We’ve often heard people say that men don’t understand women and the other way around. But sometimes, it can be difficult to relate to people of the same gender as well.
For instance, a Reddit thread explored the topic: things gay men don't understand about straight men. It all started when a user sparked a lively discussion by asking, "Gay men of Reddit, what’s something about straight men that doesn't make sense to you?" And the responses were both intriguing and eye-opening. Below, we’ve compiled some really impressive answers for you, Pandas.
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I really don't understand the, "I hate my wife trope."
thedean246:
I’ve worked with some older generations and most of them treat it the same way. They’ll sit there and complain about their wife and being married. I’m recently married and I’ve had several older dudes try to joke with me about it. Like… no. I actually love and enjoy my wife.
I never understood it either as a straight female, like we get proposed too (generally speaking) - they made their choice 😂
That’s a good point lmao. Oftentimes they’re the ones to ask us out and propose to us, why are they complaining like we’re making them do it?
Load More Replies...That's because men (especially older men) are brainwashed from their very early years with 'ball-and-chain,' 'marriage is like a prison,' 'once you're married, your life is practically over,' 'being married = being trapped' b******t. Most of those men don't even hate their wives, but they will NEVER admit it because that would make them 'sissies' and 'unmanly.'
THIS. It takes a very self-aware and mature man to overcome that mindset and be willing to praise their wife in public when it's not the "thing" to do and they haven't seen it done.
Load More Replies...I really don't get this either. If you hate your s.o. and they're such a burden why are you still married? No one forced you to get married and no one is forcing you to stay married.
When I was young, I'd sometimes hear female relatives and their friends laughing and having what I called a "stupidest husband" contest. "Oh, you won't believe what Bill did! He's so stupid, I swear!" "Oh really? Ken thinks (x)!" It was literally a contest to see who could outdo the other in having a stupid, clueless husband.
I have also heard this about boyfriends. It's not okay.
Load More Replies...That has always bothered me too. In real life, it was usually the other way around (if at all). So the woman was the man's prisoner, had to look after him and the household and, if necessary, work extra, without the freedom to go out, have her own money or make her own decisions. It has improved, but an additional factor remains: according to statistics, men in marriage live longer and happier than single men and, unfortunately, than their wives...
Women live longer than men, there are more widows than widowers.
Load More Replies...I got a theory : They need to vent about their relationship, like any other, but are unable to nuance it. So instead of expressing their feelings to feel better on the moment, they just keep building up venom and make it a personality.
Maybe it is a form of superstition or defense against envy not to tell My man is perfect, like you don´t tel a great praise about your children. Men don´t praise their vives before their friends, it will be no-manly speech, the same are doing wives. No one my female friends living in happy marriages concedes their happiness. Their man was good enough only when is dead. After death, he becomes a near saint.
Load More Replies...I think that it’s more of an old school thing, from when marriages didn’t work out but divorce was still kind of looked down upon. Also the mindset of “marriage is like prison” which is still kinda encouraged today. Praising your wife can still be looked down upon as “soft” or “unmanly,” which I think is dumb.
Bored Panda loves the trope though, whenever they want to appeal to men they go with it. But people who find that funny are too old to be on the internet.
There is an age limit to using the internet?! When I reach it, do I get to retire? It's okay for me to vote without watching debates or reading articles about the candidates? I no longer need to help my grandkids with research? I don't need to check my health benefits? .... just want to know, since apparently older people are not supposed to use the internet according to you.
Load More Replies...I'm still head over heels in love with my wife after 13 years. I don't get it either.
How certain things make you "gay" or less manly.
Quazakee:
One of my goals in life is to dress well enough that people think I'm gay.
This! 😂 when my mum left my dad (for her soulmate / I have two mums) my dad went through this weird phase, and it’s not funny but to 8yr old me it was hilarious - he got over mum ‘turning’ gay by banning ANYTHING gay from the household while he blasted Elton John cds 💿 24/7. That confused me on Elton John for bit 😂
When my Dad kicked me out for being gay, his favorite show at the time was "Will & Grace."
Load More Replies...I worked at a hotel that had fresh flowers all around the public areas, we had a florist who refreshed them every few days and she did most of the flowers / decorations for weddings, parties etc. My job required me to coordinate with her for arrangements and timings, whenever we met we’d walk round the hotel and chat about flowers, styles and the likes. I always enjoyed our walk rounds and often tidied up displays if she wasn’t available, had more than one guest comment that I must be gay when I helped out with flowers or wedding set ups. 1. It’s my job. 2. How is admiring one of natures greatest works gay? FFS are only gay people allowed to admire a field of sunflowers or a smattering of snowdrops underneath a tree.
You like flowers? Gay. A boy likes to play with dolls? Gay, possibly transgender. A man prefers colour pink? If he can be any more gay, the universe will implode. And god help men who like making doll clothes or enjoy knitting -- that much gayness will rip the planet to shreds.
Having emotions that AREN'T anger or lust??? Gay gay homosexual gay! Being friends with... wait for it... gay :0 Having sex with another man (without not having socks on or saying no homo :|) is less gay /s
Load More Replies...I've known enough gay bikers in my life to know that gays can be pretty manly......
This whole "boycott Harley Davidson" thing is hilarious to me; big hairy bikers are scared they'll lose their masculinity because a company changed it's logo & supports equality?
Load More Replies...I was fortunate in that my parents never tried to strictly enforce gender stereotypes on me, which was quite unusual given my generation, growing up in the 70s and 80s. The result was, as I got older, I had people try to tell me that liking (x), or wearing (x), or even eating a certain kind of food, or USING A STRAW was "gay". It never stopped me because I don't care what people think.
Who says this? Teenage kids, perhaps, who feel the need to compete with each other and try to find anything to use as an insult to make themselves feel like they're superior. OK, some of them never grow up and may take such insecurities with them into adulthood, but to assume that this sort of attitude is true of most straight men is ludicrous.
I don't know why you got down voted, but I got you back to zero. Any man who feels that way is either very young or insecure about his masculinity.
Load More Replies...Straight men that people think are gay are some of my favorite guys to hang out with lmao. Also, women love a straight guy with a great sense of fashion, don’t let people push you into thinking that’s gay.
How emotionally insecure do you have to be to question your clothes, your food, your choice of music or movies, sports, or personal habits (walking, standing, speaking) for fear of "being thought of as gay"? I'm queer AF, can be "straight" talking and "macho" or soft depending on my mood, and not the slightest bit worried about what others think.
Their contempt for women. They mansplain to them, they troll their socials, criticize their looks, downplay or even oppose their views despite their validity, and they feel like you are owed sex just because she is nice or dresses sexy. And to always associate girly stuff with weakness.
Toxic masculinity is just so exhausting. Men live shorter lives not because women stress them out, it's because of toxic masculinity.
And they’re sure to mansplain why mansplaining isn’t real and go on about “red pill for women” when women point out misogyny
Married men live longer than single men. Single women live longer that married (cis/het) women. Figure it out.
I wonder if women married to other women live longer than single women do. Is lesbian marriage the secret to a long and happy life? I hope so!
Load More Replies...If someone stresses you out just by existing, the problem's you, not them
This type of man fears women because he secretly knows how much power they could excert over them. Be it for real or just in his mind.
Of course, there are many very respectful straight men who love their woman. But yes, toxic masculinity is exhausting and SO harmful to everyone, including themselves.
bro, straight men thinking they have to dominate their partner, i can never get behind that, relationships should be equal no matter what relationship
As humans, we ought to make an effort to comprehend other perspectives since it enhances our social and personal interactions. When we accept and value different points of view, it fosters our own development and also helps us build more inclusive communities.
These posts reflect how straight men and gay men have their own unique views due to their distinct life experiences and societal expectations. In order to learn more, Bored Panda contacted one of the post's commentators, who agreed to share their opinions but requested anonymity.
I've had so many "straight" men try to get me to fool around with them that I believe if we didn't make such a big deal about s*x, more men would be at least bi.
Having said that, just because I am gay does not mean I want to fool around with every guy I see. I won't even consider s*x until a few dates in.
Yeah cause homophobes reduce homosexuality to the act itself. For them being gay isn't about your feelings or your potential place in society as a gay couple, it's only about sex. Then, claiming you are gay isn't about your identity but your habits. That's why they are so lost about it : you Say "I love men" they ear "I spend my night dogging every male I encounter".
I guess that's the same men who think that if a woman is bi = she wants a threesome with him.
I moved from a very open place, West Hollywood, to a very conservative place in Alabama and let me tell you. If anything, it's even gayer here. It's like the repression intensifies it somehow. If a guy invites you to a "men's Bible study group," 9/10 it will lead to something else.
Men that see being gay as a sexual perversion are the ones that think all gay men are just looking for sex. They just can't get that some people are attracted to people of the same sex for a romantic relationship not just a sexual relationship. And just for perspective, I'm a straight male.
sex is just weird the concept of doing it with someone you don't know well, is icky to think about-
I live in a Catholic country where gays are embraced now but older women would be shocked to find out how many of their husbands are in the closet
Also, maybe unpopular opinion, but sex doesn't correlate a sexuality. I think e.g a straight man can engage in sex with another man, find it pleasurable, but still not be attracted to men, because a part of your body isn't gonna be fussed abt the sex of who is pleasuring them, but more abt how if it feels good. I mean, yes, they won't like the site of a man pleasuring them, but closing there eyes gets rid of that issue and they will continue finding it pleasurable. I mean, many gay prn stars are straight, and aren't attracted to men. Sexuality isn't dependent on whether you can have sex with someone of a certain sex, but more abt genuine attraction i think
The ABSOLUTE hatred for tiny dogs, I swear to god it’s still a dog man just smaller, showing affection or walking a small animal does not make you gay.
It's the pitch of the dog's voice. Perforated eardrums is not my idea of fun.
I have 2 small dogs, one with a very deep bark and the other has a very tiny bark sooooooo depends on the dog not just the breed
Load More Replies...I'm straight and I prefer small dogs. But you know what I do hate.....ignorant stereotyping.
A guy in my apartment complex, built like the proverbial "brick sh!thouse" with tats and bling, goes totally gaga about his 2 chihuahuas dressed in mauve and powder blue cute outfits. And they ride in a basket on the back of his tricked out Harley
I love seeing big butch men walking tiny dogs! Far better than seeing some t*at trying to control a big macho looking dog.
Load More Replies...I don't mind dog being big or small, it's all about the behavior. If it keeps barking or growling at me just because I exist, I don't like it.
Yes, and small dogs are more likely to behave badly. The small breeds bite the most, and act aggressively for no reason.
Load More Replies...Attention 'tough guys' - having a "tough guy" dog (especially if he still has his balls on) doesn't make you look like a tough guy, it just makes you look like a wanker. A genuine tough guy can have a little white fluffy thing because he doesn't care what anyone else thinks.
Yes! My 6 foot tall, former wildlife firefighter husband claims our little white chihuahua as "his" boy. Absolutely no insecurities whatsoever about walking Biscuit in his stroller or carrying him. Dogs do not have anything to do with a man's sexuality.
Load More Replies...It's true though. Once, there was a guy (Pete) who acted abysmally around tiny dogs. Not only would he not chase those creatures around just so he could manly kick them, but he'd pet them and sometimes even FEED them!! His gayness level was rising so high, y'all... It almost flooded the entire town. Thank God, Brother Ieronimus managed to talk some sense into him thus preventing the catastrophe! The guy bought an alligator, which immediately made gayness levels drop down so quickly, it split the ground and opened up an oil well. I should stop by his house tomorrow with a bucket of raw steaks, just so I can thank him properly. While there, I'll ask him about all the teeth-gnashing sounds & blood-curdling screams that have been going on for almost two days now. Come to think of it, I don't remember seeing Pete around the last couple of days. Weird.
I have an 8lb Morkie . She loves men and they love her. My neighbor is a retired bull rider and he turns into a puddle with her, they all do.
Oh, so want to see pix of your Morkie!! That's such a cute mix.
Load More Replies...Well, I've had people assume I'm gày for having a cat........ people are idiots....
I had a little dog when I was a kid, half chihuahua, half dachshund. We loved that dog.
I don't think our little dog ever bit anybody. He rarely barked either. Once in a while, when someone knocked on the door, he might bark, but was quickly quiet if we told him to be quiet. He was a very good dog.
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Sports, they are just mind bogglingly boring to me, I’m what most people would consider a manly man gay/bi man and I still can’t imagine getting excited over them, UFC is slightly more entertaining but I still can’t be arsed to care about it.
IS there any correlation between sexuality and a liking for sports? I don't think so.
I was talking with my wife about that this morning. I just was never into sports. Neither was my Dad, and neither was HIS Dad. When my kids were little, I played sports with them, but not because I liked sports. They liked sports, and I was nice being out together and playing together. I learned a lot about sports playing with my kids.
Many times sports is not the activity, it's just an excuse to get everyone together. So if your family connected over other things, a lot of the time sports just aren't as important.
Load More Replies...So true. I give a quick "Good job" if my city's soccer team or my country's national team wins or a " aww, to bad" if they lose but other then that I couldn´t care less about the sport itself.
Hi, I'm a man who likes ladies. I don't like sports. Like, at all. I prefer D&D and DDs.
Most men have played sports sometime in their lives. So it normal to follow, I don't get soap operas. Or crime TV like CSI or NICS. Wy ex was obsessed.. Gray's Lobotomy was the worst.
Woman here... I love sports!!! I don't know anything about fashion/shopping etc.... I hate parties... I can't talk to most women when my work is blood and my interrest are sports and lego!!!
I'll talk to you! I love soccer and volleyball. Im more of a middle girl, actually. Some from here, some from there
Load More Replies...It’s quite common for women to have elaborate skincare routines, but here’s the thing: men don’t have 'magical’ skin; they also need to take care of their faces and bodies. The commentator believes, “It’s quite perplexing as to why straight men don’t prioritize grooming. We all want to look good, and that requires effort. You can’t expect your skin to glow if you don’t even have the time to apply sunscreen before going out.”
Expressing your emotions is definitely not a sign of weakness. “It’s okay to feel sad; it’s okay to say it out loud. It's all right to tell your family and friends you are going through a bad phase. While I understand how difficult it is to open up, you shouldn’t bottle up your feelings,” he adds.
I have never and will never understand why so many (obviously not all) straight men obviously want to have s*x with women, but have issues with women who want s*x. Why on earth would you s**t-shame women for having or wanting s*x... if you want to have s*x with women? It’s a complete double standard that forces women to have to avoid being both a s**t and being frigid. Crazy to me.
Because more often than not it's about control, dominance, and violence. Cis hetero males want endless sex before marriage, but then they demand "a virgin wife".
I've never understood this one either, and frankly, i am not impressed with either [majority] gender when they do this. (*yes there are more than two genders etc). I'm impressed by people who can maintain a relationship without it falling apart.
The ones who call you a whore or s**t when you turn down their advances make me laugh though; I'm such a whore yet I still won't sleep with you. Always makes their mates laugh when I say it too so that's a nice bonus
so i cant speak for all men's reasoning, but i can speak as to the few men i knew who acted like this. they want s*x, but they want s*x with women who have a low or even zero body count because they want to feel like they have conquered something. like its this big goal they are trying to achieve to get a woman with a low count to sleep with them. makes them feel special. plus women with a lower count wont have as many experiences to compare them to, so they dont have to worry about being bad at it.
Wearing sunscreen. I offer people sunscreen when I’m going to be outside with them for more than an hour. A surprising number of people turn it down. Like, man, it’s free. You’re not too tough to get skin cancer, and you’re sure as sh*t not stronger than the sun.
Our skin has an SPF of around two. TWO. You can’t be stronger than the sun
I suggest you look up the definition of SPF. It's a measure of how much protection is given compared to the skin being exposed to full sun; SPF 2 would mean that it takes two hours of exposure to have the same effect as one hour on the unprotected skin.
Load More Replies...I know it's important, I am trying to use it, but I hate is so much! I hate the feeling of it on me. oily skin.. Brrr
Anyone who lives in Australia and doesn't wear sunscreen is just a bloody idiot.
guys think it's gay allowing another guy to provide for them, at that point, sit them in the sun for 2 hours and slap them 100 times. i think they'll get the point of sunscreen then-
another person who can't fathom that their idea isn't the norm. Really? We are individuals! HARD TO FATHOM
I don't get how they can't grasp the idea of a woman being equal to them and not an object like a sportscar that they brag brag with.
When I win games against guys in my gym class, they play it off as luck. Yeah, I don’t think so. Can’t we just push past this mindset already?
"Yes, I'm very lucky to be better at this than you." Joking aside, I hope they grow up soon.
Load More Replies...Me too, and he's technically a boomer. I'm rather proud of him.
Load More Replies...It's the fragile masculinity that says in order to be strong, everyone else must be weak. Instead of the idea that strength compliments strength.
because hetros mostly are "dominate men and women are submissive to all men" that in itself is fu(king bull$hit and makes me want to grind people like that into mince paste and feed them to rats-
I graduated from UT (Texas) Law School in 1990. There is an award called Order of the Coif that goes to the graduates with the highest GPAs. That year they were ALL women. In a field still dominated by men, I bet these award winners' average starting salaries was lower than that of the top 8 male graduates.
C'mon, Gen-X dudes. We grew up with Princess/General Leia. What is wrong with you?!
When we are not able to speak our hearts out, our brain frequently enters a fight-or-flight response. The University of Kansas Health System points out, “This is a physical reaction to stress that sets off a chain of events throughout our bodies. It increases our heart rate, slows digestive functions, and makes us feel anxious or depressed.”
The overwhelming fear a lot of straight guys have of being thought of as gay. I had a friend that, while we did get along really well and he didn't mind my sexuality personally, felt like he couldn't be seen around me anymore. It was quite painful to lose the friendship in that way, and since then I've noticed how big that fear is for a lot of people.
Unfortunately alot of people have homophobes in their circle. Either "friends" or family.
It's more the misconception that "a gay man is into all the men he knows", like no dude, you're my friend but not my type, sorry. moving on
They assume a gay man is going to treat/see them the way they see all women.
Load More Replies...I (Gay) lost my best friend (Straight) of 18 years because his new Girlfriend couldn't handle us being really close friends.. Some people just can't handle it..
Yup. My best friend rejected me when I came out. He was like the brother I always wanted. But he was severely freaked and thought I was going to declare my love for him and told me not to contact him. Sadly he passed away from COVID before we could reconcile
People think in pairs, it's quite annoying. As soon as they see two people together, they wonder if they're a couple. If I (straight female) take a straight female friend along to an event, everyone thinks we're together. Same if I hang out with a male friend. The idea that people might just spend time together for fun, without anything romantic involved, is foreign to most people.
The only reason I care about being thought gay is that I'm hoping to meet that special woman, and if women think I'm gay I might miss out on a chance. If I wasn't single, I wouldn't care what other people thought.
If men have that hard a time with the possibility of someone just briefly wondering about their sexuality, imagine how much harder it is for guys who *actually* like guys! Then they demean us. Like, bro, you can't even take it for like two seconds. Had a friend dump me because someone asked once if we were together. Come on, dudes. Seriously.
omg i had this happen to me, christian friend, was open about being gay at a christian school, everyone pretty much avoided me after that, kinda comes with the principle of a christian school, went from talking to him everyday to like fu(king never
I wonder if it's not so much that other people might think he's gay, but that he will miss opportunities with women if THEY think he's gay because he's with you? When you are young and 'looking' it is a little harder to not worry about these things. It gets easier as you age.
I don’t understand why straight men don’t want gay men around. Gay men aren’t after women, so the more there are the less actual competition there is for the straight girls.
Because those are the type of men that only understand what consent means when a gay man is around them
This is so funny and yet not funny at all simultaneously
Load More Replies...They fear the gay guys start immediately hitting on them because "that's all a gay man can think of"
Basically they’re scared of being treated the same way they treat women
Load More Replies...If we are talking about in a group setting, I think I can actually explain this one, if I may theorize for a moment. As I see it, it's not competition for a romantic partner, but rather competition for attention. Stereotypically, gay guys in a group of people tend to be the life of the party and get far closer (physically and emotionally) to the women in a shorter amount of time. So the jealousy felt by some men is not because the guy is gay, but because the guy who is gay gets more attention from the women in the group. Which, I mean let's be real, is probably because the women feel safer around the guy who is gay and are therefore more willing to be relaxed and open around them - something us hetero males should really think hard about...
The presence of gay men in a group of men and women also serves as a reminder that a relationship between a man and a woman does not have to be sexual or even romantic.
Load More Replies...because they're scared they might get sexually harassed... you know, like they are planning to do to the women.
I would argue it's because they are uncomfortable and don't understand. Straight men are simple creatures. Many of them are willing to be friends...they just don't know how to interact without being awkward.
I have known lots of wholesome straight guys who fit this description very well. unfortunately, there are also a lot of straight guys that are jackasses and simply homophobic
Load More Replies...It's bc they assume every gay dude wants to bang one out with them just bc they themselves would do that with any willing woman. Their egos know no bounds truly.
Some of them are so fragile they think they may contract gayness! Personally, I couldn't care what people are. We live in a modern world, be who you are.
THIS! This is the one I absolutely don't get. Surely if you are straight, every time you hear that another guy is gay, you would be pleased and think "Yes! More women for me!". If they have ever fantasised about being the only man in the world and all the women after them, shouldn't each additional gay guy be one more step towards it?
because gay men look better, and are more friendly and easy to talk to really, what i'm saying is they are scared that their hetero will disappear from their charm (not all heteros are like that i know most y'all are chill)
My male family members make fun of me for taking skincare seriously. Bro, you don't want nice skin?
HeartAttackMemeGuy:
I'm straight and my brother expects me to look like a frickin caveman or something? I put anything other than deodorant on me and they call me gay unironically.
Throw some skincare products on him and watch him writhe in pain as he slowly turns gayer and gayer
Living in Australia, if you don't take skin care seriously (sun screen, moisturiser etc) then you are seriously dumb.
Plus alot, like me, have different priorities and aren't obsessed with aging at all.
Load More Replies...Skincare is self care, regardless of gender or sexual preference. The skin is the largest organ of the human body. We wear helmets when riding bikes, skateboarding, motorcycling, and in equestrian events. What, exactly, is "gay" about taking care of our first line of defense against extreme temperatures, pollutants, and germs? Deodorants, cleansers, moisturizers, sunscreens, and prescription topical creams for certain skin conditions not only improve one's appearance; they can be the difference between being healthy or unwell.
well, there are quite a few women who think men using skincare is "unmanly" or something of the sort
Personally speaking I think that anyone who thinks this is just uninformed. Good skin care helps you be healthy, just like bathing does, who wants to smell bad and have skin cancer?
Load More Replies...i've always said to my brother/cousins/nephews that women do not want ashy, chapped, dry men! to think skincare is "gay" is assuming women don't have standards like they do. Imagine if she pulled up to the first date with a mustache and bags under her eyes, you think you'd be calling her back?
I'm on board with nearly all of the points, but this one... When I compared my individually cared for skin, hair and lashes with those of my husband, who simply grabs the first cheap remotely soaplike thing he stumbles upon in the store and uses it for everything, I started having doubts. So I tried his Can-Probably-Also-Serve-As-Carwash-Stuff as shower gel and my skin got way better. Same happend with his face cream. Now he's just begging me to stick with my handcream which he uses from time to time cause he loves the "Magic fairy dust" smell.
That's more about finding the right product/s. Which, in your case, didn't need to be individual items. I can slap something on my arms that will bring my neck out in a rash, slap something on my neck that will bring my face out in a rash and slap something on my face that can't go near my eyes. Should I use the product that is safe near my eyes all over? Nope, that would be hideously expensive. So I have to zone my products. My partner does not.
Load More Replies...Speaking about dressing sense, he says, “In my opinion, straight men have a more utilitarian approach to fashion. They choose clothes for practical reasons and don’t experiment much. I believe they can do better than the classic white shirt and blue pants.”
If you're gonna brag about your s*x life you probably shouldn't get offended if I brag about mine. It's a double standard. If you don't want to hear about mine, consider keeping yours to yourself.
Then can I brag about my lack of a sex life?
Load More Replies...Your terms are accepted. As a bonus, I promise not to hold any self promotional parades.
"everything in life is a double edged sword" by Anita Dobson, my favorite quote
I've never understood why such an intimate act is bragged about in public. It's disrespectful to the person or people you've had that act with.
Their denial of wanting nice things because they might not be “manly”.
I know straight men who flat out refuse to buy cocktails, because they’re “girly” and will straight up just order beer even though they’ve said they hate the taste.
as a 6'2" african male, I am always viewed with surprise when I order cocktails. I cannot stand beer. It makes you fat and does not contain enough alcohol to be counted as an alcoholic beverage.
as a 6'2" dude i skip cocktails because I'd drink them way too fast. I also believe that a true man does not need to confirm his masculinity by his choice of drinks.
Load More Replies...Well, duh! It's in the name, how daft can you be?? "Cоck-Tail"! Have a single sip of a Cosmopolitan, and you'll be tailed by cоcks!
Lol, when my wife and I were young, we used to buy these frozen drink mixes, like margarita, strawberry daiquiri, pina colada, etc. We wouldn't even put alcohol in them because we didn't really drink. We just wanted sweet frozen drinks. We'd rent six movies at a time and stay up all night watching movies and drinking our frozen drinks and eating snacks.
I've seen women posting things like this, but I've never met a man who would disparage another man for drinking a cocktail. I love highly alcoholic and fruity cocktails but rarely drink them in bars and restaurants because they're so frking expensive, and too easy to drink too quickly and therefore too many.
Giving in to peer pressure and being forced to do things you DON'T like instead of things you DO like isn't very manly, is it??
THIS. But, it's not just straight men who feed into this - it's women, too. I don't understand why they think men should not have nice things, but if I want a nice cocktail, a nice piece of luggage, or want to stay at a five-star resort instead of camping like a homeless person, I'm going to do it.
C'mon, camping isn't just for homeless people. On the other, if it's not your cup of melted marshmallows, that's okay.
Load More Replies...It's manly to spend money on a beverage you dislike?
Yes! If it wasn't wrung out of a weasel it's clearly a girl's drink!
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Why do they have to assert their masculinity every second with literally everybody? It must suck wanting to be silly and have some fun and be reminded all the time that you have to be an epic alpha male.
I know it's not every straight man but still.
I don't think a lot of "alpha males" realize that the least "alpha" thing in the world is to care about the opinions of other people. Or that feeling empathy doesn't make someone "less of a man".
Really masculine men aren't "alpha masculine." They are just confident in who they are and their identity isn't wrapped up in how they look or act.
That's called insecurity. No one needs to constantly assert something they're actually sure of.
Y'know, I kinda figure that a REAL man is secure enough in himself that he doesn't have to be a damn bear-wrestling cowboy lumberjack 24/7. Dude, just relax. Shaving your beard and watching cartoons ain't gonna make your tallywhacker fall off.
Lastly, the commentator also highlighted how men should not stick to the ‘traditional’ roles that society expects from them. “Learn cooking; clean the house by yourself. It’s confusing why men are not expected to learn basic life skills. I know many men do it now, but I have a few colleagues who absolutely refuse to do basic chores.”
At the risk of sounding like a stereotypical shallow gay - so many men just aren't even trying when it comes to their appearance. So many are overweight (seriously, cut back on the beers and go for a jog). Dress sloppily, don't manicure their hair, look after their teeth and in some cases actually stink. Like it or not - your body is just as much a part of you as your personality. Women would probably find you more approachable or treat you with more value too and they aren't automatically gold diggers or "whores" just for finding a more attractive man more, well - attractive. Women actually have to try pretty hard to make themselves aesthetically "worth it" to both the opposite and same sex, I kinda feel men should be held to the same standard too. It's amazing how many cases I see of "hot wide married to average looki'n Joe" - men should be grateful that women generally aren't as physical-motivated as they are otherwise a lot less straight guys would be scoring without a skincare routine and some time at the gym.
I've known some gay men who are equally careless about their appearance. The stereotype than all gay men are self-obsessed and narcissistic about their appearance is just as wrong as suggesting that all straight men are not.
He didn't say anything about being obsessive about appearance. He was just talking about having good hygiene and putting in some effort.
Load More Replies...I couldn't agree more that standards for looks should be equal. Women should be far more free to be frumpy, average looking or straight up sloppy, and not be looked down upon socially.
I feel perfectly free to be frumpy; it helps when you don't feel any need for social approval
Load More Replies...And it's the fat guys with no table manners and no intelligent conversation, who drive around in those big trucks with the No Fat Chicks stickers or wheel flaps.
I saw a tweet once that is so true: everyday I see a beautiful woman but only about once a month do I see a beautiful man. Would be nice if more men put in an effort. And I'm just talking about having clothes that's beyond an avengers t-shirt, cargo shorts and a pair of crocs!
I'm not gorgeous, but during almost 27 years of marriage, I can't tell you how many times I was told/asked "Did you marry him for his money?" (He didn't have any) or "You could have done so much better." "You're way out of his league." "The sex must be incredible to marry him." He got "She's out of your league." "she married down." "Why did she marry you?" "What's wrong with her?" My husband wasn't unattractive or ugly. He was just a regular, shy and sweet man who never wanted to be the center of attention. He treated me awesome and showed me every day. I felt like the luckiest woman on earth. I married him because I loved him, plain and simple.
If scissors are involved I'd suggest you do it carefully.
Load More Replies...I don't understand why anybody of whatever orientation or gender would not want to keep themselves clean, brush their teeth, bathe on a regular basis... I read so many posts on reddit where the person doesn't know what to do because their partner goes weeks without working on their hygiene, and it's not depression
Weight is largely genetic and many people can't lose weight even with extreme weight loss countermeasures. And even if we can lose weight and don't want to, it's still no reason to look down on us.
I think OP meant people who don’t look after their bodies by eating terribly and never exercising, not those who physically cannot lose weight 😅
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What's the obsession with buying trucks?
That's what every European wonders as well... Isn't a van more practical?
The only one european I have ever known that had bought a truck was a veterinarian woman lol.
Load More Replies...I call them p3nis extensions. In general, the more insecure a man is about his masculinity, the bigger his truck.
And the more after market add on bling. Nothing like a 4X4 with every extra available, from winches to multiple lights on the rollbar and bumper, but... the vehicle has never been off road.
Load More Replies...We have a truck. My wife drives it. She likes it for the visibility/sitting up higher. I prefer something a little sportier.
SUV's and vans have the same sightlines and can carry more stuff that isn't safe in an open truck bed, like dogs and groceries that don't like weather, hot or cold.
Load More Replies...I have a small pickup that I use to haul mulch, manure, and dirty car parts. But I don't understand the need to have a humongous 4 door, 4 wheel drive, lifted pickup with mud tires and a huge diesel motor that has never been offroad and is only used to take 1 person to work.
I don't understand the need for an $85,000 Mercedes, yet people buy them. Apart from the "Look at me!" component, what does a Mercedes do that a Toyota can't?
Load More Replies...This isn't a straight man thing. This is an American thing, gay or straight, male or female.
I'm a woman and I love a good pick up. However, there is a difference between a work truck and BCSD, lol
Load More Replies...Some men have their whole ego and id wrapped up in their vehicle, truck or otherwise. To them, it's their calling card. What other people see first, so it's important to make what they think is an impression. It's the guys who wash and vacuum their truck once a week, regardless of level of dirt. I had a neighbor complain about our shared dirt road and ask me if I didn't hate how dirty my truck got and how often it needs cleaning. I stared for a few seconds and answered, "It's a truck. It's for hauling stuff. Who cares if it's dirty?"
Are you trying to suggest that women who drive fancy, expensive cars don't do it for their image? No one NEEDS a $70,000 car.
Load More Replies...Compensation for one insecurity or another. Or they need one for work and chores...
I have cows, and I live on and take care of 22 acres. I need a truck to haul stuff and pull a trailer.
Funny though... brought up on an 80 acre farm with cows etc. Managed fine with tractors.
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Why can’t you guys cry to one another?
I actually WANT to be able to cry, and I can't. I always told my kids that there was nothing wrong with crying, but I DID say "If you're crying because you're sad, that's completely okay. If you're crying because you're hurt, that's okay too! If you're crying because you didn't get what you wanted, well, that's not really going to help!"
Same. I got picked on as a kid because I cried a lot. My goal every year going into school was "don't cry". I repressed it for so long that now I can't cry. At all. Sometimes I wish I could, just to express the raw emotions, but I just can't. At fifty, I increasingly think that I've lost something of myself because of it.
Load More Replies...I am autistic. I can feel sad but not turn it into tears. I get an emotionally 'heavy' feeling in the head which causes all symptoms of sadness but I just don't cry. I used to think it's like a voice telling me these things happen so-and-so was old or this person is in a better place, and I felt terrible to have that voice. I don't use that as an excuse, though. I rarely try and comfort because I'm worried about saying something inconsiderate.
I thought i was the only one. I'm an autistic woman and i very rarely cry. I have been clinically depressed in my life and at that time i wished i could express what i felt through crying, to get a sense of relief, but nope i could never do that. I only cry when i am really angry. I also completely get the worrying about saying something inconsiderate when someone else is crying, i never know what to do and i am afraid i'll say the wrong thing if i try to comfort someone.
Load More Replies...As a woman, I am always impressed by men who are willing to cry openly, whether they are gay or straight. It shows they are human with feelings.
I would recommend watching Rowan Ellis' video about this called 'female loneliness and the catch-up friendship crisis', it talks about how the reason many straight men can't get over their first ex is because its for the first time they were able to talk about their feelings with someone, and how for women, their friendships are more emotionally rewarding and fulfilling.
Because it makes you feel vulnerable, and guys rarely meet at event when one can be vulnerable. For instance It's easier to cry when you are just chatting, but guys usually meet around an activity. It's also discouraged by society at large, but it rarely prevent men from doing stuff.
omg, this is a think that annoys me, it is more manly to me to cry then lash out and be sent to jail just because you don't want to be seen as gay just because you cried in the cinemas watching Red Dog-
I wish I could. But I've been taught that I'm not allowed to have feelings. Growing up, if I went to my parents for help, there was a better than even chance I'd get punished for needing help. Now, I have to be Really REALLY hurting before I can cry in front of someone.
I make myself available to straight and gay men who just need to emotionally unload. Ladies, quite shaming your men for having emotions please.
I don't think the majority of the shaming issue is coming from women
Load More Replies...Reflecting similar feelings about how ‘traditional men’ behave, Luis Rodriguez, a software engineer working in Germany, shares, "It is in general emotions, the very narrow range of, almost lack of feelings and emotions they express: many straight men do not talk about or express their emotions. They restrict themselves for different reasons; maybe it was the way many of them were raised; it can also be a lack of interest, but I believe it is fear of opening up and being vulnerable or giving out a sense of weakness.”
“Not sure how many times I have heard the typical phrase of 'men/boys do not cry' and so on, and not only sadness but joy, love, and appreciation," he adds.
A lot of straight men think gay guys want to have s*x with every male they encounter. Do they feel that way around females, so they just assume we do as well?
As a gay male, I just assume any other man I'm around probably *isn't* gay, so my thoughts never even go there. Maybe that's not an issue with females because the odds are more in their favor or something?
Pretty often, straight men make me think they'd f#ck a tree if there was a viable hole, so it's no wonder they project that on gay men, too.
Sadly accurate. There's a trope called "drink till she's pretty" which implies they would do so.
Load More Replies...I mean men r@ped a flippin lizard. So ya, i believe 99% just want to stick it in something somewhere.
Because it's all about dominance. They "think" that men having sex with men "feminizes you", that it always involves BEING penetrated, and not the on doing the penetrating.
I got bored of s3x like 2 decades ago so I do not understand the obsession, and most of my male friends are STILL obsessed with it in their 50s. The pressure to perform it is tedious. I'd rather be reading wikipedia.
no, we don't, just want a friend who can relate to some guy problems, fml-
so many of my straight female friends (i'm wlw) have asked me if i've had crushes on them or if i'd date them and the answer is typically "no, cause you're straight". if I know or assume that a girl is straight, then I usually won't even consider them a prospect. the idea of dating or fvcking them won't even occur to me.
I don't get why they always ask us if we secretly have a crush on them. Like duuuude are you that stupid...?
I don't know the context...but straight men are just like that. They joke about having crushes on each-other and are probably just curious.
That’s actually a really good point- I just thought they were egotistical- but there probably are some who are just curious if a gay person finds them attractive
Load More Replies...In my experience as an older Gay man. It's usually the least attractive straight men who assume that all gay men fancy them.
i get this as a lesbian. no, i'm not into you. you're not my type. my type doesn't assume that everyone attracted to the fairer sex is attracted to them.
No, they secretly think you have pinto beans for brains but are too polite to mention it.
Being friends with other guys for decades and never talking about their feelings....ever....unless you're hammered?
Are you guys just like, not interested in what your friends are thinking or feeling outside of shared activities like video games or sports?
Yeah I feel so sad knowing that my dad only shares feelings when with friends out drinking. I'm his daughter and have some of the same struggles he had but I learned to speak about it and open up (even with the risk of being hurt or traited) because it's healthcare to speak with understanding persons...I wish he could speak with me or my mom or even with a friend just without alcohol....
I have a male friend who when he met his friends and asked how're you doing as an opener, they'd always say they were fine so he made a point every time of saying, No, how are really doing? Some would open up about things, some were genuinely fine & others would approach him later because they knew he'd listen
It's a fantasy based on movies or what? If you don't discuss your feelings with your friend, you are not really friends. No matter what sex are you. Period.
it's to avoid touche subjects, believe it or not, guys are very sentimental if you've known them long enough-
That's right. I'm really not interested in what my friends are thinking outside of shared activities like skiing, music, motorbikes and stuff. That's just normal for many men, so what?
So who do you talk about problems to? Your friends are acquaintances, not friends.
Load More Replies...I'm so tired of women talking ONLY about feelings that i can value men friendship style. Just enjoy what you do without emotional drama and psyco analysing everything
Were you speaking for all men, or just yourself? If it was all men, you're wrong.
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The anger.
Its definitely just the bias of my experience, but straight men tend to be angrily violent depending on the day/situation. Whether its getting frustrated at a video game, or its a bad day and i happen to be "acting" a little bit too effeminate and it catches their attention. But often times it ends with them lashing out and I've never met someone of a different persuasion than "straight male".
Men can only brag about how logical and emotionless they are because they've successfully convinced the society that anger is not an emotion.
Maybe they've been taught that anger is the only socially acceptable emotion for a man to express.
Like Harris O'Malley puts it: In the stereotypical view of what it means to be a man, only three emotional states are "acceptable" - lust, stoic non-emotion and anger.
I have pretty bad anger management issues. Getting super angry is not fun, especially if you take that anger out on another living thing.
At least you realize it. So many others don't acknowledge it and make others suffer.
Load More Replies...It's stress. Stress often makes one angry - mostly they don't even know *why* they're angry. I reckon it's the stress of always trying to behave in a "manly fashion", never giving in to their feelings of doubt, tenderness, fear - whatever. I know that if I had to spend my life trying to always hide my real feelings, I'd be so stressed out.... and ANGRY!
I'm a virgin at 28 and generally very chill, so there must be something wrong with your assessment.
Load More Replies...As society progresses, the idea of masculinity continues to adapt, reflecting broader shifts towards individual authenticity.
Rodriguez says, “Something I don’t understand is the expression of masculinity; of course I am not generalizing, and it is more common in certain cultures, but I just don’t get the physical features men consider more masculine (being stronger or taller) and behaviors men tend to adopt to be perceived as masculine, from the way a man should walk or talk, again not showing emotions or sense of vulnerability to avoid being perceived as weak, all the way to seeing several women. Funny that if a man can be with several women, he is perceived in society as someone to respect; it’s called being macho.”
The 'no homo' bit! Like if you really felt the need to add that, you probably need some introspection time.
I've heard it in the UK but maybe a few years back?
Load More Replies...I’m doing my part to combat this by prefacing talking about men with “no hetero.” My brother’s reaction when I first did it was HILARIOUS.
when i was in middle school, i heard this a LOT from boys in my class. "cute butt, no homo!" "sit on my lap no homo" "you're so hot no homo" i'm sorry but i'm not sure how those sentiments can be construed to *not* be homosexual.
I remember this from when I was in elementary school in the 90s. Didn't realize it was still a thing.
I've known too many straight men that just cannot think straight when a woman is involved.
Puppy love happens with gay men, sometimes with disastrous results since we don't all have the support of a loving family. So I understand that.
But the whole "Romeo & Juliet" / "the whole world is against us" mindset is just too prevalent with straight men.
No, everyone isn't "against" your girlfriend. She seems fine. But you're my friend. I want to hang out with you. Getting a new girlfriend shouldn't mean all your friendships die.
I don't understand the obsession with Romeo and Juliet, they both end up dead in the end.
And worse, they end up dead because of lack of communication.
Load More Replies...Same vice versa. Actually when a girl friend starts getting distant after a new relationship it’s a bit of a red flag that the guy is controlling
"I've known too many straight men that just cannot think straight when a woman is involved." Sadly, a lot of men only have enough blood in their bodies to work one head at a time.
Why being gay is seen as the butt of jokes a lot of the time. Even people who claim they're not homophobic still tend to lean on "HAHA, YOU'RE *GAY* AND THAT'S *FUNNY*" as a go-to joke/insult. What's the punchline? Why is it seen as funny or insulting to be gay or considered gay by straight people who claim they have no problem with gay people? I must be missing something, clearly.
Just keep a straight face and ask "Sorry, I think I didn't get the joke, could you please explain to me what makes it funny?"
Then they call u a snowflake and tell u that ur too easily offended... i wish these people were self aware enough for that to work
Load More Replies...I agree with Luke Branwen. Play ignorant and the whole thing will fall on it's a**e.
I'm embarrassed to say that I was like this in my younger years. I make no excuses and no defenses, only that I have since grown and realized how bad it was to do so. I apologize for my past behaviours, and I have tried to make sure I don't repeat them.
Aww hunty that's no big deal! When it happens, just look at them, completely expressionless then say "And you are a brain dead idiot! HAHAHAHA!" And when they glare at you, you shrug and say "What? I thought we were laughing at what we are. Were we not?"
Ha, ha, ha you're Catholic. Ha, ha, ha you're Midwestern. Yeah, if you put a few different words in there, you can see the jab is meaningless.
I was just thinking this too lol. Haha you're straight! should be their new go to.
Load More Replies...It's basically the same as saying that's lame or r******d. It's not like there was genuine hate there for those of us that said that kind of dumb stuff as kids. We didn't have any problem with crippled people or the mentally challenged anymore than we did with homosexuals. Unfortunately, we were young and immature and society hadn't become more accepting yet. It was insensitive and definitely wrong, but for me and most of the people I know that said that stupid stuff there was no inherit malice in it. It was an immature response to something we didn't understand.
Well ur still not being very nice using the r slur- and ya clearly DO have a problem with all those things if ya get offended by being compared to it
Load More Replies...Obligatory not gay, but I as a straight man have never understood the appeal of lesbian p*rn. I realize how strange it must be to hear that, but whenever I see two lesbians going at it, I feel like I'm intruding. I've just never understood why other straight people are so turned on by gay people. I mean from a biological perspective it's completely counterintuitive.
As a lesbian i don't really get the appeal of lesbian p.o.rn mainly because it's so unrealistic. I can't get into it if i see two women with wolverine nails going at it, i only think "ouch".
I feel like a lot of lesbian porn is made dor straight men unfortunately
Load More Replies...I had a friend like that in college. He claimed he was the straightest man in the world, so straight he doesn't watch lesbian content. In my opinion, as a straight man, if I'm into women, watching two of them wrestle is better than watching one fighting with a bratwurst. If the female physique is what I find appealing, the more the merrier. Excuse my phrasing here, I was trying to word things in a way that didn't involve banned words.
Lesbian themed pôrn isn't made for lesbians, its made for straight men. If they made proper pörn for lesbians, it would be completely different.
I've known lesbians who were turned on by gay male porn. Sexuality is a great big field.
Think of all the women that enjoy seeing you men going down on each other in Fanfics or Mangas. It's really just watching two or more of the body type you're attracted to together, not so hard to understand
hmm it depends on whether they mean actual lesbian sexual acts (like art theatre) or they mean "lipstick lesbian" as in youporn dot com
It's insecurity about watching another man. Porn actors are well-endowed.
this post was about LESBIAN porn not straight porn.
Load More Replies...Being competitive is healthy, but it's important not to let it become overwhelming or detrimental. Rodriguez believes, “My last point would be how competitive men are, especially to one another, to be with a girl, to get a job, to win something. Very competitive and selfish, and leading as well to them not asking for help when they really need it, again to not show signs of weakness or vulnerability.”
The "I stay with my wife even tho my life is hell, just because we have kids" reasoning.
I get it. You don't want to harm your kid. But dear god if you and your wife scream at each other constantly anyways, I wonder what will be more damaging for your kid.
Throwing away probably 10+ years of your life is so stupid and don't get me started on how bitter these guys become. 2 of my work colleagues go through this now. Both say "I will move out in an heartbeat as soon as my kids are out of the house." Yeah... That's still 10 years away for you. And thats only when they move out the second they turn 18. What they won't. So add another 2 to 4 years on that. So you tell me, that your s****y mood will stay for the next decate, where you scream at colleagues because you made a mistake and they pointed it out to you? Nice one dude...
Having kids in the first place is rarely a good idea.
Load More Replies...Staying together for the kids will mess up your kids. You aren't as good at hiding your emotions as you think you are.
A minister I knew years ago said, "Nothings is worse than a broken home than a home that SHOULD be broken". My daughter was in a bad marriage that she stayed in for the kids. She filed for divorce and met the kindest and most loving man on the planet. They are married now and have a beautiful blended family with the everyday issues, but their love for each other and their kids is amazing.
Your job as a parent is to teach your child. Separating and divorce is one of those things you may have to teach them. Do it well. No shouting , no toxic hate, no using kids as weapons, no spite. Do it amicably. Show your kids how it is done and it is not end of the world if marriage fails. Kids aren't traumatised by divorce, they are traumatised by how the parents treat each other.
I agree but unfortunately, most parents absolutely do use the kids as weapons even while saying 'I'm doing this for my children's sake' when making their demands. I have family who are family lawyers, they can practically count on just one hand the number of amicable divorces. They've been in practice for over 30 years so have considerable experience.
Load More Replies...Don't get why they use gay as an insult but we can't use straight as an insult. I think both insults are childish but still. Pretty damn hypocritical...
That is SUCH a straight thing to say. There ya go. 😁
Load More Replies...Why you can't. "Straight white male" phrase is a hilarious beginning of a joke already. Thousands of jokes.
when someone announces they are straight, i assume it means something like "stupid" and treat them as such.
straight people constantly: "haha, that's so gay" "why are you acting so gay" "gross, that's gay" some gay people on the internet: "lmao, why are straight people like this" straight people: "oh my god, I am under attack right now, soon it's gonna be illegal to be straight, this is why we need a straight pride, people"
For some reason I've never been able to fully identify, in the late 90's "gay" was synonymous with "stupid" or "lame".
I don't see this actually. I'm a straight woman who doesn't have any close gay friends and people around me make "straight" jokes all the time. I have 0 issue with it and I think they're hilarious.
How they can act even gayer than us sometimes. Asked a straight friend of mine if j*ck-off circles were a real thing and they said
“Yeah, I’ve been in a Few.”
Like...yeah sure you’re straight.
Eew. - This straight guy who didn't know that was even a thing.
I remember in middle school they're constantly dryhumping each other and touching each other's butt and admitting their six packs but as soon as I'm not good at football or have a female friend I'm the gay one(I mean, they're right but still)
its always the ones who act homophobic act more gay then actuall gay people
Load More Replies...That’s a thing?! Now fellow pandas, you are free to have your own opinion and I will respect them, but that sounds disgusting.
I know not everyone does that, but not showing any feelings to try to look "manly".
Not showing emotions. Other than anger, of course.
Load More Replies...It’s my understanding that many straight men don’t wash their a**es because they think touching down there is gay; that many guys just let the water run down and hope that it does what needs to be done. Seriously? If so, that’s way gross. And just what do you think your sexual partners are encountering when they’re down in that neck of the woods?
Um, yes it is - ask women about skid marks on their sheets and men's underwear - a quick google will give you all the horrifying info.
Load More Replies...Especially if they don't groom. Here's an experiment: smear peanut butter on your head and then wipe at it a few times with a paper towel and see how clean you get.
I can assure you that the vast majority of straight men worldwide wash their asses. I cannot fathom how the conclusion was reached that many of us don't.
If they don't wash their asses, they are going stink. Like, who is watching you in the shower? For Pete's sake, get clean and stay healthy.
ew it's the first thing I wash, I have a really strong sense of smell. If you aren't washing that at least once a day I can definitely smell you.
I don't know about the world, but North America ,and US specifically, is very guilty in that.
The norm of paying for every date rather than splitting the bill equally or occasionally doing it as a surprise act of love for them.
I believe this is slowly changing. Women didn't have their own money for a very long time, so it was expected that the man would pay for dates. I was brought up to always have my own money and to not be reliant on a man, but some other women my age were brought up to believe that a man should take care of them.
I (female) didn't get a second date because I paid for our first. Fine. I'll just spend more money on my cats then. Lol
I don't think this happens much anymore, too many men think paying for dinner entitles them to sex.
The obsession with grass and lawns. Lifes too short for that b******t.
Lawns need to be phased out. They are wildlife deserts, guzzle water, and it is a waste of growing space. Dig it up and plant trees or grow veg.
Some might call my lawn deаd & dry, I call it 'golden.' It's all about perspective.
I always leave my lawn until June. And even then, I'm slowly converting it over to clover. Less maintenance and the critters LOVE it
This is distinctly american, I couldn't give a rat's a**e and If I had one I'd put a flat surface down if I could.
Why on earth would you let anyone influence your interest in feeling great during sex, even with a woman. You have a ton of pleasure nerves in your butt, why neglect it??
My neighbor's dog says that hanging his face out the window when his owner is driving is fun, but I'm going to pass on that too, actually. More power to you if it makes you happy, but not interested.
Meh, I had a girlfriend try that once. Really didn't do anything for me tbh
I don’t understand the whole bass pro shop hat thing I see sometimes on tiktok. I get people who wear hats for a team but this is a weird part of masculinity to me.
I can only guess at what you're talking about, knowing only that Bass Pro is a fishing shop chain, but presumably you're referring to a recent fashion trend and somehow extrapolating from what some kids on TikTok are doing to this being something in common to all straight men. Tell me, how do you know whether the people doing "this whole bass pro shop hat thing" are straight, gay or any other orientation?
if a guy is bragging about fishing, holding up a fish, or going into a fishing shop, he is super alpha male straight, and probably a republican. Guaranteed. I'll put money on it.
Load More Replies...fishing is a white straight guy thing. On Tinder all the white straight guys are holding up fish. it's a bit pathetic. And I'm in africa. I think it's a way of saying to the women that you can provide for them in the case of armageddon. Well, guess what. Unless america starts s**t, there is no armageddon coming. It's only USA that has the stomach for more war.
This was way overboard. Fishing is not just a straight white guy thing. How stereotypical can you be, lol? Fishing is a cultural thing and some of the cultures you are seeing happen to be majority white.
Load More Replies...This is just stupid. People, straight or gay, wear ball caps with advertisements, it's a US thing. Also, as a gay man, I have a ton of'em.
The constantly touching each other for no reason. The guys at my job are always poking and grabbing at each other and giggling like crazy. I don’t get it. Like at all.
Straight men invented arm wrestling so they could hold hands and look into each other's eyes.
We're just monkeys, though, and monkeys do this in the wild. We run around making a load of noise, pulling each other's clothes and looking for mating partners. The only difference between us and the animals is we act like were the more intelligent species, but with whats going on around the UK currently, I beg to differ.
Because men long for physical contact with other men, but they are afraid of being seen as gay. Silly, but true.
I assume it is a blue-collar job where guys struggle to get attention verbally with banter or whit.
Straight men seem to think they're not allowed to:
Be emotionally/physically vulnerable with their friends (crying to / holding hands w friends)
Put effort into their appearance/clothes
Cook??? Like healthy food???
Y'all what? I take a particularly bad s**t and I need a hug from my roommate to console me. It's healing. Are you guys okay?
Why in the name of all that's holy would we want to hold hands with our friends?
Same. Some of us just don't like physical touch that much unless it's family or a partner.
Load More Replies...I know a lot of straight men that can cook and want to cook healthy. Yeah, they're all a little obsessed with their grills and BBQs, but people have their quirks.
Not gay, but bi, I don’t understand the fear of seeming to be in a relationship with a girl because you are close friends. It makes no sense to me, I would think that most people would assume that two people walking together aren’t in a relationship as their first thought.
You'd be wrong lmao. I once went with my best (female) friend to a store where my mom works, and all of mom's colleagues immediately started shipping us together.
My best friend and I were in very serious relationships with guys at the same time, and decided to go looking at rings together. Marriage had been discussed in both cases, but no formal proposals yet. We figured we could take some photos & show our boyfriends later what sort of rings we liked - plus, it was just a fun thing to do. Of course, everybody assumed we were a couple. I don't blame them, non-couples don't ring-shop together often. We decided not to correct them. It was quite fun! (PS. In case anyone is curious, almost 20 years later & we are both still married to the men we were seeing.)
Load More Replies...A lot of people do assume actually. So I think they just want it clear that they are still "open" and not committed to her.
My friend explained that one to me. He knows he can come to us for help with anything and we help him up when he is low. We are the best friends with no strings attached that he has ever has. So if he would date either of us and things go south he is afraid of not just using the friend he tried to date, but if he really f's up, also lose the other one. While I have thought about compatibility between us, I do have to admit we most likely would not match for long term in lifestyle. As in we are both a certain type of lazy so the house would be dusty. And our comfort temps are to far apart.
I am bi and a dog groomer but this still applies either way, straight men in general absolutely loathe poodles looking like poodles even if its their wifes dog. Its like it somehow detracts from how straight they are or something which imo has lead to the popularity of the stupid teddy bear style clip. If any straight guy is reading this then google german poodle breed clip its masculine, clean, utilitarian and if you pay for it then even if your wife hates it then its still an easy to clean style and its a bonafide official breed clip.
I googled it. That cut makes for a really nice profile. What I don't like is that old fashioned poodle cut that's like a bunch of puff balls. I don't think there's anything gay about it. It just looks stupid. Let the dog have a little dignity.
The "puff balls" are to protect their joints against the weather, or water when they were primarily hunting dogs. The rest of the coat is closely cut to reduce snarls, and tangles while running through the bush. It's an ancient tradition. So the fact that you think it's feminine is irrelevant. Completely irrelevant.
Load More Replies...I personally like the German cut better, not because of masculinity, I just think it makes them look more cuddly
How homophobic they can be... like... b***h you should be happy because your ugly a*s got less competition with the ladies (they ain't gonna choose you anyway tho).
Assuming every relationship you enter is monogamous by default and then cheating. Why not just have an adult conversation early on? Also, do you know the ratio of mating events to births in our species?? Monogamy is just so unnatural for humans, but to each their own I guess.
"To each their own" but "monogamy is unnatural". Does anyone else see the contradiction here?
not at all - he stated his opinion on the subject "monogamy is unnatural" - but acknowledges not everyone sees it the same way - "To each their own".
Load More Replies...most straight men would never want an open relationship, cause someone else would de "using" his wife. It's ok if they cheat cause, that's "manly"
I though being gay or straight is just a matter of what gender you are attracted to, not your general behaviour. Like, if a straight man thinks certain clothes are "gay", that is not because he is straight - that is because he is an idiot
Being gay, I am attracted to a man's sex, not his gender.
Load More Replies...This list should be titled, "40 gay men post ignorant stereotypes about straight men", heck, this is borderline bigotry. Just imagine of this was reversed....
Not only stereotypes about straight men but reinforcing stereotypes about gay men, presumably posted by other gay men. Nearly all of the characteristics mentioned are not in the least bit specific to all gay or straight men.
Load More Replies...I, I don't know what to think of this but I can tell you except from 'should pay a bit more attention to looks and could talk about feelings more'.. It feels like we are talking about a whole other species. I do not know any men who are like that
Get some gay friends. They're fun and safe. And then you'll be able to observe what really goes on.
Load More Replies...Watch out, fellow pandas, there is a mysterious new phenomenon. An author gives herself 60 upvotes, you don't even bother to read the article because you find it uninteresting, so you downvote. Lo and behold, your downvote is cancelled out by one mysterious upvote. Still 60 upvotes and no comments. Yes, I know, not relevant here, but watch out for their sneaky tricks!
Same happened again today. I could tell you the person I know that is doing this, but that would be beneath me. Screenshots taken, BP, do your worst!
Load More Replies...One thing I will say that disturbs me; the amount of straight guys that want a f*ckable version of their mum when they get a partner. Like it's not even a small percentage.
If you're a straight guy fuming at the list and looking for a way to invalidate it, just remember that a lot of this comes from the fact that we just don't feel safe around you guys. Looking through this list (currently 25) and yeah, I know at least one dude who matches each entry. So maybe there's a clue cause most of you aren't the helpful saints you think you are
when they have a kink or f*tish but scorn people who live as their authentic self. i knew a straight guy (at least he said he was) who fantasized about being female. had a whole body suit and everything. nothing wrong with that at all. he wore this and other female accessories during intimacy. however he was extremely transphobic and homophobic despite his partner being lgbt and spoke hatefully about anyone he even thought might be trans or gay. it was so hypocritical. lost that friendship fast when i confronted him. i think there was a lot of internalized hatred going on with him. hope he got help or found himself eventually
I (64f)guess because I'm from CA. we grow up a lot more accepting. I have relatives and friends who are LG (no BTQs in my family that I know of). They are fun people with adult level conversational abilities and sympathy and empathy. Best buds. And great to go out with for a night of fun. You have male companionship and protection and they are usually up to do lots of stuff, from museums and theater, to art and wine festivals and vacations. You know, the kind of stuff insecure straight guys would label you "gay" for enjoying.
It is odd that I recognize the stereotypes, but if I think about the men in my social circle, absolutely none if them fits these descriptions.
I though being gay or straight is just a matter of what gender you are attracted to, not your general behaviour. Like, if a straight man thinks certain clothes are "gay", that is not because he is straight - that is because he is an idiot
Being gay, I am attracted to a man's sex, not his gender.
Load More Replies...This list should be titled, "40 gay men post ignorant stereotypes about straight men", heck, this is borderline bigotry. Just imagine of this was reversed....
Not only stereotypes about straight men but reinforcing stereotypes about gay men, presumably posted by other gay men. Nearly all of the characteristics mentioned are not in the least bit specific to all gay or straight men.
Load More Replies...I, I don't know what to think of this but I can tell you except from 'should pay a bit more attention to looks and could talk about feelings more'.. It feels like we are talking about a whole other species. I do not know any men who are like that
Get some gay friends. They're fun and safe. And then you'll be able to observe what really goes on.
Load More Replies...Watch out, fellow pandas, there is a mysterious new phenomenon. An author gives herself 60 upvotes, you don't even bother to read the article because you find it uninteresting, so you downvote. Lo and behold, your downvote is cancelled out by one mysterious upvote. Still 60 upvotes and no comments. Yes, I know, not relevant here, but watch out for their sneaky tricks!
Same happened again today. I could tell you the person I know that is doing this, but that would be beneath me. Screenshots taken, BP, do your worst!
Load More Replies...One thing I will say that disturbs me; the amount of straight guys that want a f*ckable version of their mum when they get a partner. Like it's not even a small percentage.
If you're a straight guy fuming at the list and looking for a way to invalidate it, just remember that a lot of this comes from the fact that we just don't feel safe around you guys. Looking through this list (currently 25) and yeah, I know at least one dude who matches each entry. So maybe there's a clue cause most of you aren't the helpful saints you think you are
when they have a kink or f*tish but scorn people who live as their authentic self. i knew a straight guy (at least he said he was) who fantasized about being female. had a whole body suit and everything. nothing wrong with that at all. he wore this and other female accessories during intimacy. however he was extremely transphobic and homophobic despite his partner being lgbt and spoke hatefully about anyone he even thought might be trans or gay. it was so hypocritical. lost that friendship fast when i confronted him. i think there was a lot of internalized hatred going on with him. hope he got help or found himself eventually
I (64f)guess because I'm from CA. we grow up a lot more accepting. I have relatives and friends who are LG (no BTQs in my family that I know of). They are fun people with adult level conversational abilities and sympathy and empathy. Best buds. And great to go out with for a night of fun. You have male companionship and protection and they are usually up to do lots of stuff, from museums and theater, to art and wine festivals and vacations. You know, the kind of stuff insecure straight guys would label you "gay" for enjoying.
It is odd that I recognize the stereotypes, but if I think about the men in my social circle, absolutely none if them fits these descriptions.

