughter and nine year old son when I was born. His first family and mine were always in the picture. His first wife and my mom became good friends, I looked at my older half sister and brother as siblings, and every major holiday we were all together. I always looked at my half siblings like regular siblings. In fact, my older brother hired me to work in his coin shop, which was the start of a 30+ year successful career. Just the complete opposite of OP. Of course, my father never abandoned his first kids, and my situation shows there are other ways to handle half-sibling relationships. But it starts with how the parents set the example.

I think the best way to handle this would be to say something like "I understand that your fathers actions are not yours but you are connected very closely on a daily basis with someone who has caused a lot of pain in my life and the lives of my loved ones. For my own wellbeing I do not wish to form a friendship or a relationship with this man or those whose lives are closely entwined with his. I hope you can find it within you to understand my point of view and I appreciate you hearing me out." Write it in a letter or something but surely nobody can call that bullying.

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If I were OP, I'd go with mom to the cops or a lawyer and file a restraining order against deadbeat dad + his children-of-satan offspring. No means NO! "NO, I don't want to get to know you, your deadbeat dad or your other siblings." Wonder if OP can switch schools?

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I stopped reading at 16 month pregnancy