' First '. It's July where I live right now. I live in Florida and it's currently 92 degrees. We have an annual Renfaire here as well. Your decision is a very good decision. There's a time and a place for everything. That is not the place for a furry suit. If she wore it,as a child and you being responsible for her, your trip there would be very short. She would not last very long in the heat. She'd be complaining about the heat,then because she's already stubborn she'd probably purposely keep the suit on out of spite and end up making your trip a very short one because she would end up with heat stroke ,dehydration,and a trip to the hospital. Your trip will be ruined. She isn't willing to compromise at all,so,she should not be going at all. The suit is right for Comic Con. The suit is not right for a Renfaire. She cannot have your mother make you take her anywhere despite her best efforts. She forgets she's a child and you are adults and nobody can make an adult do anything. It's your car , your trip and your rules. Like it or not that's the way it is. This 12yr old doesn't seem mature enough to understand that. I know her sister was 13 when she went but her sister followed the rules. The 12 yr old refuses to grasp the concept and is acting immature and won't see reason. She's not ready to go to this event unlike her sister was. You're NTA.

12 year olds have not lived long enough to understand real life experiences. She just wants to attend a function wearing a cute outfit that she thinks everyone is going to notice her in. She's not mature enough to think about her health and the dangers of wearing inappropriate clothing that could cause heat related injuries. Her mother is responsible for her safety and should put her foot down. Her decision is the one that this minor child should be held to. Ignorance is not bliss where a child's wellbeing is at stake.

if little sis refuses to wear an appropriate costume, maybe she's not mature enough to be going.

Has the asker forgotten that she is an adult? Your underage sisters health becomes your responsibility when you take her out. In a fursuit. In July.

The only AH here is the mother. Unless I misread, the little sister was good with the new plan, with big sisters helping her with the new costume, until mom threw a wrench in the works telling her she could wear the pink furry suit.

Hey mom, since you said she could wear the furry costume, YOU take her to the renfair! And YOU deal with the aftermath of her becoming very ill from the heat 🥵. After years of attending Renfairs with my daughter, I know from personal experience these are NOT the time or place for this type of costume. Don't let a pushy 12 year old dictate to anyone, especially her adult siblings. Sister is right about her wearing this furry costume at a Cosplay event where it's more appropriate. Mom and 12 year old ATH. Sister should stand her ground.

My Medieval Faire costume is already abominably hot in the summer (jerkin, trews, leather brigandine, knee-high boots, & cloak). I can't imagine how bad a full fursuit would be.

Easy solution. Simply tell your 12 yr old sister, since she can't dress appropriately for the Ren fair she is obviously not mature enough to go this year. Maybe next year, she'll be old enough to understand and have an appropriate costume. It is not a Furry con, comic con, etc. Problem solved. Done.

Why is a 12 year-old dictating what she will and won't wear -- and why isn't Mom being the parent here? OP has valid health/safety concerns, and the siblings have offered compromises and generously offered to help with a more appropriate costume, but littlest sister is using her new found power as her hill to die on. Tell her NO, Mom - Precious can accommodate or stay home.

Imagine going to a rock concert and a kid demands to go wearing a star wars costume. That's how stupid this is. Anime or comic book convention? A furry would fit in. NOT a Renaissance Faire.

I've done cosplay, I've sewn sooo many costumes for friends....one of them was a revisited version of Ursula, think long gown with a corset and yards and yards of petticoat. I had BIG reservations but my friend WANTED that. She loooved it 😍, she felt stuuuuUUUUUUnning in it 😍(corsets tend to do that to your confidence 😘) she asked me to help her out of it after two hours because she was having a stroke 😑 (she lasted that long because she was stubborn and folded when it was either changing or going to the hospital)....if you want to do a cosplay, kiddoes, and your seamstress tells you it's a bad idea......it usually IS!

Tell 12 year old to grow up. Furries are not a public thing and should be kept private, definitely not in schools, where it should be harshly banned and yes comic con is a good place for that type of outfit. At 80+ heat she will last 10 minutes and then passout.

I agree with this young woman’s decision to not take her sister in a potentially dangerous costume considering the heat. She is being incredibly responsible. And I would be embarrassed for her to not be in keeping with the theme; isn’t that the point of the event? Additionally, there is nothing wrong with teaching her that there are appropriate places and times to wear certain outfits. This is a huge problem. Parents are afraid to say “no” for fear of stifling their kids. No way my kid would be wearing fake ears and a tail to school! Why would you allow your child to do that and open themselves up to ridicule and torcher! Your job is to protect them! That to me is the most horrible part of this whole story. She has been taught that it doesn’t matter when it most certainly does! Mom created this mess, Mom can take her and will be paying for her years of therapy later.

What happens when 45 minutes in she can't stand wearing the furry suit anymore? Are you all just going to go home because she is uncomfortable?

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In my area the Ren Faires all happen in the Fall. Makes much more sense to me!

Okay, so I am asking for my own clarification here: I have seen furry suits at our local Renfaire and I am a bit confused as to why people wear them to this type of event. I get that it's a costume, but it is confusing to me to see them there. It's as out of place to me as if someone dressed up as Iron Man with a head-to-toe power suit. Yes, it would be cool, but I don't see a connection between the costume and Renaissance. So I'm not judging when I ask: why? Is it just because it's a costume opportunity and there's not a ton for furries?

honestly, the part about the temperature and it being to hot is understandable, but possibly instead of telling her she can't wear it at all, suggest wearing just a partial (Head, paws and tail) instead of the full :) she worked hard to make that and would love to show it off, the renaissance festival is just the place.

She sounds like a spoiled brat who is use to getting her way by whining to her mom. NTA! Putting the temperature aside, there was an agreement of what the costumes would be. She needs a strong lesson in keeping your word. It sounds like she is too immature. Stand your ground. You are an adult, and have granted her the opportunity to a year earlier than your other siblings. She doesn’t seem to appreciate things she receives. Your mother seems to be a pushover for the baby of the family. Don’t you be. The furry costume is inappropriate for several reason. You’re an adult, now. Make an adult decision. If she goes in the furry costume, and has a heat related problem, she ruins everyone’s enjoyment. Sounds like she has some growing up to do.

1-2 million furries WORLDWIDE and you thunk that's NOT niche? Gtfoh

Old sisters are willing to help her dress up as a dnd creature? That sounds much more fun.

I have seen full fursuits and full leather armor with fursuit heads, gloves, and tails, all in 80+° weather. If it were my sibling, I would bring an extra outfit and let her wear the fursuit til she melted. But I understand caution. 12 year olds are damn stubborn and don't always recognize the signs of heat exhaustion

As someone who attends ren faires every year for most of its run, and have for years. And someone with many connections in the furry world. This whole approach is wrong, Ive seen more people than I can count misjudge the heat, both at faires and at cons wearing suits. And thats the approach that should be taken, give her advice and find a common ground. Not tell her to p*ss off. And I totally get the discomfort of how other people see who you're with, I got over that ages ago but I totally relate. Seems like no one wants to listen to each other and its sad.

Why is your mum allowing your 12 year old sister to dabble in fetish?

Yta for even bothering to list all the superficial reasons. She cant wear what she wants because she will have a heat stroke, but the fact that you mentioned that as an aside to superficial concerns- a hole. If it weren't for the heat no one cares I a kid wears somthing weird to ren faire off brand or not.

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How do you possibly think you're NTA? YTA, YTA, YTA! Tons of fursuiters are present at renfaires, you need to get out more lol. As for the heat, she can just take it off when it's too much, no one is naked under those things you dolt. That's what I do when it gets to be too much. I also carry plenty of water for myself. YTA