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Being a human is hard. There are so many physiological, psychological, social and cultural things that are in play all the time, there's bound to be hiccups every once in a while, if not more often.

And it's even more so a problem when a very complicated you have to pass on your worldly knowledge and skill on to your kids so that they won't make the same mistakes. But they're as complicated as everyone else!

And the vicious cycle keeps on perpetuating itself because of this, leading some to wonder about it. And much of today's wondering is done on Reddit, among other places, where, incidentally, we have one user asking folks what’s a sign that somebody wasn’t raised right?

Bored Panda collected the top answers to the now-viral thread, and has glued together the macaroni-art piece you can see below. So, upvote, comment, and discuss these and other signs someone wasn't raised right in the comment section below!

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors How they treat animals and people without power.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors If you go to someone's house, and they cook for you, you eat it with a big smile and lots of thanks, even if it was garbage.

My wife brought her friend over for lunch, I made pierogies, she goes "that's not a meal, that's a side" and goes to get Quiznos. Blew me away.

Someone's hospitality is the deepest respect they can show you. You have to give it back. How conscientious you are of that scenario is a good sign on how you were raised

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, if you don't like the food, keep it to yourself. Act gracious. Act kind.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors They always portray themselves as a victim. Nothing is ever their fault and somebody is always out to get them.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m a victim minded person. Each time something happens, I blame the other person and hold a grudge against them. Now I’m doing much better and have started owning up to my mistakes without unfairly blaming someone

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors If they make messes in public areas and just wander off (leaving trash in the theater, not flushing, leaving the cart in a parking space).

Edit: forgot the theater thing is the norm in Britain! I meant in general, leaving a mess where it's not supposed to be.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They always have rubbish bins right outside the door too. If you can carry your popcorn to your seat you can carry the empty carton back to the bin.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors Disrespecting people for doing their job.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My biggest turn off on a date is if they treat the waiter poorly.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors They act like mental illness is something you can just get over.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“It’s all in your head” Yes I know that’s the whole problem LOL

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors How they treat people from whom they have nothing to gain.

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#8

Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors They don’t take responsibility for their actions.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors How they act as a boss when their employee messes up.

Yelling and belittling shouldn’t be your first option.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors They never say please or thank you.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors Someone that does things to intentionally hurt another persons feelings after they’ve expressed that, that certain thing hurts their feelings.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people are so cruel to that they LIKE to hurt people

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors Not respecting personal boundaries.

If you're wondering why someone has these sorts of issues, take a look at their parents.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love my fur baby, but why why why must his comfy spot be 1 inch from my face? We've established your ownership of me 8,364 times already. get-off-me...c4e626.jpg get-off-me-63b4632c4e626.jpg

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors They whistle, snap their fingers, or make that "pspsps" sound to get their server's attention in a restaurant.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors We lost a beloved pet today, one of our friends said "time to get another". This happened today! I'm not sure if he's stupid, insensitive or just an a*s know we're not friends anymore.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've learned over the years that as much as the people I care about love their pets, it's wrong for me to assume they even want another pet after having to put one down. I've had to put 3 pets down in the past 15 years sooner than I had hoped due to undiagnosed medical issues. I now have an almost 14 year old beagle mix girl (Ziggy). When she goes, I will likely be unconsolable and if anyone tells me (that doesn't understand the bond between a pet and owner) to "just get another one", I will likely remove said person from my life. I don't even know if I would WANT another pet after Ziggy goes, and my husband may not want another one either. It's just simply insensitive and uncalled for to a grieving pet parent.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors You give them a lift and they leave rubbish in your car.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep but I rather they leave the trash in the car than throw it out the window...that's an absolute no-no.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors Who are the guys who spit out their chewing gum into urinals? I see this all the time at work and I work in a high end corporate place. Do they think it disolves and goes down the pipe? The janitor has to pick that out.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those are arrogant, egoistical AHs who don't care what this means for others. They're just to lazy to spit it into a trashcan or, like normal people, into a tissue or a piece of paper and then throw it away

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors The word "no" just means throw a fit and be as obnoxious as you can be until you get your way. "No" does not mean that rules are rules or someone's job might be on the line, they're the important one, not anyone else.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors They one-up you *all the time*.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pfft! Those trophies are weaksauce compared to my collection. Why, did you know I was the 1977 world pickleball champion? All of these new players need to know who’s boss.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors I know a few of these types of people, and they tend to have one or more of the following traits:

* They are disrespectful to everyone, not just authority figures. Watch how they treat customer service or retail staff.

* They have no manners in general, or only use manners when they absolutely have to in order to preserve their own interests.

* They are cruel to people and/or animals, and laugh at the suffering of others.

* They are selfish.

* They destroy things, steal, and cheat. Some also commit more serious crime.

* They expect handouts from everyone.

* They shirk hard work and responsibility whenever they can.

* They complain a lot, and constantly act like they are a victim.

* They are terrible parents to their own children.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Treatment of servers, retail workers, etc - that's the key. If they pick on someone that can't fight back, that is beyond a red flag. You are officially a complete b a s t a r d.

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They gossip about others and will be vindictive behinds people’s backs, but pretend to be sweet to their face.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If they gossip about people to you… then they are gossiping about you to other people :/

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors Not putting the cart back at the grocery store.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So piling them up on your truck and driving away is cool? TIL

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors Turning conversation back to themselves at all cost.

Being a good listener is a sign of a person raised well.

Edit: to clarify, I don’t mean quiet or a doormat. I mean generous, empathetic, supportive and curious. Good follow-up questions without making it about oneself, etc.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one usually doesn't go alone. Such people are also narcissistic and emotionally abusive, extracting validation from humiliating and belittling others. They know everything, they give unsolicited lessons and advice, the world revolves around them. If you lost somebody for example, your grief is nothing as compared to what they had suffered in a similar situation. If you're planning to do something, they've already done it ahead of you. If you wish to visit a place, they've already been there before you. I had such a "friend". Avoid them like plague.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors People who don’t offer to help you clean up when they are visiting you.

Like having friends over and them leaving you with all the beer bottles, bowls and glasses on the table. I don’t mind cleaning up, but I always offer when at someone else house. You make the mess together.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm never sure if the protocol on this. I would always offer, but it does depend on how well you know people and some people seem genuinely offended if you try to help out, like they want to act as the hosts and treat you like guests.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors Chewing with their f*****g mouth open...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know some people who can't breathe through their nose and do this. I think it's okay if they have certain medical issues.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors They don't know how to do normal household stuff. I've seen people that don't even know how to make their own coffee or clean a toilet.

Edit: I only mentioned making coffee as an example. If you don't know how to make coffee because you don't drink it, that's fine.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know how to clean a house very well, because my mother did all of it. Her reasoning.....me, my sister, and my dad won't do it right. It's not like I don't do my best to keep a clean home, but it's not a very good job.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors If they have zero manners.

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Thinking abusive/manipulative behaviors are the norm.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors They apologize for every little thing. Probably a sign that they grew up with abusive parents that got mad over anything and everything.

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They will never try to defend something they believe using logical reasons.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How be be a good neighbor: never bring up religion or politics when talking with neighbors.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors I'm gonna answer this literally.

As a teacher, I see there's a lot of different values that go into parenting styles, some that aren't my values but still raise a productive, responsible, and successful child. But there is evidence of bad parenting from a child development point-of-view.

-Is extra clingy and implies or outright states your their sole custodian for their well-being.

-Is incredibly aggressive about getting their way or being correct all the time.

-Responds to slights or inconveniences violently.

-Is extremely withdrawn and doesn't care for self.

-On the flip side, is very self-sufficient from a very young age and also has anxiety and/or depression.

-Seeks attention constantly. Not just a lot, but *constantly.*

Obviously, the child abuse signs are indicators of not being raise right, and only apply here to actual children, but it never hurts to remind people of them:

-Has suspicious bruising/injuries on body where it's not normal to have injuries (ex. bruised forehead and skinned knees are normal on toddlers, black eyes are not)

-Carefully covers parts of the body that would not normally be covered (Ex. Won't roll up sleeves even a little on hot days which, bonus, is also a sign of self-harm)

-Is inappropriately sexual and/or knowledgable about sexuality for age group

-Is weirdly afraid to be alone with another person. Not just, I dont want to go home because my dad's gonna give me a whuppin for starting a fight at school, but something like finding a lot of excuses to not hang out with an older cousin ever

-Is often dirty, stinky, soiled

-Is often underfed

-Tells you they are being abused

I took this way too seriously, but there you go!

EDIT: People are commenting with personal situations that involve the warning signs of child abuse I mentioned, but aren't child abuse in their case. This is what makes it so hard to detect. Kids are always bruised, stinky, and secretive. What's important is to keep an open mind, and sort of observe a pattern of signs and behaviors. If alarm bells go off, our first impulse is to explain it away, but making an anonymous tip is not as harmful as people believe. In my experience, nothing is even investigated until the reports pile up unless you physically witness the abuse.

EDIT 2: Just to be clear, the first list just means the parents or household should be better to optimally encourage the wellness of a child. The second is of warning signs of abuse.

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They don't ask about/say hi to your family members when they come over. I've seen people completely ghost my parents as they walk through the house and I couldn't wrap my head around it honestly.

Edit: I realised that alot of people actually may be forced into this by any form of anxiety or any mental-issues/traits they have, I just want to clarify that this is not targetting those people at all, just the people that straight-out were never taught that this isn't polite or knew that and never acted on it.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On the flip side, people who invite you over to their house and never introduce you to anyone else there. I’ve been at friends’ homes before, where I’ve seen their family/roommates, have even made eye contact with them, yet the “host” never even thinks of introducing me to them. Always felt like the “host” thinks of their housemates as invisible or something. I would always try find a way to introduce myself to them anyway.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors They don’t actually listen to what you’re saying, are just trying to formulate a response.

Edit: just want to clarify what i meant. the person I’m thinking of who does this, does this as a means of not really caring about your opinion, trying to make you look inferior, and rather than listening to why you feel the way you do, they want to try and just prove you wrong. i hope that makes sense. like not being interested in having a discussion, more interest in showboating their own opinions/beliefs/experiences. i think that makes someone selfish, therefore maybe not raised right. i could be wrong.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They are only waiting for their turn to talk, not truly engaging.

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When they say that they deserved being physically abused.

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors We know someone that won’t get a checking account/Direct Deposit because “the banks just steal your money”, and he takes his paycheck to a check-cashing/payday loan shop instead.

We also know his mom, who is in her mid-40s and on her 3rd bankruptcy.

Edit: Not discounting the likelihood that mom destroyed his credit long ago and still would empty his account today if given the chance (which still falls in the "raised wrong" category if you ask me), but we're talking about a 20 year old guy living with mom no rent/no car/no kids that shouldn't have any substantial debts/expenses of his own to make overdraft fees an issue.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, if Mom is the culprit and has ruined his credit, how is his situation improved by carrying cash, or hiding it in the house—-a place where she could find it and steal it?

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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors I'd say on the other end of the spectrum, if someone is anxious about simple social interactions, like sharing their opinions.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every time I said something at home I was wrong, mocked, etc. It made me think I was always wrong and not smart! But after getting out of the house folks would say things like, "oh, good idea", and I was almost certain they weren't sincere. I'm 46 and I *still* have a hard time believing what I truly know is fact. I can't blurt out answers if questions are raised on a game show (husband loves them lol), for example - because I'm sure I'm wrong.

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