Nobody deserves to be mistreated by their family members. Nurturing your relationships with your family requires a lot of consistent and hard work. It means respecting each other, enforcing healthy boundaries, providing support when needed, and communicating during a major disagreement. However, these relationships are meant to be a two-way street.

It’s a major issue if you’re constantly being taken advantage of. It’s one thing to lend a helping hand. It’s another thing entirely if you’re treated as an unpaid servant. Redditor u/Pretend_Mode_9494 went viral on the AITAH community after sharing a very sensitive story about how she finally stood up to her sister, who manipulated her into babysitting for free. You’ll find the full story below. Bored Panda has reached out to the author for further comment, and we’ll update the article as soon as we hear back from her.

Family is family, but if you feel that you’re constantly being taken advantage of, then things are far from right

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A woman shared how she finally stood up to her sister, who kept guilt-tripping her into working as a free babysitter

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Manipulative individuals use many different tactics to pressure someone into behaving a certain way

According to WebMD, one of the signs that a person might be trying to manipulate you is trying to make you feel guilty.

“A manipulator can skew any situation to make themselves the victim. Or they might remind you of times they’ve helped you out, making it seem like you owe them.”

Meanwhile, manipulators are likely to make you doubt yourself. Often, they complain and get angry in front of others to pressure you and force you to behave the way they want. This is especially effective if their targets tend to avoid conflict.

Furthermore, manipulative individuals compare you to others, put you down, use threats, and tend to give out ultimatums.

Others, however, may try to charm you in order to build trust and then make you do what they want.

Nobody should feel like they’re being mistreated by the people who are supposed to be their biggest supporters.

If you believe that you’re being taken advantage of by your relatives—being asked to babysit for free, constantly doing chores for them, etc.—it’s important that you speak up and address these issues.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with standing up for yourself. Sure, family is family. But that doesn’t mean that you should be forced to sacrifice hours upon hours of your free time every single day.

You have your own life to live. You have your career, family, chores, hobbies, social life, and responsibilities to take care of. But if you’re consistently forced to put those things on the back burner for the sake of your relatives, it’s not a healthy dynamic, and it needs to be changed.

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After you’ve clarified your boundaries to yourself, it’s then time to communicate about them with your family

It’s very likely that you’ll have to remind your relatives of your boundaries and then enforce them if they keep getting ignored.

However, before you even start enforcing your boundaries with your family, you should think about what these boundaries are. The more clarity you have for yourself, the better for everyone.

“Spend time journaling and talking with other people to identify what your needs, limits, and values are,” licensed marriage and family therapist Elizabeth Campbell told Time magazine.

Next, once you’ve wrapped your head around what your boundaries actually are, it’s time to articulate them. That might mean setting out some simple ground rules so that everyone’s on the same page.

Licensed marriage and family therapist Laurie Carmichael suggests having a basic conversation template, such as: “If you say or do X again, I will need to do Y.”

“It’s very clearly naming what it is and saying what’s going to happen. That’s different from a request,” she said, that you’re making clear where your lines are and what you will and won’t tolerate from now on. Boundaries are enforceable, while requests are not.

“There’s no need for fluff or apologizing. Just get to the point in a clear, kind way,” the therapist urged people to embrace briefness and directness rather than vagueness.

Meanwhile, it’s vital that you prioritize your self-care while also respecting your family members’ own boundaries.

What are your thoughts about the entire situation, dear Pandas? What would you have done if you were in the author’s shoes? Have you ever had a close family member try to pressure you like this? Have you ever worked as a free babysitter? Let us know what you think in the comments below.

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Most readers were very supportive of the author, who later shared more context in the comments

After some time passed, the author shared a few more important updates about how her relationship with her sister deteriorated

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