Probably all of us have felt bad when comparing ourselves to others — whether it's because they can afford things we wish we could, achieve goals we aspire to, or simply hold a higher social status than we do. So, it's normal to try to do something to keep up with them and feel better about yourself.
At the same time, some people believe that chasing higher social status, or, as the idiom goes, “keeping up with the Joneses” is not only a waste of time, but of money and sanity too. This list is the compilation of things they admit not doing, even if that makes them seem a bit uncool, so let’s see what they are, shall we?
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I still refuse to download TikTok.
A new phone every two years. I keep mine until I can’t update it anymore or stuff on it stops working properly.
Smart home products. I can flip my own lightswitches and select my own music without talking to an a.i. assistant.
No matter if you like it or not, social status is an important thing in our lives. In a nutshell, sociology describes it as the relative rank that a person holds in the social hierarchy. It comes with certain rights, duties, and lifestyles.
So, it’s normal for people to feel like they have to achieve a certain status, whether to feel good about themselves or look better in others’ eyes. One of the common ways to do that is by trying to do similar things as people in your desired social status do.
There’s even an interesting idiom partially tied to this phenomenon – “keep up with the Joneses.” Basically, it means to try to keep up the same (or match) lifestyle that your peers have, so you look just as good as they do.
Branded stuff.
I'll splurge on high quality, pricey stuff but paying a huge premium to essentially advertise some brand is a no go for me.
Shortly after I came to this country and first saw a Luis Vuitton purse, my initial thought was "What an ugly purse, floppy with a terrible print, yuck, who would buy that monstrosity?" Then I found out how much they cost and realized people pay that much just to pay that much. Still think they're butt ugly.
Not spending thousands on a 1 year olds birthday party who doesn't even know what's going on.
Right??? It must be for the clicks + likes cuz the kid has no clue what's going on.
The phrase was coined in a comic strip by Pop Momand, which went by the same name. It was published from 1913 until 1938. The comics depicted the McGinis family, who struggled to keep up with their neighbors—the Joneses.
Since Jones is among the most common surnames in the United States, the comic’s name quickly became a commonly used and relatable phrase for all, despite the strip itself not achieving the lasting recognizable fame that others did.
Since status-seeking remains prevalent in society even decades after the phrase's conception, it hasn't faded away either. For instance, quite recently someone on Reddit asked netizens this question: “What is your ‘keeping up with the Joneses’ that you absolutely refuse to do?”
As a mother I refused to get on the overscheduled ‘achiever’ child treadmill. My kids each had a sport or activity they enjoyed and then plenty of time with friends and down time at home.
Expensive gym clothes. I’m not paying $90 for leggings I’m going to run and sweat in. I’ll stick with the cheap ones and not feel bad putting them through hell.
Getting a doodle because they are trendy right now. I have no interest in paying thousands of dollars more for a designer dog because everyone wants one. Especially when there are so many great dogs in need of a home in shelters.
The catch here is that this question asks not about how people seek status, but rather how they refuse to do it, but that makes things even more interesting. Especially when you take a look at the answers the people provided, which were more than 3K. So, we combined a list of the most compelling ones for you to check out.
As you can understand from the list items and probably from your lived experiences, not all people want to seek higher status (or at least that’s what they say publicly). Status-seeking tends to be viewed as a rather vain thing. Yet, the matter is way more complicated than simple vanity.
This “quirk” is a product of our evolution. People are wired to seek better mates, more food, and greater safety, and while such things happened more literally back in the Stone Age or so, nowadays they evolved into a search for higher social status.
Getting an Apple Watch.
Getting an Apple *anything.* Overpriced + overhyped. "Tim Apple" doesn't need my money. (thanks for that one, DJT! 😁)
Stanley’s 😂😂😂.
I've had the same Stanley for several years now. It was a gift. I love it! (Not enough to buy one though. )
Higher social status is proven to influence a person's longevity. For example, research found that on average Oscar winners live four years longer than other Hollywood actors. An unrelatable example you say? Well, speaking about more common people like civil servants, in the UK it was found out that the higher ranking ones live a bit longer than lower ones.
What should be taken into consideration here is that when a person is of lower social status, typically they have less control over their working lives, and have less opportunity for social participation. All of that leads to them having greater stress, and less protection against illnesses, which shortens their life. Quite unfair, isn’t it? Well, it doesn't change the fact that it’s our reality.
So, while seeking higher status, or trying to “keep up with the Joneses” isn’t an inherently bad thing, focusing only on that shouldn’t become the sole goal of one’s life. To prevent yourself from it happening, check out today’s list for ideas on how to resist it.
Have my wife rip up a 5 year old fully functional 80k kitchen because 'we need to follow the trends" like my buddy did.
If you resist long enough, eventually it'll be "vintage", and people will pay extra for it.
Injections of filler or Botox. I’m 31/F and “at that age” where the pressure is real on social media and amongst my peers. I’m also middle class and could afford it. The influencers are constantly hitting my feed making me feel bad about aging and the aging has only just began. I’m literally so young still. But I just can’t bring myself to cave. We really don’t understand the long term consequences and I’m convinced it’s a fad that will die out because these faces are starting to look, *morphed*. Just fine lines for me, thanks.
Yeah let's inject my face with my butt fat and look like a puffy mess coz I'm scared of aging. F**k that. I'm going to OWN my crows feet and semi grey hair!
Home trends. I do not believe that I need to make my house summer, autumn, winter or spring themed. Will I change my linen to something warmer and darker during winter and get my floral out during summer? Sure. But I sure AF am not hopping on that train of changing everything.
I’ve never understood buying a home for the max amount you were approved for just because that’s what you were approved for. We have friends that live in really nice houses, but never go anywhere or do anything. My wife and I opted to buy a really nice but smaller house that was 275k less than what we were approved for. Now we go on nice vacations a couple times a year, go out to dinner often. We see plays, concerts and do all kinds of things we couldn’t do if we had bought a bigger house.
I have friends that go to Disney twice a year and they are always trying to get us to go. I've been to Disney, I don't get it and I don't care to go ever again.
I will try to fix/mend everything that I own before deciding to just be a consumer.
A great idea but unfortunately most things are made not to be serviceable. Plastic case a heat weld so they can't be opened. rivets are used instead of screws. But please don't stop trying. There are still a few of us who hate the waste
Buying a pair of god awful ugly a*s shoes that don’t fit my feet, but are “designer” or whatever. I’m not an Olympic athlete, I don’t need to spend hundreds on shoes.
I buy pricey running shoes because I run, but try to get them on sale. Once they're no good for running, I downgrade them to general workouts. Then they go to knocking around shoes. When they fall apart, I throw them out. I currently have about 5 pairs in various states of the process. I would never buy a pair of expensive shoes that didn't fit, what the heck is the point?
Embracing consumer culture. To be fair, there was about a decade when I was too poor to do that. Once my financial situation improved, I realized that none of that stuff would have made me happy. And now that I can afford to "keep up," I have zero desire to. In that way, the poverty was useful (though I never want to be in that dire of a situation again).
I can genuinely say i do not give one single care what a lawn looks like, and will do the barest minimum maintenance just so the city doesn't ticket me.
I have always thought lawns were the stupidest thing ever, but yet people look at me like I'm a psycho when I share that opinion.
I agree. I am slowly (too slowly for my liking) replacing the grass with native groundcovers.
Load More Replies...I keep mine trim because of fleas and ticks when I take my dog out. I'm 1000 feet back in the pines so who cares really other than I do it for the doggo. Keeping patches of wild flowers around are good for the bees.
I'd say if you have kids there may be some value. But we ripped up most of our backyard and put in a very large garden. 11,264 sq ft (32' x 32') Probably more work than a lawn, but we're getting ready to retire so we'll have time.
I remember reading a blog, maybe here on BP, from a Russian (?) guy who observed some airial views of USA Suburbia, noting that mostly all the homes had huge plots of land without gardens, just inground swimming pools (that no one was using ) and giant lawns. He was very confused as to why Americans live on these plots without utilizing them to grow food.
I have to grow my stuff on my deck otherwise the damned deer and rabbits eat my stuff! (which is why I also eat deer and rabbit!)
I like a natural setting. My property is bordered on two sides by a huge state forest and on the third side by privately-owned forest land. Across the road is farm fields (with certified organic crops). This is what my yard looked like after I decided to stop cutting the grass. Photo taken through my kitchen window. Yard-Deer-...62fd41.jpg
I live in South Texas: I have no front lawn because it died and I'm not replacing it. Going full xeriscape this year. Besides, planting cacti will keep the dogs from pooping in my yard :)
I leave patches of wildflowers but need to mow often a section for the short dog to romp around in.
I side gig grass cutting. No fertilizing, weed killing, insecticide. Rarely anything else except maybe Grub-ex to keep moles away
Front yard lawns seem really useless to me. You can lay on a back yard or play but a front lawn, what can you do with it?
Please be my neighbor. The one next to me looks down just because we don't have the time and refuse to put chemicals on our lawn. My neighbor worships the lawn god. His yard makes a golf course look shabby. I enjoy winter as that is the only time my neighbor isn't mowing his yard every 3 days or a few hours after my husband mows ours.
We got rid of our lawn and covered the ground in mulch. Low maintenance.
If I owned a house one of the first things I would do is rip up the lawn and put in a functional garden.
THIS! LEAVE THE LAWNS ALONE. it's not just avoiding a trend, but it's literally natural and good for the environment and the insects and animals living in it. Insane that the city can just ticket us for our piece of land doing what it naturally does.
Lawns are wonderful because they need so little work. About the only thing you need do is mow the lawn, if you feel like it. If it doesn't rain for weeks and you don't water it, it turns brown but if it rains one afternoon after that the next day the grass is green. lawns thrive on whatever little bit of effort you put into it, even if that is absolutely nothing
I live in a small town in Iowa and everyone has a golf cart that they tool around town in. I’m not getting a golf cart.
Have dogs that bark all day long for no reason.
Dogs bark when they are alone mostly. They are pack animals, they need to be with their pack, that means their human and family. Those that leave their dogs outside alone all night end up with barking dogs. If they are with you, they will rest as you rest and go out of their way not to disturb you as a bonus.