Regardless of the event, the kid and his mom are a huge problem. I wouldn’t invite them to anything again if the kid was going to be there.

As a nurse, she knows there are times when a disease is rampant and drastic action must be taken in order to preserve life (ex amputating an arm to save the person). Your nephew is toxic. Your sister is toxic. You MIL is dangerous. Cut them out of your life to preserve your health.

Jail by 16 I bet my left eye on it.

It solves the problem of having this walking crime scene anywhere near your home or baby. You do realise that if you keep in touch, 5 years from now, you'll be driving to a police station with a 4 year old strapped in the car to bail out an 18 year old as his mother is otherwise occupied with dealing with some crisis he's caused?

I was mentally prepared to read a story about a petulant 7-year old helping themselves to a handful of colored cake, not the story of a sociopathic teenager and a deeply dysfunctional family.

The OP is most certainly NTA, and had every right to feel and express her outrage. More broadly, while we cannot choose who is in our family, we can absolutely choose who we include and exclude from our lives - whether they are within or outside our family. The adage that ‘blood is thicker than water’ is nonsense. I worked in a nursing home before going back to complete university, grad school, and saw innumerable aged parents sitting weeks, months, years waiting for visits from children that never came. I’ve seen some of the greatest cruelty inflicted on people not by strangers or acquaintances, but by their family members. I’ve had to cut off immediate family for repeated and unapologetic toxic behavior - as I would anyone. The criterion for who include or exclude from your life should not be blood - but, instead, behavior. Does, or does the person not, act towards you (and others) with love, respect and integrity? The OP needs to decide on which side her sister sits.

I'm not a fan of "gender reveal" parties, but if that's what she wanted, she had a right to have it. With the ugly family dynamics created by her father, I'm surprised OP is a decent-sounding person (and NTA). Go NC with that train wreck. I have a sister whose grandson is another no-discipline wonder. I moved to get away. You're not obligated to those people for anything.

the irony of a prison themed gender reveal.. that nephew is the one that'll be in prison in the near future the way he's allowed to carry on.

If that kid ends up in jail, it’s completely his mothers fault.

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Sounds like the lad needs help not enabling.

I understand why people have strong feelings about gender reveal parties. We didn't have a party but did a reveal at a family event (we cut a cake). It took 5 minutes and it was a fun lighthearted moment. For us it was about knowing what our baby's name would be and we then started calling him by his name. We went through years of infertility and were so excited and grateful to be having a baby. Girl, boy, it didn't matter to us. When you're pregnant you don't know much about your child, knowing their sex just lets you connect with them by knowing something about them. I know there are a lot of people out there who place a value on their child depending on what sex they are and there are people who take gender reveals too far and do something dangerous or harmful. I hate seeing the mess of confetti in public places that people leave behind. I get it. Some people are just thoughtless. And it gives all reveals a bad reputation.

So I agree that the kid didn't behave, the mother was not helpful, but also, do you think people care about thebsex of your baby? People just came to be supportive/have a party. No one cares if it's a boy or a girl.

GENITAL reveal parties are held by idiots.

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In my opinion gender reveal parties should be banned.

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The most unfortunate thing about this post is not the spoiled child's behavior or his defense by his relatives, but the fact that someone could organize a gender reveal party and especially a crime scene themed one.

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I'm in favour of anyone destroying these insidious and ridiculous gender reveal parties. Thanks, America, for your worst contribution yet to world culture.