Scientists Reveal There May Be More Truth To “Eldest Daughter Syndrome” Than Previously Thought
The “eldest daughter syndrome” is now officially a scientifically proven phenomenon, as a new study showed a correlation between early maturity in first-born daughters and maternal stress during pregnancy.
Oldest sibling and author of the book Paris, My Love, Yael Wolfe, often felt the lines between her role and her mother’s role were blurred.
- A new study proved "eldest daughter syndrome", linking it to maternal prenatal stress.
- First-born daughters were shown to mature earlier, aiding in sibling care.
- The study didn't find a similar accelerated maturity in first-born sons or non-firstborn daughters.
She told HuffPost: “By the time my youngest brother was born when I was almost 11, I was overwhelmed with feelings of responsibility for his welfare.
“I used to sit by his crib and watch him sleep just to make sure he was safe.”
“Eldest daughter syndrome” was validated by a new study linking early maturity in first-born daughters to maternal stress
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“It wasn’t that I thought my mother wasn’t competent, but more that I felt we were both responsible for the family by that point in my life.
“As if I was literally [the] ‘other mom,’ rather than big sister.”
The “eldest daughter syndrome,” which, despite not being listed as an official diagnosis in the DSM-V, has become somewhat of a pop psychology term often discussed on social media.
“If you are the oldest sibling and also a girl you may be entitled to financial compensation,” a woman joked on X (formerly known as Twitter).
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Nevertheless, a University of California, Los Angeles-led research team found that, in certain instances, first-born daughters tend to mature earlier, enabling them to help their mother rear younger siblings.
Moreover, the researchers found a correlation between early signs of adrenal puberty in first-born daughters and their mothers having experienced high levels of prenatal stress.
Adrenal puberty refers to a phase of development during which hormonal changes occur, primarily involving the adrenal glands, and the age of when this phase occurs matters because it is during this phase that skin, body hair, and the brain develop.
Additionally, adrenal puberty processes are reportedly believed to foster social and cognitive changes. As a result, the study showed that superficial physical changes correlated with emotional maturity.
The study revealed that first-born daughters often mature earlier, with early signs of adrenal puberty
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According to Jennifer Hahn-Holbrook, one of the co-authors of the study and an assistant professor of psychology at the University of California, Merced, when times are tough and mothers are stressed during pregnancy, it’s in the mother’s best interest for their daughter to socially mature at a quicker pace.
The psychology expert said: “It gives mom a ‘helper-at-the-nest’ sooner, aiding the women in keeping the latter offspring alive in difficult environments.”
The study posited that girls became mentally mature enough to care for their younger siblings while not being physically capable of having their own children.
Meanwhile, older brothers were seemingly off the hook when it came to this kind of parentification, as the researchers did not find the same result in boys or daughters who were not firstborn.
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Jennifer said: “One reason that we didn’t find this effect in first-born children who are sons could be that male children help less often with direct childcare than female children do, so mothers have less of an adaptive incentive to speed their social pubertal development.”
The results of this study, published in the February issue of Psychoneuroendocrinology, involved 15-year-old research on various families, from the pregnancy stage to the babies’ teen years.
On average, the women chosen for the study were 30 years of age and pregnant with one child, not twins. Approximately half of the women were undergoing their first pregnancy.
At five different stages of pregnancy, the women’s stress, depression, and anxiety levels were measured and then measured cumulatively, as per HuffPuff.
In challenging times, maternal stress during pregnancy prompts daughters to mature faster, serving as an early “helper-at-the-nest”
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The depression assessment reportedly asked the women to rate the truth of statements such as “I felt lonely,” while the anxiety question asked how often they felt particular symptoms, like jitters.
Of the children born to these mothers, 48% were female and 52% were male. Results showed that the eldest girls matured the fastest when their mothers experienced high levels of prenatal stress.
The findings echoed author Yael, who said: “I’m not at all surprised by what the study found.
“My story is slightly different, I went through true puberty, not just adrenal puberty, at 12, though I suspect I experienced an early cognitive maturation.”
“Being parentified as a child takes away from your own childhood,” a reader commented
As an eldest daughter, i would have never thought my place in the family would have been classified as a syndrome...
Me neither but I will be forever grateful my parents (especially my mom) never pushed me into the caretaker role.
Load More Replies...Edit: I clearly needed to get this off my chest lol, don’t worry about reading it dear Pandas :) mildly therapeutic haha ///////////////// I’m a fraternal twin that can weirdly relate to this. For some reason I was always the “grown up” twin. I was the one who my parents trusted to bring permission slips and other documents to school for both my sister and I (since we were usually in the same class). I was the one made responsible for any money or important paperwork for both of us. We used to fly to my grandparents house alone every summer (most airlines have a “VIP” youth situation for kids flying alone where they help the kids board and deplane) and I always held the tickets and IDs and important paperwork and extra cash. I ended up growing up much more stable than her - I worked hard as a waitress at two jobs to put myself through university, currently have my own career that I’ve developed and worked hard at for years, rent my own apartment without needing roommates that I’m also working on purchasing……she’s been quitting minimum wage jobs so frequently for so long that she’s been unable to build a stable income situation, wasn’t able to make enough money to pay for her own education (and failed a couple grade 12 classes that meant she had to retake them as an adult) and has never been able to afford to rent her own place, currently living in a tiny house with like 6 other people….we’re in our 30s and sometimes I wonder if she’d had her sense of responsibility and independence nurtured the same way mine was…..maybe she’d be better off. She used to beg me to order from restaurants for her because she was too scared, and of course I’d give in because I kind of felt a sense of responsibility to protect her. Idk why my parents considered me the responsible one but I think she could have benefitted from that treatment and learning opportunity too….. She honestly has so many anger and problematic awkward jealousy issues towards me that we’re currently LC (my choice) but if anyone managed to read this far, I hope someone can relate. I miss her a lot and I wish I could talk to her without walking on eggshells, I can’t even tell her any regular boring news of my life like “I bought a new used couch off Craigslist” or “I’m going camping this summer” without her angrily accusing me of trying to make her jealous and “one-up” her, instead of just trying to catch up with my twin sister the one or two times a year that we talk :( She used to need to borrow money from me a lot too when we were in our early 20s which probably didn’t make her feel very good about herself, but I never asked her to pay me back. I actually actively edit myself when we do speak and try not to sound too prosperous, she doesn’t even know that I recently got my nose pierced because I didn’t think she’d take it well. (We’ve both always wanted the piercing but neither have done it yet - until now.) It’s interesting how two people born at the same time with the same parents can have such a massively different life experience eh. I don’t think she’ll ever know how much I really do love and care about her.
Sounds like your parents should have stepped in a bit and given some of the responsibility to her. It seems like she doesn’t actually know how to function as an adult
Load More Replies...Physically maturing faster my a*s. Mentally tho, yeah. It made me a good third parent and a better babysitter, but I would give anything to be the youngest.
As an eldest daughter, i would have never thought my place in the family would have been classified as a syndrome...
Me neither but I will be forever grateful my parents (especially my mom) never pushed me into the caretaker role.
Load More Replies...Edit: I clearly needed to get this off my chest lol, don’t worry about reading it dear Pandas :) mildly therapeutic haha ///////////////// I’m a fraternal twin that can weirdly relate to this. For some reason I was always the “grown up” twin. I was the one who my parents trusted to bring permission slips and other documents to school for both my sister and I (since we were usually in the same class). I was the one made responsible for any money or important paperwork for both of us. We used to fly to my grandparents house alone every summer (most airlines have a “VIP” youth situation for kids flying alone where they help the kids board and deplane) and I always held the tickets and IDs and important paperwork and extra cash. I ended up growing up much more stable than her - I worked hard as a waitress at two jobs to put myself through university, currently have my own career that I’ve developed and worked hard at for years, rent my own apartment without needing roommates that I’m also working on purchasing……she’s been quitting minimum wage jobs so frequently for so long that she’s been unable to build a stable income situation, wasn’t able to make enough money to pay for her own education (and failed a couple grade 12 classes that meant she had to retake them as an adult) and has never been able to afford to rent her own place, currently living in a tiny house with like 6 other people….we’re in our 30s and sometimes I wonder if she’d had her sense of responsibility and independence nurtured the same way mine was…..maybe she’d be better off. She used to beg me to order from restaurants for her because she was too scared, and of course I’d give in because I kind of felt a sense of responsibility to protect her. Idk why my parents considered me the responsible one but I think she could have benefitted from that treatment and learning opportunity too….. She honestly has so many anger and problematic awkward jealousy issues towards me that we’re currently LC (my choice) but if anyone managed to read this far, I hope someone can relate. I miss her a lot and I wish I could talk to her without walking on eggshells, I can’t even tell her any regular boring news of my life like “I bought a new used couch off Craigslist” or “I’m going camping this summer” without her angrily accusing me of trying to make her jealous and “one-up” her, instead of just trying to catch up with my twin sister the one or two times a year that we talk :( She used to need to borrow money from me a lot too when we were in our early 20s which probably didn’t make her feel very good about herself, but I never asked her to pay me back. I actually actively edit myself when we do speak and try not to sound too prosperous, she doesn’t even know that I recently got my nose pierced because I didn’t think she’d take it well. (We’ve both always wanted the piercing but neither have done it yet - until now.) It’s interesting how two people born at the same time with the same parents can have such a massively different life experience eh. I don’t think she’ll ever know how much I really do love and care about her.
Sounds like your parents should have stepped in a bit and given some of the responsibility to her. It seems like she doesn’t actually know how to function as an adult
Load More Replies...Physically maturing faster my a*s. Mentally tho, yeah. It made me a good third parent and a better babysitter, but I would give anything to be the youngest.
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