I can't decide who's the biggest a$$hole here. Your teacher or your male relatives (who I'm pretty sure they can control their farts and burps but still don't)

Not only was the teacher an asshole, he was a sadistic asshole. He couldn't let a kid go to the bathroom for what, 10 minutes? If it was a kid with food poisoning, is the teacher going to make them s**t themselves? This teacher needs to be disciplined and possibly shouldn't be teaching at all, if he's so apathetic that he is making children suffer.

I am glad to say for a fact that if this had happened to me both my father and brother would have been squarely on my side. In fact my dad would have been the one to make the complaint and made sure to meet the teacher in person just to tell him how little he thought of him. If her father and brother are on the side of the teacher then her mother should have strong words with them. As for the friends? Dump them. She deserves a better class of friends. Preferably ones with more than a few brain cells.

It was the same in my school. We were only allowed to go to the bathroom in between classes, so not during the class but also not during recess (they had outside bathrooms but they closed them so they wouldn’t need to clean). As a teenagers I had extremely strong periods and It was a nightmare. I kept bleeding in my pants and chair because I wasn’t able often to be a whole hours without changing my pad. I hate them for doing that to us.

Wow, the teacher is definitely the arsehole, as are her male relatives. How did the teacher know this girl didn't have abnormally heavy/painful periods? When I was 14 I was put on the pill because mine were so painful and heavy and lasted for two weeks at a time. This was the 90s and the teachers were really unkind about it then too. I have no idea why some men think they know more about menstruation than the women experiencing it, it's so degrading and patronising. And why do some of them think it can be 'held in'?? I wish these morons could experience it for themselves.

It is teachers like these who teach the good kids to grow up corrupted. What did she really learn from this experience? "So... this is what you get for being fair, honest and obedient. Had I just pretended I had an equipment malfunctioning, maybe I wouldn't be in trouble?" Next time, she may choose to lie, when she shouldn't have to. And all this because of a natural occurrence? It was so immature of the teacher to "handle" the situation this way. As for her male relatives, they're ignoring the fact hers was not the only and first complaint.

I'm stuck at the word a-hole. How can a father call his daughter that, for whatever reason?

OMG, I feel so bad for these people gladly i only have one male teacher and he understands! I know what these people are going through I once had a teacher FEMALE who said oh you're fine it's not your time of the month stop trying to use that excuse to get out of class. I was like what!? I just got up and left and holy cow she was pissed! i got 5 infractions which is detention but I got out of it because my Mom and Dad called the school.

My dear, you are NOT the asshole! I grew up with 2 sisters and a Mom who was a gynecologist. I was married twice and raised 4 girls (2 adopted!) As a daddy, I never had any bothers about going into a store to get pads or tampons for my girls. It's a fact of life... and men... (or dare I say boys, if you can't handle it) need to get some serious education as what... 51% of the world's population has to deal with this? Come on guys!

Period beside, why would a student need to explain anything more beyond a message that they had to go to the bathroom? It's sad that there has to be a validation to use a bathroom during a class.

Not only that, but it's hard when even another woman doesn't understand. I started my periods when I was 13. By 16, my periods were so heavy and so painful, I'd be doubled over for the first couple of days. I'd tell this to my mother time and again, but she always thought I was using it as an excuse to get out of doing chores. Until the day she made me go out and mow the lawn. I got halfway through and couldn't finish the pain was so bad. When my mother sent my sister out to yell at me, my sister screamed for my mother...I'd bled through my jeans heavily. My mother rushed me to the ER and they informed her I had endometriosis. She never apologized for all the years she thought I was lying and was legitimately angry at me that I had a valid illness. It's not just the men who are a**holes sometimes.

Wow. Just, an incredible, massive, big fat wow. That is messed up. There's almost no reason to decline to someone going to the bathroom at all, let alone a girl having her period. And for him to say that she should control herself better? My gosh. This just proves that he knows nothing about the female body. He should be fired if this wasn't even his first complaint. Something's very fishy with him getting a lot of complaints.

How difficult is it to understand how biology works? Come one fellow men, read about it! If not for your wife, sister or other relatives, do it for your future daughter. It's not that much of work to read about it and don't act like a douche.

I used to have a male teacher and when I would tell him I needed to go to the bathroom he let me. He is a coach for some sport so he would understand. Thank God he didn't tell me I needed to hold it in. Also, people with periods should stop being shamed. We can't control it, and neither can the other person. I think it should be a school rule to let people with periods go to the bathroom instead of holding it in.

Punished Edward she was following the rules of everyday life for women that men like you have no knowledge of bc women don't like you. You don't follow rules of polite society or the rules on this website but that's ok for you. You're a misogynist a racist and a coward. Every single post screams of insecurity and I will bet w certainty you have a police record of abusing women children and animals.

The men in your life are being the assholes. Your teacher should not have a problem with letting you go to the bathroom, and it sounds like this is not the only issue students have had with him as well...

They are not the asshole at all. That teacher is really just rude and ignorant. I mean, he didn't even let her go after she told him that she had started her period. He should at least have the basic understanding that women need to put on a pad or tampon unless they want it all over their pants. Thankfully this has never happened to me, (yet) but I do feel bad for her.

F that guy. You took care of your needs and he was out of line not letting you go. It's a good thing you were doing online classes so you could just ignore him instead of being in person where you may have been subject to a much more horrible experience.

To all men who dont understand: Try controlling your need to blink.

I am a teacher. I taught 8th grade last year. When it came to going to the bathroom, my 4th period was the worst. The class was right before lunch, kids were tired and wanted a break. So a lot of them asked to go to the bathroom so they could get out of class. It got to the point where I had to make a rule of no more than 3 students during class could go to the restroom. In this particular situation, I think the teacher was in the wrong, especially after the student told him she was on her period. That being said, when teachers act out, especially quiet ones, it's usually because there is a lot that they put up with and they just reach a breaking point. Not sure if that was the case here, though.

Everyone but the woman is the ahole. Why is it still a big deal to go to the bathroom? Especially for online, it shouldn't be any more difficult than saying "be right back. I have to go to the bathroom". There are only a few appropriate responses to this situation. They are "Thanks for letting us know" and "Are you feeling ok".

ah, of course. it's TOTALLy true thatwe an control our bodies, boys! but to be fair, you dont have to because you think you can just own it over women. wonderufl. *SARCASMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM*

NTA. The dude seems to think you can hold in your period like your bladder but that's not how it works. And your male relatives? Um, well, they're also TA.

'Bros before hoes' and hoes clearly include daughters and sisters. Nooen will get fired because of one such complaint, And why are so many people so incedibly ignorant about anatomy??

I would have messaged the teacher but not wait for him to tell me that it's ok to use the bathroom. When you have to go, you have to go.

You are not an asshole. He should've let you go, thats the stupidest thing I've ever heard. I'm glad I have mostly female teachers, who understand things like this.

omg , thats just plain WRONG , men need to step there game up where periods are concerned , because we dont have them does not mean we shouldn't get educated on them

The teacher's behaviour was terribly wrong and he deserved to be reported, no matter if he is losing his job. On the other hand, I am afraid that in few years I won't be able to understand without google what people are writing. I had to search what means AITA and NTA. And I am not that old, but I still don't understand why it is so hard to write in such way that everybody can understand. :(

I don't understand why she should feel guilty because an idiot person who shouldn't even teach and has many other complaints might lose his job!! There are many other people more capable to teach that know how period works (for f**k's sake) and are unemployed!!! I don't even want to speak about the male relatives that are on his side! Speak up! Always speak up until all of these idiots go back into their holes!

Stupid men like punished Edward do not know women don't urinate through their vagina.

Assholes like this teacher, these male relatives and male friends are the reason why men should be taught about how women's bodies work for real. There's way too many guys out there who think that we can keep our periods in, or that it all comes out in one go, or that one tampon or pad is enough for the whole period, how horrible pain is completely normal (some women are guilty of this one too though. 1/10 women suffer from endometriosis and we're often not taken seriously and there's even people in healthcare that don't "believe" in endometriosis) and THERE'S WAY TOO MANY PEOPLE WHO THINK THAT SANITARY PRODUCTS ARE ESSENTIAL! There's way too many women that can't afford what they need and it's disgusting!

This whole thread makes me so angry. The fact that she is being bullied for reporting a situation, especially through the appropriate channels that the school provided, is inexcusable. This is the same behavior that prevents people from reporting greater harrassments and assualts. Definitely NTA. I really hope this experience doesn't prevent her from speaking out in the future if need be.

I can relate. It happened to me in person in my freshmen year in highschool 1988. But the teacher was a girl, that's the most astonishing. Back at that you could not report, but I got two other teacher witnessing me in pain at the bathroom. However, the next year my class got a different teacher, the other was gone.