Whats up with the YTA- folks? Recently they are very unhinged at every other AITA-second hand reddit.

So if you are actually concerned that someine might be being abused... THE LAST THING YOU DO IS CONFRONT THE ABUSER. The harm she could have done in the case he was actually f***ed cannot be understated. If she actually cared abd was worried, as opposed to trying to start drama and be the saviour, she would have approached wife with a non judgemental statement like "are you getting enough to eat? I noticed you were still hungry after dinner, can I grab you another plate?"

I'm in tears. I do this too! And have been made fun of. I'm not autistic but just have to do it. My only difference is that I save the best thing for last, even if it's not the main entre. I've only known one other person who does this (in my 40s). To see so many other people say they do the same thing is overwhelming.

The YTA commenters don't understand, it's a waste of food to server OPs wife large portion because she doesn't eat the entire thing. NTA

I lost most of my digestive a few years ago. I can't eat very much at once, even if something is delicious and I want to eat a lot of it. When I, or my partner, fix my plate, I will take very small portions of each thing so I taste everything, and then if I have room and want seconds, I will get a slightly larger portion of the thing that I like. Occasionally someone will make a comment, and I usually respond with a blank stare if they aren't well-known to me. If they are, they get a big MYOB and I stick out my tongue at them.

It's such a lovely gesture that this woman's partner has noticed this and makes an effort to accommodate her needs. I have always been similar - eating my least favourite food first and my favourite food last (never mixing the foods) even in stews and salads etc. 100% NTA though the sister certainly is, she wanted to protect her family which is understandable but also refused to acknowledge that you were being a considerate partner and then tried to publicly shame him at his own social event which then backfired and possibly embarrassed her own sister

I am an apathetic eater. Some days I eat loads, other days I merely graze. When going round to friends for dinner, they make enough for me to have a portion size like them but are also ok with my nibbling a tiny bit - leftovers for them, yay! If it's a restaurant, my friends know that I am likely to order two starters and if still ok for more, likely ot have a dessert. If I order but by the time it arrives I no longer want to eat, they are willing to help me finish if I'm not taking it home. Piling on food makes me feel pressure to eat more and that means I am less likely to even eat any. Let people eat how and when as long as they are not falling into ED category - you don't HAVE to have 3 squares a day.

I am a small eater, but my In-laws divide up the food and put it on your plate and you are expected to finish it all. I have finally gotten them to give me smaller versions. I's still prefer to just make my own plate tho.

Those YTA posts have to be satire right? No one is this dumb right?! Right?!

The YTAs obviously didn't read the original post correctly. They're the AHs for passing judgement without collecting the facts. Wouldn't want them on a jury!

I have the opposite problem. I want a little bit of everything in one bite. As a kid, i would mash all the food, stir, then eat. Drove Mom crazy, Dad didnt care as long as I ate everything.

How funny , I've always called myself a food separatist lol So many people wanna stick their nose in my plate and it pissses me off. Idgaf if it's "all going in the same place". I am a super taster and I will literally throw up if my foods are mixed 🤮 People need to mind their own fluckin business

I tend to eat that way, also. I am considered a picky eater. I often have to explain that I have textural problems with some foods, I just can't tolerate how they feel in my mouth. I also have ulcerative colitis and some foods that I like I am unable to eat without days of abdominal pain. If I know a food is going to hurt me, why would I eat it?

I thought I was the normal one. But reading all these comments from 'section eaters' maybe I'm the wierd one for having a bite of this and a bite of that. Of course, in recent years, my appetite has gone down. I make my own plate, so I serve myself the smaller portions that will satisfy me. When my husband plates, he gives me too much.

If it works then it works, non of sil business to talk to op about it. If she was that concerned she should have spoken privately to her sister

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My BIL doesn't like his food to touch. I eat one thing at a time. If I'm still hungry, I eat another thing + so on. Lots of people have food quirks.

I didn't believe that "man hating women" existed in real life, because, even though I've known and interacted with hundreds of people in my life, I've never met a single one, or heard about somebody like that from a reliable source. Then I see Reddit comments and realize that there may indeed be a few. The YTA comments are unhinged - they manage, by dint of a substantial effort of will and twisted logic, to take a man being really caring and supportive of his spouse and claim this he's treating his wife badly. My favorite, though is the one which says "Your SIL is behaving like an a$$hole, and that means that YOU'RE the a$$hole!".

The fact that OP's wife knows he does this and they openly discuss it eliminates any issues I would've had with this. OP is making a small adjustment so his loved one can enjoy everything she eats without demanding or trying to force her to change her eating habits.

Autism Panda here, and I eat just like this. I can't stand mixing flavors when I eat, so I'll eat all of once thing, then all of the next, and so on. OP is awesome.

Does the wife think the food sits in layers? "When different things get in her stomach at the same time". You can eat your carrots first and then your potatoes but THEY ARE ALL IN THERE AT THE SAME TIME!

Wife most likely has undiagnosed autism, I used to be like this. I'd eat everything in a certain order, but in my case, I grew out of it as an adult. (though this is not meant to belittle anyone as even with autism, we are all different) as long as she's eating enough and healthily enough, then how she eats her food is no ones business.