NTA. I would go ahead and cut your husband's family out of your lives. They neglected him in favor of your SIL and now they want to disrespect you and your husband now. The both of you will always be an afterthought in favor of your SIL. Head off any future pain by cutting your husband's family out of your life now. They are horrible people.

I had something similar, I was a student and was invited to a close relatives wedding as a bridesmaid. Little did I know that the bride expected me to pay for her hair and make-up, which for a student and not even warned was our of the question as I didn't have any money. This was many years ago. Please don't spring things on people as a NO funnily enough tends to not go down well with the asker.

"Voluntold" I'm using that!

I had a kind of opposite situation happen to me! For my bachelorette party (which was AMAZING, a whole day of fun activities which started with kitten yoga, and then included a paint and wine session and salsa dancing at a local latin dance club). For dinner, my sister (my MOH) had previously arranged with all the guests that they would each pay for their own meal, plus everyone would chip in a little bit to cover mine. But toward the end of the meal, I saw my future sister-in-law discretely signal the server and hand him something. Then after we were all done eating, my sister asked for the check and the server said it had already been taken care of, and I realized my sister-in-law had given him her credit card and told him to charge the whole thing to her! My sister and I were pretty flabbergasted and tried to insist we reimburse her some, but she wasn't having it. I don't think it was anywhere near $1,000, but still! I was both shocked and touched.

I would have said I give you the same amount as you gave me and your brother for our wedding.

NTA, she was expecting another handout because OP is wealthy, but didn't ask first. That was in very bad taste, just because it's family, not asking, but expecting, is very rude... 😔

WOW. I totally applaud the OP. My brother invited the family (8 of us) out to dinner to celebrate my birthday (he's a total sweetheart and very generous). So we're eating dessert when the waitress brings out a "to go" bag. So my brother tells the waitress she has the wrong table. Without asking my brother, my half sister (who in all honesty I don't particularly care for, mainly because of the way she takes advantage of my stepmother) had gone ahead and ordered an entire meal for her husband , who had to work. I could tell by the look on my brother's face that this was news to him and I have no filter, so I just looked at her and, somewhat under my breath, said "total a$$hole move, Amber". She wasn't in the least bit fazed.

NtA. Don't go to any more family events unless you want to. Don't pay unless you agreed to after full disclosure well ahead of time. "We don't like surprises" is your permanent motto.

Nope!!! Pay it now and you'll be paying it forever. OP ought to just tell SIL and family to grow a d*mn collective spine and help her pay if they're gonna open their traps!!! Smh!!!

Might be good time to cut ties. Like seriously she shouldn't be expected to pay unless that was agreed on ahead of time. Not just making big bill and then saying how OP should pay. Also afterwards being rude about it. Doesn't matter how rich or poor any part of family is, that is abuse and shouldn't be tolerated. I can understand needing help, but if they need help, they should ask for it ahead of that, not just like, here is bill you pay. And usually people like that never learn, that SIL will likely forever need someone to care for her and looks won't carry her forever. Plus parents seem to do nothing to get SIL to do better other than supporting her as she is. Hence why it won't change.

She showed u who she is. She's the one that's selfish & thinks everything is all about her. She's not the first person to get married so why does she feel like everything should be given to her. Who ever is taking her side in this situation needs to check themselves because there's something wrong with them to if they support entitled selfish brats. Don't feel bad! You did nothing wrong! You got set up but u were smart enough not to be her fool. Don't feel bad for being wealthy and wise & smart enough to see thru bull c**p! Lol, You don't owe her an apology. You are owed an apology, if u don't get an apology, it's ok. We have no queens in America so be careful around people who think you're their ATM. When you get married don't expect everyone else to pay for your day & don't try to force people pay for things for you. Maybe you need to ask yourself if you want to go to the wedding and if you want someone like this in your life, you're space? Even some Relatives.

NTA. Her and your in laws are the AH. Self entitled spoiled brat by her parents. Glad your husband is on your side. If it was me I would cut ties with my family until they accept that my wife and I are not there to be their atms and treated me and you better .

They paid half, which was still generous. They should ask where their Thank You note is.

Yeah, no apologies needed there girlfriend - you set your boundaries clearly - thank goodness. She needed to hear hard truths and anyone else who says different are enablers.

I salute you for putting your boundaries down firmly. You work hard for what you've achieved and don't owe your spoilt SIL a damn thing. Cause if you don't do it now, future financial expectations for crises in the family will always land on your doorstep, being the "rich" one in the family and all. If the rest of his family is against you because of that be glad cause they now have the message that you are not going to be the solution to their financial problems. These pre wedding " Broadway shows" are getting out of hand. What happened to choosing two bridesmaids, getting them to pay only for their outfit and turning up on wedding day to support you. You did not bankrupt them with your ego activities but merely made them part of your memories for your wedding album.

Not.One.Dime. And I wouldn’t go to the wedding either.

NTA I can’t even get my head around this. I do not know anyone who would support this behavior, much less behave in this manner themselves. Not at any age or any occasion. That is some next level entitlement! It’s unfortunate that your husband has had to deal with this his entire life. Because it’s his family, I would support him in whatever decision he ultimately comes to regarding future contact but I personally would avoid these people.

Why should she contribute to the wedding? She's not the parents and she's not the one getting married.

Ha, that SIL is so entitled. But, in my experience, though to a lesser extent, my in-laws were given $3,000 loan, on which they did not repay for 5 years. They were "willing" to "give" us their upright piano. Gave them $750 for an estimated shipping. Never got the piano. Few years later, BIL, asked for several thousand to get out of their debt. Ha, no ... we did not help. (Every visit -- we lived in another state -- we purchased hundreds in groceries to stick their pantries. Never received a thank you.

These people are crazy. I think she acts that way because her family enables her. It's not normal for an alleged grown adult to demand that someone else pays $1000 for dinner for her and her friends. Even if it was $20, that's still one he$$ of an assumption. Might be best to start cutting ties with the crazy. Also why are other people expected to finance someone's wedding? You have to be an adult to get married, unless you live somewhere backwards. Pay for your own s$it.

Why do all of these stories sound the same? Are there really so many people like this?

I think it’s ridiculous to invite nearly 500 people out for $1.99 chili burgers and atomic fries!’

Yet again, made up story.

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I couldn’t read this whole article. For someone who went to ‘tops schools’, her grammar was atrocious.