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nottheworstmom , Anastasiia Chepinska Report

Victoria is a recent graduate living in Ontario, Canada, and she started posting TikToks about misogyny and feminism in January, just to share some of her experiences online. They have been well-received by women who can relate to the everyday sexism that we face, so she just keeps going.

"I realize that mansplaining is not peak feminism, but as someone who is intelligent, well-read, and a grown person, I know that when men speak to me condescendingly about things that are so mundane - like pillows! - it is because he assumes - knowingly or not - that women are not as smart as men," Gravesande told Bored Panda.

"Mansplaining is one of those things that women are just expected to tolerate in a patriarchal society, so I knew a lot of women would be able to relate and share their own experiences with it, and it's not a heavy topic ... so I knew women would not hesitate to share their experiences. My goal with my TikTok account is to talk about everyday experiences for women and to think critically about everyday things that we don't realize are rooted in misogyny."

21 Women Share Times Men Confidently Explained The Most Basic Things To Them I once had a man break down exactly how much pain women feel during childbirth after I told him I had delivered two nine-pound babies, without an epidural. Like, sir, I did not stress test my taint just to have an illiterate argue with me about it.

Final score:

203points

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Red Hair Blue Soul 3 years ago

Best. Description. Of. Childbirth. Ever!!

63points

lauraksebastian , Scott Wilcoxson Report

21 Women Share Times Men Confidently Explained The Most Basic Things To Them I once had a grown man tell me that women don't fart. He genuinely believed this in his soul. I told him that he was wrong and of course women fart and he told me that biologically women cannot fart. I have no words.

Final score:

195points

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Red Hair Blue Soul 3 years ago

Fart on him!

163points

The term mansplaining is often credited to Rebecca Solnit for her 2008 essay, which became a book in 2014 called Men Explain Things to Me. While Solnit did not coin the term, the book solidified it and the concept of mansplaining quickly spread across social media and pop culture.

As feminist writer Erynn Brook pointed out in The Guardian, since then, the "-splaining" suffix has been applied to other areas as well. There's whitesplaining, cisplaining, hetsplaining, richsplaining... The list goes on. The important thing to note about these words, Brook said, is how they highlight the power differential. "The word always describes the act of the person with the most power in the conversation, the man, the white person, the cisgendered person, the heterosexual person, the rich person and so. This is why terms such as femsplaining or womansplainingw to describe the act of a woman speaking condescendingly to a man are not generally accepted," Brook explained.

21 Women Share Times Men Confidently Explained The Most Basic Things To Them He didn't know what mansplaining was...so I told him. And then he mansplained mansplaining...to ME.

yeeti_the_ziti , Charles Deluvio Report

Final score:

191points

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Cactus McCoy 3 years ago

Success!

50points

21 Women Share Times Men Confidently Explained The Most Basic Things To Them I once had a man mansplain to me my own name. My name is Niamh, it's Irish. So I met this guy, he had only ever interacted with me on WhatsApp, and so he said, 'Oh you must be Ny-am.' And I said, 'Oh no, it's Niamh, it's pronounced like this, it's the Irish language.' And he goes, 'No, it should be 'Ny-am.' And I was like, 'No, it's my name. It's a different language.' And he was like, 'But there's an 'M' in it. It should be Ny-am.' And he just kept going and going as if I needed to get through my tiny woman brain that I was pronouncing my own name wrong for 22 years of my life. He wasn't an Irish speaker or a native English speaker, he was Greek.

shamingdevalera , Jon Tyson Report

Final score:

190points

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IlovemydogShilo 3 years ago

I’d love to know how he would think these names are pronounced. Aoife Aiobhinn Caoimhe . Saoirse Ciara ... Roisin

80points

faithfullydopedup , Valentina Giarre Report

Gravesande wants women and girls to engage with her TikTok in a funny and frustrating way where they all can share their experiences and feel less alone, reminding people that women and girls aren't stupid. "It's not fair that we have to 'just accept' that as women, we will not be taken as seriously as men," she said.

"The response to this TikTok has been overwhelming and at first, I tried to watch and comment on every single person who answered my question but there were just so many. I think I lost count after 300 and that was three days after I posted the video. Rebecca Black and Lili Hayes stitched my video and my friends sent it to me so that was really cool!"

21 Women Share Times Men Confidently Explained The Most Basic Things To Them One time my boyfriend's dad tried to explain to me how the spacing of studs worked in a wall... I'm a CARPENTER!

Final score:

179points

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cassiushumanmother 3 years ago

But a FEMALE carpenter so obviously an average dad know better than a female CARPENTER. Obviously!

99points

21 Women Share Times Men Confidently Explained The Most Basic Things To Them A customer in the store I work at told me that he had been on a round trip of Europe and I asked him where he went, and he said he went to Copenhagen and so I said, 'Oh that's cool, you went to Denmark.' He said, 'No, I said I went to Copenhagen.' I said, 'Yeah, I heard that, but Copenhagen is in Denmark.' And he tried to explain to me that Copenhagen and Denmark are both towns in Sweden.

kimroberts805 , Mike Petrucci Report

Final score:

174points

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Charlotte A. 3 years ago

*facepalm*

76points

"As I said earlier, exposing mansplaining is not peak feminism. Women don't die from it, I wouldn't necessarily say that we are traumatized from it, but just because there are no casualties doesn't mean it's harmless or not a real issue," Gravesande added. "My country has been in lockdown for the past year so I haven't been out and about speaking to anyone who might mansplain something to me, but I do realize that I will probably still experience this in the future."

The woman said it feels almost inescapable since "at any position of my adult life, as a partner, an employee, someone with a hobby, and as a student, someone is always willing to mansplain something to me."

Gravesande doesn't think it will go away until men simply accept that women are intelligent and can, in fact, be experts.

21 Women Share Times Men Confidently Explained The Most Basic Things To Them He interrupts me while I'm talking about women's issues and goes "I'm gonna stop your right there because I'm a feminist so I should know what I'm talking about" and then proceeded to mansplain womanhood to me. Me a woman. And he thought he knew more about being a woman then me A WOMAN

yorktown1324 , Yolanda Sun Report

Final score:

165points

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Lady Artemis 3 years ago

And this obviously makes sense because "i'M a FeMiNiSt So I kNoW wHaT I'm TaLkInG aBoUt!1!!!1!!1"

63points

victoriagravesande , Isabella and Zsa Fischer Report

21 Women Share Times Men Confidently Explained The Most Basic Things To Them My ex explained to me what a pillow is used for. He said the pillow is used to support the neck and the head.

Final score:

154points

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Red Hair Blue Soul 3 years ago

You should have put it over his face and asked him to breathe deeply for a few minutes

145points

littlepixiegirlx , Jonathan Borba Report

All the replies her TikTok has received have reassured Gravesande that mansplaining is a universal experience for women. "I saw videos from women in the UK, Australia, and Brazil stitch my video. Professional women who have PhDs and are doctors have stitched my video. This has opened my eyes to sexism at its core," she said.

"Women around the world from different backgrounds and with different jobs have all experienced this and it's a phenomenon that occurs when men perceive you as a woman. There is also an alarming amount of men who have mansplained periods, PMS, and pregnancy to women and girls and that has been jaw-dropping for me."

Many stories downright shocked Victoria. "Dr. Melissa Mork, an academic expert, stitched my video and shared her experiences losing her parents, her close friends, and her partner, and a man still told her she knows nothing about grief and then explained to her what it was based on losing his dog at the age of 12. Video answers like that struck a nerve because mansplaining experiences boil down to men thinking their feelings are more valid than women's."

#10

21 Women Share Times Men Confidently Explained The Most Basic Things To Them My Period. I have a period and every other month it hurts and this dude was "do you even know how periods work?". I had a period for 15 years, I think I have a good idea.

Final score:

151points

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Harrison Miller 3 years ago

Me and my friend always talk about, what if guys just started bleeding out of their d*ck. They would lose their F*cking minds.

96points

#11

21 Women Share Times Men Confidently Explained The Most Basic Things To Them So, a man took me to get tacos. I'm eating the chips before we get our meal and he's like, 'Do you like the salsa?' and I'm like, 'Yeah I do, it's good.' And he's like, 'Do you know that if you like the salsa you can actually also put that on your tacos?' And I was like... 'Yeah, I'm aware how salsa works.'

chefshalo , Quin Engle Report

Final score:

149points

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Gabe 3 years ago

I don't think this is mansplaining. I think he is just an idiot.

116points

victoriagravesande , Álvaro Serrano Report

#12

21 Women Share Times Men Confidently Explained The Most Basic Things To Them A man explained to me the title of my poetry collection.

Final score:

138points

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𝓴𝓪𝔀𝓪𝓲𝓲_𝓐𝓾𝓭𝓻𝓮𝔂 3 years ago

I- I can't 🤣🤣🤣

15points

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21 Women Share Times Men Confidently Explained The Most Basic Things To Them I was at work and I had to sweep the line. I was sweeping it and this guy that was working there at the time tried to teach me how to sweep.

cemeterybride , CDC Report

Final score:

79points

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Niffler_13 3 years ago

I've had to teach plenty of individuals of all genders how to properly sweep.

38points

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Sara Rosen 3 years ago

How to urinate! WTactualF!!??? Once had a man explain to me how I should sit, how much paper to use, and which direction to wipe. Thanks bro, I'd just been holding it in for 20 years, thank god you showed up.

26points

DogPerson7 3 years ago

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Ozacoter 3 years ago

My FIL explained me once how you cannot drink tap water if you are pregnant and want a boy "because if the hormones in there". I said nothing to be polite but when I was home I explained my partner why this was wrong and how sex determination works in humans. He didnt believe me over his father (who is a electrician). I have two masters in biology, I am pretty sure that I know how it works...

18points

E Menendez 3 years ago

I can say I would not be with your partner of he does not put faith in your expertise... In the future he will be putting his father's advice before your knowledge, perspective and/or thoughts.

9points

blugeagua 3 years ago

I'll never in my life understand why men who do that are like that. They really think women are a monolith instead of the individual people that we are. They only see us as children who don't know anything about anything and treat us in such a condescending and patronizing way. Its annoying as hell.

11points

Nugget 3 years ago

Where does a mansplainer get his water? From a well,actually...

7points

Sinkvenice 3 years ago

My brother was visiting yesterday and on two occasions I told him something that my boyfriend then explained again, using the exact same words. Me: Thank you for explaining what I just said in exactly the same way. Brother: Yes, she *just* said that. Boyfriend: *Gets embarrassed and pulls sheepish grin before claiming* "I have earbuds in, I didn't properly hear what was said." Riiiiiiiiiigt :-D

6points

Andrew Gibb 3 years ago

Womansplaining is a thing as well- Woman will at times explain to men how to do household tasks. Times are changing people- it shouldn't be man vs. woman. We work better together.

6points

If I could I would live under water 3 years ago

You're right all lot of women do that BUT to our defence, I'm pretty sure some men are playing dumb like they doing know how to do our right... So the women end up doing it anyway. Not me though. You don't know how to do laundry? Google it ;-)

13points

Martha Meyer 3 years ago

Women don't go around explaining to cleaning professionals how to clean properly. Which is what mansplaining is all about. "Explaining" things to women who already know all about the subject, simply because these men assume that women don't know anything about anything.

9points

Evil Little Thing 3 years ago

You do laundry wrong.

3points

blugeagua 3 years ago

The problem is that those men literally play dumb. But when men do it to us, they're being condescending and don't care if we're smart or not. Mansplaining is when men think all women are truly stupid without getting to know any of us and just assume we know nothing. That's the issue here.

2points

Gabby M 3 years ago

Are you really so insecure that you have to be included in everything? Dude, this article does not have anything to do with you. If you want to talk about "woman's planning," then make your own article.

1point

Kat 3 years ago (edited)

I've met mansplaining every time I have to buy something for my car. One time the man in the shop started to explain how I want a wrong part for my car. I finally had enough and had him search their database. I was right and he didn't say anything more after that, not even thank you or smth when I handed him the money...

2points

Kelly Rouse 3 years ago

I had an insurance agent try to "mansplain" plumbing to me when I was getting quotes for a pending home purchase. Him: "Is the plumbing PVC or Copper? "You do know what PVC is dont you?" It did not help that I am an Engineer and at that time designed equipment which included pipe and tube work. I knew more at that time about piping that he probably will ever bother knowing.

1point

Jaime 3 years ago

Whenever I get super excited about something I have this bad habit of rambling about it, so I’m definitely guilty of this...

1point

Blk Pumpkin 3 years ago

1) My husband tried to mansplain, how to do (his) laundry. He now, always does his own laundry. 2) A guy tried to mansplain how a woman should correctly put on a "period pad."

1point

Eslamala 3 years ago

You would think a woman would know the difference between mansplaining and people being stupid and ignorant, though...

1point

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

It's in the tone, I suspect. Arrogance is the hallmark of 'splaining. If someone assumes you're ignorant based upon your gender, that's insulting. if they're simply idiots, and don't pull the "let me tell you b/c I'm a (gender) and we do this better"....

16points

Leodavinci 3 years ago

It appears there is a lot of context missing in many of these, so I'm going to say most are examples of ignorance, not "mansplaining".

0points

Eslamala 3 years ago

I thought so too.

0points

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Gata Nick 3 years ago

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Gabby M 3 years ago

Hey mansplainer. How's it going.

2points

MrTornado778 3 years ago

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Bobert Robertson 3 years ago

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Logic and Reason 3 years ago

Nope.

7points

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Sara Rosen 3 years ago

26points

DogPerson7 3 years ago

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Ozacoter 3 years ago

18points

E Menendez 3 years ago

I can say I would not be with your partner of he does not put faith in your expertise... In the future he will be putting his father's advice before your knowledge, perspective and/or thoughts.

9points

blugeagua 3 years ago

11points

Nugget 3 years ago

Where does a mansplainer get his water? From a well,actually...

7points

Sinkvenice 3 years ago

6points

Andrew Gibb 3 years ago

Womansplaining is a thing as well- Woman will at times explain to men how to do household tasks. Times are changing people- it shouldn't be man vs. woman. We work better together.

6points

If I could I would live under water 3 years ago

13points

Martha Meyer 3 years ago

9points

Evil Little Thing 3 years ago

You do laundry wrong.

3points

blugeagua 3 years ago

2points

Gabby M 3 years ago

1point

Kat 3 years ago (edited)

2points

Kelly Rouse 3 years ago

1point

Jaime 3 years ago

Whenever I get super excited about something I have this bad habit of rambling about it, so I’m definitely guilty of this...

1point

Blk Pumpkin 3 years ago

1) My husband tried to mansplain, how to do (his) laundry. He now, always does his own laundry. 2) A guy tried to mansplain how a woman should correctly put on a "period pad."

1point

Eslamala 3 years ago

You would think a woman would know the difference between mansplaining and people being stupid and ignorant, though...

1point

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

16points

Leodavinci 3 years ago

It appears there is a lot of context missing in many of these, so I'm going to say most are examples of ignorance, not "mansplaining".

0points

Eslamala 3 years ago

I thought so too.

0points

ivan bolitekurac 3 years ago (edited)

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Gata Nick 3 years ago

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Gabby M 3 years ago

Hey mansplainer. How's it going.

2points

MrTornado778 3 years ago

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Logic and Reason 3 years ago

Nope.

7points