Even if you were perfectly healthy and popped out babies like a pez dispenser, being a surrogate for your sister is a bad idea. These people are toxic, get as far away from them as possible.

A measly card, to announce that she is their surrogate? They should have at least given her a nice gift bag with a red dress and white bonnet. And an ID changing her name to "OfBrother-in-law's-name."

It may have been easier to tell them, that after her first pregnancy where she almost didn't make it, they decided that one kid was enough and she got a sterilization.

Should've handed the card to OP's mother and say "I think this is meant for you"

OP needs to reframe this entire story as "my family who treated me like dirt my entire life, want me to potentially die to give my sister a child. They would prefer my sister has a child and my son has no Mother". Or she should just ask them, in those words - "so you're happy for me to die, and your only grandchild to lose his parent in order for sister to get a baby, rather than adopt for example?". Also, I highly doubt any medical professional would allow insemination to go ahead, as she'd fail all the checks. Unless they expect her to sleep with her BIL... so many wrongs.

Bears don't have family reunions.

Put aside the toxic "family" of black sheep and golden child, and put aside the OP's past medical issues during childbirth. This is STILL out of line. NOBODY has the "right" to rape her body and force her to give birth for someone else. They can adopt a kid if they want one, not the family rape and force her to give birth unwillingly. She should cut off all contact and file a restraining order against them.

Hypothetically, if there were someone whose doctor told them a miracle happened and they can have painless, risk free pregnancy and childbirth unlike any other human, it would still be too much to expect them to be a surrogate.

justifiable homicide

no doctor would approve her for surrogacy. id honestly be petty AF and schedule the appointment, make them pay for the eval, and then rub it in their faces that OP isnt a candidate for surrogacy.

Um.....f**k the medical stuff. If I were the epitome of health, I would still tell these people to f**k right off.

Oh my god- go NC asap and leave that toxic hellhole behind. Take your grandparents and your family and run, girl, run. NTA all the way.

No way! Heart problems or not, you don't owe this to anyone for any reason, ESPECIALLY not someone who treated you poorly your entire life. Surrogacy is expensive, so they probably just wanted a free surrogate. If they want to talk about taking risks for family, then the sister can risk being sad her whole life about never being a mom if it means her sister is alive and healthy.

Every once in a while I read something that makes my life feel Disney. Wtf.

Why do you even have any contact with these pricks?

What a shame you moved your whole life back near your insane and toxic “family” - you sound like you had it made living in another state. I would have arranged frequent visits but NEVER have moved back. I think you should get out from under ASAP before you, your child and husband are irreparably damaged by your unhinged and crazily demanding relatives.

The entitlement of some people!! Mate, I'd tell your folks and sis to shove it where the sun don't shine, and if they need anything from you, to get stood on. Defs cut off contact from them if you haven't already!

Just another mentally ill family ( parents and sister) who abuse then want to use their victim. They don’t care if she dies just as long as they get their way.. Psychotic

I would've gone along with it to the first consultation with the doctor, and then had the -doctor- tell them to their faces that they're out of their minds.