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“I’ve Eloped A Week Earlier Because My Parents And My Sister’s BF Were Planning A Surprise Engagement On My Wedding Day”
Just as there is no place for two bears in one lair, two eagles in one nest, so there should be no place for two celebrations at one wedding. At the very least, this is an event that should ideally be remembered for a lifetime. This celebration is primarily for two people.
But not everyone seems to think so. Firstly, it often happens that parents impose their opinion on the newlyweds about what their wedding should be like. And secondly, sometimes there are people who want to steal the day. This story is, in particular, about one of those people.
The r/TrueOffMyChest community once had a post with almost 900 upvotes and nearly 200 different comments where almost everyone supported the Original Poster. Yes, she defended her right to marry the way she and her fiancé thought they should – but she paid a rather high price for it. However, let’s talk about everything in order.
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The Original Poster planned a wedding and her parents decided to arrange the party at their own expense
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So, the OP planned the wedding, and her parents were going to arrange a large-scale celebration with a number of guests, and even undertook organizing it – despite the fact that the bride herself was not happy about this idea. However, she was even more upset when she learned about another idea her relatives had.
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The OP’s sister’s boyfriend came up with the idea to propose to her directly during the wedding party
The fact is that the OP has a sister, and her boyfriend came up with the idea to propose to her during the wedding ceremony. Of course, it would be a spectacular, memorable sight, and the OP’s sister would be happy… which was not the case for the OP herself. Who would be actually happy if your special day had to be stolen by someone else?
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The OP was not happy with this idea as she didn’t want to have her special day literally stolen
The bride tried to argue with her parents, but she was literally put before the fact, and when the OP suggested just organizing a special engagement party, they said that it should be a surprise for her sister and guests. The OP hinted to her parents that they should not spend insane money on organizing the party, but they did not want to take their daughter seriously.
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The OP had to talk about this with her sister, thereby ruining the surprise for her
The OP decided to talk to her own sister, trying to enlist at least her support – even though it would ruin the future surprise. We must say that the sister was not happy with the idea of sharing the celebration, but was also very upset because the surprise was now ruined. However, the real surprise was yet to come…
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The OP and her fiancé eloped a week earlier, inviting only his parents and their closest friends
The OP talked with her fiancé, his parents and closest friends, and secretly arranged a small wedding ceremony a week before the planned date. Everything turned out extremely beautiful and romantic, and the in-laws gave the newlyweds a honeymoon in a five-star hotel.
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The OP’s mother ended up making a huge post on a Facebook and demanded to be reimbursed for the costs of organizing the wedding
The couple asked all guests not to share photos from the wedding until they left on their honeymoon. And so it happened. And then the bride’s relatives found out about the incident, and her mother wrote a huge wrathful post on Facebook, accusing her daughter of ingratitude. To top it off, the parents demanded that the OP reimburse them for the costs of organizing her wedding!
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The OP’s father also supported his wife, saying that he was cutting off all relations with his daughter, and also demanded compensation for the money spent. And this despite the fact that the OP herself warned her parents more than once that she did not want their financial participation, and that it was not worth spending a lot of money on this at all.
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Most people in the comments told the OP that she did everything absolutely right and simply didn’t let anybody steal her happy day
We must admit that people in the comments massively supported the OP and, of course, congratulated her on her wedding. In fact, according to commenters, the OP’s parents look at least strange trying to ruin their daughter’s wedding with her sister’s engagement at the same time – and when she went against their will, also demanding that she pay them.
Some commenters also noted that the OP’s tale looks similar to their own because narcissistic parents are, alas, a fairly common thing. Either way, the OP and her fiancé did the right thing by standing their ground and not letting other people steal the day of their happiness.
By the way, we have many more wedding stories that may interest you. For instance, this post about a bride whose family tried to impose an unpleasant bridesmaid on her, or about an overly annoying wedding guest. In the meantime, we will be so glad to know your opinion about this very story in the comments.
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deanna woods 3 years ago
To everyone that reads this:YOU DON'T PROPOSE, ANNOUNCE ENGAGEMENT OR PREGNANCY AT SOMEONE ELSE'S WEDDING!!!! The wedding is about the people getting married and not you. If you can't understand this, then you are a jerk.
Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
There can't be enough emphasis put on this. Do NOT steal the thunder from the bride and groom by upstaging them with your own announcement. Let them have this one...damn...day... that is for them.
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MiriPanda 3 years ago
I think we're missing the beginning as it starts with an update. So the mom was paying for a wedding party, decided with her future SIL that this should also be proposal day, a small event nestled into a much bigger event, taking away attention from the bride and groom. 👰&🤵have no say in it, are obviously pissed off and move the wedding day. Instead of turning the wedding party into a lavish engagement party, mom and FSIL are canceling the proposal too as its main purpose of ruining/upstaging the wedding is no longer in existence? Some people. Congrats on having been cut off.
Amy S 3 years ago
Thank you! I read it twice and still thought I was missing something.
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James016 3 years ago
How spiteful do you have to be to ruin your daughter’s wedding day so your other daughter can be proposed to?
CL Rowan 3 years ago
Chances are things like this has happened all her life. That family seems focused on their 'little darling' and OP has had to suck it up all her life. Good for her to establish boundaries!
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Kelly G 3 years ago
I'll bet this was the type of family where when OP had a birthday, the mom let the sister open all of OP's presents because the sister is jealous and whining (or the mom bought the sister presents too, even though it was OP's birthday). I swear I can smell the parent's favoritism for OP's sister, from here. *smh* WTG OP for going your own way on this. Your parents, your sister and her bf are, unfortunately, very selfish people, and don't deserve to be part of your special day.
Jen 3 years ago
I think she said something to that effect in her original post. I cant remember 100% but she said something about being surprised her parents were willing to pay for something like this just for her, then she found out thier real plan. Also the "new" wedding that she did do was the original plan but it wasnt good enough for her parents so they changed her plans when they offered to pay to make it better for sister.
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Monday 3 years ago
So...the parents are "cutting her off" but also "expecting compensation"? Do they realize what cutting someone off means?
Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
How crappy would it be to have to grow up with a mom and sister like that? Did the OP ever get to celebrate any special day or achievement without having to share it with the sister? How awful it seems that it would have been.
deanna woods 3 years ago
More than likely no. She probably had to share every special moment of her life with her sister.
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mmph25 3 years ago
https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/vaxsed/im_planning_to_elope_because_my_parents_are/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf For anyone looking for the first half of the story
Phil Boswell 3 years ago
Thanks for this, it confirms my reading that the sister wasn't in on the plan: it was supposed to be a surprise for her. This story does look strangely familiar, I wonder whether I've seen it or something similar on AITA 🤔
Load More Replies... Venice 3 years ago
I think in future, wedding invitations should include, we would also humbly request to both family and friends that no engagements or pregnancy announcements be made on our social day. The DJ should be informed that in the event any of such takes place to start playing music loud to take any attention away. Also make sure to send bridesmaids and groomsmen a gentle reminder of such as well cause often it comes from there as well. It's sad that that is a thing these days. Family is nit exempt. Congrats to the bridal couple and glad your real loved ones support you.
Dizzie D 3 years ago
I went to a wedding once where half way through the best man's speech, a table at the far end suddenly erupted with applause and people screaming. Everything stopped and the Bride and Groom and parents etc on the head table were all looking over staring wondering what the hell was going on. I kid you not but this older woman actually goes up to the best man, grabs the microphone off him and announces that her friend is engaged after her fiancé proposed. You could have cut the air with a knife. There were some who just instinctively clapped half heartedly but the bride and her family all had faces like thunder. Turns out these people at the table were just all co workers of the groom that were only invited to the evening disco event as the bride didn't even know them to invite to the church or breakfast. Ithought
deanna woods 3 years ago
To everyone that reads this:YOU DON'T PROPOSE, ANNOUNCE ENGAGEMENT OR PREGNANCY AT SOMEONE ELSE'S WEDDING!!!! The wedding is about the people getting married and not you. If you can't understand this, then you are a jerk.
Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
There can't be enough emphasis put on this. Do NOT steal the thunder from the bride and groom by upstaging them with your own announcement. Let them have this one...damn...day... that is for them.
Load More Replies... MiriPanda 3 years ago
I think we're missing the beginning as it starts with an update. So the mom was paying for a wedding party, decided with her future SIL that this should also be proposal day, a small event nestled into a much bigger event, taking away attention from the bride and groom. 👰&🤵have no say in it, are obviously pissed off and move the wedding day. Instead of turning the wedding party into a lavish engagement party, mom and FSIL are canceling the proposal too as its main purpose of ruining/upstaging the wedding is no longer in existence? Some people. Congrats on having been cut off.
Amy S 3 years ago
Thank you! I read it twice and still thought I was missing something.
Load More Replies... James016 3 years ago
How spiteful do you have to be to ruin your daughter’s wedding day so your other daughter can be proposed to?
CL Rowan 3 years ago
Chances are things like this has happened all her life. That family seems focused on their 'little darling' and OP has had to suck it up all her life. Good for her to establish boundaries!
Load More Replies... Kelly G 3 years ago
I'll bet this was the type of family where when OP had a birthday, the mom let the sister open all of OP's presents because the sister is jealous and whining (or the mom bought the sister presents too, even though it was OP's birthday). I swear I can smell the parent's favoritism for OP's sister, from here. *smh* WTG OP for going your own way on this. Your parents, your sister and her bf are, unfortunately, very selfish people, and don't deserve to be part of your special day.
Jen 3 years ago
I think she said something to that effect in her original post. I cant remember 100% but she said something about being surprised her parents were willing to pay for something like this just for her, then she found out thier real plan. Also the "new" wedding that she did do was the original plan but it wasnt good enough for her parents so they changed her plans when they offered to pay to make it better for sister.
Load More Replies... Monday 3 years ago
So...the parents are "cutting her off" but also "expecting compensation"? Do they realize what cutting someone off means?
Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
How crappy would it be to have to grow up with a mom and sister like that? Did the OP ever get to celebrate any special day or achievement without having to share it with the sister? How awful it seems that it would have been.
deanna woods 3 years ago
More than likely no. She probably had to share every special moment of her life with her sister.
Load More Replies... mmph25 3 years ago
https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/vaxsed/im_planning_to_elope_because_my_parents_are/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf For anyone looking for the first half of the story
Phil Boswell 3 years ago
Thanks for this, it confirms my reading that the sister wasn't in on the plan: it was supposed to be a surprise for her. This story does look strangely familiar, I wonder whether I've seen it or something similar on AITA 🤔
Load More Replies... Venice 3 years ago
I think in future, wedding invitations should include, we would also humbly request to both family and friends that no engagements or pregnancy announcements be made on our social day. The DJ should be informed that in the event any of such takes place to start playing music loud to take any attention away. Also make sure to send bridesmaids and groomsmen a gentle reminder of such as well cause often it comes from there as well. It's sad that that is a thing these days. Family is nit exempt. Congrats to the bridal couple and glad your real loved ones support you.
Dizzie D 3 years ago
I went to a wedding once where half way through the best man's speech, a table at the far end suddenly erupted with applause and people screaming. Everything stopped and the Bride and Groom and parents etc on the head table were all looking over staring wondering what the hell was going on. I kid you not but this older woman actually goes up to the best man, grabs the microphone off him and announces that her friend is engaged after her fiancé proposed. You could have cut the air with a knife. There were some who just instinctively clapped half heartedly but the bride and her family all had faces like thunder. Turns out these people at the table were just all co workers of the groom that were only invited to the evening disco event as the bride didn't even know them to invite to the church or breakfast. Ithought
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