Nah, NTA. Bet she learned a damn lesson though and won't be pushing parents to do this again in the future.

Creepy and intrusive? What do you call a teacher who gets into a student's file, calls the parent, and says you have to invite 32 strangers into your home this weekend? Only the principal should be in those files, and only if your kid breaks the rules.

Seems like she took one for the team and put a stop to this teachers nosey behavior. Your welcome, all the parents of her future students.

I really don't like this idea of all children in a class need to be invited to a birthday party. A child should be able to say who they want to celebrate their day. Also it sets up unrealistic expectations for all children tgat they will be included in every event... life is not fair you are not going to get to go to every event, you don't get to be friends with everyone. As for the teacher - serves her right. She has no right to insist a parent have every child in a class to their house - poor showing on her part and good on OP for calling her out in great style

wasnt it public knowledge? public information? its fine. NTA.

NTA, & apparently having to invite the entire class is not a school policy. I might have called the school office (or gone there) & in a "confused" or "quizzical" voice said, "My son is in Miss X's class & she called me & said the whole class had to be invited to his birthday party this weekend -- is that a school policy I didn't know about?? Because he just wanted his 2 friends & anyway we don't have room for that many kids & she said I should find a bigger place for the party. I don't think this is fair & I really don't like it that she called me at home to tell me what I had to do." That would have gotten her off your case since somebody from the office would surely "speak to her." "Well, I don't want to get her in trouble. She might take it out on my son." So you've gotten her to leave you alone abt inviting the whole class & if she had any ideas abt retaliating against your son (after being "spoken to"), you've laid the groundwork in case she does start to treat him unfairly. As for invading her privacy by finding her email & home addresses, who is foolish enough these days to have any expectation of privacy? Just googling a person's name will give you just about anything you want to know, & more, with 1 or 2 keystrokes & I can't see how that could be considered stalking. You sent her an email with suggested wording for inviting the whole class; I'm sure she knows what information is available on line; & you didn't send the invitation email to the classmates' parents, nor did you have any intention of doing so - you simply asked her opinion of the wording. Can't see how she could twist that into as a threat unless the idea of 32 children in her home was terrifying to her. Sometimes it works best to jump in & play out the game to get the result you want.

Hahahaha, made my day. Maybe it's even useful for the teacher to know her address is online.

Now imagine if it had been a single father telling a female teacher he knows her address. It was highly inappropriate. And yes, everyone agrees inviting every kid is dumb, but you don't go attacking someone's sense of safety. Ever.

Not overboard. It was bold to "demand" anything about anyone else's birthday party. What is with these teachers who don't understand how stupid this "if you mention your birthday party at school, you have to invite the whole class" So, everyone's supposed to treat their birthday party like a dirty secret? You have to teach children about disappointment, and not being invited to a party is the perfect time to start.

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If you don't want your address to be public make it private