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lithuanian_potatfan , Anna Shvets / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Not accepting aging. 20yo girls shouldn't be getting "preventative botox". And actresses showing signs of aging shouldn't lose jobs. "Aging like milk" shouldn't be a saying at all. Normalize aging in general.

ktatsanon:

The amount of plastic surgery that young women are getting around here is sickening to me. Beautiful women ruining their looks to look like inflated, smooth faced aliens, is just so off-putting.

Final score:

129points

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WindySwede 1 month ago

Aging like milk, if the milk have been turned into cheese 🧀 👍

28points

Silly_Importance_74 , Ivan Samkov / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Videoing everything you do for fake internet points has become normal. No one f*****g cares.

Final score:

124points

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Lost Panda 1 month ago

This and narrating their life every few minutes...

25points

MindlessApricot8 , Keira Burton / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

To learn more about the complex world of social norms, we got in touch with Dr. Todd Schoepflin. Dr. Schoepflin is a sociologist, professor, the author of Sociology in Stories, and blogger, and he was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda about the unspoken rules we follow every day.

“As a sociologist I'm obsessed with norms, a foundational concept in my field. Norms guide our behavior,” Dr. Schoepflin shared. “They are the generally agreed on do's and don'ts of everyday life.”

“When students walked into the classroom today and said ‘Good morning,’ a norm was in effect. When students sit and pay attention, and I teach with enthusiasm and do my best to ‘act like a professor,’ we're all following the norms,” he explained.

That whole thing where victims (of bullying, assault or abuse) have to "let things go" to "keep the peace" needs to die. People need to stop covering for a******s and criminals and let them face the consequences of their actions.

Final score:

122points

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Mortlemur 1 month ago

Exactly and my school defends the bullies instead of helping the victims

30points

rock-mommy , Pixabay / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

That as a woman you need to have biological kids or that "you'll never be complete/feel true love without them". Just let us be our own selves.

Final score:

121points

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Lucifer 1 month ago

This is the position of conservatives( both political & religious). They still view women as property. And property has to produce some tangible results to be viewed as "useful". These people never left the mindset of ancient Greece.

29points

eyedaisydoom , Sarah Chai / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Circumcision. Such a barbaric thing to do to a literal infant.

Final score:

88points

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WindySwede 1 month ago

Stop this now! Even more the mutulation of girls vulvas! 🤬😡

49points

Blake-Faust , Anna Shvets / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

But what happens if we ignore norms in society? “No one holds the door for anyone. Shoppers leave their carts wherever they want. Drivers take up two spots,” Dr. Schoepflin told Bored Panda.

The expert also pointed out that norms differ place to place. “The norms of the New York City Subway system make for an interesting case study,” he says. “As a different example, here in Buffalo, NY, it violates a norm if we don't eat bleu cheese with chicken wings. We're not supposed to like ranch with our wings here.”

Having to pretend you're “busy” to decline plans - just let me say no without making it a whole thing!

Final score:

86points

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Michael Largey 1 month ago (edited)

I decline an invitation not because I have something on my calendar, but because I don't want to have something on my calendar.

20points

fallen_aussie , SHVETS production / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Touching a pregnant woman's belly without permission.

Final score:

86points

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Invisible Potato 1 month ago

"i will permint to touch my belly if you hold my husbands balls for 20 minutes"

29points

Barely_An_Artist , Angela Roma / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Expecting people to be onboard with gender norms is really annoying. Let boys learn home cooking and give girls the opportunity to do yardwork.

Final score:

84points

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Nilsen 1 month ago

That should be seen as tools to live an independent life: You don't have to starve, or live in filth, you can both cook and clean. You can change your tires, mow the lawn and cut the hedges, or clean the gutters. These are life skills, not gender roles.

41points

shalini-andwemet , cottonbro studio / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Dr. Schoepflin also noticed that I’m a native Texan. “I would wonder out loud, if, other than perhaps in Austin, does it violate a norm to be a vegan?” he asked. (It does!)

“I say that living in Buffalo, which I deem to be a meat loving place, and recalling that when my son was briefly vegetarian, he got some grief for it. People attend meat raffles here to have fun and raise money. There aren't salad raffles! So it's always important to think about norms and how they shape our behavior, expectations, and reactions.”

#10

More than 1 please :)
1) it is normal and healthy to be unmarried
2) it is normal to think of entering in a romantic relationship in 30s or beyond
3) divorce is a situation and not a label, once divorced, you are as single as someone single
4) love can be found at any age.

Final score:

81points

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HeavyMetalHeart 1 month ago

Getting married next year for the first time at the age of 48! I wasn’t in the right headspace/didn’t meet the right person when I was younger, but it all came together in my 40s.

56points

HeyImBandit , Kelly / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#11

Tipping.

Final score:

81points

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blobby 1 month ago

Tipping is fine. Using it as an excuse to not pay your employees a living wage is not.

65points

breadcrumbsmofo , Ketut Subiyanto / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#12

The need to be busy or productive all the time. Hustle culture is b******t, we all need and deserve rest time. It’s not lazy, it’s something we all need. My hobbies don’t need to be monetised or marketable in some way to be worth doing.

Final score:

79points

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Friendly Neighbourhood Hermit 1 month ago

And sometimes I just wanna rot in bed in peace for a whole day.

29points

Apprehensive_Use2563 , Andrea Piacquadio / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

But of course, the expert says people defy norms all the time, and we see norms change over time. “Look at the increased popularity of tattoos. The people like tattoos!” Dr. Schoepflin noted.

“Sometimes a public official makes a difference in the norms. I believe Dr. C. Everett Koop impacted norms of smoking when he spoke out about the dangers of tobacco. In my 20s, all the bars smelled of smoke. Now they don't,” the sociologist continued.

#13

Working 40 hours a week until you can hopefully retire at 65.

I see my coworkers more than I see my own family.

Final score:

79points

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Friendly Neighbourhood Hermit 1 month ago

Aren't they also increasing retirement age whilst also reducing the pension? Which definitely isn't gonna help.

18points

DeathSpiral321 , ira dulger / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#14

Expecting people to be in a relationship, and questioning single people about why they're single. All it does is makes single people feel inadequate.

Final score:

77points

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Lavern Defazio 1 month ago

I've been single for many many many years and I never felt inadequate.

23points

ThimMerrilyn , Pavel Danilyuk / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#15

Drinking alcohol in almost any social situation.

Final score:

76points

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Nianudd 1 month ago

Started a fight on Reddit once by telling someone tht if they couldn't make it through an event without even a single alcoholic drink, they might have a problem

27points

Mrcommander254 , JESHOOTS.com / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

“So many gender norms have changed,” Dr. Schoepflin added. “A few generations ago, men smoked cigars in waiting rooms while their girlfriend or wife gave birth. Now, men are expected to be part of the labor process and may even be asked to cut the umbilical cord.”

“Speaking of labor, in 50 years, the share of women in the paid labor force increased from 30 percent in 1950 to 60 percent by 2000,” he says. “I'm going to show my students this example in class: until 1974, women didn't have the right to apply for credit in their own name without a male co-signer. Social movements (feminism, Civil Rights Movement) play a critical role in changing norms, attitudes, and laws.”

#16

Poor driving habits.

- Blocking the left lane.
- Not using turn signals.
- Speeding up to get past, only to slow down once in front.
- Speeding up to block someone from moving over.
- Blocking someone from merging onto the highway.
- Highbeams at night when not necessary.

Poor driving habits trickle down to people gradually becoming a******s to each other. We are in our own little bubble while driving.

Final score:

75points

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sdorph 1 month ago

Not speeding up to highway speed when coming down the on-ramp

24points

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#17

I would eliminate the social norm that discourages open conversations about mental health. If we could talk about our struggles without stigma, more people would seek help when they need it, and we'd foster a society that's more understanding and supportive.

iiJinn , Nathan Cowley / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Final score:

72points

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Lost Panda 1 month ago

I agree, but at the same time I feel that there are a few too many people self diagnosising for "points" or to cover their own behavior. I'm about 50/50 on this one.

30points

ScribblerJack , Castorly Stock / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#18

Expecting women to wear bras.

Edit: People commenting that big breasted women would disagree are missing the point. If you want to wear a bra, wear a bra. But we shouldn’t be expected to because our nipples are more sexualized than men’s.

Final score:

72points

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Jessica Cooney 1 month ago

I gave up caring what most people think about my bra wearing habits long ago. So IF I feel like wearing a bra, I do. I have no problem at all walking around the store sans bra. I figure its not my problem if someone doesn't like the shape of my fully covered chest.

30points

Tkinokun , Antoni Shkraba / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

We were also curious to know if Dr. Schoepflin would like to see any norms changed. “I'm concerned about what I perceive to be an ‘almost norm’ of aggressive driving,” he told Bored Panda. “More and more often I observe people driving like they're in video games, weaving rapidly through traffic, tailgating, and gesturing in a hostile manner when they don't like what their fellow drivers do.”

#19

Shaming people who live with their parents as adults.

ChairmanLaParka:

The amount of people I interact with who, when they find out I, as a middle-aged man, live with my mom, no longer want anything to do with me is pretty high.
The amount of people who still feel that way after I tell them it's because she has mobility issues and has trouble doing basic things on her own is frustratingly high.

Final score:

70points

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Cooking Panda 1 month ago (edited)

Agree. There are many reasons why people choose to live with their parents, including the one mentioned above which is exactly what I do too. I'm an only child, mom died a long time ago. When I got married I gave my husband a condition, that is I want to stay in town because I don't have the heart to leave my old man. My husband & me both have jobs & we earn decent money. So it's not necessarily because someone is a jobless slob or couldn't afford rent.

17points

Spencer's slave no longer 1 month ago (edited)

My boomerang, 33 today, and I share a big house, his partner stays when she has late finish at work. They have their half of the house and I have mine. We share bills, food, cooking etc. It works for us. *edited to make sense 😂

4points

Nemo 1 month ago

People looked down on my friends who still lived with their parents as 20 and 30 years olds. Now they are 40 and own their house while the rest still rents

4points

CrazyAuntiePanda 1 month ago

My mom & I share a house because neither of us can afford to live on our own

3points

Lucifer 1 month ago

This is mostly a Western thing. Eastern communities living with parents isn't considered abnormal. [The thought process - parents have worked most of their life for your upbringing & in their hour of vulnerability you should do your best to keep them comfortable]

3points

Holly Marley 1 month ago (edited)

Here is the random thing I have discovered, if I say "I live with my mom" then I get weird looks. But if I say "my mom lives with me" it's fine. So who lives with whom? Doesn't matter, and the subject changes to something else.

2points

Auntriarch 1 month ago

It's like if you are in the supermarket and say where's my mum, if you're 6 they worry about you, but if you're 60 they worry about your mum

1point

Papa 1 month ago (edited)

I'm not saying they aren't out there, but I don't know of anyone who would shame people for living with their parents in a situation like the one described above. However, I've seen too many cases where the adult child is living with his or her parents and not contributing to the household. By the way, the parents are at least as much to blame for that situation as the adult child.

2points

Julie S 1 month ago

Do you want to live with strangers that don't respect you or your possessions, leave the kitchen a mess the bathroom a mess eat your food or live with your parents who always clean up after themselves and treat you with respect. That is the question.

2points

Michael Largey 1 month ago

After they reach a certain age, your parents live with you no matter who has the deed to the house.

2points

Bored Potato 1 month ago

Actually it's a pretty common thing in Asia since you are expected to care of your parents as they get older

1point

Carson Goldminc 1 month ago

My dad had a heart transplant. Stroke and needed major corrective surgery for a potential angina embolism. So does that make me a loser for helping him and wanting to spend the time we have left together? People need to start understanding and respecting what it takes to be a caregiver

1point

Nikki Gross 1 month ago

I stayed at home with my Mom since I was the last child and she was already older and could definitely use the help. I was a late baby, so since I never wanted to marry or have children it just made more sense to stay and help Mom then move into my own place. If I hadn't stayed the Mom wouldn't have been able to quit her hard job when she was 65. There is no way she could have been able to keep the house on just her Social Security alone. Mom and I became partners and best friends, the last 3 years of her life I was her 24/7 caregiver since she required round the clock care. I slept on a couch 4 feet from her, helped her with the bathroom, changed her Depends, bathed and fed her. Mom couldn't afford and was terrified of being put into a home, her only wish was to spend her final years in this house and the only reason she was able to do that is because I stayed here. The last 2 weeks of her life was in the hospital, since she required more care and pain meds then she could get home.

1point

Nikki Gross 1 month ago

Even then I slept in a recliner and stayed with her at the hospital 24/7, like every other time she was hospitalized because she was scared to be alone. Before she went to the hospital the final time, I had to have my Sister come over when she could just so I could take a quick shower. Throughout this entire time I was undergoing Chemotherapy and the ONLY time I left the house was for doctors appointments or when I would do an online grocery order so I could go and pick it up. But again that was only when my Sister could come over, because she works a full time hard labor job and was 51 years old when Mom's health started to decline.in January 2018. Mom passed away in December 2020 just 2 months shy of her 88th birthday and God I miss her every single day.

1point

PewPew 1 month ago

I believe this is more of a stigma for men than women. As a woman in my 40s, I've never had a negative reaction to telling folks I live with my mom.

1point

Auntriarch 1 month ago

It's because a part of their brain thinks you're looking after your mum like a "good" daughter

2points

April Pickett 1 month ago

Living with your parents is not living in the basement playing video games 24 hours a day. That's movie hype and should not be taken as normal. Living with your parent(s) is an agreement between them and you to work out.

0points

Story Rook 1 month ago

These days, it's more cost efficient for everyone, too.

0points

cugel. 1 month ago

This guy probably looks down on other blokes who do it, but not for the "right" reasons.

0points

WindySwede 1 month ago

I can see if it's an cost issue. But if the parents need help it should not have to fall on the kids, that's something the society should help with. Not an burden on the kids! Anyone sane should not want anyone's kids have to do this? So go and vote for someone tha wants universal healtcare!

0points

Manana Man 1 month ago

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Emma S 1 month ago

First of all, no one asked for an English lesson. Secondly, you only need to say 'first of all' if you are making a list of two of more points.

10points

Aequanitmitas , Tima Miroshnichenko / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#20

Women needing to remove their body hair in order to be seen as feminine.

Why? Because I think it’s ridiculous. It’s time consuming, costly, can be painful, can lead to rashes, ingrown hairs, infection and scarring.

I know there is such a thing as autonomy. I am aware that people have their own preferences and their own motivations.

Final score:

69points

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Lost Panda 1 month ago

I agree, you do you. You wanna remove it, go for it. You don't want to don't.

22points

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#21

Not talking about your salary with your coworkers.

If everyone knew what everyone else was earning, wages would go up across the board—which is exactly why it is taboo.

Incredible_Witness , Christina Morillo / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Final score:

66points

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R Dennis 1 month ago

I always told people that your salary is your business. If you want to share it, go ahead. I didn't care if my company didn't want them sharing wage information. That doesn't benefit anyone but the employer.

11points

Kid_Named_Trey , fauxels / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

“I'd love it if, as drivers, we collectively chilled out, slowed down, and reacted in a calm manner when something doesn't go our way,” the sociologist continued. “But it seems to me that we're going down the road of being distracted, impatient, angry drivers. This puts drivers and pedestrians in danger!”

“We've had long standing, effective campaigns against drunk driving (MADD gets some credit for that),” he added. “Perhaps we need more public awareness about the dangers of aggressive, distracted, everyday driving in contemporary society.”

#22

Shaking hands. Let’s just go to a head nod instead. I’m not a germaphobe in the slightest but I know people don’t wash their hands after using the bathroom.

Final score:

59points

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sdorph 1 month ago

Yes, handshaking faded away for a while because of Covid but now seems to be back again

14points

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#23

Virgin shaming. More specifically making assumptions about a person if they are “still” a virgin (ex: religious, traumatized, weird, question sexuality etc). It could just be circumstantial it hasn’t happened yet, they aren’t ready yet, didn’t meet someone they want to yet. It doesn’t always have to be some exaggerated reason and some questionable trait about a person that they’re a virgin.

RezDerez , Arina Krasnikova / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Final score:

57points

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Lavern Defazio 1 month ago (edited)

Overheard three young men I work with talking about being virgins. All in their early 20s. Was not something I wanted to overhear, but I'm glad they were comfortable with each other to talk about it. Good for them.

23points

P44 , Apostolos Vamvouras / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#24

I would eliminate the idea of wearing high-heeled shoes.

Final score:

52points

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Trillian 1 month ago

Feel free to just not wear any? Haven't work a pair in my life.

21points

bunanita3333 , Ron Lach / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#25

Being a workaholic is a kind of = success, and working just to get to live and enjoy life with your loved ones is kinda "stupid".

Life is short, why do I have to spend 12h working in a place to make money for someone else and be a stranger to my kids, stop visiting my parents, and just talk to my wife 20mins before we fall asleep.

Final score:

51points

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keyboardtek 1 month ago

Law firms have this thing about working 12 hour days. Why not just hire more lawyers if the firm has so much work?

13points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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#26

Always needing to have new, fashionable clothing that you cannot wear repeatedly. This is slowly starting to change, but people still look askance if you wear the same thing more than once within a short amount of time even though plenty of people have washer and could easily wash something overnight and wear it again the next day. Fast fashion causes a lot of harm.

AlishaV , Andrea Piacquadio / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

Final score:

51points

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CatFist 1 month ago

Do they though? Maybe I'm an outlier, but I don't think I'd ever notice if someone wore the same think on multiple occasions (including multiple days in a row) unless it happened to be something quite outlandish - though even then I'd not have a problem with it (at least not that that wore it again, though depending on the outfit, I might take issue with it in and of itself 😕)

19points

PlayShoddy1467 , Polina Tankilevitch / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#27

Casual racism- it's so common it's just so tiring to hear.

Final score:

50points

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Lucifer 1 month ago

It takes a special kind of stupid to think one race is better than the other.

24points

Soft_Detective5107 , Emma Bauso / pexels (not the actual photo) Report

#28

That a woman should be younger in relationship.

Having a younger boyfriend/husband for women should be a norm and not a shocking exception.

Final score:

48points

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Michael Largey 1 month ago

My wife and I went on a train trip while vacationing in Canada. She qualified for the Senior Citizen rate by two years, and I missed it by two. But I rode for free anyway because I was "escorting a senior citizen". I try not to remind her of this more than once or twice a week.

8points

zvitaledit , TranStudios Photography & Video / peels (not the actual photo) Report

#29

Referring to ones spouse as a ball and chain or otherwise joking about your cr*ppy marriage. Your marriage should be strong if it’s going to last and a cr*ppy marriage shouldn’t be socially joked about it as if it’s unfixable.

Final score:

45points

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Any 1 month ago

And there is still divorce if you feel like your spouse is ball and chain....

9points

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#30

This is a new social norm of tween girls being taking to sephora and ulta to buy face serums needs to be eliminated. Dermotologists are horrified, no tween girl skin needs anti aging products. And these products are not cheap. I used to work at kohls and every night there would be a gaggle of middle schoolers and their mom and sometimes dad, buying the products that cost $50+ why be use of tik tok!!!

GongYooFan , Shiny Diamond / pexels(not the actual photo) Report

Final score:

45points

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featherytoad 1 month ago

I'm 53F, and all I do is, wash, exfoliate lightly with a baby washcloth every now and then and moisturize. I've briefly experimented with other things until I found out you have to be consistent and dedicated. F that, I'm to lazy. I don't even wash my face every day. Right now it's fun and exciting for them. As they get older, it's going to feel like a chore.

10points