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Pretending to be a little different than you are is perfectly normal and quite common. We've all done it — laughed at a bad joke to make someone feel better, or faked a smile to hide what we're really feeling. However, taking this fabricated persona too far can be deemed cringeworthy or just plain pitiful, especially if you're doing it for all the wrong reasons.
Recently, ThatOddFrenchNobody turned to the internet to ask, "What screams 'I am not [as tough as] I pretend to be'?" and people were quick to chime in with their opinions and stories. It seems like there are a few examples of people trying way too hard to seem cool and strong, but falling short and ending up looking foolish.
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#1
"People don't like me because I tell it like it is."
No, people don't like you because you're an a*s.
We got an interview with Dr. Gleb Tsipursky, and he explained how to spot someone pretending to be tough: "The telltale signs of someone pretending to be [cool] when they're not, typically include overcompensation, excessive boasting, and a constant need for validation. These behaviors can be driven by cognitive biases such as the optimism bias and the halo effect. The optimism bias leads people to believe that they are better or more skilled than they actually are, while the halo effect causes them to overemphasize positive traits in themselves or others, creating a distorted self-image."
#2
Claiming you are an "Alpha Male". If you have to tell people you are a natural leader you probably aren't one.
#3
“Inside me is a wolf, mess with me or my pack and I’ll show my fangs” or any similar cringy edgy quote about being an animal
B.Nelson 1 year ago
Inside me is a giant sloth. Also, outside me is a giant sloth. Give some sloth love.
blobby_grrl 1 year ago
Inside I am a blobfish. Also, outside I am a blobfish. I want some blobby love.
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Cyber Returns 1 year ago
Inside me is a wolf! A small wolf. A young wolf. A snarling, hungry wolf that bares its teeth at the slightest chance... OK, I'm a puppy that eats too much, and I'm playful
Lakota Wolf 1 year ago
It's hilarious because the "myth" about wolves is that they ARE snarling, fang-filled animals that are vicious etc... it's ludicrous because there's SO MUCH film of them being silly, playful goofballs with each other and with humans (if they were raised captive). So even having a "wolf inside" would mean you'd basically have the same playful behaviors as a dog XD We bred 'em into dogs for a reason!
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Feathered Dinosaur 1 year ago
Then we have to watch out for these weirdos who claim they have a human inside of them
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Human on a stick 1 year ago
Inside a wolf is me, mess with me or my pack and I won't do anything because a wolf ate me.
Weasel Wise 1 year ago
I can never help but literally laugh in the face of some who says this.
Michael Largey 1 year ago
"Inside me is a double-barreled shotgun, loaded and ready to deal with pesky varmints."
SelkieBlackfysh 1 year ago
I mean I compare myself to a shark. Mostly I'm lazy. Just cruising through the day. With periodic, intense, ravenous times of activity that never ceases to take people off guard.
Jungle Empress 85 1 year ago (edited)
Inside me is a fox, because I'm adorable. (checks avatar) ...Or a white lion because that's awesome.
Ephemeral Mochi 1 year ago
Inside me is a wolf. Please get him out of there I'm worried for him.
Wilbur The Hyena 1 year ago
Inside me is a hyena, on the outside, i may look scary, but on the inside, i just want cuddles and ear scratches
Richard Henderson 1 year ago (edited)
Animal, monster, psychopath. They’re all cringe red flags. Edit: and the “don’t see me mad” guy below…
Reinaldo Fuentes 1 year ago
Also, "I'm sugar and spice and everything nice until you cross me, then I'll [fill in the wild violence]." - Yeah, whatever Brenda. Stop putting your boobs on me.
Unprofessional Professor 1 year ago
"Inside you, there are two dogs... because you are Canadian, and it's legal here,"
Dr. Gleb Tsipursky also explained why people do it: "People often pretend to be tough due to feelings of insecurity, which may stem from a desire to fit in or to establish dominance in social situations. The horns effect, a cognitive bias where we tend to see negative traits in a person and ignore their positive attributes, can contribute to this behavior. If someone feels they are perceived as weak, they may overcompensate by pretending to be tough in order to counterbalance that perception. In other cases, they might be influenced by the empathy gap, a bias where people underestimate the power of emotional states in their decision-making process. When people feel insecure or anxious, they may misjudge their emotional response and engage in exaggerated displays of toughness to protect themselves from perceived threats."
#4
“Do you know who I am... or whose son/daughter I am” kind of people...
in.love.with.taylor.swift 1 year ago
I don't think my father, the inventor of Toaster Strudel, would be too pleased to hear about this
#5
Do you know those people who disrespect teachers, janitors, and other people who work just to make them able to not being f****d in the a*s by life? That. That screams it out loud. You're not badass, you're disrespectful and ignorant.
Dr. Gleb Tsipursky shared if he'd ever witnessed someone pretending to be tougher than they were: "While I cannot personally attest to pretending to be tough, I have certainly observed this behavior in others. As an expert in cognitive biases, I've seen people project a tough exterior to mask their insecurities or to fit into certain social environments. Sometimes, these performances can be quite convincing, but they often unravel when the individual is faced with a situation that tests their mettle."
#6
"You don't want to see me mad"
Unless your name is Bruce Banner, STFU.
#7
I went to lunch with a friend and a friend of his. The waiter was a little slow in bringing us our drinks and food because it was busy. So when our bills came, instead of leaving an actual tip, the other guy wrote something snarky as his "tip". I was really embarrassed and ask if he can refrain from doing that. He refused and then basically called me a wuss. I left a bigger tip on my bill to compensate and never wanted to be associated with that guy ever again.
You're a real badass now buddy - punching down on a retail worker who has to be at least polite to you to keep her job.
Dr. Gleb Tsipursky also shared that most people put on this tough facade: "I believe that many people do indeed pretend to be tougher than they are, often due to the influence of cognitive biases such as loss aversion and the status quo bias. Loss aversion makes people more sensitive to the prospect of loss than the potential for gain, so they may act tough to avoid being seen as weak or vulnerable. Similarly, the status quo bias leads people to prefer the familiar, so they may maintain a facade of toughness to keep up appearances and not risk disrupting their social standing."
#8
I'm prior enlisted in the Marines and I'm happy I was in, but now that I'm out that time has passed, I can't stand people that were in and it's their entire identity after they get out. All clothes are military stuff, vehicles covered in military decals, all they talk about is when they were in and so on.
For anyone that wasn't in, the easiest way to tell someone that was in the military but weren't in any kind of real combat situations is if they wear and do all that c**p.
Edit:spelling
Snorkeldorf 1 year ago (edited)
I used to work for a company that had numerous retired military clients. I was always careful as to how I addressed them verbally and in correspondence to be respectful. Some of them were real sticklers about that. One day I was speaking to a gentleman for the first time and I asked if I could call him "Colonel" or if he preferred something else. His reply? "Honey, I've been retired for 30 years. Please call me Sam."
#9
I work in a psych hospital in a unit that is the roughest unit we have. We have a lot of people with violent histories and serious mental issues.
Without fail, the tougher someone acts, or the more intimidating they try to be is inversely proportional to how soft they actually are—and that goes for patients and staff alike.
The people you don’t want to f**k with are the ones who are confidently quiet.
#11
“I would have enlisted and probably made Special Forces, but I would have punched a Drill Sergeant if they had gotten in my face.”
Sure, bud.
#13
Moms who constantly threaten to go “mama bear” on people
Irish woman abroad 1 year ago
I think most mothers are capable of turning into a tigress when their baby is threatened, but they don't go around broadcasting that fact, in fact they may not even realise it's a thing until something happens to their child.
#14
Refusing to wear safety equipment like helmets when its available. True badasses (including truly skilled people) have goals in doing dangerous s**t, and they understand the challenges in carrying it out.
Katie Lutesinger 1 year ago
I saw a car once with a bumper sticker saying "NO SEATBELTS. WE DIE LIKE REAL MEN". So.... unnecessarily and for reasons of your own stupidity? Okay.
#15
I saw a massively lifted truck wit the words "ALPHA AS F**K" stamped across the windshield the other day, does that count?
#16
Claiming to be "crazy" like it's something to aspire to. In this context it just means abandoning tact and acting like an a*****e to feel like a badass.
ETA: I'm not referring to people with legitimate illnesses. I'm referring to people who think acting like an a*****e makes them look tough.
#17
My gf serves tables for work right now. Apparently yesterday some “tough” dude refused to write his signature with her pink pen simply because it was pink
#18
Revving your engine loudly at a red light/ burning rubber just to hit the next red light
#19
“When I get mad I blackout and lose control”
Okay buddy.
Edit: I’m disappointed that there’s some people replying that claim to black out.
Jesse Setliffe 1 year ago
That's a serious problem if true, not something to brag about. Especially if it happens while driving.
#21
People in their 20s hanging around with prepubescent kids, thinking they are the top dawg. Doesn't have any friends their own age because people their age know what they are about.
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
I would think anyone over 20 actually hanging out with kids who are what? Younger than 12? Has got to be problematic. I don't mean uncles/aunts taking nieces/nephews to do stuff. But if you're trying to hang out with random kids that age... yikes!
#22
Fancy car, no money in bank account
MontanaMariner 1 year ago
I know several guys with $70k trucks living in $20k single wides for the sake of image.
#24
"Alpha" males losing their s**t when their self image is even remotely challenged in any way.
Cyber Returns 1 year ago
Did this to an 'alpha' and as he was screaming about how he could crush me I started chuckling and in a camp voice said "He is so butch, look you can see his Adams apple bouncing" then in a normal voice "Hey! Look! He has a hard on!"
#25
One of my ex has a joker sleeve and a pickle rick tattoo. He also yelled that he was a *sigma male* and wouldn't be listening to an alpha.... as a response to a werewolf based RPG system. So... that. **Edit to add**: *I didn't expect this to be so popular or for so many people to tell me I f*****g deserved the abuse that ensued. Y'all are sick*
#26
Continually requesting a fight, but never actually starting the fight.
Katie Lutesinger 1 year ago
I saw a guy try that on once, but the victim remained completely calm and collected and refused to be provoked even while being yelled at and threatened about how "I'M GONNA F**K YOU UP!!" Needless to say the guy doing the yelling and threatening eventually gave in and slunk away with his tail between his legs. A classic example of being tough vs being "tough".
#27
Anyone who gives themselves a tough-sounding nickname. They are to be earned, not self-imposed.
MontanaMariner 1 year ago
My earned nickname is Mule, because I'm stubborn and strong. Not a nickname anyone wants to brag about. 😂
#28
The biggest indicator that you are not a baddass is telling me you are a baddass. If you have to tell me how important you are, you are not terribly important.
#29
Post bible quotes online about how you’re being tested.
For example my Aunt, who has never had a job, has barely ever left her hometown. Has posted this quote:
* “The devil whispered in my ear, ‘you are not strong enough to withstand the storm’. Today, I whispered in the devil’s ear, ‘I am the storm’.”*
With a puppy dog face. When her previous visible post was about traffic.
Rachel Reynolds 1 year ago (edited)
The Devil whispered "Your not strong enough to withstand the storm". I whisper back "At least I didn't lose my golden fiddle to a Georgia hillbilly"
#31
Picking on that one friend in the group around everyone and then acting like an offended little b***h when they even try to joke back with them.
Trying to start a fight with just about anyone that gives them a dirty look.
Buying a giant pick up truck that they need to climb into to just get in, and never even use the *bed of the truck for its purpose.
And finally… screaming/yelling at anyone who disagrees with them no matter how big or small the subject matter is.
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#32
I follow a guy on Instagram who try so hard to be a badass, always posting pictures of drinking black coffee, straight whiskey, smoking cigars, and he always has his handgun showing. But it's so easy to tell the only time he does these things is when he posts on Instagram.
MontanaMariner 1 year ago
I love the bros at the bar that act tough and order shots of Jack Daniel's or whatever, drink it, then make a face like they just ate poop, and pretend to act like they enjoy the flavor.
#33
Bragging about how many people you’ve had sex with. No one really cares, and at worst, it’s a cause for concern.
#34
guy at a Christmas party told me he could easily drink heavily and drive safely if he just concentrates. Half an hour later he passes out and falls on the Christmas tree.
edit: Infront of his boss and his whole family. I‘m 16 and he is 31. I‘m german so I drink too. I had to bring him to bed…
#35
Talking about being the most badass zombie killer in a zombie outbreak when truth is most of us would simply die
#36
Men who take their shirts off when they're mad, punch their chest like a gorilla and get red faced yelling. Usually someone's going to pull them back so nothings really going to happen, nor is anyone scared. It's all bark. If they can't stay calm, there's no doubt they're not tough.
#37
Telling the same stories from years back.
I have a friend whose only personality is that she is aggressive, always telling the same story from middle school where she apparently had a reputation. Acting like she is the toughest person and no one should mess with her. Fake confidence, extremely annoying.
#38
"I'm a psychopath!
One day I made my therapist cry and that's tooootally legit!
I'm insane! I have so many mental illnesses!"
Acquaintances I actually have to deal with.
Lee F. 1 year ago
I know someone who claims to know how to assemble and disassemble ANY firearm in under a minute. Because he has an app that shows him parts of guns. We live in Canada. He also tried to tell me my beach glass was quartz. Because of course, an app identified it as quartz. People are A LOT.
#40
Most military styled clothing, almost none of the actual special teams people I know wear that c**p.
Maybe the occasional shirt or whatever but the guys wearing tons of it, yeah that’s nonsense
What do you think ?
similarly 1 year ago
A great many of these actually boil down to anxiety and fear. A lot of people are kind of designating a barrier, a limit, their "territory", either physical or emotional or intellectual. A lot of these are just defense mechanisms to cope with anxiety and fear they may not even realize they have! For a VERY long time, I was socially stunted by habits formed in my childhood. I was basically reduced to anger or emotionlessness broken by short bursts of enjoyment. As I got older, I realized that most of the time that I thought I was angry, I really wasn't. I was sad, or scared, or confused, or worried ... and I'd just never learned to process those feelings. Part of it was this idea hammered into boys back then that those feelings were "weak" and boys shouldn't be "weak". Yet: when I learned to recognize those feelings, accept those feelings, FEEL those feelings and embrace them, I became a really different person, a better person, a happier person, a stronger person.
Tanya Venter 1 year ago
Anger=fear and frustration. I am glad you are doing well
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Joe Publique 1 year ago
May as well have a sign saying 'Stupid as hell', because alphas and betas are not a thing. Those who believe in it are simply using it as a crutch to justify their often abhorrent views and behaviors.
Will Cable 1 year ago
It is really odd that so many have to play up to the "Tough guy/girl" image and yet if you look at media the ones that are tough don't go around trying to act that way all the time so it makes me wonder where do they get that idea from.
Bisou 1 year ago
Similar to #1: People who take pride in "having no filter." Lacking tact, grace and basic manners is not a positive personality trait. These people usually can't handle the same behavior in their direction either.
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
So true. They are most often the ones to take offence at the littlest provocation
Load More Replies... Valaun 1 year ago
The truly badass people that I have met all share these qualities: confidence, they never start fights, try to avoid fights and always, when forced, end the fight quickly and without undue theatrics. They are all decent people who don't start things, look for solutions, and don't take c**p or tolerate bad behavior. They are in control and the kind of person you respect and/or don't mind working with.
Jungle Empress 85 1 year ago
*rubs temples* My "genius" ex often bragged about things like how he would take someone down in a fight. My sister called him naïve.
Vix Spiderthrust 1 year ago
Trying to look cool is itself uncool. Cool is effortless or it is absent.
Joe Publique 1 year ago
This. Cool isn't being the same as everyone else. It's about being different.
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Old Roadie 1 year ago
Love of ink is not dependent on physical fitness. It's art, to be interpreted by the wearer.
Load More Replies... similarly 1 year ago
A great many of these actually boil down to anxiety and fear. A lot of people are kind of designating a barrier, a limit, their "territory", either physical or emotional or intellectual. A lot of these are just defense mechanisms to cope with anxiety and fear they may not even realize they have! For a VERY long time, I was socially stunted by habits formed in my childhood. I was basically reduced to anger or emotionlessness broken by short bursts of enjoyment. As I got older, I realized that most of the time that I thought I was angry, I really wasn't. I was sad, or scared, or confused, or worried ... and I'd just never learned to process those feelings. Part of it was this idea hammered into boys back then that those feelings were "weak" and boys shouldn't be "weak". Yet: when I learned to recognize those feelings, accept those feelings, FEEL those feelings and embrace them, I became a really different person, a better person, a happier person, a stronger person.
Tanya Venter 1 year ago
Anger=fear and frustration. I am glad you are doing well
Load More Replies... Joe Publique 1 year ago
May as well have a sign saying 'Stupid as hell', because alphas and betas are not a thing. Those who believe in it are simply using it as a crutch to justify their often abhorrent views and behaviors.
Will Cable 1 year ago
It is really odd that so many have to play up to the "Tough guy/girl" image and yet if you look at media the ones that are tough don't go around trying to act that way all the time so it makes me wonder where do they get that idea from.
Bisou 1 year ago
Similar to #1: People who take pride in "having no filter." Lacking tact, grace and basic manners is not a positive personality trait. These people usually can't handle the same behavior in their direction either.
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
So true. They are most often the ones to take offence at the littlest provocation
Load More Replies... Valaun 1 year ago
The truly badass people that I have met all share these qualities: confidence, they never start fights, try to avoid fights and always, when forced, end the fight quickly and without undue theatrics. They are all decent people who don't start things, look for solutions, and don't take c**p or tolerate bad behavior. They are in control and the kind of person you respect and/or don't mind working with.
Jungle Empress 85 1 year ago
*rubs temples* My "genius" ex often bragged about things like how he would take someone down in a fight. My sister called him naïve.
Vix Spiderthrust 1 year ago
Trying to look cool is itself uncool. Cool is effortless or it is absent.
Joe Publique 1 year ago
This. Cool isn't being the same as everyone else. It's about being different.
Load More Replies... Old Roadie 1 year ago
Love of ink is not dependent on physical fitness. It's art, to be interpreted by the wearer.
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