The teacher backed down without apologising. Not the manners I expect her to be teaching the children. I applaud the OP.

This went too far, because it's gone into things a teacher will have to document. It wasn't her business getting involved in the party, but any indication a teacher might invite students into their home is a big deal. If someone hears about it and gets the story wrong, teacher could be in a lot of trouble, so she will have to repot to cover her own a*s. She has no idea if OP will follow through. Not with your PVG or similar clearance to work with vulnerable groups. OP should have left it with, will you be hosting then. Not to mention following an angry exchange with I know where you live is very close to the legal threshold for a threat.

I really don't like this idea of all children in a class need to be invited to a birthday party. A child should be able to say who they want to celebrate their day. Also it sets up unrealistic expectations for all children tgat they will be included in every event... life is not fair you are not going to get to go to every event, you don't get to be friends with everyone. As for the teacher - serves her right. She has no right to insist a parent have every child in a class to their house - poor showing on her part and good on OP for calling her out in great style

Not overboard. It was bold to "demand" anything about anyone else's birthday party. What is with these teachers who don't understand how stupid this "if you mention your birthday party at school, you have to invite the whole class" So, everyone's supposed to treat their birthday party like a dirty secret? You have to teach children about disappointment, and not being invited to a party is the perfect time to start.

"There is no denying that a child should be forced to invite multiple unwanted guests just because some random other party wants it." The author of this article (not the Reddit post writer) needs to learn to proofread before publishing the page. Unless they actually meant to suggest that this kid SHOULD be forced to invite everyone...

wasnt it public knowledge? public information? its fine. NTA.

NTA, & apparently having to invite the entire class is not a school policy. I might have called the school office (or gone there) & in a "confused" or "quizzical" voice said, "My son is in Miss X's class & she called me & said the whole class had to be invited to his birthday party this weekend -- is that a school policy I didn't know about?? Because he just wanted his 2 friends & anyway we don't have room for that many kids & she said I should find a bigger place for the party. I don't think this is fair & I really don't like it that she called me at home to tell me what I had to do." That would have gotten her off your case since somebody from the office would surely "speak to her." "Well, I don't want to get her in trouble. She might take it out on my son." So you've gotten her to leave you alone abt inviting the whole class & if she had any ideas abt retaliating against your son (after being "spoken to"), you've laid the groundwork in case she does start to treat him unfairly. As for invading her privacy by finding her email & home addresses, who is foolish enough these days to have any expectation of privacy? Just googling a person's name will give you just about anything you want to know, & more, with 1 or 2 keystrokes & I can't see how that could be considered stalking. You sent her an email with suggested wording for inviting the whole class; I'm sure she knows what information is available on line; & you didn't send the invitation email to the classmates' parents, nor did you have any intention of doing so - you simply asked her opinion of the wording. Can't see how she could twist that into as a threat unless the idea of 32 children in her home was terrifying to her. Sometimes it works best to jump in & play out the game to get the result you want.

Hahahaha, made my day. Maybe it's even useful for the teacher to know her address is online.

Utterly unhinged.

Doxing is an actual crime in some countries. And OP herself knew that she was only threatening and wasn't gonna go through with it, but the teacher couldn't know that. So yeah, WAY too far. Don't be surprised if you and your kid are no longer welcome at this school.