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It’s 2023. Spain is providing women with menstrual leave, female professional athletes in the US are finally receiving the same salaries as their male counterparts, and Scotland has passed a bill requiring free menstrual products to be available in public restrooms. Alongside all of the wins women have recently had, however, we still have a long way to go in creating a truly equal society.

One curious Reddit user recently asked people to share things that are socially acceptable for men to do that women face unfair judgment for, so below, you'll find some of their most prevalent responses, as well as conversations we were lucky enough to have with the person who posed this question and the host of Feminist Talks with Nandar.

#1

Be in charge of their reproductive organs.

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Loverboy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Saw something recently about someone proposing mandatory vasectomies, was immediately shot down. Because apparently it's okay for men to control women's bodies, but when it comes to men's bodies, it's unacceptable. F**k off

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#2

Expressing anger. If you're mad, you're either a harpish shrew, a crazy b***h, or hormonal.



Promiscuity, in fact, I've never once in my life heard that word applied to a man. Only women are considered "Promiscuous"

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KittyGotClaws
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As long as no one is sleeping with my spouse, I have one thing to say -- have fun!

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If you're a woman, many of the responses on this list will come as no surprise to you. We tend to become desensitized to the double standards we encounter often because it's exhausting to expend energy being constantly frustrated about them or engaging in heated discussions with individuals who deny their existence. But it's important to keep talking about these issues to ensure that one day our children, grandchildren or great-grandchildren won't have to experience them.

To learn more about how this particular conversation started in the first place, we reached out to the Reddit user who invited others to share things that are socially acceptable for men to do but frowned upon when women do them, and he was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda. "My main goal [when creating this post] was to find comebacks that use logic against transphobia," he shared.

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And when it comes to how many of these inequalities he has seen first-hand, the OP said, "I haven’t really observed many of them in my lifetime, but they do bother me." He went on to suppose that people tend to underestimate one gender due to "traditional roles that are deeply rooted" in many of us.

#3

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online 'babysit' your own kids. Thankfully it's falling out of favour but the amount of times my dad got asked by our family if he was 'babysitting' us while my mum was busy was wild. No, he's not babysitting us, he's being a parent. My mum never got asked if she was 'babysitting' us while dad was busy.

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David
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

True, but women are guilty of this too. Asking me if I was babysitting. Acting surprised that I can change diapers or do other basic parenting stuff. I'm talking USA. Some countries still very much have 'women's work' categories. I got kind of scolded in the Philippines for washing my own clothes. And that was coming from the FEMALE relatives. LOL

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#4

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Not wanting to have kids, if you’re a woman who decided to be child free people will call you lonely, selfish, and act like you’re wasting your life because apparently all women are here for is breeding. Once you’re 40-50 with no kids, society will insist you regret your decision not to have kids & will end up lonely with nobody in your life & 50 cats!

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Margot Moser
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once again I disagree with the stereotypes I'm reading on this thread. At almost 80 years old, I know so many women and couples who have not had children and are leading very happy lives. Where we live in BC, society does not insist you regret your decision . . . . . Far from it.

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We also reached out to Nandar, host of Feminist Talks With Nandar, to hear her thoughts on the topic. "I think it is important to also discuss what men are not taught to do that women are forced to do because both affect us negatively," she told Bored Panda. "I grew up in a small village in Shan State Myanmar with two brothers who had the freedom to do whatever they wanted to do when they wanted to. For example, I would have to help do the household chores after the school break, while my brothers would hang out with their friends or play football. I did not like doing household chores, but I had to. Why? 'Because I am a girl' was the answer to that and so many other questions."

"I was not allowed to go out at night or sleepover at a friend’s house when my brothers could," Nandar went on to share. "I was also not allowed to wear the clothes that I wanted to wear. One time, when I was wearing a short skirt up to my knees, my brother made me go change immediately. Since then, I stopped wearing short skirts for over a decade. After I got my first period, I was scolded by my uncle not to do any sports, because it is 'not appropriate for men to see a grown woman' do that. (This implies that my body is growing, and men won’t be able to control themselves around woman). I gave up doing anything jumpy or sporty from then on. Enjoying and liking sex is another huge taboo in our culture. If a man talks about how he likes sex and has done it, people praise him for it. But when a woman even slightly mentions that she is curious about sex, she becomes a slut in society’s definition."

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#5

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online I've gotten the dumbest comments from people about doing things that aren't "womanly" lol ... Someone commented that my deodorant scent was masculine and I should be wearing woman's deodorant once. Like, sorry I'd rather not spend twice the money for Secret when I could get a cheap-a*s speed stick that just smells like pine trees.

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Samara Messer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some of the men's products smell better. I like the way most men's bodywash smells over women's.

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#6

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Letting body hair grow.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I let my body hair grow during the winter, and shave it during the summer :P

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"The world we live in, as of now, is deeply patriarchy, which means the rules are set by and for men to enjoy their full rights while controlling women’s choices and bodies as they please," Nandar went on to explain. "Of course, things are slowly progressing because of the feminist movement around the world. These double standards exists because men feel the need to control women’s lives, so that they can continue dominating in every aspects of their lives. It isn’t fair, and it is because of these kinds of injustices that feminism was born and feminists like us are continuing to fight for our human rights to remove the patriarchy system and build a fairer world."

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#7

Reject.

As in rejecting men, opinions, theories. Anything, really. Men do it all the time, unconsciously even.

Women have lost their lives over this.

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#8

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Frowning, or even failing to smile *all the time*. My husband was shocked when I told him how often a man tells me to smile when I'm just going about my business.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just had an older man stop me in my gym and told me I should smile. I asked him if he told the men to smile, he said no. Told him to leave me alone, maybe YOU should walk around smiling for everyone in the gym, old man!! It was harsh I know, but people are so rude. Don't bug me when I'm lifting!

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When it comes to how we can dismantle the patriarchy and remove these double standards, Nandar says women should refuse to conform to these arbitrary expectations. "I used to follow all these norms and standards despite the fact that it was making me deeply unhappy and confused. I thought that conforming to the norms is the way to achieve being a ‘good girl’ because I wanted to matter in society, but gradually, because of access to the right education, I was enlightened enough not to do that," she noted.

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"The double standards and cultures do not serve us in anyway. They don't give any benefits or rights to grow fully as a person. In order for one to live fully, one must exercise their rights fully," Nandar continued. "This applies to all genders. Men must learn to give up their entitlement over women’s choices and bodies and realize that [we] are not something for them to take control of. Unlearn and relearn how you define masculinity because that is what has often led men to think that they are in full control of women’s lives. Without both parties (men and women) participation, it won’t be possible to remove the double standards that have become [part of our] culture."

#9

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online EATING ANOTHER SLICE OF PIZZA (or other food stuff.)

The amount of times I've sat in a meeting warring with myself about how I'll be judged for having another food item is just sad.

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Isabelle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My body is a temple, and it is devoted to the goddess that is me. It is completely my choice as to how I decorate my altar and also how I fill it. So f**k off.

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#10

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Welding. My mother had a hell of a time just trying to do her job without guys messing with her and thinking either she's stupid or doesn't know what she's doing even though they went through the same classes and she's been doing it longer then most

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh, yes. I wanted to be a mechanic when I was in my teens. My dad (gently) discouraged me, saying that no one would take me seriously and I'd get a lot of harassment. He wasn't being sexist or promoting sexist ideals, he was telling me his observations. He had been an aeronautical mechanic for a while after he got back from Vietnam, and my mother had worked on the assembly line for Boeing back in the day as well. My dad said the female workers always got mocked, teased, harassed, and were always judged as poorer performers than the men, regardless of their actual productivity. I know my dad was just trying to look out for me, but I still wish I'd become a mechanic.

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Nandar went on to share some wise words for women who are unfairly judged for these innocent actions. "This is advice I would give to my younger self: Don’t be afraid to speak your mind, even if people around you are making you feel bad for it," she told Bored Panda. "Be yourself. Stand up for what you believe, even if you are alone. Your voice matters. When you are standing up for yourself, you are standing up for generations of women before and after you. You may not know or feel like that right now, but it matters. Do and say what makes you feel best."

"Do not be afraid of question the norms," she continued. "The main reason these harmful ideas continue existing is because we don’t question them enough. When we question, we also make those who follow these ideas blindly think. Lastly, do not let anyone or any culture define you. What you do defines you, not your culture or your family. You can make the changes you wish to see."

#11

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Shaving your head. I do it a couple times a year and find it completely freeing. But have been judged for it by some. “Real women don’t shave their head” kind of thing. Why not?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, I’ve kinda wanted to just shave it too. Unfortunately I have a weird and prominent dip in the back of my skull that makes my head look ugly, but I at least want to cut my hair short. I know many women have short hair, but changing my appearance at all seems like too much of a risk since some middle schoolers can be complete jerks and can turn you into a joke over just about anything. :(

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#12

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Doing jobs that require physical strength or were once considered “manly” like being a mechanic, firefighter, etc.

Edit: Yes, I know men are stronger and there’s evidence backing it. Women can still be capable. Some of you need to realize that some people work out.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Men tend to have more upper body strength, while women tend to have more lower body strength.

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Nandar also urges all of the men out there to be allies to women. "Don’t be silent when you see injustice," she says. "Don’t ignore or assume that you have nothing to do with it. You are part of the society and culture that harms women’s lives and choices, and you must stand up for them because you are on the other side of the coin. We need to hold hands and change the system, not let the system change us."

If you'd like to hear more words of wisdom from Nandar, be sure to check out her podcast, Feminist Talks With Nandar right here!

#13

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Be angry

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Samara Messer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my boyfriend's sdult son goes into an angry verbal tirade over even small things, he's "passionate".. When I get even so much as a little irritated, I am "irrational" and "overreacting".. I have to keep reminding him that its ok for women to be irritated and angry sometimes. We aren't always sunshine and rainbows.

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#14

When my husband cries in public he literally gets complements for being so "brave" ... When I do it I get asked if it's "that time of the month"

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James
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Respectfully, I’ve never heard of a man being called brave for crying in public. I have heard them being told to man up however

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#15

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Being dedicated to your work and missing time with your kids

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Loverboy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn't acceptable for either gender. Your kids come first, always, no matter what. You picked that responsibility up when you decided to father them, and men who do this will get flak for it.

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#16

-Speak uninterrupted, and point it out without being negatively judged.
-Not worry about birth control.
-Ask for a raise.
-Be assertive.

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StrangeOne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always get interrupted. To the point it's hard for me to finish what I want to say in my head, so I'm always stuttering. If someone is listening to me wholeheartedly, I just start trailing off expecting them to interrupt me. It's a real problem.

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#17

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Letting your hair go naturally grey before you’re very old.

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BatPhace
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm damn near 38 years old and over 50% grey at this point and I earned every single one of these møtherfuckers and I wear them as the badges of honor they are lol I only dye my bangs fun colors 😅

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#18

My ex's family would split up after dinner. All the men would go into another room and the women in the other. I wanted to carry on a conversation I was having with F in law about formula 1 racing and followed him. I got a total look of disapproval. Reminded them it wasn't victorian times and I'll do what the hell i like!

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StrangeOne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex's family, the men would be all "Welp. Lets head into the living room and let the ladies clean up." Being raised by a single mom this was jarring and enraging to me.

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#19

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Bragging about how many people you’ve slept with

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#20

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Sitting in a bar alone.

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Chels
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I go to bars by myself all the time. It’s not a big deal, I actually prefer. If I guy approaches me and tried to talk when I’m not in the mood I just blow him off and ignore him. Easy.

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#21

Doing our own home repairs or knowing about and working on cars.

Speaking up in a meeting as the only woman present.

Expressing a point of view different from the majority.

Been there, done all of these.

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StrangeOne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Expressing a point of view different from the majority." I'm going to be observing if this happens in the BP community.

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#22

Wearing the same outfit multiple times in a week.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Couldn't care less, I'll wear what I feel like and don't care if anyone doesn't like it

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#23

Putting on weight

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KittyGotClaws
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg, right? But we women can engage in criticism towards another woman with regards to putting on weight, too.

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#24

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Negotiate pay. Numerous scientific research studies have shown that even when male and female actors negotiate the same exact way (e.g., same verbiage, same voice inflections, etc.) study participants (regardless of gender) view the female negotiators more negatively.

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KittyGotClaws
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Admittedly, I was always bad at this. However, my daughter really kicks a*s in this department and can negotiate her needs/wants really well.

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#25

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Fart and/or burp. Times 2 if at the same time.

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#26

Make equal pay.

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KittyGotClaws
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This should be at the top of this discussion. Women should not be penalized for interrupting their career in order to raise children. Someone has to raise the next generation. And yes, dads need to raise their children too.

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#27

I have been surprised to discover that it’s not 100% socially acceptable for women to continue working after having a baby while the babies father stays home. I’ve gotten more than a few negative comments about it. So has my partner. Did not expect that to still be an issue for people.

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StrangeOne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom would be upset when my ex wasn't working while I worked. His family was upset if I was staying at home while he worked. All this judgement has been one of the many reasons I stuck to one child.

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#28

Interestingly enough, there's a double standard about gender roles in general. It is absolutely okay for a man to be seeking a woman who wants children and subscribes to traditional gender roles. He is described as a "family man" or a guy with "good morals." On the flipside, if a woman says she is looking for a provider or someone who can offer financial stability, she is usually labeled a "gold-digger" or even lazy.

(To be clear, I am not saying people should live by gender norms. I don't want kids, and I love working, and I get excited for my friends who want to raise families! I'm happy we have options!)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've always thought the gold digger thing was literally because the money and possessions was more important than the relationship. Typically it was a woman who didn't actually like the man but just put up with him to get access to wealth. Nothing wrong with someone wanting stability and security if they actually care for the other person.

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#29

F*****g drinking. Men can drink beer all day long and no one comments on it but if a woman has a glass of wine every night before bed or a couple beers when out with friends, she’s an alcoholic and a bad influence. I don’t even drink but Louisianans like to party so I know quite a few people who do and there are several of the women who are treated this way amongst our peers. It’s ridiculous.

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David
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If anyone is drinking beer all day long they have a problem. If you are not a close part of my life I probably won't comment but I'm going to think it.

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#30

My family is in a community theatre group. During a production/stage design meeting, my husband picked up a staple gun and began playing with it, even shooting it toward someone's foot (intentionally missing, he's not trying to hurt anyone). He was surprised that the women and girls in the room were shocked by that behavior. "It was just FUN!" He said. I explained that women and girls are expected to be more mature. I explained that there's a prevailing view that girls mature faster than boys, but really it's just the expectation that we'll be better behaved. Turned the other way, we're simply not allowed to have that kind of "fun", nearly from birth. Boys are not only allowed to be rambunctious and wild, but are encouraged to do so. If a girl or woman is either, she's "undisciplined", "uncouth", or "out of control".

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yea I genuinely believe the reason that "women mature faster" is partially if not entirely due to social standards but I have no knowledge on it

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#31

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Serving yourself a mountain of food at dinner

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Immortal Jellyfish
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless you're thin, then you can eat whatever the h*ll you want. But if you're even slightly chubby then come the comments.

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#32

Being single in general i think is more socially acceptable for guys.

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Michael Largey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a man is single, it's assumed that it's because he hasn't asked any one. If a woman is single, it's assumed that it's because no one has asked her.

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#33

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Succeeding in life. Oftentimes, if you are a success at your job or whatever, people will ask if your dad helped you or if your boyfriend/husband helped you or if you're sleeping with your boss.

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Loverboy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

1. They act like the only way women can reach a high position is if she sleeps her way there, which very, very rarely happens. 2. When it does happen, they s**t shame the woman and act like it wasn't the higher up abusing their power.

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#34

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Being a less than perfect parent.
If you're a firm disciplinarian with your kids that means you're mean and controlling. It's ok for dads to be "strict" but moms are judged (usually by other moms). The same thing goes for moms that are too lenient (people laugh about dad letting little Suzie have ice cream for dinner) and anything else mom related in general.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I started rethinking religion when I read in the book of proverbs about how a good child is the father's pride while a bad child is a shame to their mother (paraphrasing) mothers are afraid of being called bad if the child becomes bad, and can't take credit for the child's good upbringing so they loose either ways, but a father can take the credit for the child's good upbringing and if the child turns out to be bad, he is not to be blamed. Too bad 😞😔

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#35

Weirdly, camping. I like to camp alone because it's very therapeutic. My family scowls when I talk about it. When husband camps alone, he gets pats on the back and survivalist discussions. When I do, people look at him like he's failing and I get comments on safety.

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StrangeOne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Don't go hiking alone." "Don't go camping alone" "Don't go jogging alone" " Don't go downtown alone." What they mean "If something happens to you it's going to be your fault because you put yourself in that vulnerable situation knowing you have boobs and a vagina."

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#36

Choosing to not marry or be child-free.

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Michael Largey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When Sally Rogers (on The D**k Van Dyke Show) was asked "You 've never been married?", she replied "No, I've always been happy."

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#37

Missing major family events like birthdays, games. Gatherings, graduation. If the dad is working it’s accepted. If a mother is working it’s neglect

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's still s****y to the kids and other parent that has to deal with the upset kids. I wish workplaces would take consideration to family priorities. Can't even get out of work for a child's medical appointments because it's not the employee's medical appointment. B******t. The better, more attentive, present parent you are the more your work sees you as an unreliable employee. The more you put work first, the more you miss out on what's important to your family. This is why I give no emotional investment in my job, and do not feel bad for moving on to another job if I need to. My mom, on the other hand, feels bad when she quits, especially if she got on well with the employer. Couldn't understand this.

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#38

Talk directly and assertively. Have opinions ( in general), especially ideas to improve a process or function that isn't related to housecleaning and child rearing. Join men conversing about scientific, mechanical, or computing/technology. Sleep with someone who you aren't married to. Wear practical clothes or have short hair. Skip makeup. Disagree with a male coworker, especially if a supervisor.

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Steve Robert
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cheating on your spouse is totally unacceptable and grounds for a divorce. Period.

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#39

Getting sweaty besides at the gym.

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#40

Showing any emotion other than happiness, love, or sadness. Or conversely, displaying no emotions, because in women it's seen as being angry, upset, or aggressive.

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KittyGotClaws
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I especially remember as a child it wasn't acceptable to be anything but pleasantly compliant. Anger, sadness -- forget it.

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#41

Sitting with their legs spread. Taking up space. Drink in public. Dress any way they want without be accused of “asking for it” or “attention seeking”, be direct, not smile…

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh. My mom just told me this. There is literally no one else in the room, and when I asked why, she said, "You don’t want to look like a whore."

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#42

Disagree with an opinion.

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KittyGotClaws
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah. I've noticed people really piling it on, especially on social media. You should be able to engage in honest discourse w/o people getting nasty or downvoting you simply because your opinion differs from theirs.

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#43

“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online Be unable to change a diaper.

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Gustav Gallifrey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's like being cast away with your pal, and he develops an acute appendix. You can tell yourself that you can't do it, you just can't, but you know that, eventually, you're gonna have to go in there and just do what you can.

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#44

Sexual promiscuity. Normal bodily functions. Putting their career before their family/not wanting a family. Not wanting to have children. Not wanting marriage. Being single in general - “when are you going to find a nice man?” ![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|facepalm)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On the children one: there's nothing wrong with wanting to have kids, but a lot of people just assume that I would want to be a mother, or act like we should be trying to have kids despite fertility issues in the marriage. Never mind the utter irresponsibility of bringing a child you don't actually want into an overpopulated world full of kids who already exist and need homes, just because it's what you're "supposed" to do, and "you'll feel differently about children if it's your kid." Only people who actually want kids should be having them. That's a life-long commitment that society takes WAY to lightly. Maybe more people should be childless so we can get our own population under control and create a better world for future generations.

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#45

Going shirtless.

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#46

Body hair, asking for help with chores, saying no to sex, and not wanting children

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#47

Weaponized incompetence, walking out on their families, mansplaining. There are so many things

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StrangeOne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's nothing acceptable for either sexes to walk out on their family just because they "just feel like it".

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#49

Scratching or adjusting their privates

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David
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's rarely scratching - almost always adjusting. It comes with the territory of having your bits on the outside. The equivalent for women is adjusting your bras. I can go to any mall or other public place and see women adjust their bras. Just like the guys you try to be subtle about it and just like for the guys people still notice. I've also watched women trying to "de-floss" their butts - specially with the popularity of thongs. But that one not as often.

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#50

Talk about their sex life or how promiscuous they are.

Doing DIY, or lifting anything heavy.

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#51

Letting herself go. It’s socially acceptable for a man to have a “dad bod” or be chubby, but once a woman does this, she gets called endless insults.

Men get praised for sleeping with multiple women, if a woman sleeps with multiple guys she’s deemed a s**t, whore, etc.

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David
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Only in douchebag circles and frat houses (pretty much the same thing). Outside of movies I have never heard men praised or admired for bragging about who they 'banged'.

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#52

As "white knight" as this will come off, any trades job. Mechanic, plumber, carpenter, etc... A lot of people immediately assume it's a man's job that a woman absolutely knows nothing about

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ask my husband to assamble na Ikea-like pice of furniture. What will he do? Call me to the rescuee.

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#53

Women doing tec jobs or anything STEM related, having more money then their husband or being the main provider for the family, being better at sports/weight lifting, playing dungeons and dragons, playing computer games or any other type of games, playing to rough with kids, being a lawyer/police officer/fireman, owning property and asking the husband to marry her rather than just waiting for him to ask the woman.

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#54

Walk alone at night in many places.

Which is actually not be scared that you’re going to get raped.

Not saying that men don’t get raped. I’m saying that it’s not something men worry about when walking alone.

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David
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that's just statistics. I have to assume there are WAY fewer male gay rapists in the world than male heterosexual rapists. Even before you get into physical strength to defend yourself and so on. We can still get mugged or murdered but odds of their being a gay rapist in any alley are (I assume) extremely small.

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#55

Disagree without apology

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#56

Naming a kid after yourself.

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#57

Sex.women get called s***s

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KittyGotClaws
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know. There is no gender-equivalent epithet for men that conveys what s**t does for women.

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#58

Having armpit hair

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#59

The way we sit. Men take up more physical space than women typically do with the way legs are positioned.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't buy it that men need "need" more space. Who is the main designer of buses, trains, etc.? Men. If men actually needed more space, believe me, seats would be designed that way. What happens when men are sitting side by side on buses or trains? Why, it turns out that they can sit with their legs together. Manspreading only seems to be a problem when sitting next to women. Manspreading is blatantly sexist. An easy test to determine what is sexist, men, ask yourself "Would I do/say/act like this to a man?" If the answer is "No," guess what, it's sexist.

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#60

Abandoning their kids

My ex lives life as he wants

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#61

Take charge of a chaotic situation

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This! And if you do, your bf/husband will get offended since you somehow stepped on their toes, even though they just sat there. Unless it's about kids ofc.

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#62

Exist, basically.

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#63

Everything but give birth. Well except women are considered chattel by many states so giving birth is actually unacceptable but required.

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#64

Having multiple sex partners or flirt with who ever they want!

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#65

Publicly proposing/getting on a knee with a ring

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Mysteria
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Publicly proposing is kinda bad either way. Cuz if one of the partners propose and there’s a crowd the receiver might feel pressured to say yes or they’ll look bad

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#66

Being highly competitive or trying to one-up others.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think girls can be just as competitive as boys, perhaps stereotypically in different arenas though.

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#67

Cursing is frowned upon when either gender does it, but it is more expected and accepted when men do it.

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Mysteria
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bro swears are part of my natural vocabulary and not just when I’m angry. I’ll be talking normal than add the f bomb for no reason 💀

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#68

Working out. I dunno why guys don't like a strong woman, but there's a lot of hate for female bodybuilders for some reason

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Izzy Curer
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's a lot of hate for male body builders, too. Anytime it's extreme there's hate. But when it comes to general fitness, I've heard men going gaga over things like abs and biceps and tone.

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#69

Pee standing up.

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Cara
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a female friend who had been in the forces. She had trained herself to pee standing up. A lot of practicing in the shower apparently…

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#71

Have their bare chest out in the open in a public place

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Gustav Gallifrey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's be honest. There's more than a few men who go with bare chests in public, and we'd all rather that they didn't.

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#72

Not anymore but when I first got into horror stuff people really had a problem with a girl getting into those types of things. It was weird for guys but even more so for women. It is kind of cool now that people are much more accepting of it then they used to be even if they aren't also into it.

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#74

Being successful.

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Robert Davis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At one point in our relationship my wife was making more money than me. I was just let go of my job and working temp jobs. It didn't bother me one bit. The money was taking care of us. It wasn't her money or my money it was OUR money.

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#75

Be goofy by like, eating tacos and chicken nuggets.

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