I watched an interview once of Laura Bates, who wrote Men Who Hate Women; its a book on online misogyny. The male interviewer asked her how she found such extreme people (obviously expecting some dark web answer) and she was like, "First, I went on Reddit..." I had to pause the interview, I was laughing so hard.

The men attacking the OP are just petty cry baby's because of the whole bear vs men discourse

I live in my partner's apartament. She's a widow and has lots of photos of her late husband dotted around. Which is normal. She also has a lot of stuffed toys, Many of which are kitsch. I wouldn't dream of telling her that. They have significance for her, and that's the most important thing.

That's appalling-it reminds me a bit about the Duke of Sussex (Prince Harry) in his awful book Spare. He made a very nasty comment about his father still having his childhood teddy bear, like it was something to be ashamed of. A while back, our new puppy attacked my husband's Teddy bear-poor thing had his foot chewed on, and husband handed him to me saying "can you fix him-dad got him for me the day I was born" Husband is 60, his dad died when he was still a child. It was the most terrifying bit of sewing I've ever done, it was so old it was stuffed with sawdust and really worn. These days, he sits on a shelf out of reach, next to my childhood bear (Pink the Bear, 58 years old)

Bit strange it's not obvious that he throws the bear out knowing it will be gone forever, while she just mixes up pieces that will be put back. So he steals something irreplaceable, she steals time. (And his supposed hobby is putting those pieces back, but that's a weak argument.)

Good riddance to that a.....e

Lego fanatic here-- her reaction is COMPLETELY justified. You just don't mess with other people's stuff especially with that kind of back story/meaning. Any person who would do that to someone they proclaim to love is completely toxic.

I wish you also took pics of all the Lego carnage and his stupid little rat face when he saw it too!!! What a goddamn GOOBER of a man, and I use the term “man” lightly. Ol’ douchey Dan or whatever the f*k his name is literally felt insecure because you cherished something not him. You LITERALLY chose the bear, and ex can go live inside a bonfire for all I care. Good riddance.

What a jerk! (Sanitised for reddit) I have a bear that I was given when I was born and just the thought of someone throwing her out is horrible let alone something so magical as that.

Im so so so so so happy it was found

Ignoring the Bear and the Legos specifically, this woman has every right to break up with this guy. They are not married, and she has zero obligation to him. He unilaterally decided what mattered to him (not liking seeing a teddy bear on occasion) was more important than what mattered to her (the sentimental value of the bear). That is a huge red flag. Now, maybe destroying his Legos was a little vindictive, but honestly, no one in their right mind can blame her after he acted the way he had. Frankly, he should consider himself lucky that the damage he is left with could all be repaired, as all the legos were still present.

I would have done a whole lot more. I'm 74 and still have by baby bear and he is just as precious now as ever.

What a complete aßhole. I would have bagged up all the pieces in separate bags and thrown THEM in the trash. An eye for an eye. My husband used to disrespect my stuffed animals, but he learned quickly not to f**k with them.

This is a perfect example of eye for an eye/tit for tat etc. Anything sentimental has more value than anything that has monetary value. I still have my first "plushie", a poor in shape beanbag donkey missing one eye and whom is named Jazz Honkey. That donkey is in fact still my favorite item. My mother never told me who gave it to me. I have a few of her plushes that are true vintage/antique ones including a Lady and Tramp: Lady, a Sher Khan (sp?), and a couple others in storage. I found a childhood favorite in an ALF doll in bad shape but still whole. If any of these things were thrown out by a partner I would absolutely throw the person to the curb and throw out something valuable to them in return. And call the cops, press charges for theft/destruction of property.

I'm a guy and can't imagine how mad I would be if someone threw out something that precious to me

You don't mess with someone's teddy! I've had my bear for over 30 years and he's helped me through some really bad times. I sleep with him and take him with me if I'm going to be away from home, and I don't care if people think that's weird!

I have a doll that my grandma made for me when I was young. She made one for every grandchild (well, 21 out of 22, the first grandchild was given up for adoption) I also have the crib my dad made for the doll with the mattress and blanket my mom made. Only my mom is still around. If anyone did that to them, I’d do more than just destroy their Lego sets!

Im so glad it was found! Just before my nan passed away also from cancer she gave me a tiny little toy monkey. I’d be devastated if i lost him as he’s the only thing i have to remember her by other than photos. Both my parents still have their childhood plushie, they’re special memories not just toys that can be replaced

Another anecdote for Bear Bear

glad that fellow is now OP's ex, because he was a huge AH. He had his room, OP had hers. It's no skin off his nose what OP keeps in her bedroom. For him to go in there and take her prized teddy bear and throw it in the trash - well that's when OP should have called the police on her bf! So glad OP was able to find it and clean it up. That fellow - kicked to the curb and rightly so. Don't know that I would have gone for destroying the legos, I like legos. ;-)

Even the wording of the survey question SHOWS THE PROBLEM

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I am disappointed about the end pool. Imo such revenge only escalates problems. But don't get me wrong. This guy is a super d**k.

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Both of these people have problems.

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Ahhh, ya, you are both crazy. Stay away from each other.