“She died as she lived: Full of hate and bigotry. Her family live on in a way that honours her legacy: As hate-filled c***s.” Not what I’d want on my tombstone, but each to their own.

Dad should have divorced his hatred spewing ogre, er wife, the moment she started treating their child that way. I don't understand it. Why put another human on the planet if you're not going to keep it safe when they're unable to protect themselves?

"I chose my son over my wife." No, sweetie, your wife chose her hate over her own child. And even when faced with her own mortality, she chose to hang onto that hate and punish that poor boy even more. What you did was, frankly, bare minimum. If you love your son and other family members are choosing hate over him, why are you even still talking to these people?

At least in my country the spouse rights are higher than the rest of the family. He could have organized the funerals any way he wanted. OP should have made clear his wife relatives were not welcome unless they behave in a civil manner to his son

I am a mother, I have a son. I can't even wrap my mind around what it would take for me to turn my back on him, but it sure as hell wouldn't be because he was gay. What the actual f**k is wrong with people?

Yes, how dare you show support for your living child instead of honoring the bigotry and hatred of your dead wife, whom you were planning to divorce but didn't because you have empathy and supported her when she got cancer. You horrible man. /s

His wife didn't deserve such a great spouse and coparent

Wow as a mother myself, I would never understand how a parent could be so cold-hearted and selfish towards their own children.

Time to sever ties with those people.

NGL, there would have bloodshed and half of my family would have been jailed if any member of my wife's family acted this way towards a gay family member.

I don't see the problem? He was going to divorce her, so he was going to be estranged from her s****y family, he saved money on a lawyer, and doesn't have to divide stuff up. All I see is a lot of winning.

Well, with this chapter ended, you don't have to see them anymore. Done.

Never give those idiots an inch, love your son for who he is.

Of course he is not the a*****e here. But I'm wondering why HER family is calling the shots when it is HIS wife being buried. I don't know the rules but if my wife died, it is me and our kids who are immediate family. It'll probably be us making all the arrangements and all.

Ok, I know I've said this about others, but how is this even a question?! Yes-OP is NOT!!!

Let me break this down. This guy somehow needs the internet to tell him he's NTA because he confidently chose his gay son over his racist in-laws. He's the AH for posting a story where he is clearly not the AH. People that use this forum for an ego boost are lame. Or this story is BS.

I don't understand mothers who disown their children. We carry them for 9 months inside our body. We're supposed to love them unconditionally!

YOU ARE NOT THE *A*S*S*H*A*T*!!!

this makes me so sad. the son wasn’t supported by his own mother. just because he is gay, it doesn’t change who he is. op is not the a*****e. he was showing love and support for his son and grieving with him. i wish them both a healthy and happy life, and i hope op’s in-laws begin showing support too.

I don't think OP wrote what his daughters actions were? I might be wrong. But if she did not support her Brother and Father I think it would be a very poor reflection of her and her priorities.

At least he's got rid of all the dead weight now. Poor young man, thank god the dad got the balls to stand with his child.

Honestly, the poor guy had to have SOMEONE on his side! As far as his so-called “family” goes, it’s none of their goddamn business if one relative decides to show some kindness on an occasion which is usually heartbreaking (yet I only feel heartbreak for the shunned son). If one relative wants to be nice, that’s THEIR choice & the “family” have zero right to try & force them to be as nasty as they are! I can understand, because I had 2 “fake Christian” aunts who showed up to my gay uncle’s bedside when he was dying from cancer & they insisted that he “repent”, then fought over his possessions when he died (my mum & I were both furious & we’ve hardly seen them since). Honestly, when it comes to personal stuff like sexuality, some people need to get a life & quit being petty over something that’s not even their business. I hope OP’s son continues living his best life & finds someone who will become his new family. 💖

Of course you're not the a*****e!

Oh no... bad feelings between the families... (It's almost like you don't need to hear from, deal with, or contact those hateful c***s ever again. Good riddance to bad rubbish... on all counts.)

NTA, not one iota!

Hire out a billboard put the details on it where they live.....let the world see them as they are

People really just p**s me off.

as messed up as this sounds id go no contact. if i had a kid who was gay and my husbands side didnt except it and my husband passed. the moment they called me a disgrace for choosing my kid would b the moment i never see them again. id b more proud about telling my kid they have a safe place to go to if needed. my friend dealt with a similar situation. both her parents werent accepting of the fact she was a lesbian and neither was anyone in her family. her girlfriends family was the same way. even tho my mom was kinda homophobic at the time she let my friend and her girlfriend stay over wenever they needed a safe place. even tho my parents were kinda homophobic i had known this friend since kindergarden and they didnt want to turn them away like the rest of the world did. eventually my parents stopped being homophobic and decided to talk to their families. mainly bc my friend went to my parents asking wat the best way to propose would b. my parents eventually convinced my friends family and the girlfriends family that they should b accepting. in the end my friend and her girlfriend got happily married with all friends and family happy for them. idk y ppl arent accepting. if ur son or daughter finds the person they want to b with same gender or not then wat does it matter? their happiness is the only thing that should matter. my parents learned that from seeing how happy my friend was wen she would stay at my house. the fact my friend felt comfortable enough to ask my parents for advice made them happy too. its also made them sad bc the questions she asked were things she shouldve been asking her parents. its wat drove them to change her family's views on her relationship. i wish everyone can have a view change but unfortunately not everyone is the same. although not everyone encounters someone as pushy as my mom. wen my mom wants something to go her way she can b very pushy and very convincing. she definitely saved my friend from a life of misery tho. good thing too bc we ended up moving a year later. both me and my parents get holiday cards from them every year. they moved upstate and have a little farm. their card started with just my friend, her wife and their dog but over the past decade theyve added horses, mini pigs, rabbits, a cat, 2 highland mini cows, ducks, chickens and 4 goats. i havent told my mom yet but this year their christmas card is going to have a new addition. they recently adopted a daughter. i saw on facebook about a week ago. i hope the OP gives his son the life he deserves. hes already off to great start.

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Regardless of what year it is people are still allowed opinions and views. It's never going to change! Keep to your side and the others to theirs. Don't try mix it up and annoy people. My gay sister has lived her best life and happily married. Never once in my life have I seen her even mention her sexuality or even mention gay pride. Never mentioned the alphabet people. She just lives her life and she would be a good example for all gay people