UGH!? Don’t want to parent your children? THEN DON’T HAVE THEM!

The parents chose to have a baby and the teen didn’t get a vote. It’s unfair of them to ruin his nightly sleep. If they wanted a new baby, they should pay the price, not their other son. The parents are being very selfish, in my view.

This is disgusting behavior by his parents. They need to keep the baby in their room. Their 16 year old son is not a parent to their 2 month old. This is abusive to the 16 year old and beyond ridiculous. They need to step up and do their jobs. I would never do this to either of my children.

Your mom just needs to respond to him fast & quietly in their dark room. Put bassinet RIGHT NEXT to the head if her side of the bed to hear and pick him up instantly. He will learn he does not need to cry loudly. Light should be NO BRIGHTER than than a night light so not to fully arouse/wake baby. Ideally nurse back to sleep - perhaps in bed with them. Totally possible. Dads can sleep through that - been there. Done that.

How about dad gets himself some earplugs and an eyemask, or buys an airmattress for the livingroom? Babies cry. Parents care for their baby, they don''t get to push it off on the teenager, who also has to be able to get up in the morning for school. NTA

Your parents made mistake one having a child too early. Now they make mistake number two by having one too late. They didn't have a room for him and are generally unprepared altogether. Now they expect a 16 year old to clean up their mess. Wow parents of the year!🙄

These parents are both AH's. It doesn't matter if their baby was planned or not, it's their responsability, they have NO right to pass such a huge responsability to their teenager, especially night duty. The kid apparently helps through the day, which is awesome. I'm an older sister, I'm much older than my siblings and I had to deal with a c**p ton of responsabilities taking care of them, they had a huge impact on my psychological development as a teenager. I honestly think parents who have children in their teens and decide to be parents again are AH's. The teen kids more often than not end up getting overlooked in a lot of ways.

It'll be 100% his parents' fault if his grades tank because he can't get enough sleep to concentrate, and don't get me started on if he's at all behind the wheel in this state. It seems to me like his parents have a bit of a habit of not thinking these things through. I'd recommend some counseling if possible.

How does that make sense? They are building a baby room downstairs FAR AWAY from the parents. Shouldn't teen move to the downstairs bedroom instead? Both my kids had their own rooms since the first night they were brought home from the hospital

This kid will lose it and shake the baby. Kid will end up in prison for 30 years for murder while parents 100 percent blame him. Terrible parents.

Totally apart from the fact that a baby that young should better be with the parents than share a room with a sibling who needs to get enough sleep for school the next day - am I the only one thinking about how inconvenient it must be to have the mother barging into a 16-year-old boy's room several times a night? For, um, reasons?

Nta. Your parents are just horrible, disrespectful and pure lazy to expect that of a sibling. When you become a parent act like one.

It is illegal in many states to force childcare on another minor. You can't keep them out of school to watch their younger siblings so you can go to work. You can't MAKE them babysit. And you definitely shouldn't do this.

NTA sorry to break it to you but that's abuse. Maybe not legally but in actuality it is. I have insomnia to this day, because as a kid I was not allowed to sleep at night. It screwed my entire life up.

My husband tried doing this to my 16 year old but I was not having it. Told him it was not her baby but our responsibility. Made plans to sleep in the living room once if the baby was such a bother and that was the end of that conversation

That's one way to provide contraception for your teen I guess...

Wow his parents are s**t bags. Keep the door locked until the baby's 18.

They Shouldn’t Of Had another kid if they can’t handle taking care of him at night it’s not fair to there oldest son putting him in his room it’s not his kid he didn’t choose to have a baby brother and he’s nit the father or mother of baby he’s brother which he can help with some baby duties during the day . PARENTS ARE THE ONES BEING AN A*S AND HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE UPSET WITH THERE SON FOR DOING WHAT HE DID THE BABY ISNT HIS. The Parents Chose to have baby yrs after there first so there the ones who needed to be selfish a******s and take care of there own baby the baby ain’t there sons baby to take care of for gods sakes there the selfish irresponsible ones…they have no right to be upset with there oldest son at all…

Though I understand the frustration, it's not the teenager's responsibility. The parents should have known better and realize this type of guild tripping can end up creating emotional scares to their teenage son/daughter too. The parents chose to have a baby while clearly being unprepared for the consequences it brought along with it.

The baby should definitely be sleeping in the parent's room, especially at 2 months. The teen shouldn't be put in charge just cause his dad "has to get up early for work". You choose to have the kid, so you should put up with his crying.

NTA. Absolutely not! OP has the right to sleep. Taking care of a 2 month old baby should not be his responsibility. Parents had months to fix up a room for this baby. A 2 month old should not be that far away from the parents. Mom, if your baby cries in the night, and you can't hear him, you are too far away! And dad could get up with that baby once in a while. Sounds like parents were totally unprepared for this baby. SURPRISE! Parents don't get much sleep with a newborn. OP says the baby cries all night long. If that is truly the case, there must be a reason. Colicky?

It's not that the baby can't sleep--a 2 month old may still be eating every 2-3 hours! The baby isn't just wet or crabby--he needs food and comfort from his parents.

Forcing a your teen sleep deprivation and parentification has got to be child abuse. He needs to go to his guidance counsellor for support. Perhaps a visit from a social worker is needed. Babies shouldn't be left to sleep in a separate room at night. If they can't get up to the baby down the hall, how the heck are they going to tend to the baby when it's sleeping downstairs? Or is the plan to just make the baby cry all night?

I really don't understand his parents. I had two teenagers when babies 3 and 4 arrived. The older children were not expected to change nappies or anything like that. The teenagers were/are great big brothers, they were not childcare.

I *vaguely* remember how little sleep I was getting when my son was that age, and I wasn't the one who had to wake up to feed him (male boobs being strictly decorative). While my wife was on maternity leave, the deal was: before 5am, she had to get up for him. If he woke after that and before I left for work, it was my job to deal with him. After my wife went back to work (she worked nights every second month), it actually got harder, though he was sleeping better by then. Even sharing the load like that, it was a struggle. No teenager should have to deal with that. They need that sleep so their brain can actually develop.

NOPE. You did the right thing. Your dad is tired because he has to work? They chose to have that baby and you are a growing teen who need much more rest than your dad.

I had my son when my daughter was 18 everyone would tell me at least you got a in home babysitter. I said no i don't she has her life to live. He is not her responsibility. She needs to go t college and enjoy life until she choose to be a mother. She didn't help me create him it's not her job t help me raise him. My daughter left home for college but when she comes home on breaks she lives her life but she set aside time for her brother and tells me to take a nap or go out and spend some me time. She will take him to the science center the zoo museum but she does it herself. When he was a baby she was home she wanted to put him t bed but I told her no worry about getting sleep for yourself. So I let her bathe him since she wanted to help. But her biggest role is to get her education and show her brother what's more important in life.

I'm thinking mom and dad are using this as some kind of subliminal birth control practice for their teenage son. Whatever they think they're doing it's wrong. They had the kid, they need to tend to it. That teenager needs to sleep way more than his dad, he is still growing and developing. Dad needs to grow up and accept his responsibility as a parent.

Co-sleeping is having the i fant sleep in the bed with the parent(s), not the same as keeping infant's crib in the same room. Teen is absolutely NTA, parents should have considered this aspect of having another baby. I grew up in a house constantly under construction because the ngs happened and plans were delayed, but my folks NEVER sacrificed the needs of us kids the way this teen's parents are. Get a new couch, and let Dad sleep on that.

NTA. I've lived through that scenario, and given their living arrangement one of the males would be sleeping on the sofa for most days of the week (likely the Dad or take turns) until bubs is able to sleep normally.

My mind is blown by the level of selfishness from these parents. I would never feel comfortable putting the responsibility of a 2month old on my other children. Why is dad too good to lose sleep? Just because you have a job doesn't exempt you from your parental responsibilities. Then if the kid fails in school, they will probably get upset and punish him. what a joke

Sounds like some one needs a sofa bed or a Air Mattress!!

They had op very young, and in the 15 years since then they forgot about how much care a newborn needs, how little sleep they get. They think that they are more mature than back then so it will be much easier 2nd time around. Nope. Babies cry a lot, need 24/7 care unlike their now 16 year old. Which is like they decided to dump the baby in op's room. If they could take care of him when they were so young then he ought to be able to take care of his siblings. Yeah, no. That's not how it works. Fix the babies room up immediately and leave the son alone. That isn't his child and you shouldn't be expecting him to parent your newborn every night. From someone who ended up with 3 younger siblings in my room starting from when they were born as I was the only one who got up with them in the night.

NTA. This is messed up, all the way around. You are 16 years old, a high school student, NOT THE FLAMING PARENT! YOUR parents need to step out of their PBS Masterpiece Theater world. They are trying to turn you into the live-in, freebie nanny, while abandoning their responsibility to the newest addition, and you. Is there anywhere else you can stay for at least six months, or until the baby's room is finished? In the meantime, get a lock for your bedroom door, to which only you will have access. Then sit down with both parents and tell them that 1) you are not the parent, 2) you are only 16, 3) you did not agree to this arrangement, and 4) you need your sleep, too. Tell them to figure out some other kind of arrangement other than putting an infant in your room. If your parents attempt to circumvent the boundaries you have put in place, speak with another adult whom you trust. CPS may have to intervene in order to reinforce your boundaries.

The parents letting the baby cry all night is an issue itself.

The baby may have acid reflux. We had to give our youngest a special expensive "pre-digested" formula. It worked though. She stopped crying through the night.