Timing is everything, but let’s face it, we have to make calls based on limited information all the time. The unfortunate result is that we can mistime things pretty quickly. And some folks are way too insistent that their thing takes priority over anything else.

A woman wondered if she was in the wrong for announcing her positive adoption news at the same dinner her sister wanted to reveal the venue for her wedding. A simple lack of communication turned into family drama, as the sister felt slighted that the revelation of where she would have her wedding didn’t take center stage.

Announcing a big life event at a family dinner seems like a fantastic idea

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But one woman ended up having an argument with her sister when she shared her adoption news

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Timing things right is never easy, but OP’s announcement should have taken the cake

OP’s story is a classic demonstration that it’s very easy to have too much of a good thing. The positive decision around adoption is clearly good news while picking an exciting wedding venue is also positive. However, put both of these together and suddenly there is only enough joy in the room for one.

Readers were somewhat split, as arguments can be easily made for both sides. OP’s news was, undoubtedly, “bigger” than just the announcement of a venue, but some argued that she could have simply waited for a later time, there was no need to do it right then. Of course, this raises the question of why the sister needed an “announcement” for a singular detail of her wedding in the first place.

But setting that aside, it isn’t necessarily that easy to blame the sister. She didn’t know OP had an announcement, and, from her perspective, picking and booking a venue was no doubt important. Just like when your friend has a newborn, they seem to assume that everyone is just as invested as they are. OP’s sister may have felt similarly.

Instead, the sister decided that she was entitled to more attention

A less generous interpretation is that OP’s sister suffers from an acute need for constant attention. Some folk deal with a variety of mental troubles by seeking validation from other people’s praise and attention. So it makes sense that a person who feels deprived of their “well-earned” time in the spotlight would have a significant, negative reaction.

Given just how poorly she took OP’s announcement, there is an argument to be made that she was absolutely blowing this out of proportion. Never mind the fact that her sister was going to adopt a child, a life milestone roughly equal to an entire wedding, she simply focuses on the spotlight being turned away from her.

It appears that the sister’s outburst was enough to make OP think twice and turn to the internet for advice. While these sorts of issues can be a landmine to work through in a family context, research suggests that “tactical ignoring” is often a working strategy. In other words, OP should, at most, apologize and move on with her life, treating this event as if it wasn’t a big deal. Because, in all truthfulness, it was not.

This sort of family drama can be tricky

This is not the sort of argument worth tearing a relationship apart unless the sister insists. In that case, would anyone even blame OP for cutting off a relative willing to die on the hill of a wedding venue? Because “admitting” that she was “stealing the sister’s thunder” seems like a great way to encourage this sort of behavior in the future.

In any case, OP has the exciting and important work of preparing to finalize an adoption ahead of her, worrying about accidentally upsetting her sister by announcing what sort of socks she will wear to the wedding is just not worth her time. If her sister seriously wants to keep holding this against her, OP is better off not interacting with her at all.

Most readers sided with OP

But A Few Thought She Should Have Just Waited

OP later continued the discussion in the comments

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