She deserves everything she gets as well as the brother. They both need therapy.

I suppose it would be difficult since they're neighbors but I would want a restraining order as well. This girl and her brother's behaviors are terrifying. She'd better get therapy because I can see her actions escalating. If the OP's family has any pets they'd better not leave them unsupervised outside.

At 17, I had left home and was working a couple of part-time jobs and putting myself through uni. I would admit that in many ways my judgment was not the best, but I knew full well the difference between right and wrong. The only hope this young woman has is to face the consequences of her choices. Letting her off will a) make her think she is invincible and she will probably be worse next time round and b) will guarantee that she will NOT get the guidance or therapy she clearly needs moving forward. It's very hard as a parent to accept that your child has really screwed up, or children in this case, but the fact you have two children who behave this way tells me that perhaps the parents are not best qualified to determine what should happen.

Holy s**t. It could have been worse than the car and his parents know it.

They should press charges but realize it will unfortunately get very tense with the neighbors.

NTA. Sue the crazy bit*h. If you let her off the hook you just give her a free pass to do this to anyone else. She needs a punch of reality from life, a police record will help with that. Press charges and sue the family in a Civil Suit.

I hope Lana also has to go for anger management.

NTA. This girl could burn your house down. She needs to be disciplined by her parents and suffer the consequences of what she did, community service, some kind of probation, I don't know what. She is an abuser already, at 17 years old. Her parents are probably afraid of her.

Unless she learns now this behaviour is going to end up with her becoming the next Jodi Arias. I'm not joking. Stalking behaviour only ever escalates without some major wake up call for the stalker.

Lana's parents are utter failures. Not one but two psycho, criminal children. Well done.

No people need to reap what they sow. Her brother is an adult and he did what he did. She is on her way to be him.

Lana, her brother, and her parents need therapy. But you also need to learn to stay out of your son's life.

Jesus, so NTA, I'd slap the cray out of her!

In my state you get charged as an adult at 17.

No ifs ands or buts, this girl needs to be punished to the fullest extent of the law. If something is not done to make her open her eyes, the next time she has the chance she may very well do serious harm to your son and or family. This girl seems to think she can get away with murder. Is that what you want for your son? to fear for his life? get her off the streets before she does something else. Because she will retaliate.

She won't get better, so charge her as far as the law will take it. She is just about over the line and will soon be 18. She would have been put in jail if she had been 18. This is not a problem that will be swept under the rug. She has mental problems that you cannot ignore. Maybe she will physically attack your son and do permanent damage to him. Maybe her next step would be to kill him. Press charges and get her out of his life.

First, I'd like to propose AITACOM as the official shorthand for Am-I-the-A*****e-community. As for the question raised: No, he's not. No, his wife is not. We haven't heard from Bryce, and I wonder why that is. That said, make no deal. This a golden learning opportunity for Lana as has been noted, but IT'S THE SAME FOR HER PARENTS, who created and tolerate their kids' criminal behavior. You are owed repair or replacement of the vehicle in any case. Lana needs professional psychiatric help--not some b******t "anger-management: course, but she deserves to do time as well. The escalation that previously occurred makes it clear that it was a mistake to ignore criminal behavior. Get a restraining order vs the entire family.

At 17, she can still get some help thru juvenile PO hopefully. Press charges, always press charges - the PO system can offer so much help for kids, and they can enforce that it happens, unlike most agencies. Do not fear court for kids in states with safe systems (ignore all this in Texas, it's unsafe), court ordered is often the best way to get older teens help. It won't go on her adult record, there's no reason to evade the legal system when kids need help. Most courts & corrections people do want to help, they are often big cheerleaders & supporters of their clients.

Why does a small amount of property damage come with jail time wtf. Property crimes are easily fixed with money and since shes a child her parents *are* responsible for it. Like yes she shouldnt avoid consequences but those are up to her parents. Their son should be paying for half the replacement himself tho.

You learn one simple thing over and over in your lifetime, "actions have consequences". What many fail to learn is the extent of those consequences; a slap on the wrist will only encourage further actions. Prosecution will teach a damn lesson that hopefully sticks a little. Also therapy and some type of restraining order would be good to stack on it

Shoot her in the knee as an alternative to pressing charges.

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This girl, this child, is unstable and twisted. Granted there are many levels between the two, but she's got something about her that reminds me of Putin. Putin is like that weird guy who goes bonkers when a girl breaks up with him and he can't stand the idea of her dating someone else, so he's willing to do anything to make her life hell, and his by not just moving on. Granted she isn't murdering innocents, but left unchecked where will she lead...

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NTA, but I think I would've approached Lana's parents first to have them pay to have the car repainted. If they refused, then I would've involved a lawyer and then the Cops. This guy went for maximum punishment and it may haunt him and his son for a long time.

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If they bought a new car and put Lana in therapy, I wouldn't press charges. I'd consider the matter closed.