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Bride Doesn’t Want Brother’s Husband “Ruining The Aesthetic” In Wedding Photos, Is Surprised When They Leave The Party
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Bride Doesn’t Want Brother’s Husband “Ruining The Aesthetic” In Wedding Photos, Is Surprised When They Leave The Party

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A wedding is one of the most special and unforgettable experiences in someone’s life. You know, you get to start a whole new chapter of the book we call “life” with the love of your life. Of course, as books tend to go, most people want the first page to go according to their vision which sometimes does not match with how things are in real life.

Recently, u/ThrowAway5690123 shared one such scenario. It was his sister’s wedding and it “was an amazing evening,” as he tells it. But as soon as the time came for family photos, the bride decided to cut out the author’s husband because he was “ruining the aesthetic.” Walking out of the wedding only added more fuel to the night, splitting the family in two. Unsure if he made the right call, the bride’s brother turned to the Am I The [Jerk] community for some objective perspective.

Usually, weddings celebrate love in all its forms and unite families

Image credits:  crystalsing (not the actual photo)

However, seeing that the bride wasn’t very inclusive of his husband, the OP decided to leave his sister’s wedding early, causing some ruffled feathers

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Image credits: HelloMikee (not the actual photo)

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Image credits: EMPPhotography / istockphoto (not the actual photo)

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Turns out, planning your big day is no walk in the park

Image credits: Shardayyy Photography (not the actual photo)

Whether you have been to a wedding or seen how it goes down on Netflix’s hit show ‘Love Is Blind’, you know that there are a lot of moving parts involved behind the scenes. Besides high emotions, free-flowing alcohol and seating arrangement, there’s also the hunt for the perfect venue, flowers and guest list. No surprise that 40% of couples admitted that planning for the big day was “extremely stressful”, while 71% thought it was more nerve-wracking than other major life events, including finding a new job.

Of course, many people spend their entire lives dreaming about their big day. So it goes without saying that this surely adds to the unfulfilled expectations. In one fascinating survey, more than 80% of women surveyed (out of 1000) had admitted to having wedding day regrets. One-third of them had second thoughts about their dress of choice. While 34% would have spent a huge amount, assuming they wouldn’t have another opportunity to tie the knot — an intriguing blend of optimism and practicality, to say the least.

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Memories last for your entire life, sure. But photos last forever. While this might hold little significance for some, it carries immense importance for numerous brides who deeply cherish their wedding day memories. And that means being picky about who gets to be in them. As Knot.com suggests: “If you don’t feel comfortable including your brother’s brand-new S.O. or your great uncle or your long-lost cousin, you need to make sure everyone (your parents and other family members) is aware of it ahead of time. Explain why you feel this way, and offer some kind of compromise if things get heated.” And if there’s no room for a compromise, well, after today’s story, we know how it goes.

Unanimously, everyone came to the conclusion that the bride was being homophobic and called the drama on herself

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Kotryna is a Photo Editor at Bored Panda with a BA in Graphic Design. Before Bored Panda, she worked as a freelance graphic designer and illiustrator. When not editing, she enjoys working with clay, drawing, playing board games and drinking good tea.

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Sonja
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it funny how people always claim that OTHERS were making a fuss about 'one tiny little thing ' after THEY refused to let that 'tiny little thing' go. My answer is always the same: if it's such an unimportant thing, how can me refusing to participate be the thing that ruins everything? If it's such a tiny little thing, why are you insisting on it?

Persephone
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly! If they are so bothered by "1 tiny little thing", then why do they want a big wedding?? I'm an introvert, so I don't want anything like this, but more importantly I'm not a homophobic narcissist!!!!

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Alexandra Davis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was asked to be a +1 to a wedding, I am a wheelchair user and guess the couple didn't know that (it wasn't a relationship but my friend as she only knew the bride so the bride said being a friend). We rock up to the venue and I'm just getting into my wheelchair when the bride comes over. She's all smiles until she sees my chair and goes "oh, anyway you can leave that in the car, it's just it'll ruin the videos and photos of the ceremony and reception" before my friend has a chance to reply i go "sure, of course. But I'll be also staying in the car" the bride goes "oh no, you can come in, just leave that here" I can't stand, let alone walk, so this is not going to work. My friend just says to me to get back into the car, we're leaving. She's never spoken to her friend since who couldn't see why effectively asking me to leave my legs behind was offensive. The bride had apparently been told I was a wheelchair user but assumed I could pick and choose when I used it

R Dennis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. F**k that b***h. Glad your friend was a real friend. I hate people who think everyone lives as an aesthetic.

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R Dennis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being gay is not an aesthetic. I can't stand people who need pretend pictures instead of being happy with reality. You are not a princess! You are the same person you were before the wedding. Try for that person to not be a d**k.

Appalachian Panda
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly. Wouldn't a photo of your family actually being happy together be nicer to have than some fake artistic representation of happiness?

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Sonja
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it funny how people always claim that OTHERS were making a fuss about 'one tiny little thing ' after THEY refused to let that 'tiny little thing' go. My answer is always the same: if it's such an unimportant thing, how can me refusing to participate be the thing that ruins everything? If it's such a tiny little thing, why are you insisting on it?

Persephone
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly! If they are so bothered by "1 tiny little thing", then why do they want a big wedding?? I'm an introvert, so I don't want anything like this, but more importantly I'm not a homophobic narcissist!!!!

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Alexandra Davis
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was asked to be a +1 to a wedding, I am a wheelchair user and guess the couple didn't know that (it wasn't a relationship but my friend as she only knew the bride so the bride said being a friend). We rock up to the venue and I'm just getting into my wheelchair when the bride comes over. She's all smiles until she sees my chair and goes "oh, anyway you can leave that in the car, it's just it'll ruin the videos and photos of the ceremony and reception" before my friend has a chance to reply i go "sure, of course. But I'll be also staying in the car" the bride goes "oh no, you can come in, just leave that here" I can't stand, let alone walk, so this is not going to work. My friend just says to me to get back into the car, we're leaving. She's never spoken to her friend since who couldn't see why effectively asking me to leave my legs behind was offensive. The bride had apparently been told I was a wheelchair user but assumed I could pick and choose when I used it

R Dennis
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. F**k that b***h. Glad your friend was a real friend. I hate people who think everyone lives as an aesthetic.

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R Dennis
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being gay is not an aesthetic. I can't stand people who need pretend pictures instead of being happy with reality. You are not a princess! You are the same person you were before the wedding. Try for that person to not be a d**k.

Appalachian Panda
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly. Wouldn't a photo of your family actually being happy together be nicer to have than some fake artistic representation of happiness?

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