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Late Sister’s Last Wish Of Banning Bro From Funeral Causes Drama After Sibling Complies
Late Sister’s Last Wish Of Banning Bro From Funeral Causes Drama After Sibling Complies

Late Sister’s Last Wish Of Banning Bro From Funeral Causes Drama After Sibling Complies

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When you suddenly lose someone close to you, the phrase carpe diem makes more sense because you never know what life might surprise you with. It’s always better to forget grudges and live every day to the fullest, after all, our time on earth is too short.

This brother, however, held a grudge so strong that he refused to reconcile with his sister who was fatally ill, even after she asked him multiple times. After that, she made a last wish that she didn’t want him at her funeral, so their sibling obliged, but then faced backlash from their family!

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    The poster’s brother, dubbed John, and their sister never got along as kids and would constantly break into fights

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    After growing up and getting therapy, the sister reached out to John and apologized multiple times, but he made it clear that he didn’t want a relationship with her

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    He acted stubbornly and refused to reconcile even after she became fatally ill, so she made a last wish that he not attend her funeral

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    Despite knowing her wishes, John still showed up at the funeral, so the poster asked him to leave, just like their late sister wanted; however, the family was split over it

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    Today, we dive into a sad story that rocked the whole family and split them in two. Reddit user Such-Implement-2801, tells us that their elder sister and their brother, dubbed John, never got along as kids. In fact, they would fight like cats and dogs and were pretty unkind to each other.

    After getting therapy, the sister realized her mistakes, reached out to John, and apologized multiple times. The poster explained in the comments that it was all their mother’s doing, during their childhood, as she only treasured and attended to the child who got more wins and medals in a sport they both played.

    Well, the son blamed his sister, who constantly won, for his terrible childhood and refused to reconcile, no matter how many times she apologized. In fact, his hatred ran so deep that he didn’t change his opinion even after she became fatally ill and later passed away.

    It does sound quite painful and it hurt the woman so much that she banned him from her funeral, as she didn’t want him there after she passed away if he couldn’t be there when she was alive. 

    Now, fast forward to her funeral, when John unabashedly showed up uninvited after getting the time and date from an uncle. To respect their sister’s wishes, the poster asked John to leave, but he retaliated by causing a scene and calling OP cruel for not allowing him to say goodbye.

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    A goodbye at this stage sounds too late, doesn’t it? Anyway, after the poster tried to respect their late sister’s wishes, some of the family members were against them and said that OP should’ve let John stay for closure. Well, the poster explained that it was their sister’s last wish, but the whole family was split over it.

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    Research suggests that children need attention from their parents to feel connected, to have an emotional bond and anchor in the world, and to feel like they matter. However, OP mentions that her sister always got more attention from her mother, which pitted the siblings against each other.

    It has been observed that “parental favoritism can also place a long-term strain on sibling relationships, with siblings who perceived their parents to have a favorite child reporting to have a less close relationship with their siblings in adulthood than children who do not report perceiving their parents to have a favorite child.”

    Sadly, their mother’s actions impacted their relationship permanently, and in such a terrible way that even a fatal illness couldn’t bring them back together. People online backed the poster for sticking to their sister’s wishes despite facing strong opposition from their family.

    Many said that John could’ve come in person when the sister was alive and said his goodbyes when he was well aware of her declining health. They said that he made his decision then and should’ve learned how to live with it rather than coming to say goodbye at the funeral. 

    Some folks even questioned whether inheritance or money was involved after the sister passed away, and whether John came looking for it. Well, we might never know, but what we do know from the story is that it’s always better to bury the hatchet rather than regret things a little too late.

    Wouldn’t you agree? Also, if you were in the poster’s shoes, what would you do in this situation? Let us know in the comments below!

    Folks sided with the poster online and said that they did the right thing by respecting their late sister’s wishes

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    Hey, am Rutuja! A storyteller at heart and a writer at Bored Panda. I have a strange love for words, and I mostly survive on coffee which is the driving force behind my writing. I enjoy working on articles that purely entertain our readers. When am not writing or trekking, you can find me staying up late and watching all the matches of Football Club Barcelona!

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    arthbach
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Part of me is wondering if the brother went to the funeral just to check that his sister was truly dead. It wouldn't have been so much a 'goodbye', but a 'good riddance'.

    V
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know why someone down voted you for musing on this but have an upvote. Maybe "John" has a BP account...

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    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sis *told* OP to not let "John" come to her funeral. So OP was doing what sis told her to do. Anyone calling OP the AH has never had to deal with difficult family members. Why would sis want someone at her funeral who didn't love or respect her?

    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am confused. Why does he want to have the ashes of a person he hated?

    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right? Makes no sense to me either.

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    RosenCranzLives
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I call his desire to 'say goodbye' complete nonsense. He said his goodbyes long ago. What he wanted was attention from the survivors. I said my goodbyes to my father years before his death, didn't attend any services, and don't really know where the ashes went. Sometimes family isn't family.

    Schmebulock
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She should have put in her will that she bequeathed him a bag of d***s and had it read aloud.

    Stacy s
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why should John get "closure" at the funeral like certainly family said, while sister couldn't get closure on hee death bed. Screw John.

    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I would have said, "Excuse me, why are you here? Her last wish was that you not be anywhere near here. You had your chance to reconcile, you told her to f off, now we're telling YOU to F OFF. We don't need to see your "grief theater" since we know you didn't love her and the did nothing but hurt her. YOU DON'T DESERVE CLOSURE OR A GOODBYE!"

    Libstak
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a terrible situation. If someone asked me to do this, I would feel sick to my stomach if I didn't follow their wishes. I would also feel sick to my stomach if I denied the person seeking closure the opportunity to do so by publicly humiliating them on top of all they may be feeling. It's a no win situation and I pray I never have to deal with such a thing.

    Papa
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree. Ideally the sister wouldn't have made that request in the first place, but since she did she left OP in a bad spot.

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    person (i think)
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Brother can f* off. My friend died a few months ago. She had a toxic “Catholic” family who didn’t speak to her for 10 years because she got a divorce. Her mom and brother didn’t bother to visit her in the hospital , even when she was in a coma. The hospital is 5 min from their houses. It made me distractedly angry on her behalf when they came to her funeral. It was a selfish move. ……. Sorry, I wanted to make an articulate point but instead I just got mad again and ranted :(

    Woodsie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't want my sister or her family at my funeral, her twisted ways and attempts to manipulate and control me has ruined my relationship with her and my only niece. I don't want her anywhere near me or anything to do with me. I don't want to see her now or ever so totally understand where the sister was coming from. My sister just didn't like when I finally stopped tiptoeing around her and spoke up.

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    arthbach
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Part of me is wondering if the brother went to the funeral just to check that his sister was truly dead. It wouldn't have been so much a 'goodbye', but a 'good riddance'.

    V
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know why someone down voted you for musing on this but have an upvote. Maybe "John" has a BP account...

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    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sis *told* OP to not let "John" come to her funeral. So OP was doing what sis told her to do. Anyone calling OP the AH has never had to deal with difficult family members. Why would sis want someone at her funeral who didn't love or respect her?

    Zedrapazia
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am confused. Why does he want to have the ashes of a person he hated?

    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right? Makes no sense to me either.

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    RosenCranzLives
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I call his desire to 'say goodbye' complete nonsense. He said his goodbyes long ago. What he wanted was attention from the survivors. I said my goodbyes to my father years before his death, didn't attend any services, and don't really know where the ashes went. Sometimes family isn't family.

    Schmebulock
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She should have put in her will that she bequeathed him a bag of d***s and had it read aloud.

    Stacy s
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why should John get "closure" at the funeral like certainly family said, while sister couldn't get closure on hee death bed. Screw John.

    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I would have said, "Excuse me, why are you here? Her last wish was that you not be anywhere near here. You had your chance to reconcile, you told her to f off, now we're telling YOU to F OFF. We don't need to see your "grief theater" since we know you didn't love her and the did nothing but hurt her. YOU DON'T DESERVE CLOSURE OR A GOODBYE!"

    Libstak
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What a terrible situation. If someone asked me to do this, I would feel sick to my stomach if I didn't follow their wishes. I would also feel sick to my stomach if I denied the person seeking closure the opportunity to do so by publicly humiliating them on top of all they may be feeling. It's a no win situation and I pray I never have to deal with such a thing.

    Papa
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree. Ideally the sister wouldn't have made that request in the first place, but since she did she left OP in a bad spot.

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    person (i think)
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Brother can f* off. My friend died a few months ago. She had a toxic “Catholic” family who didn’t speak to her for 10 years because she got a divorce. Her mom and brother didn’t bother to visit her in the hospital , even when she was in a coma. The hospital is 5 min from their houses. It made me distractedly angry on her behalf when they came to her funeral. It was a selfish move. ……. Sorry, I wanted to make an articulate point but instead I just got mad again and ranted :(

    Woodsie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't want my sister or her family at my funeral, her twisted ways and attempts to manipulate and control me has ruined my relationship with her and my only niece. I don't want her anywhere near me or anything to do with me. I don't want to see her now or ever so totally understand where the sister was coming from. My sister just didn't like when I finally stopped tiptoeing around her and spoke up.

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